I dreamed of a black german shepard dog with a yellow collar running down the road. He was obviously lost by the way he acted and looked. Does this have a meaning?
Dogs usually represent your instinctive affection of loyalty and protection. It sounds like you may have lost that feeling of being protected by another’s loyalty. Yellow can be a color signifying caution is needed. These feelings have probably been “unleashed” and are looking for a home.
The dreamer replied:
Well, I’m about to get married at the end of the month. Maybe I’ve got prewedding jitters?
To which I answered:
That sounds reasonable to me. It could represent worries, that you do not want the feelings of loyalty and protection to be lost.
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“I had a dream I was in my wedding dress and looking for an iron for my veil. My young kids got out the flat with a strange wee boy. I went looking for them when I found them my little boy was lying lifeless in front of a car the other two kids where sitting up and the man from the car was sitting down he was on the phone crying and couldn’t look at me saying “sorry.” What does this mean?
“Weddings usually represent integration of different parts of your mind and personality. This one is focusing on your actions in particular integrating with your emotions as men tend to go with actions and women tend to go with emotions in dreams.
The clothing represents your defenses psychologically. A veil is something that you would have to look through that partially covers who you really are.
An iron is something you do to take the wrinkles out of your clothes, the wrinkles out of your defenses. There’s also the comment saying that we ” iron out our problems.” You are preparing to integrate, but delay doing so because you want to iron out your problems first, in particular, how you look at things through the veil of your consciousness.
At the first level, your little boy would represent a new action on your part that you delayed doing. Cars are usually vehicles that represent our progress in life.
The man in the dream is communicating with others how sorry you will feel if you delay taking a small action you need to do which involves changing your outlook and not putting off your integration of your emotions with your actions.
My bias is to think that the dream thinks that you should be taking some action which you know you should do which you are delaying because you want to wait till things look better through the way you are thinking about things now.”
The dreamer later indicated to me that you recently had a child and was deciding whether to get married.
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A man dreamed he was at an outside wedding. He was dressed formally for the wedding and was uphill from the outside dance floor. He and his friends were uphill from Bob who was throwing up repeatedly. Bob in reality was in a relationship that he wanted to take through college, but everyone thought the relationship was unlikely to work.
One of his friend’s (George) was completing an apprenticeship to become a pastor. His father was passively rich and very financially successful from the stock market. George’s father came down from higher ground to scream and shout at George.
The setting of a dream frequently indicates what type of issues are going to be addressed by the dream. At the first level of dream interpretation, each character represents a different part of yourself. Men characters tend to go more with action part of the mind while women characters often go with subconscious emotions. A wedding most often signals integration within the dreamer because a wedding is the union of male (actions) with female (emotions).
The part of the dreamer similar to Bob is a part of his mind that should give up on relationships that are not good and are unhealthy. This part of the dreamer was in danger of going downhill if he doesn’t rid himself of negative emotions.
Vomit is a combination of water and food. Water in dreams is invariably emotions. Food is nurture.
Vomit is spoiled nurture that is no longer good for us and must be expelled. The dream was saying to get rid of negative relationships because it would bring the dreamer downhill otherwise. His friend Bob who is also a part of the dreamer’s mind was getting rid of something that was once nurturing, but was no longer good and was just making him sick.
In any case, the dream was advice for now or for the future. George’s father reprimanding George for becoming a pastor was his inner father introject that wanted him to succeed financially. This father introject didn’t want him to do too many altruistic things that were too self-sacrificing.
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Dream 287: A 47-year-old man dreamed that he and his wife were on a beach. They took their wedding rings off and threw them into a pleasantly rising wave in the ocean. They felt safe and relaxed.
A circle is the best symbol we have for the soul because it has no beginning and it has no end. A ring is circular and is worn on your finger virtually permanently. A wedding in a dream represents the integration of male and female aspects of the dreamer as it stands for a man and woman forming a committed relationship.
Water is almost always emotion. The ocean is the best symbol for subconscious emotion that there is. The dream indicated that their emotions were rising. What the dream is saying by their throwing their rings into a rising tide is that their commitment to one another was increasing and creating a new and pleasant wave of emotion. Their commitment to one another created a new wave of lasting love.
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Dream Image 284: Someone recently asked me what a wedding cake symbolizes in a dream. I saw this as good opportunity to show how to combine and use the different principles explained in my book. A wedding or marriage symbolizes the integration of male and female aspects of the dreamer. Males represent action parts of the mind, while females represent more emotional aspects of the psyche.
Dreams use gender as code to indicate whether it is an action part of the mind or an emotional part. This is true whether the person is male, female, lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transsexual. Dreams are an equal opportunity employer of symbols.
So we all have various action and emotional parts of the mind. A wedding and marriage represents the integration of male and female, of the action parts and the emotional parts of the deamer’s psyche.
Food stands for psychological or emotional support.
A wedding cake in particular is very sweet, which is how the couple getting married hopes they will treat one another. You might say that they are sweet on one another. Eating in the dream indicates that the dreamer is trying to incorporate that quality into their character.
The fact that they’re feeding one another indicates that your actions want your emotions to be sweet. Conversely, your emotions want your actions to be sweet. At the second or interpersonal level of dream interpretation, this is also true as the couple wants their partner to be sweet in actions and emotion. How sweet it is!
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Dream 277: A woman had a dream that a male friend who had died was at the house where she was living now. She said “hi” even though is it was not the face of her deceased friend. She somehow knew it was her deceased friend, but his face was very different. Then her male friend proceeded to tell her how many pounds of weight he had lost and how many more he wanted to lose.
She looked at him as he was thin. She asked him why would he want to lose more? He looked great. He answered, “Because I like high fashion.”
She went into another room to get something for the wedding rehearsal and when she returned, the room was filled with children. As she walked through the house every room in the house was filled with children. So she told her friend to wait outside in the garden by the pool. She needed to think.
When she went outside to look for him, the garden and pool area was filled with children. As she looked the garden kept stretching and stretching in size until the grounds got bigger and more children appeared. So she told her friend that they might have to wait a bit.
She went back in the house and went to her room which was filled with children. They were playing and holding some of her belongings which included her whole collection of jewelry. She began to get irritated and then they showed her some things they had built like toys from her jewelry. She was impressed, and thought their creations were amazing. These children were of our various cultures and backgrounds.
A house can represent the dreamer herself because it is the framework out of which one lives. In dreams, each person in the dream is part of the dreamer’s mind. Men tend to go with action parts of the psyche or mind, while women tend to go with more emotional parts of the psyche. Unfamiliar faces are parts of ourselves that we do not know very well.
Children are parts of the self that have not been developed and so represent creative potential. The dream mentions a wedding which is a primary symbol of integration since it joins male (action) parts of the mind with emotional (female) aspects of the psyche. A garden, of course, represents personal growth. Water is virtually always emotion and a pool is emotion that is close to home.
The dream tried to appeal to the dreamer’s ego by saying that it is “high fashion” to rid oneself of excessive and unnecessary ego defenses. Clothing typically represents defenses because it is what the world sees. It similarly looked at her personal belongings as defenses supporting the ego and tried to encourage her to be more playful (with the children making toys of them). The moral of the dream is to have fun and stop worrying about looking good.
In the case of the over-weight man, one looks better to others if your actions are less defensive and more playful. Losing weight is getting rid of a barrier or defense to becoming close to other people. The dream emphasized that there were many diverse parts of herself that she had to offer the world. Her subconscious was trying to get her to be less concerned with appearances, particularly concern over appearances that cover who she really was.
Jewelry is personal adornment and does not represent who she is. With the many children and their creativity, the dream is emphasizing that she had much to offer the world.
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Dream 201: A Giraffe Is a Better Phallic Symbol Than a Sock Puppet
A 46-year-old woman dreamt that she was watching a staged reading. The dreamer was in the audience. On stage was the author of a book about a huge giraffe. She was a little girl who was about eight years old. The book was being read by a muscular and handsome man. A woman in the crowd shouted an objection to the reading when there was nothing objectionable going on. The dreamer thought to herself that the objector needed to get a life. It was somehow hoped that a giraffe would emerge from back stage at that moment. Instead, a disappointing sock puppet made a limp appearance.
She then saw the same little girl in a kitchen making a large multi-layered wedding cake. A band of little girls wanted to carry the cake to its destination. The dreamer intervened because she thought the woman herself should carry the cake because she thought the children would be careless. The woman dropped and ruined the cake by trying to carry it by herself.
Dream 201 Interpretation
This dream opens by using the Divine Child and the Heroic Masculine to stage what the dreamer wants sexually. We know this because the giraffe is a potent phallic symbol of sexual and animal instinct. The heroic masculine would be expected to provide what she wants.
There is a part of her that objects, while another part of her realizes that she must get on with life. After the objection, we are given the consequences of her current attitude toward sex. Instead of the highly visible and phallic giraffe, her husband’s response to her objection was more similar to the limp sock puppet.
The second part of the dream is about integration. A wedding is a prime symbol of integration because it is the symbolic union of the masculine (actions) with the feminine (emotions). The little girls are relatively new emotions that would help her. The dreamer’s problem is that she wants no help because she does not trust these new emotional ways of doing things.
As a little girl, she was raised by a promiscuous mother who was physically abusive toward her. The dreamer promised herself that she would never have children or be like her mother sexually. As her husband was getting older, he reminded her more of her father who was distant from her as a child. Her husband thus received unwanted transference from her parents. Subconscious memories of her parents resulted in reinforcing the aversion she felt toward sex as a child because of her mother’s promiscuous behavior.
She decided that she needed to take a more active role in their married sex life. She avoided snuggling with her husband even though he craved this contact. She decided that she would engage in more snuggling. She also decided that she needed help to get in the mood, i.e., after they snuggled she was going to ask what type of sex they had. She was dissatisfied in the past and was reluctant to say anything to her husband. Their sex life improved.