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Bathrooms and toileting

Dream Thought 486: 

Dreams about the bathroom focus on what you need to eliminate from your life. If it is number one, it is about getting rid of negative emotions. If it is number two, it is about getting rid of negative stuff you have internalized and/or no longer do you any good.

If you go into a bathroom and there is feces everywhere, the dream is talking about external things that you need to get rid of and out of your life.  It is toxic and must be eliminated.

Water is virtually always emotions in dreams.  If the dream involves showering or taking a bath, it is talking about how you need to clean up emotionally.

If it is a shower, it is more likely to be probable that it is about how you need to get rid of emotions towards others or emotions that are being directed towards you.

If it is a bathtub, it is likely to be more about immersing yourself in your emotions to clean yourself of them and free yourself from the negative portions of those emotions.

Most frequently, whatever proceeded the toileting, is probably what you need to cast out of your life because you do not need that stuff, so to speak.

A man had a dream that he went on a bus with other children to the school field day.  In the dream, he was supposed to go number 2 in a single small hole in the ground. He was extremely embarrassed.

Regarding this man’s dream, questions I would ask would involve whether there was something in his life where he was being treated like a child and forced to go along with the crowd (he traveled on a bus) to learn something that was elementary, embarrassing, and/or distasteful to him.

Freud thought toileting was important. Psychological theories such as Eric Ericsson’s  indicate that we learn skills at that point in our life  involving toileting which is a matter of trust and mainly autonomy.  I devote an entire chapter to the bathroom because it is so frequent in dreams in my book “Dreams: Guide to the Soul” at http://www.drstevenfox.com

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Will I Ever Trust a Man Again?

owning-a-dogDream 255: A 28-year-old woman dreamt that her abusive boyfriend hit her dog over the head with a shovel. The dog was dead. He was burying the dog. She wanted to stop the burial because the dog might still be alive.

Interpretation– Each person and animal in a dream represents part of the person’s mind. Animals typically represent basic instincts. Dogs in particular usually represent internal tendencies to be loyal and protective. The dream was saying that her experience with her abusive boyfriend had damaged her ability to feel protected and loyal towards men. That the dog might still be alive indicated that her trust of men was damaged, but that she might be able to heal from this traumatic experience.

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Trust, Soul and Death

Dream 226: Distrust and Death in Afghanistan

Fog of War
Fog of War

A 36-year-old woman dreamt that she was riding through a Midwest prairie in a car and it was a vast land of rolling hills. She then saw herself getting out of the car and giving water to a large group of Boy Scouts. Much to her horror, the Boy Scouts turned into Arab extremist terrorists.

The scene then shifted to her being in a cafeteria where there were multiple tables arranged in a circle. There was much confusion about what supplies they were supposed to get from each table. They stood there facing the tables and then a whistle blew and there was mass confusion and chaos.

Dream 226–Interpretation

She served in Afghanistan. The rolling hills of the prairie reminded her of the Mideast. Boy Scouts were used by the dream because the dream was mainly about action parts of her psyche. She was aware that the Boy Scouts motto  was to “be prepared.”

She suffered post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) in the Mideast as a result of almost being raped and having her life threatened. The dream was screaming that a major problem for her was trust because the trustworthy Boy Scouts turned into terrorists. This was her experience in the Mideast, that someone could be your friend and then turn on you.

The next section indicated that she was dealing with issues of the soul as the tables in the cafeteria were arranged in a circle. Circles usually represent the soul because they have no beginning and no end.  She was in charge of taking care of notifying families that their loved ones were killed in action or by accident in the army. She noted that it was a confusing conflagration of trying to decide what to do next in dealing with, many times, difficult family members who were confused and disoriented themselves.

The trying to get supplies and the mass confusion that erupted once the signal was given was similar to what she experienced. She explained that when she was deployed, chaos erupted when they were given an explicit order to attack at a certain time.

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Let It Go

Dream 196: Let It Go Child
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A 46-year-old woman dreamed that she was going to the bathroom. The bathroom was filthy. She saw the largest cockroach she had ever seen and felt disgusted. Someone was knocking on the bathroom door and telling her to hurry up. When she opened the door, her mother stomped on the cockroach and urged the dreamer to get on with her life.

Dream 193 Interpretation

The dreamer’s mother recently died. Her sister was the executor of the estate. Her sister arranged the way she administered the trust so that almost all the financial benefits went to herself. The mother was cremated. The mother indicated before she died that she wanted her ashes kept together and buried with a marker on the grave. The dreamer’s sister refused to spend any money on buying a marker for her mother’s grave. The disgust the dreamer felt in the dream toward the cockroach was exactly how she felt about her sister’s actions. The dreamer was totally disgusted that the sister who received all the financial proceeds after her mother’s death was now too cheap to buy a modest marker for her mother’s grave.

A bathroom in a dream is where you get rid of things you no longer need. The mother in the dream is the dreamer’s internalized mother introject. This emotional part of her was engraved in her subconscious by her mother. The dreamer’s mother is urging the dreamer to get over her disgust (hurry up and get out of the bathroom) in graphic terms (mom kills the cockroach in front of the dreamer). The dreamer verified that if her mother were alive, that is what she would ask the dreamer to do, i.e., “Come on dear and put this behind you now because it is not worth it and your sister is not going to change.”
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