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A dream that urges you to end your self-doubts and guilt

teenage-girl-shotgun-450w-106542080Dream 517: Giving a funeral for your feelings of guilt

A woman had the following dream:

“I dreamed I and a friend were trapped in a house with a guy I dated briefly in my late teens. He was acting strange. Crazy almost. He had a shotgun pointed at me and was about to shoot, but my friend had one too, and shot him before he shot me. About the same time, the police burst into the house. But it was too late. She’d already killed him. We had to go to the police station and answer questions. His sisters came in. And more of his family. Then some of my family. Then we were at a church in the congregation hall. Everybody was crying. All dressed up. The funeral I’m guessing. I was holding someone’s baby and talking to another girl who was his girlfriend back in the day. We were talking about another man that I lived with that had died a few years ago by suicide and I woke up.
I often have dark morose sometimes violent dreams but why. I wake up and have a hard time getting these dreams out of my mind. Why do I dream disturbing things like this? And of course, in the dream it’s always so dramatic and vivid, and you wish you could wake up and it would end!”

Interpretation

Very interesting dream. I think it is probably about your feelings about how you have acted in relationships. In dreams, men tend to go with your actions and women tend to go with your emotions.

It starts out with a past relationship where he was clearly going to hurt you, but a part of your emotions correctly ended the harmful relationship.

Police usually represent your superego or conscience. The funeral with his family and comiserating with a girlfriend about a man you lived with who committed suicide (the ultimate guilt trip) are all about guilt tripping yourself over relationships that you appropriately ended.

Your subconscious is screaming that it is time to put an end to, to have a funeral for, your self-doubts and remorse over relationships that were best terminated.

You are holding a baby in the dream probably because babies can represent new beginnings or a new part of yourself. The dream may be urging you to content yourself with new positive feelings and free yourself from depressing self-doubts.

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What does a diamond represent in a dream?

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Dream 443: A diamond is forever

A woman dreamed that she was walking along and she noticed the diamond was missing from her finger. She thought she had lost it. A young boy then came up to her with the ring and gave the ring back to her.

Interpretation 

Each character in the dream represents a different part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Men tend to go with actions or a more action-oriented part of the mind. Women tend to go more with an emotional part of the psyche.

The maturity level of the character in the dream usually represents how developed either the action or the emotion is. That it was a young boy who returns the ring to her means that she is probably taking new action to confirm a commitment, an allegiance, a loyalty,  a close relationship, or even a job.

It is unknown whether this dream describes the current state of affairs or whether the dream is predictive. Only the dreamer will be able to discern the full meaning of this dream.

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What does a wedding veil, car, death of a son, and an older man crying mean in a dream?

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Dream 433: There is something I know I should do

A woman had the following dream:

“I had a dream I was in my wedding dress and looking for an iron for my veil. My young kids got out the flat with a strange wee boy. I went looking for them when I found them my little boy was lying lifeless in front of a car the other two kids where sitting up and the man from the car was sitting down he was on the phone crying and couldn’t look at me saying “sorry.” What does this mean?

Interpretation

“Weddings usually represent integration of different parts of your mind and personality. This one is focusing on your actions in particular integrating with your emotions as men tend to go with actions and women tend to go with emotions in dreams.

The clothing represents your defenses psychologically. A veil is something that you would have to look through that partially covers who you really are.

An iron is something you do to take the wrinkles out of your clothes, the wrinkles out of your defenses. There’s also the comment saying that we ” iron out our problems.” You are preparing to integrate, but delay doing so because you want to iron out your problems first, in particular, how you look at things through the veil of your consciousness.

At the first level, your little boy would represent a new action on your part that you delayed doing. Cars are usually vehicles that represent our progress in life.

The man in the dream is communicating with others how sorry you will feel if you delay taking a small action you need to do which involves changing your outlook and not putting off your integration of your emotions with your actions.

My bias is to think that the dream thinks that you should be taking some action which you know you should do which you are delaying because you want to wait till things look better through the way you are thinking about things now.”

The dreamer later indicated to me that you recently had a child and was deciding whether to get married.

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Playing with Players

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Tackling a Challenge

Dream 393: A coed dreamed that a football player who was a “player” socially (had many affairs with different women at the same time) wanted her to be his girlfriend. She could see his girlfriend in the background. The girlfriend was angry and anxious.

Interpretation

Each living thing in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s mind. Women usually go with an emotional power of the mind while men tend to go with an action-oriented part of the mind. The football player in the dream represented her wanting to date a player and convert him to being faithful to her.

This conflict had deep psychological roots. She constantly felt the need to prove herself worthy by winning the competition for a popular man or alpha male over other women. This was because she  felt in a one-down position from wealthy and popular women who were her friends. Her family had once been wealthy but fell on hard times.

Her relationships with players invariably ended with her feeling angry and anxious. She was caught in what Freud called a repetition compulsion. She was trying to prove needlessly that she was as good as other women despite being  beautiful and having many positive qualities.

The girlfriend in the dream represented how she ended up feeling pursuing “players.” She invariably ended up feeling angry and anxious. The dream was a warning to stop engaging in this repetitive mistake.

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What does it mean to have an ex killed by gangsters and to dream of a father you loved?

Not Reacting to Insults to Your Ego
Not Reacting to Insults to Your Ego

Dream 391: Avoid Provocations and Act More Like Dad

A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed my ex and I were someplace about to cross the street as I stepped into the street a car full of young men speed up in front of me nearly hitting me… I panicked and banged the hood of their car. This angered them all as did when my ex told them to ef’n watch what they’re doing. The driver turned looked at his friends in the backseat and front passenger seat… I saw him reach for a gun… I turned and ran…hearing gunshots…my ex was killed.

After that dream waking me up when I fell back asleep I dreamed of my dad who passed away from a heart attack 1 1/2 ago.. It wasn’t so much a dream but a flash of different memories of him, i kept seeing of him in my dream. Smiling, laughing, being silly, making his grumpy faces, hearing his voice, cooking.. I don’t know these two dreams left me wondering if they had any meaning.”

My Interpretation

Each character represents a different part of the psyche with women going more with an emotional part and men going more with your actions. An ex represents a relationship you rejected and he (an action part) is killed. What this means is that you have decided not to engage in behavior that enrages others (such as swearing and pounding your fist in anger) even if you are provoked.

The father in your dream is your father in your mind, your father introject, which is often the basis of actions. You have fond memories of what he was like. It sounds like you want the basis of your actions to be somewhat similar to the way your dad did things.

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What does your mother being bitten by an ant mean in a dream?

It's always when you just get settled!
It’s always when you just get settled!

Dream 391: My Sister Is Very Irritating

A woman had the following dream: “I had a strange dream I was walking then I saw my sister at an office and she says that my mom got bit by ants. I believe that was the doctors office. It ended there.”

My Interpretation

“Each living thing in the dream represents a part of your mind at the first level. It sounds like it mainly involves emotions since women tend to go more with emotions. The mother in the dream is the mother in your mind that we call the mother introject. The mother introject is often the basis of emotions.

Animals (in this case ants) usually represent our instincts, what we are prone to do naturally. Ants are methodical, routine and focused on accomplishing what needs to be done for the group compulsively.

Being bit by ants is a nuisance/irritating. I wonder if there is a situation (maybe involving family) where you have put in a lot of work and are feeling a little annoyed or taken for granted?”

The dreamer responded with the following confirmation: “Yes, my sister was over for a month.My sister is very bossy and doesn’t use nice words to tell them to do things. Not cursing, not a sweet person very cold and mean!”

Why am I constantly dreaming about a girl I loved since I was 12 years old?

Looking for Emotion From the Past
Looking for Emotion From the Past

Dream 385: I Want to Recapture How I Was Emotionally in My First Relationship with a Girl

When I was 12 I fell in love with a girl at first sight(right when I looked in her eyes) , and her dad was the first one to teach me how to kick a soccer ball when I was just 7(I’m really good, could play pro if I want ). She has a lot of reason why I am spiritual and pay attention to my dreams. Problem is when I was in high school, we would fight and I would ignore her and not look at her. We aren’t really on talking terms like we were when I was younger and I don’t follow her on social media.

The reason I bring this up is because she has been in my dreams all the time, and 90% of the time I can’t look at her or talk to her. Other 10% is amazing (dancing, doing things together , kissing etc) but 90% of the time she’ll be in my dream and won’t be able to look at her. I want to look at her and kiss her, but in my dreams I feel like I have subconsciously put it in there that I can’t speak or talk to her.

Just recently I was in my dreams teaching a yoga class with just two other people and she showed up to do the class and while I was doing the yoga poses she was doing them too and we were looking at each other but neither of us could say anything to each other. She was sort of looking at me funny snd i just looked her and kept going…

If I knew I was dreaming I would of kissed her right there, lol. Just yesterday I had another one where we were in the car together in the backseat and I tried talking to her but something wouldn’t let me. It must of been a 15 minute car ride and we just stared at each other , it seems like she can’t say anything to me either.

This is just two examples out of the more than 100x this has happened with her in my dream. What do you think is the best thing to do? I’m stubborn. If she’s meant to be in my life the universe will have me run into her like it usually does with her, so I feel like I should wait for that.

Do you think she experiences the same dreams?

My Interpretation

The dreams may be about her and having a relationship with her, but only you would know that since that is the second level of dream interpretation where only you have enough to detail to determine that.

At the first level, I think you probably have idealized that early relationship and want to emotionally be the way you were with her when things were good in future relationships. My money is on this is a fantasy about an idealized relationship from the past that your subconscious wants you to learn from so that you learn the lesson and look for the right relationship and act appropriately in the future.

This is based only on the structure of the dream and only you can determine what interpersonal value it has if any. Each character in the dream represents a part of your psyche at the first level with men going with your actions and women going with your emotions.

My thought is there was something about the way you were emotionally with this girl that you were developing that was not finished and you want to emotionally change yourself to find the ideal relationship. As such, in your mind she probably represents an ideal woman or anima. It is a big dream about how you should be in a relationship.

To answer your questions at the end, it is possible she's having dreams about you. If that is the case, I would see it more as a sign that the universe was trying to get the two of you together. I do like your idea that if it was meant to be, the universe will conspire to have the two of you meet again.

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What does having sex with intuitive people in dreams mean?

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Dream 371: Going Crazy on You

A woman had the following dream:

“I dreamed the other night that I helped two guys who became infatuated with me. (This actually happens to me a lot in life.) There were two other guys there that were my friends in the dream and they looked at me like I knew better and why did I help further knowing better. I signaled back “I know, I know”. We didn’t need words because they were my intuition side. I got rid of the infatuated boys and became incredibly attracted to the intuitive ones. We had very intimate sex. I then ended up at a hospital to help deliver a baby with them and after got to see all the new-born babies in the hospital.”

My Interpretation

This would be seen as your integrating intuitive action parts of yourself. Sex between a man and a woman is usually seen as integration of actions (men) and emotions (women) as each character is a part of the dreamer’s psyche.

The first part of the dream where you are involved with two nerdy men basically is asking the question, “Why are you wasting your time with them or with those aspects of your life?”

Sex usually represents integration with the different part of yourself that you are having sex with. Integrating the different intuitive aspects leads to a whole new part of your psyche, the new baby. The thought would be since the dreamer was a female having sex with two intuitive men, that she was integrating two intuitive action parts of her mind.

This integration could be stimulated by any of several different actions. Such actions would include discussion with other intuitive people (probably men in this case or it could be the action parts of women’s minds). Watching intuitive movies, honing intuitive skills, psychic abilities, reading new age books and out-of-body travel would be examples of intuitive actions. A strong spirituality is probable.

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What does sex mean in dreams? Does the kind of sex make any difference?

Women and emotions
Women and emotions

Dream Question 370: A female dreamer asked: What does it mean if you dream that you have sex with someone almost identical to yourself?

Sex at the first level usually means integration especially if it was good consensual sex. If you have a dream where you are having sex with someone who is identical to yourself, how the act was performed would make substantial difference in my world.

Let’s say the act was very loving, then the dream would be signaling that you were integrating love into yourself. If the act was aggressive but none the less satisfying, the dream would be signaling either that you have integrated some aggressive impulses into your personality, or the dream maybe advising for some reason that you integrate some aggression more into your personality. This isn’t necessarily bad, because it’s aggression that gives us the get up and go to accomplish things. It just has to be controlled by other parts of the personality.

The more intimate the sexual act, the more integrated it is. Having sex with an identical self is rather awesome in a way because it is saying that you really don’t need any other person other than yourself. Women usually represent an emotional part of the dreamer, and since the dreamer was a woman, the emphasis is on emotional integration. If the dreamer were a man, the dream would be emphasizing integrating his actions since men tend to go more with action parts of the mind.

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What do soldiers, convicts, hospitals, and injections mean in a dream?

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Dream 362: The Heroic Masculine Wants to Heal

In a dream, the dreamer who was a man was in a medical facility escorting a young soldier to an operation. A dark haired lady and another fellow were pushing the soldier along on a cart. The dreamer somehow knew the two physicians were actually escaped convicts. The soldier was given a syringe of something and passed out.

Interpretation

Dreams at a medical facility or physicians are often about healing. Each person in a dream usually represents a part of your mind with men going more with actions and women going more with emotions. The convicts would be shadow parts of the personality that are imposters.

A soldier typically represents the heroic masculine because he is willing to die for his country. This part of the personality is often a healing action part–it is a part of the dreamer that is usually involved in implementing the healing actions. The problem is that he is wounded and needs genuine help and not imposters.

The syringe that causes him to pass out is a phoney cure. The implication is that the dreamer has been wounded and is trying to get healing, but is taken advantage of by imposters that do not have his best interests at heart. There is an implication that the dreamer is looking for a substance or force outside himself for healing that causes him not to be conscious (the soldier passes out) of his best interests. The remedy is not to believe imposters posing as healers who are criminally minded. The bottom line may be a warning to rely more on his own internal strength or soul.

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What does Mary the mother of God, trees and walnuts represent in a dream?

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Dream 359: Please Listen to Me

A woman reported the following dream:

“I dreamed I was in robes in a desert town in front of a very old brick building. I was pleading with those passing by to believe in what Jesus was trying to teach them. From the crowd someone yelled Mary you don’t know what you’re talking about. My dream then transported me to a more modern home I was in a large desert field with my husband and we were looking at the only thing growing in it which was a Walnut tree. My husband said he wanted to chop it down. He did not want to clean up walnuts every year. (not like him at all by the way) I protested and I got my way.”

Interpretation

It is a very archetypal dream as it invokes Jesus. The dreamer was called Mary who was the mother of Jesus. She was trying to proselytize and spread the Faith. She was not being listened to enough and being heckled by some.

Then the dream moved to the walnut tree. Each person and each living thing in a dream is a part of your mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Her husband would represent an action part of her mind. Males typically go with an action part of the mind while women tend to go more with emotional parts.

Her husband probably represented the part of her that carried out her ideas, the part of her that put her ideas in motion. A tree is a symbol of integration as it opens to the sky, sends roots deep into the earth, and is with you on the surface. It gives off a nutrient which is a walnut which symbolically is the fruit of her integration and higher thoughts.

The dream is drawing a similarity between Mary not being listened to and so many walnuts being wasted each year. It may be that it felt like not enough people were absorbing her message. She could be feeling subconsciously that the valuable life-giving message she had to give that would nurture people (the walnut) was being wasted or ignored too much, that she even may have felt heckled sometimes.

The action part of her that spread these valuable messages, represented by her husband in the dream, gets tired and frustrated with her efforts not being appreciated enough. The dream ends on a positive note as she convinced that action part of herself to carry on in spreading the fruit of her labors.

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How might the shadow side of sex show in a dream?

The shadow side of sex
The shadow side of sex

Dream 356: The Shadow Side of Sex

A woman had the following dream:

“Twice within a month I have dreamed of large tomatoes… (I’m saying bigger than your head large).

Also last night I dreamed of a black horse that was bleeding,I tried tending to the wounds. It was dark and I was in the woods.”
She later indicated that the horse ran away in the dream.

Interpretation

Food represents support, psychological support or emotional support in a dream.

The tomatoes are large maybe because the dreamer wanted some juicy and nurturing psychological support for which she probably was longing.

At the first level of dream interpretation, a person or animal or spirits usually represents different parts of your mind . Horses often represent female sexual power or energy, literally they are “horsepower.”

The horse being black indicates that this horse may represent the shadow side of sexuality. That part of the dreamer’s world has been hurt deeply and she was trying to repair it and get her instincts back in line. She probably wants to run away from the deep issues of shadow sexuality that this dream may represent.

Like the horse in the dream, she was probably hurt, restless, and running around trying to find her way. Her trying to help the horse in the dream indicates that she probably needed emotional healing.

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What does a museum, construction ladder, climbing walls, and the circle of life mean in a dream?

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Climbing the walls like a centipede

Dream 352: Guard the Circle of Life

 

The following is a dream I interpreted as a moderator on Dale Miesen’s Facebook Power of Dreams page. The dreamer is an adult woman in the post is presented in the form it was posted to the Power of Dreams.

“I am in China somewhere in a city, with some man I know, possibly a friend, he tells me to wait while he has to go into a Museum to get something, I ask to go with him because I Love Museums, yet he tells me to wait at the bus stop nearby, so I wait, and wait, then a small chinese girl butts into this dream and tells me the most awesome story of how the stars or rain comes down to earth and turns into the salmon then into bubbles that protect the water? something like the circle of life story really beautiful, then I am at the bus stop again, yet get the inkling to climb the Museum walls to get a view of the city? and while looking around, this bubble centipede is coming up the wall past me as I look down and there’s this little girl playing on a sort of huge construction ladder that she shouldn’t be on, and the centipede is attempting to rescue her.”

Interpretation

The museum implies aesthetic interests. You are “climbing the walls” looking for something interesting. The Chinese girl usually represents emotions the dreamer is trying to figure out as women most often go with emotions, and some say the Chinese are inscrutable. The moral of the Pocahontas-like story is that natural things, living things, and little things are very important in the circle of life. The implication is that these are the things that the dream wanted her to pay attention to.

It wanted her to focus on living things like the little centipede which may seem unimportant at times but which are actually very important for life. Her subconscious did not want her to get distracted thinking about trying to climb to the top in her work life. The ladder implies climbing to the top and the fact that it is a construction ladder emphasizes that the danger is in going back to heavy work.

The worries she had about the girl in the dream is the worry she has about herself doing work that may not be right. The dream would rather that she focus on living aesthetic seemingly little things rather than taking too many risks thinking of doing heavy work. The circle of life was very important in her life now.

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What does a young woman and an old lady carrying your girlfriend away mean in a dream?

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Dream 350: My Love Gets Carried Away

An adult man dreamed that his girlfriend was being carried away by a young woman and an old lady. Something kept him from being able to reach his girlfriend to stop them from carrying her away.

Interpretation

Each character in the dream can represent a part of the dreamer’s mind. Women tend to go with the dreamers emotions. Young attractive women typically represent beautiful emotions.

An old lady is typically thought of as being a Crone which is an archetype of wisdom in old age and experience. An archetype is a pattern of thought that is repetitive throughout human consciousness. This dream is about how the dreamer’s emotions could get carried away.

He seemingly fears losing a lover after he has invested all of his emotions in her. His greatest fear probably is that this would happen and there was nothing he could do about it. It sounds like he is worried about losing the love of his life.

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What does a wedding and vomit mean in a dream?

Actions and Emotions Become One
Actions and Emotions Become One

Dream 330: Don’t Go Downhill

A man dreamed he was at an outside wedding. He was dressed formally for the wedding and was uphill from the outside dance floor. He and his friends were uphill from Bob who was throwing up repeatedly. Bob in reality was in a relationship that he wanted to take through college, but everyone thought the relationship was unlikely to work.

One of his friend’s (George) was completing an apprenticeship to become a pastor. His father was passively rich and very financially successful from the stock market. George’s father came down from higher ground to scream and shout at George.

Interpretation

The setting of a dream frequently indicates what type of issues are going to be addressed by the dream. At the first level of dream interpretation, each character represents a different part of yourself. Men characters tend to go more with action part of the mind while women characters often go with subconscious emotions. A wedding most often signals integration within the dreamer because a wedding is the union of male (actions) with female (emotions).

The part of the dreamer similar to Bob is a part of his mind that should give up on relationships that are not good and are unhealthy. This part of the dreamer was in danger of going downhill if he doesn’t rid himself of negative emotions.

Vomit is a combination of water and food. Water in dreams is invariably emotions. Food is nurture.

Vomit is spoiled nurture that is no longer good for us and must be expelled. The dream was saying to get rid of negative relationships because it would bring the dreamer downhill otherwise. His friend Bob who is also a part of the dreamer’s mind was getting rid of something that was once nurturing, but was no longer good and was just making him sick.

In any case, the dream was  advice for now or for the future. George’s father reprimanding George for becoming a pastor was his inner father introject that wanted him to succeed financially. This father introject didn’t want him to do too many altruistic things that were too self-sacrificing.

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What does a shark mean in a dream?

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It’s Really Difficult to Leave This Home Pool

Dream 302                                                                     
A woman dreamed that she was underwater in a swimming pool that was a combination of a swimming pool and the ocean. It seemed vast and open on the one hand, but had a ladder and  swimming pool accessories on the other hand. In the water with her was a shark with a bloody mouth because he had just been feeding.

The shark made no move towards attacking her. She decided to leave the pool because she could not hold her breath any longer. She climbed up the pool ladder and was intending to go towards her mother and sister.

The shark grabbed her by the right leg as she was leaving the pool/ocean. The shark did not hurt or bite her. The shark only put enough pressure on the leg that  she could not leave the ocean/pool.

Interpretation

Water is invariably emotions in dreams. Particularly subconscious emotions. It depends upon what type of body of water it is also.

The open ocean represents the best symbol we have for the vast subconscious. A pool represents our emotions at home because pools are located near homes. The image in the dream sounds like a combination of the ocean and a pool so that they together represent deep subconscious emotions at home.

Each character in a dream represents a part of our mind. Women tend to represent the parts of the dreamers mind that deals with emotions. That her mother and sister are in the dream especially emphasizes that it’s about emotions at home.

Also, the shark having a bloody mouth indicates the color red. The color red goes with the first chakra. The first chakra often deals with family (or tribe) issues. The color red also signals strong emotions such as love and anger (which are present in spades in family issues).

Animals represent our instincts. The shark is an aggressive predator. It is a shadow energy that we all deal with and are uncomfortable with for the most part.

The dream implies that she is immersed in her emotions and dealing with instincts or anger which we all have. We need these instincts to some extent to defend ourselves. The dream indicates that she worries about being overly angry sometimes at home and tries not to dwell on it as it makes her uncomfortable.

When she tries to get out of the pool to go to her mother and sister, the shark grabs her right leg. This is important. It sounded like it didn’t really hurt the dreamer but mainly wanted her to stay in the pool.

This is the dreams way of saying it wants her to deal with these emotions. The dream wanted to help her deal emotionally with others. Even the fact that it grabbed her right leg is significant.

Legs support us. The right side is associated with our conscious intentions. This suggest that the dream wants her to deal with any angers she had at home to help her be supportive to others and to herself.

Possible Details to Wonder About

We know at the first level that this dream is about emotional conflicts at home. At the next and second level of the dream, it is vital to get details from the dreamer. Let me explain.

For example, this dream could involve money conflicts and difficulty leaving home. The term “loan shark” comes to mind. One wonders whether there are money issues.

It is possible that she is subconsciously angry because she feels controlled because someone she is close to her has a financial hold on her (the shark not allowing her to leave the pool is the major clue here). Being in such a situation is especially stressful because if she leaves the current financial arrangements, she might feel that she didn’t have a leg to stand on (the shark would not let go of her leg). While it looks like she might be in a “hostile dependency” situation, getting further details from the dreamer would be vital to fully interpret this interesting dream.

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What does a baby mean in a dream?

What's new is your life?
What’s new in your life?

Dream Answer 298: Babies are almost always good news in dreams. They typically signal new growth in the dreamer of either new emotional (girl babies) or new behavior (boy babies). The following dream indicated new emotional growth:

An adult woman dreamed that she saw a spirit (baby-like) floating up in the corner of her bedroom near the ceiling. She staring at it trying to figure out what to do when her chihuahua, who was also looking at it, turned to her and said “you see it, just speak to it”. So she asked “who are you” and it materialized into a flower (like a daisy) against her wall.

Interpretation

Each person or creature in a dream is a part of the dreamer’s psyche at the first level. Females tend to go with emotions. Males tend to be associated with behavior. A baby represents a new part of the mind/psyche.

Floating or flying typically takes on spiritual meaning. Floating indicates usually an activated energy that is hanging above the dreamer. The emotional change that the new female baby portends is likely to happen soon when it is floating which is a peaceful and serene form of flying.

Dogs typically go with the dreamer’s affections and are associated with loyalty and protection. The dog gives you advice in the sense of urging you to speak to activate this new emotional part of you. Specifically, the dreamer was urged to speak directly about what she sees going on to others (“you see it, just speak it”).

The baby turning into a flower indicated that her new emotional growth was beautiful. The flower went against her “wall” which indicated she was going to be less defensive. The new emotional growth on the verge of entering the dreamer’s life was that she was becoming less defensive by speaking out directly about what she sees going on. She was being urged to be less defensive and to be more assertive. The dream wanted her to speak her truth.

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Appearance of the Sacred Heroic Masculine

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Dream 288
A man in his forties dreamed repeatedly that he was visited by a white robed faceless spirit. This spirited man gave the dreamer all elements of a knights armor. He was given a knights helmet, breastplate, body armor, sword, etc.

This was a recurring dream where he found himself fighting evil night after night in his protective knights armor. He felt powerful and strong. He felt the dream was spiritually significant.

Interpretation
At the first level of dream interpretation, each character in the dream represents a part of the dreamer’s mind or psyche. Men are usually associated more with action parts of the mind. Women usually represent more emotional parts of the psyche.

Repetitive or recurrent dreams are almost always big dreams as Carl Jung believed that some dreams meant more than others. This was especially likely to be the case with recurrent dreams. Usually, the recurrent dream is returning to a repeated theme to continue to try to resolve a repetitive problem.

This dreamer was visited by his own spirit of the heroic masculine. The heroic masculine is the most positive aspect of masculinity. It is a major archetype ingrained in the collective subconscious of mankind.

The heroic masculine motto is “to serve and protect.” This is a very spiritual dream. White is the most spiritual color.

The fact that the heroic masculine was faceless and the evil he was fighting was vague indicated that there are many aspects of himself that he is not familiar with. The dream was recurring over the course of a month as his subconscious wanted him to get to know both the positive and shadow parts of his subconscious. The dream used knights armor to emphasize that chivalry of the heroic masculine. The dream use the armor to emphasize that it was mainly about how he protected himself so that he could protect and help others.

This dream was saying that he would be protected when he uses his heroic masculine to protect himself and others from evil. This dream was saying that the dreamer had developed the positive aspects of masculinity to the point where he was a spiritual warrior. The appearance of this strong of a form of the heroic masculine indicates that he was ready to take major positive action for himself and loved ones.

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The Fur Flies

Emotional Cat Fight
Emotional Cat Fight

Dream 285: A woman dreamt said she saw a huge wave of water crashing into a building. Then she saw she two cats fighting. The fur was flying and the fight was vicious. At least one of the cats was black and white.

Interpretation
Water in dreams is virtually always emotion. Buildings in dreams can represent the dreamer because it is a framework out of which the dreamer operates. Family pets usually represent affections. Dogs often represent male affections or loyalty. Cats typically signal female affection or sensuality.

Each creature in the dream is seen as part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Black and white colors typically stand for opposing feelings or good vs bad. The dream is saying that she has been hit by a wave of emotion that has led to a cat fight amongst her affections.

To know the details of what these affections were for, we would have to go to the second level or interpersonal level of dream interpretation where information from the dreamer is vital. Usually only the dreamer has enough information of the details to specify what content the symbolic conflict amongst her emotions or affections is about. I would speculate that it may have to do with her emotions toward some unspecified women because of the cats engaging in the classic “cat fight.”

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Emotional Terror

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Emotional Veiled Terror

Dream 282: A 42-year-old man dreamed that he saw a woman through the keyhole of his front door who was a veiled terrorist. He later saw the terrorist watching his house from several hundred feet away. His wife went out to the street and she and the terrorist got into a fight.

The fighting was very intense and cat-like. His wife was enraged that the female terrorist/spy was smoking. They were then both arrested by the police.

Interpretation

Each character in the dream represents a
part of the dreamer’s mind or psyche. A house can represent the dreamer because it is the framework out of which he lives. Women usually represent emotional parts of the mind.

His wife is his most significant other and that is a good representation of his overall emotions. It is of interest that the dreamer used to work as a corporate spy so he was well familiar with the emotions that go along with that role. He recently had been emotionally terrorising his wife by being unpredictably catty and somewhat harsh.

The dream assured him that no good would come of this strategy as the conflict is too intense. His wife being enraged at the smoking is probably due to his wife and that portion of his mind that deals with his wife being enraged/concerned that he was making being unpredictable with his wife a habit.

There is condensation of the two levels of dream interpretation as he feels intrapsychic conflict over the difficulties with his wife and he has some guilt over spying on her; however, the dream is also concerned with the interpersonal strife he is raising in his personal life. The police showing up and arresting the women indicated that he felt some guilt over the conflict he caused within himself and in his marriage. Police are usually superego figures that enforce the law of your conscience.

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My Attempt to Change Died

Dream 280: Change Died
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A 48-year-old woman dreamed that she bought the house of her son’s mother-in-law. When she arrived at this house, there was a dead baby in a casket with large funeral candles on each side of the casket.

Interpretation

This woman was hyper-critical of her son. His mother-in-law had a troubled background similar to his mother’s personal history. The mother-in-law was, nevertheless, relatively calm, more diplomatic, and less critical than the dreamer.
A house can represent the dreamer because it is the framework out of which one lives. That the dreamer bought the house indicates that the dreamer is aspiring to be a different person, to be more like her son’s mother-in-law. The deceased baby is not good news.

Each character in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s personality at the first level of dream interpretation. A baby represents a new part of the personality or psyche that the dreamer tried to develop. So a baby represents personal growth on the part of the dreamer.

That the baby is dead signals that her attempt to be different, to be more like the calmer mother-in-law, failed. That it was an attempt to change was highlighted by the funeral candles. Candles imply fire, and fire represents change because fire changes matter into energy.

It is perfect that they were funeral candles. Funeral candles are typically unlit. The unlit candles emphasized that no change had occurred. That it is a funeral scene gives some hope because the dreamer saw her lack of change as a real loss. The dreamer is in mourning which suggests that being more like the mother-in-law personality-wise was something that the dreamer really wanted.

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Stabbed in the Back

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Dream 279: Stabbed in the Back
A 26-year-old woman dreamed that her boyfriend stabbed her in the back.
Interpretation
At the first level of dream interpretation, each character in the dream is a part of the dreamer’s mind. The first level is the most difficult and the most productive. Men tend to be associated with action parts of the mind, while women go with more emotional parts of the psyche.

So at the first level her actions are attacking her emotions. She recently was upset over her boyfriend starting to drink again, and it frightened her what whe might do to him which included physical retaliation. She feared she might do some rash and drastic action based on how she felt emotionally.

The back supports us. The dream is using the back as a metaphor for psychological support. She felt that his drinking again was a major disruption of her personal support system. She literally felt “stabbed in the back.”

This latter observation is the second or interpersonal level of dream interpretation. Usually it is the dreamer who is most accurate at this level. The dream interpreter simply does not have enough access to all the interpersonal details like the dreamer does. When the first and second levels are both true, as in this case, we call it condensation. The dream packs the maximum amount of information it can into the smallest space.

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Feeding the Inner Shark

Dream 278: Feeding the Inner Shark

shark-predator-picture_29A0381-596x397A 42-year-old man dreamed that he was swimming in the ocean infested with sharks. Sometimes the sharks would bite him, and sometimes he would bite the sharks. Neither he nor the sharks were seriously hurt by the bites.

The scene shifted to his hometown streets being flooded. Again the water was filled with sharks. He was able to bite and nourish himself from the sharks. He somehow knew that eating the sharks was “medicinal.”

A Chinese woman came to warn him not to bite the sharks too much. She did not disapprove of his feeding on the sharks, but mainly wanted him not to go overboard. He knew that the sharks were not hurt by his feeding upon them, because the bite marks immediately healed and regenerated.

Interpretation
Water is emotion. The ocean is the best symbol of the subconscious that we have. Creatures in the ocean, like sharks, represent subconscious energy.

Sharks represent aggressive energy because they are the ultimate predators. A persona needs some aggressive energy to accomplish goals, as aggressive energy ends up being the “get up and go” needed to achieve. Other parts of the personality need to moderate the aggressive energy so that it is sublimated into desired outcomes.

The dream starts out by noting that sometimes he is the prey, and sometimes he is the predator. When the sharks are moved from the ocean to the streets of his hometown, the dream is moving from his subconscious (the ocean) to his conscious (the land). The dream emphasizes that incorporating predator behavior into himself (eating the shark) was genuinely healing or “medicinal.”

Women tend to represent more emotional parts of the psyche. That she was Chinese was the dream’s way of indicating that her way of handling emotions was somewhat foreign to him. The message of the dream was that he perhaps should be somewhat more assertive in getting what he wanted, but that he should not take it too far.

It was interesting that shark cartilage is thought to be healing. In the dream, this was emphasized over and over. No one was hurt by being bitten. Tissue that was bitten regenerated.

The dream was not overly critical as it indicated he vacillated from being prey or predator. It just thought he should be more predator-like somewhat more of the time. He may need even to be aggressive sometimes.

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What does jewelry, toys, unfamiliar faces, a house, high fashion, a garden, a pool and clothing mean in a dream?

woman jewelryDream 277: A woman had a dream that a male friend who had died was at the house where she was living now. She said “hi” even though is it was not the face of her deceased friend. She somehow knew it was her deceased friend, but his face was very different. Then her male friend proceeded to tell her how many pounds of weight he had lost and how many more he wanted to lose.

She looked at him as he was thin. She asked him why would he want to lose more? He looked great. He answered, “Because I like high fashion.”

She went into another room to get something for the wedding rehearsal and when she returned, the room was filled with children. As she walked through the house every room in the house was filled with children. So she told her friend to wait outside in the garden by the pool. She needed to think.

When she went outside to look for him, the garden and pool area was filled with children. As she looked the garden kept stretching and stretching in size until the grounds got bigger and more children appeared. So she told her friend that they might have to wait a bit.

She went back in the house and went to her room which was filled with children. They were playing and holding some of her belongings which included her whole collection of jewelry. She began to get irritated and then they showed her some things they had built like toys from her jewelry. She was impressed, and thought their creations were amazing. These children were of our various cultures and backgrounds.

Interpretation

A house can represent the dreamer herself because it is the framework out of which one lives. In dreams, each person in the dream is part of the dreamer’s mind. Men tend to go with action parts of the psyche or mind, while women tend to go with more emotional parts of the psyche. Unfamiliar faces are parts of ourselves that we do not know very well.

Children are parts of the self that have not been developed and so represent creative potential. The dream mentions a wedding which is a primary symbol of integration since it joins male (action) parts of the mind with emotional (female) aspects of the psyche. A garden, of course, represents personal growth. Water is virtually always emotion and a pool is emotion that is close to home.

The dream tried to appeal to the dreamer’s ego by saying that it is “high fashion” to rid oneself of excessive and unnecessary ego defenses. Clothing typically represents defenses because it is what the world sees. It similarly looked at her personal belongings as defenses supporting the ego and tried to encourage her to be more playful (with the children making toys of them). The moral of the dream is to have fun and stop worrying about looking good.

In the case of the over-weight man, one looks better to others if your actions are less defensive and more playful. Losing weight is getting rid of a barrier or defense to becoming close to other people. The dream emphasized that there were many diverse parts of herself that she had to offer the world. Her subconscious was trying to get her to be less concerned with appearances, particularly concern over appearances that cover who she really was.

Jewelry is personal adornment and does not represent who she is. With the many children and their creativity, the dream is emphasizing that she had much to offer the world.

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Over the Top

losing weightDream 276: Pushing through the Weight Barrier

A 42-year-old man dreamed that he was climbing a ladder to the top of his high school. He knew there was an airport on top of the building. As he was climbing up the ladder he looked up and saw a morbidly obese woman near the top of the ladder.
She was ready to go on the roof, but she had to make her way through a narrow tunnel to get to the airport on the top of the high school building. She was able to get through the tunnel only because the dreamer helped her by pushing her through. He felt overjoyed as he headed for the airplane.

Interpretation
The dreamer recently was on a diet. He was frustrated because he always came to a plateau after losing fifteen pounds when his goal was to lose fifty. Dreams like to use high school as a place where the higher self of a person is schooled. He was emotionally learning how to carry out his goal of losing weight.
Climbing a ladder can be a metaphor for accomplishing a goal as one is literally “climbing to the top.” Each character is a part of the dreamer’s own psyche with women being associated with emotions, and men being correlated with action parts of the mind. His emotions about losing weight (the morbidly obese woman) were the main barrier he had to push through to “go over the top” and accomplish his goal.
Flight is almost always related to spiritual or higher level goals. His learning how to push his emotions through so that he could lose weight was very satisfying. He felt more confidence in his appearance and in his ability to reach personal aspirations.

Dream 273: Be A Man

images(3)Dream 273: A 33-year-old man dreamt that he fathered a child with his younger brother’s girlfriend.

 

Interpretation

To begin to take this dream apart, one has to realize that each character in the dream represents a part of the dreamers psyche or mind. Men tend to go with action part while women usually represent emotional parts of the mind.

 

The first step is to find out what his brother and his girlfriend separately represent to the dreamer. His brother was younger and impulsive and extroverted and social. So his brother represents action. The dreamer himself was a passive accountant who was introverted.

 

So the dream is calling for the dreamer to be more extroverted and somewhat impulsive. His subconscious is trying to move him from being passive into being more actively involved with others. A new baby represents a new part of the dreamer’s mind. In that way, it represents new potential that is being developed.

 

This is what the dream means on the first level. The dream is also true on the second or interpersonal level. He recently started to date a woman who used to date his younger brother. She was very extroverted and social. The dream was calling for him to develop the qualities of being more social while giving approval to his recent dating. When both levels collapse together like that, we call it condensation.

Dream 272: Nostalgic for Lust Emotions

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Dream 272: Nostalgic for Lust Emotions
A 60-year-old man dreamed of an image of a woman who was a combination of two women he had sex with in his early twenties. One woman was an Olympic gymnast who he never really got over. The other was a twenty-something woman who he later discovered was married and used him for sex because her husband was physically disabled.
In the dream, he saw himself trying to please this vibrant woman. He had the feeling in the dream, that no matter how hard he tried, the beautiful woman would not approve of him. He felt frustrated and downcast.

Interpretation
He recently felt depressed over getting older. He totally appreciated his loving wife, but was no longer able to do what he could do physically and sexually as a young man. At the first level of dream interpretation, women usually represent the dreamer’s emotions, while men (himself) represent an action part of his mind.
The dream spoke to the heart of his depression. He was nostalgic for the emotional complexity and physical lust of his relationships as a young adult. That those days were gone was the source of chronic depression.
He knew he was lucky to have a loving wife and would never hurt her. He was facing the challenge of old age. He wanted to find other ways to reinvigorate his life without losing what he had gained.

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You Are So Far Gone!

images(2)Dream 263: A 19-year-old man dreamed that he was in a parked car at night. One of his friends from high school, David, tapped on the passenger window. He asked the dreamer to come out of the car.

The dreamer proceeded to the back of a car and simultaneously saw his best girlfriend from high school and his worst and most evil girlfriend walking hand in hand down the sidewalk in front of the car. When the dreamer went to the back of the car, David hugged him and said “You are so far gone!”

Interpretation:Being in a car parked at night means that you have been subconsciously passive. Night time goes with inactivity and passivity. Darkness usually represents the subconscious while the brightness of day represents more conscious and more active parts of the psyche.

Each character in the dream represents a different part of the dreamer’s mind or psyche. Men tend to go with more active parts of the mind while women usually represent more emotional parts of the psyche. He was being beckoned by an active part of his psyche, David, to be more active.

Two characters in a dream hugging indicates that those two parts of the psyche are integrating. The dream wanted him to integrate action into his life more.

The good girlfriend represented more positive emotional parts of himself while the evil girlfriend represented his shadow emotions.

He was very resistant to recognizing and using shadow emotions in his life. In therapy, it was clear he needed to use some of the aggressive shadow emotions because these emotions end up being your “get up and go.” It was a good sign that his positive emotions (the good girlfriend) was holding hands with shadow emotions (the evil girlfriend) because this indicated some beginning integration.

This statement that “You are so far gone!” was actually a compliment. It meant that his new outlook of being willing to be more assertive in seeking his goals was firmly established. He would never return to being his old self.
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Dream 257: Life Was the Pits at 16

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Dream 257:

The 16-year-old teenager dreamt that he was in Africa. There was a huge pile of mostly dead bodies in a large pit. They found a ten-year-old black girl who was mostly just a head and a spinal cord. The dreamer helped the doctors put the girl in an ambulance and accompanied her to the hospital, convinced that she could be saved.

At some point on the trip to the hospital in the back of the ambulance, the girl turned to the dreamer and said a single word which was “Mum.”

Interpretation– At the first level, each character in the dream represents a part of your psyche. Men often go more with an action part of the mind, while women represent emotional parts of the psyche. The darker the skin, the more soul is being summoned.

The setting of the dream is often telling you what it is going to discuss in the dream. In this case, it was literally telling you how, at the age of sixteen, life was pretty much “the pits” (the deep hole full of bodies). Dead bodies show that parts of the psyche have radically changed or “died.”

As part of the massive changes occurring within the dreamer, the dream is trying to point to what needs to change emotionally (it picks out a deformed girl). The girl is immature (below the dreamer’s age) and consists of only a nervous system, a brain and a spinal cord. This is the dream’s way of saying that the dreamer is too much in the head and intellectual, and not dealing with emotions.

The fact that there are doctors and an ambulance indicates that this part of the emotions is in need of emergency healing.

The single word “mum” is important. The dream was saying that the dreamer is not speaking out emotionally enough, i.e., that “mum” is the word. It is speculative, because I do not know the dreamer well enough, but I wonder if there is something significant occurring in the dreamer’s relationship to mom=mum. In any case, it is highly likely that the dream is calling for the dreamer to express more soulful emotions and leave many old parts of the mind behind. It specifically wants the dreamer to speak out in a meaningful and emotional way more.

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A Messy Affair

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Dream 250:A 42-year-old man dreamt that he was being held down by his wife while a large mare urinated massive loads of urine on his face.

Interpretation– He was debating whether to return to a long-term affair. He did not want to leave his wife because of his young daughter. He felt conflicted, but felt that his life was entwined with the woman he was having an affair with. He thought it was likely that he would not stay married to his wife if he did not have some outlet for his sexuality.

Horses often represent female sexual power. The wife in his dream was his emotions, as a significant female partner and especially a wife represents primary current emotions. In dreams, a person, animal, or spirit is a part of the dreamer’s psyche. Men tend to go with actions while women go more often with emotional parts of the mind.

Water is almost invariably emotion in dreams, and urine is negative emotions. The dream is screaming that he is forcing himself to endure negative emotions to experience female sexual power (the horse). There is a price to pay emotionally for being involved in the affair.
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Taking My Kitties Home

veterinary-doctor-examines-a-kitten-petting-a-kitten-to-attractive-faceDream 175: Taking My Kitties Home
A 26-year-old woman dreamt that she was taking all of her kittens and her mother’s dogs home to save them from being beaten.

Dream 175 Interpretation
She was a nurse who worked at a nursing home.  She had good relationships with nearly all of her patients.  She tried to be gentle and empathic with the elderly patients, noting that “many of them are so cute you could just take them home.” 

She worried about some of them because some of the other staff were callously rough with the care they provided.  She was wondering why she was having a hard time completing an application to work at another facility which was a nursing job she was sure to get if she completed the application.

One could say from the brief description that the dream is about her affections for women (cats) and men (dogs).  Pets represent our affections with cats representing women usually and dogs being associated with men.  The further details confirm that the dream is about her feelings or affections for her nursing home.

She wants to take a patient home sometimes because of her affection for them.  She was having resistance to applying for a job at a different facility because she was having trouble thinking of leaving her current patients.  She could hardly bear the thought that she was somehow abandoning them to caretakers who were not as empathic as she.

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My Wife Marries an Artist

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A 44-year-old man dreamed that his wife married an artist.

Dream 165 Interpretation

Women in dreams, regardless of the gender of the dreamer, often represent an emotional part of the dreamer’s mind. Marriage usually represents an integration of male (action) and female (emotional) parts of the dreamer’s psyche. As such, it often signals that the dreamer’s actions and emotions are congruent and at peace. In this case, the dream was a reflection that he recently found artistic pursuits emotionally satisfying.