Dream 539: Mom’s death tortures me
A woman had a reoccurring dream. Her deceased mom visits her and she is so happy to see her, but then the mom starts stabbing the dreamer in her head. The dreamer was heart broken and confused.
Mother is often the foundation of emotions because that is the first person we knew in life. There are different levels of dreams. The second or interpersonal level is null and void because her mother is not alive to precipitate that level.
The dream seems to be saying at the first intrapsychic level that she is tortured by thoughts of her mother (stabbed in the head). If her mother treated her poorly when she was alive, it would mean more that she was tortured by these past memories. If her mother treated her well, the tortured thoughts would be the sadness and regret over her death.
If the relationship were somewhere in the middle, it could be both that she is tortured by her mother’s death and sad things that happened when she was alive.
Which way I would go with this, or in the middle, would depend upon how her mother treated her when she was alive. If it was a good relationship, I would lean strongly toward her being tortured by sad thoughts over her death and the consequences to the dreamer by that death.
A woman dreamt that she was attending someone’s wedding. She decided to leave and take an uber ride share home. The driver was an 84-year-old man who violated her sexually when she arrived home.
At home, someone had shot her father in the leg, and he was not hurt very bad. Her mother was mortally wounded as the bullet was lodged near her heart. She vividly experienced holding the wound shut with her hand to prevent bleeding. The dream ended with her mother being take to the hospital.
Her parents were in the process of a bitter divorce. Her father had an affair with another woman. The dream starts out with a wedding because a wedding represents integration of the dreamer. The divorce of her father introject (her actions) from her mother introject (the dreamer’s emotions) was affecting her integration as a person at the first level of dream interpretation.
At the second or interpersonal level of dream interpretation, the dream starts out with someone’s wedding because it was announcing that someone’s marriage (her parents) was going to be involved. When both the first and second levels are true it is condensation. The dream is fitting the maximum amount of meaning into the smallest space.
I am more and more impressed how everyday sayings can add to the interpretation of a dream. I believe being sexually violated by an old uber driver was the dream emphasizing that she was “being taken for a ride.” The dream was highlighting how personally violated her father’s affair and resulting divorce made her feel. The driver was 84 because personal violations by her father were “getting old.”
The number 84 is not insignificant. Four is the number of stability as there are four legs to a chair, four legs to a table, four directions, four quarters to a game, etc. When a dream wants to emphasize something, it may give you two of them, as in 2×4=8. I believe the number 8 in this case stresses how the affair and divorce negatively affected her feelings of stability.
Mother introjects typically go with the foundation of emotions which is emphasized by the bullet being lodged near the heart (the body organ most associated with love).
Legs support us. Her father is shot in the leg because she felt the loss of support from her father. Her father was not hurt as bad because he was not hurt as seriously by the divorce. He had already immersed himself in a relationship with the other woman.
Her placing her hand over her mother’s heart, and her mother being taken to the hospital, emphasized the hope that the dreamer’s emotions and her mother would heal from the disturbing divorce.
A man dreamed that he was walking with his mother and all of a sudden a pitbull ran out and bit her on the hand. But somehow, when she pulled her hand away, there was no wound and no bleeding. He wondered what this might mean? I, as usual, gave him an answer off the top of my head.
At the first level of dream interpretation, each a living thing represents a different part of your mind. Your mother usually goes with your emotions. Dogs and animals in general represent instinct. Dogs in particular usually represent something to do with protection and loyalty. In a dream like this, figuring out what the contradiction means is always important. The contradiction in this dream is how is it that she gets bitten, but isn’t hurt? In the dream, your mother usually represents the basis of your emotions.
A dog would represent your loyalty or protection of your emotions. I wonder if you tend to be a person who is hesitant to express anger. Because what happens is the dog does something very aggressive, but no harm is done to your emotions. In other words, I think the dream is emphasizing that you’re very worried about hurting others, but might not be standing up for yourself enough.
It is interesting that the dream is exaggerating the point by making the dog a pitbull, a dog known to be aggressive. The dream seems to be saying that it’s not going to hurt your feelings or others feelings by showing some aggression, as long as you don’t draw blood, that is, be too aggressive in your remarks or actions. I believe your dream is going out of its way to exaggerate that being more assertive wouldn’t hurt anything, especially your feelings.
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Dream 440: Consolation after Catastrophic Personal Loss
A woman had the following dream:
“My mom passed Sept 14th. Since then I have had some dreams I don’t understand…as an aside I’ve lost my sister, my brother and my mom in the last 10 months…I had a dream that my left eye went blind, a spot showed up…I had a dream something was coming for me and I tried to scream for help. On the third try I screamed out loud. My husband asked me about it the next day…I had a dream my mom, sister, and I were listening to Waylon Jennings on the tv…of course, they are both gone now…
Update: The next night I dreamt that I went to see my mom and she talked little but laughed a lot and goofed around we were laughing so hard and then we sat down on her bed and laid back. It was a water bed. We sat up and she looked at me and said it’s OK Carol, I’m not lonely anymore.”
Left usually goes with the subconscious and emotions. Right usually goes with conscious actions. Going blind usually represents something you do not want to see. I think that what is coming is what is coming to us all someday, death. Who wants to see that?
With your mom, that is either your mother introject or your mother–actually I think the dream condenses here so it is probably both. The reason it was a water bed probably is because water virtually always represents emotions in dreams. Your mother or mother introject and probably both want her to relax (lay down) her emotions.
You have gone through unbelievable loss, and your subconscious wants you to relax, and treated you with a visit from mom. This is a big dream involving the first (psychological), second (interpersonal), and third (spiritual) levels.
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A man dreamed that he was sitting on a couch between his divorced mother and father. He was in the 8th grade. His mother’s head was full of snakes that looked quite threatening and they were green and gooey.
My interpretation of the dream
The first question I asked him was whether he blamed his mother for the divorce. He responded that he had talked with her the night before this dream about the divorce that occurred in an important stage of his life. He noted that he looks like his father and was absent-minded like his father which drove his mother up the wall.
Snakes often signal transformation. The mother in the dream is his mother interject which is usually the basis of emotions. The dream is saying that he went through a major emotional transformation when he was 14 which was in fact when the divorce occurred.
The mother having snakes for hair replicates the Medusa archetype. In Greek mythology, Medusa was a fearsome image and men they looked at her turned into stone. Medusa is a perfect image in this instance.
I believe Medusa shows up also because emotionally he felt his mother was stony and rigid towards him. She could break the dreamer down with one cold stare when he was young. These stares occurred mainly when she equated him with his father because of the similarity of looks and actions.
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A woman had the following dream: “I had a strange dream I was walking then I saw my sister at an office and she says that my mom got bit by ants. I believe that was the doctors office. It ended there.”
“Each living thing in the dream represents a part of your mind at the first level. It sounds like it mainly involves emotions since women tend to go more with emotions. The mother in the dream is the mother in your mind that we call the mother introject. The mother introject is often the basis of emotions.
Animals (in this case ants) usually represent our instincts, what we are prone to do naturally. Ants are methodical, routine and focused on accomplishing what needs to be done for the group compulsively.
Being bit by ants is a nuisance/irritating. I wonder if there is a situation (maybe involving family) where you have put in a lot of work and are feeling a little annoyed or taken for granted?”
The dreamer responded with the following confirmation: “Yes, my sister was over for a month.My sister is very bossy and doesn’t use nice words to tell them to do things. Not cursing, not a sweet person very cold and mean!”
“Dreams are wonderful for me lately. I dream of my deceased parents staying married (they divorced when I was 4), seeing them grow old together. Just wishful thinking?”
Whatever theory you look at in mental health, it eventually gets back to mom and dad, it is not the whole thing, it is just a part of it which gets less and less as you get older but there is probably always still some remnant of your parents. The mother and the father you dream of now are the mother and father in your mind which are called a mother introject and a father introject.
The father introject is most often the basis of your actions. The mother introject is most often the basis of your emotions.
Marriage is a union of different parts of your mind. If it is a marriage between your father and your mother, it typically represents you’re integrating your emotions with your actions. The fact that you dream of them growing old together indicates that the integration is a long-term effect. Congratulations!
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“I had a dream last night. We, my husband and I were driving to the beach and as usual We took a wrong turn. We kept driving and although I became a little impatient Jim assured me that he knew where he was going. We turned down a small Ocean front road and followed the road until the end, We pulled into a driveway of a cozy little beach cottage and I asked him why we were there. Our destination was at least 25 miles away. He just smiled and said he wanted to surprise me. I knocked on the door and an old friend of mine Gay answered the door. I saw a long red sofa and a woman was walking from the hallway very angry,she didn’t speak but walked up and down the hallway. Gay told me to come out to the patio and sit for a while and when we opened the door the place was beautiful. All white wicker furniture,flowers everywhere,you could here the ocean roar and the birds sing. The sun was bright but it was as if the heat from it was filtered. I saw a woman walk towards me from the side and smile. It was my Mother who I had lost 19 yrs. ago. She looked so healthy and at peace and gave me a warm hug. She kept saying she was where she should be and was ok. She also said she needed to tell me something but my alarm clock thought otherwise.”
The dream starts out that she is going to the beach with her husband. Both an emotional part of her mind(herself as a woman) and an action part of her mind (often represented by a husband in a dream) are going to a place where consciousness meets the subconscious, the beach.
Land usually represents the conscious, while the best symbol we have for the subconscious is the ocean. Every character is a part of the dreamer’s mind with men representing actions and women representing emotions usually. That is not always true, but is usually the case.
The beach is the place where one works out conflicts and integrates the subconscious with the conscious world. She does not make it to the beach. She stops 25 miles inland which is to say the dream is addressing how things are done consciously now.
She meets an old friend Gay who is a woman. Gay represents something very close to herself and the red couch indicates passion is involved as red is usually either intense love or intense anger. In this case, I think the dream is going to talk about her need for romance.
The place becomes very beautiful and romantic and idyllic. She meets her beloved mother whom I suspect wants to tell her how to integrate her conscious word with her subconscious emotions, i.e., she might be wanting to give the dreamer advice about how to merge romance into her everyday life especially if she was good at doing that in her own life.
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Dream 254: A 48-year-old woman dreamt that she was walking on the sidewalk in front of the house where she was raised. In front of her were her mother and an attractive woman leading the way. She realized that she did not know where her car was. Suddenly, she was concerned because she did not know if her horse won the horse race.
Interpretation– The fact that she and the others were walking in front of the house she was raised in, indicates that deep subconscious factors were involved. Each character in the dream is a part of her psyche. Her mother represents her mother introject, would you as the mother inside her mind which takes care of herself and others. The attractive woman is an anima figure, an idealized woman who is the major part of her psyche that would be involved in dating relationships.
A car is how you get somewhere in life. Realizing that she does not know where it was indicated that she did not know where she was going in life. Horses frequently symbolize female sexual power. Wondering whether her horse won the race was equivalent to dreaming if the man she was dating was the right man for her. They had been involved for nine months, and she seemed ambivalent.
A 38-year-old woman dreamt that she was going skin diving and had a mask on. The mask was quite prominent on her face. She remembered being pulled down to the bottom of the ocean.
She noted that there was a blackout mark over her mouth as you sometimes see in magazines only the mark is most often over people’s eyes. She had images of her mother flashing in and out during the dream.
She was having a hard time asserting herself at work in a new supervisor position. She noted that her mother had always been very unassertive and passive. Her mother introject appeared throughout the dream because it is the emotional part of herself that she is trying to resolve.
She has a mask over her face that is prominent because she feels like she is hiding and not being true to herself to a large extent. The censor mark or blackout mark is over her mouth because she does not say what she truly means to others because she is too unassertive. She feels pulled to the bottom of the ocean which is her dream’s way of saying that she needs to be true to herself and experience deeper emotion.
The ocean is the best symbol of unconscious emotion that we have. The dream was pointing out that she needs to go deeper into her subconscious emotion to change her so that she allows herself ro speak out. The dream traced the beginnings of her lack of assertiveness to her internalized mother introject. She needed to love herself more to have the confidence to assert herself.
Jung maintained that we each had a higher Self that should always be capitalized. This soulful Self was expressed through the subconscious in dreams. Her Self is asking her to change in this dream.
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Life Changing Events Dream 220: Feeling Washed Out
A 28-year-old woman dreamt that she was walking along an ocean boardwalk with her mother. The water rose and engulfed them. She survived, was uncertain what happened to her mother, and felt exhausted.
Water is emotion which in this case overwhelms the dreamer. She recently came out of the closet and revealed that she was in a lesbian relationship. This affected the basis of her emotions (her mother introject) to the point that she was exhausted.
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A 48-year-old man dreamt that he was a police officer. A mother was telling him to write down neatly the changes that needed to occur in her 12-year-old son. She complained that her son was only getting C’s and D’s.
A police officer is a superego figure (as are all law enforcement officers.) The mother in the dream is his mother introject which primarily deals with emotional issues. The son is his immature actions.
He recently was getting in trouble with his wife for swearing too much. She complained that his swearing was ruining their positive emotional atmosphere. She thought it was juvenile (the boy) and she and his mother introject gave his speech low grades (C’s and D’s). The fact that the police officer wrote down the information means that he should take special note of what his mother introject is telling him. His superego or conscience is telling him to clean up (write more legibly, communicate more clearly) his language. Get the messages from your dreams at http://www.drstevenfox.com
A 46-year-old woman dreamed that she was going to the bathroom. The bathroom was filthy. She saw the largest cockroach she had ever seen and felt disgusted. Someone was knocking on the bathroom door and telling her to hurry up. When she opened the door, her mother stomped on the cockroach and urged the dreamer to get on with her life.
Dream 193 Interpretation
The dreamer’s mother recently died. Her sister was the executor of the estate. Her sister arranged the way she administered the trust so that almost all the financial benefits went to herself. The mother was cremated. The mother indicated before she died that she wanted her ashes kept together and buried with a marker on the grave. The dreamer’s sister refused to spend any money on buying a marker for her mother’s grave. The disgust the dreamer felt in the dream toward the cockroach was exactly how she felt about her sister’s actions. The dreamer was totally disgusted that the sister who received all the financial proceeds after her mother’s death was now too cheap to buy a modest marker for her mother’s grave.
A bathroom in a dream is where you get rid of things you no longer need. The mother in the dream is the dreamer’s internalized mother introject. This emotional part of her was engraved in her subconscious by her mother. The dreamer’s mother is urging the dreamer to get over her disgust (hurry up and get out of the bathroom) in graphic terms (mom kills the cockroach in front of the dreamer). The dreamer verified that if her mother were alive, that is what she would ask the dreamer to do, i.e., “Come on dear and put this behind you now because it is not worth it and your sister is not going to change.”
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