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What does wearing a wedding ring on the wrong finger mean in dreams?

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DREAM 502: Put a Ring On It

A man described the following dream:

“In this dream there was a woman wearing her ring on her left index finger. I asked her “are you married”, and she said yes. It was a gold wedding band. She told me that she used to wear it on her right index finger but due to swelling she had to take it off and switch to the left index finger. I told her that it’s still wrong if she’s married it should be on her left ring finger, and I told her why. I explained the heart vein finger thing, and she switched it and said thank you.

I looked up a couple of interpretations online and I don’t have my book right now so all of it is kind of jumbled. Does anybody have any insight? All is welcomed.”

INTERPRETATION
There are several unusual things about this dream and when there is something out of the ordinary or not customary in a dream, the question becomes, why did the dream find it necessary to do that? Men tend to go with the dreamer’s actions while women tend to go with the dreamer’s emotions. Marriage represents the union of the dreamer’s actions with the dreamer’s emotions. A marriage represents a state of integration or having your stuff together.

A ring is a symbol of commitment. It’s made from a precious material, gold. It is circular and a circle usually represents the soul, because it has no beginning and no ending. A gold wedding band represents a precious soul commitment.

The wedding band is usually worn on the left ring finger which is the finger closest to the little finger. It started out this way because the Romans believed that the ring finger vein went directly to the heart. But this ring is worn on the index or pointer finger. Further, it is being worn on the right index finger before she is corrected.

The pointer finger points you in the right direction. The left tends to go with subconscious feelings. The right tends to go with conscious actions. Your finger swells when you been doing something too much.

I believe the dream is giving advice. The complicated part comes in when you realize that the woman in the dream represents the dreamer’s emotions.

I believe that what the dream may be saying is that the dreamer has been investing himself in conscious actions too much. The dream is screaming that he needs to take his direction from his subconscious feelings and emotions more, to go with what feels right at a soul level. Depending on your situation, it may be making recommendations about recent decisions, that it wants you to look at your inner feelings and motivations, more than what is expedient or convenient.

It is a big dream, talking about your soul commitments.

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What can a ghost, furniture, and a house mean in terms of relationships in a dream?

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Dream 409: The ghost of relationships past

A woman had the following dream:

“I need guidance if possible on what this dream meant..

So I dreamt I was not a ghost but invisibly present in my ex and I’s home, which is just his home now. And I noticed little upgrades, for example I thoroughly noticed little ottomans that were black and white stripe, three of them, and also noticed a very high techy fancy massage chair, very similar to the one the gentleman I was dating recently has in his home. That was the whole dream. Very odd, can anybody give me clarity on this one?”

Interpretation

I would suggest that at the first level, the ghost may represent the observing ego part of yourself.

In this case, I think it is very hard to separate the first and second levels of interpretation so I’m going to mix the two together. The first level is within the dreamer’s own psyche. The second level is interpersonal.

The house usually represents the dreamer because it is the framework of which one lives. Furniture usually represent what supports you in your life since furniture supports your body. In this case, I think this particular house because you and an ex lived in it more specifically represents the relationship part of your life.

I think the Ottomans being black and white to me suggest it is more clear what you want and what you don’t want in a supportive relationship. The dream is giving high grades to relationships that are supportive of a modern and soothing relationship. It may also be giving recognition to the idea that the next relationship needs to be modern and physically supportive.

This interpretation may only work in certain universes and is limited by my limited experience which includes my not personally knowing you.

The dreamer later confirmed that the interpretation “sounded about right.”

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What do lightning, tornadoes and orbs mean in a dream?

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Dream 405: Fire and Fury of the Spirit

A man had the following dream:

“I had another one where a large tornado was in front of me, but this was an unusual tornado, because it had lightning inside of it and a large glowing orb on top of it. Which was where the lightning was coming from. It seemed like a quick dream, but it was the only one I could remember from that night.”

Interpretation

Tornadoes are a powerful natural force which like sex/relationships can sweep you off your feet and dramatically change your life. Lightning is a powerful natural force that implies instant electric change (lightning being electrified fire if you will). Circles are associated with the soul because they have no beginning and no end.

Orbs are circular light and there is a kind of spirituality or awe associated with them as in “I see the light.” This dream is either recognizing or predicting instant natural change from natural forces or relationships that disrupts your homeostasis and gives you a sense of almost spiritual awe.

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What does hair and a hole in your trousers or pants mean in a dream?

Annoying or embarrassing?

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Annoying or embarrassing?

 

Dream 396: Could it be something related to Libido?

A man reported the following dream:

There’s a hole in my trouser leg with a ball of hair sticking out. I start to pull it out, but there’s no end to it. Must be 2 foot long eventually, and then I pull out a sock?! I’m wondering how all that hair and mess got in my trousers?!

Interpretation

Legs are what support us and get us where we need to go. Clothes are representative of psychological defenses. Clothes are what we show to the outside world.

If it were my dream, I would say that probably a hole in your support system so that you run into hairy situations when trying to advance yourself in life.

The thing that stands out is that the hair is in an unusual place, for a large amount of hair to be in trousers. We would not think that it would not impede motion as much as it would just be annoying.

The sock is something that we frequently lose when doing the wash–it was once part of a pair of socks. Hair is often associated with virility or sexual attraction as it is part of what we want to look good to partners.

I wonder if you have been annoyed by impediments to your progress in life caused by losing protection (a sock) in moving forward maybe because of the loss of a relationship (the sock is no longer paired)?

To go overboard even more, I wonder if you lost a relationship in the process of trying to express your libido/virility.

 

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What is Synchronicity?

Notice Synchronicity
Notice Synchronicity

Dream 358: A woman dreamed that an ex-lover whom she had known for years were floating side by side together passively in a pool of water. They both were floating and were perfectly still. She somehow knew that he was going to die. Basically the dream was saying that their relationship died because it was drowned in emotion.

Over the years, she had an on and off relationship with him because he was a drug addict. The next day after this dream, she heard that he died from a drug overdose. From figuring the time she went to sleep and the approximate time he died, she believed she had this dream within 3 or 4 hours of his death.

She had a predictive dream of his death, which is one of the six major types of dreams in my world. Psychics tell me that traumatic events send out a stronger signal which I believe the dreamer received.

Synchronicity

Carl Jung popularized the idea of synchronicity which is a meaningful coincidence. Synchronicity happens when two things that are unrelated happen in such a way that they seem related. Her story about this dream becomes even more synchronious.

Several days later she went to her ex lover’s funeral. After they lowered the casket in the ground, as a final farewell, the viewers were supposed to pick out a flower from a variety of flowers which were presented to them. They then threw their chosen flower onto the casket in the ground. She chose a red carnation.

After she went home from the funeral, her small son said that there was a flower growing in her lawn. She had not planted many flowers in her lawn. She asked her son to bring the flower to her. The flower was a red silk carnation.  The synchronicity of these events is almost unbelievable.

Synchronicity is when things that are unrelated happen in such a way that they seem related. It is always significant and one should always take notice in your world.

Jung, like the Chinese have believed for millenniums, thought that the world was one big connection, with everything related to everything else. This idea actually has scientific support with theoretical physics idea of entangled atoms. Einstein had a mystical side which emerged more in his elderly years.

When you think of it, Einstein’s life was mystical. How do you sit down at a desk and figure out that there must be black holes in the universe when no one at that time had seen a black hole?

I believe the universe is sometimes sending a message by way of synchronicity. It is incumbent upon us to pay attention to these messages for our own benefit.

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What does a wedding and vomit mean in a dream?

Actions and Emotions Become One
Actions and Emotions Become One

Dream 330: Don’t Go Downhill

A man dreamed he was at an outside wedding. He was dressed formally for the wedding and was uphill from the outside dance floor. He and his friends were uphill from Bob who was throwing up repeatedly. Bob in reality was in a relationship that he wanted to take through college, but everyone thought the relationship was unlikely to work.

One of his friend’s (George) was completing an apprenticeship to become a pastor. His father was passively rich and very financially successful from the stock market. George’s father came down from higher ground to scream and shout at George.

Interpretation

The setting of a dream frequently indicates what type of issues are going to be addressed by the dream. At the first level of dream interpretation, each character represents a different part of yourself. Men characters tend to go more with action part of the mind while women characters often go with subconscious emotions. A wedding most often signals integration within the dreamer because a wedding is the union of male (actions) with female (emotions).

The part of the dreamer similar to Bob is a part of his mind that should give up on relationships that are not good and are unhealthy. This part of the dreamer was in danger of going downhill if he doesn’t rid himself of negative emotions.

Vomit is a combination of water and food. Water in dreams is invariably emotions. Food is nurture.

Vomit is spoiled nurture that is no longer good for us and must be expelled. The dream was saying to get rid of negative relationships because it would bring the dreamer downhill otherwise. His friend Bob who is also a part of the dreamer’s mind was getting rid of something that was once nurturing, but was no longer good and was just making him sick.

In any case, the dream was  advice for now or for the future. George’s father reprimanding George for becoming a pastor was his inner father introject that wanted him to succeed financially. This father introject didn’t want him to do too many altruistic things that were too self-sacrificing.

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Commitment

A Commitment Is Forever
A Commitment Is Forever
Dream 287: A 47-year-old man dreamed that he and his wife were on a beach. They took their wedding rings off and threw them into a pleasantly rising wave in the ocean. They felt safe and relaxed.

Interpretation

A circle is the best symbol we have for the soul because it has no beginning and it has no end. A ring is circular and is worn on your finger virtually permanently. A wedding in a dream represents the integration of male and female aspects of the dreamer as it stands for a man and woman forming a committed relationship.

Water is almost always emotion. The ocean is the best symbol for subconscious emotion that there is. The dream indicated that their emotions were rising. What the dream is saying by their throwing their rings into a rising tide is that their commitment to one another was increasing and creating a new and pleasant wave of emotion. Their commitment to one another created a new wave of lasting love.

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The Fur Flies

Emotional Cat Fight
Emotional Cat Fight

Dream 285: A woman dreamt said she saw a huge wave of water crashing into a building. Then she saw she two cats fighting. The fur was flying and the fight was vicious. At least one of the cats was black and white.

Interpretation
Water in dreams is virtually always emotion. Buildings in dreams can represent the dreamer because it is a framework out of which the dreamer operates. Family pets usually represent affections. Dogs often represent male affections or loyalty. Cats typically signal female affection or sensuality.

Each creature in the dream is seen as part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Black and white colors typically stand for opposing feelings or good vs bad. The dream is saying that she has been hit by a wave of emotion that has led to a cat fight amongst her affections.

To know the details of what these affections were for, we would have to go to the second level or interpersonal level of dream interpretation where information from the dreamer is vital. Usually only the dreamer has enough information of the details to specify what content the symbolic conflict amongst her emotions or affections is about. I would speculate that it may have to do with her emotions toward some unspecified women because of the cats engaging in the classic “cat fight.”

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Let Them Eat Cake

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Dream Image 284: Someone recently asked me what a wedding cake symbolizes in a dream. I saw this as good opportunity to show how to combine and use the different principles explained in my book. A wedding or marriage symbolizes the integration of male and female aspects of the dreamer. Males represent action parts of the mind, while females represent more emotional aspects of the psyche.

Dreams use gender as code to indicate whether it is an action part of the mind or an emotional part. This is true whether the person is male, female, lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transsexual. Dreams are an equal opportunity employer of symbols.

So we all have various action and emotional parts of the mind. A wedding and marriage represents the integration of male and female, of the action parts and the emotional parts of the deamer’s psyche.
Food stands for psychological or emotional support.

A wedding cake in particular is very sweet, which is how the couple getting married hopes they will treat one another. You might say that they are sweet on one another. Eating in the dream indicates that the dreamer is trying to incorporate that quality into their character.

The fact that they’re feeding one another indicates that your actions want your emotions to be sweet. Conversely, your emotions want your actions to be sweet. At the second or interpersonal level of dream interpretation, this is also true as the couple wants their partner to be sweet in actions and emotion. How sweet it is!

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Dreams: Guide to the Soul

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This book shows how an experienced psychologist developed an intuitive dream interpretation method.

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20160810_125921 Steven G. Fox, Ph.D. Is the author of “Dreams: Guide to the Soul”

I am finishing my personal story and sojourn to health by putting MS into remission with the help of the universe/God. It will be my second book showing that dreams were an important part of that journey. My personal psychology enters into the picture a lot. I basically see years of physical abuse as laying the foundation for having the foundation for contracting the chronic illness of multiple sclerosis. Amazon will publish it first as an ebook. The name of the book will be something like MS Mission Remission: Healing Severe Chronic Multiple Sclerosis Against All Odds.

The Love Triangle

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A 19-year-old man dreamt an image of an apartment. The single enclosed bathroom was in the middle of the apartment. The rest of the apartment was vague and indistinct except featured prominently were a urinal and a toilet in the open.

Dream 229—Interpretation

He lived with his girlfriend in an apartment where a former lover supposedly now turned just-a-roommate also lived. His girlfriend was consistent in her stance that any sign of a former love relationship with her old boyfriend was nonexistent in her mind; however, it was clear to the dreamer that the old boyfriend still loved the woman.

Urinals and toilets get rid of toxic waste we no longer need and must eliminate. Dreams metaphorically use toilets and urinals as a sign that toxic emotions (water is invariably emotions in dreams) and other toxic stuff (euphemism) needs to be eliminated from the dreamer’s life. There is more emphasis on negative emotions being discarded because a urinal is used only to get rid of waste water (it is uncommon to see urinals outside of healthcare or commercial establishments).

It is an interesting side note that the dreamer and girlfriend had no trouble sharing a bathroom and being quite “open” about it. Her old boyfriend was adamant about keeping the bathroom private which is why the dream isolates and encloses one of the toilets.

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To Dust Thou Shall Return

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A 58-year-old woman dreamt that she was watching the desert from her picture window. Suddenly, she thought an asteroid hit the moon. It broke a chunk of the moon off. She thought that when the chunk reached her, she would die. After the moon chunk hit the earth, she felt the dust pass through her and knew that she died. She was surprised that she then had a feeling of relief and joy.

Dream 205–Interpretation

The moon tends to represent the unconscious. The sun goes with the conscious. The moon is associated with love and romance (think of the song Moon River or George’s promise to his fiancee to “lasso the moon” for her in the movie It’s a Wonderful Life.)

A death in a dream can mean that a part of the psyche “died” or was modified significantly. Part of the moon crashing to earth, in this case, meant that she was changing her love life significantly by being more “down to earth” with her lover. She recently had transformed the relationship with him by being more assertive. She expected more from him and was pleasantly surprised that she was much happier.

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Is She Good or Bad for Me: The Ancient Question

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A 33-year-old man dreamt that he was relaxing in an open green field. He was lying on his back and looking up to the sky and the surrounding beautiful natural fields enveloped within shelter belts. Every so often a presence or force appeared above him. He was trying to figure out if it was a force associated with his beautiful girlfriend that he loved very much or whether it was a dark and insidiously evil force. In any case, he felt that it was a very powerful force.

Dream 189–Interpretation

He was the survivor of two disastrous divorces after short marriages where his wives were obviously using him for his wealth. He was in therapy because he found it difficult to trust his girlfriend whom he previously dated in high school. She was beautiful and talented and had played games with him dating wise in high school.

Their reunion was very different from what happened in high school. His girlfriend’s previous arrogance transformed to empathy because she suffered a previous emotionally abusive relationship. He felt he could trust her now, but was cautious because of their history in high school and his relatively recent divorces.

The dream indicated the progress he was making in psychotherapy. He recently was trying to relax more around his girlfriend. The scene of the dream told what happens when he relaxes about his girlfriend as it occurred in a beautiful natural scene where he was physically relaxed.

The image that appears above him is his shadow. Almost all major changes in psychotherapy involve the shadow. The dream was giving him an up close look at his shadow on his girlfriend.

He was subconsciously worried how his girlfriend would affect him if he allowed her to be predominant (above him) in his life. Lying down with stomach up is a classic submission pose among animals. That she was close enough to be considered on a par with his shadow verified the current depth of their relationship.

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You’re Pretty, But I Am Smart

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A 24-year-old woman was a high fashion model and was very beautiful. She dreamt that her boyfriend was showing her a female friend who was in the same graduate program that he was. The friend was plain looking and smart.
This friend intensely admired the dreamer’s boyfriend. The dreamer wondered why her boyfiend was making such a big deal about his graduate school friend.

Dream 176–Interpretation
It is important to remember that each character in the dream represents a part of the dreamer’s psyche. The part of her that was involved with her boyfriend was advising her to behave emotionally somewhat more like his female (emotions) fellow graduate student toward him. He wanted to be admired for his brains which would counterbalance the relationship somewhat.
He felt she had all the power in the relationship because she was beautiful and rich. He was more uncertain regarding his future and his prospects for success. He wanted her to support his hope that he too would be successful in his own right.

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