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What does a wedding veil, car, death of a son, and an older man crying mean in a dream?

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Dream 433: There is something I know I should do

A woman had the following dream:

“I had a dream I was in my wedding dress and looking for an iron for my veil. My young kids got out the flat with a strange wee boy. I went looking for them when I found them my little boy was lying lifeless in front of a car the other two kids where sitting up and the man from the car was sitting down he was on the phone crying and couldn’t look at me saying “sorry.” What does this mean?

Interpretation

“Weddings usually represent integration of different parts of your mind and personality. This one is focusing on your actions in particular integrating with your emotions as men tend to go with actions and women tend to go with emotions in dreams.

The clothing represents your defenses psychologically. A veil is something that you would have to look through that partially covers who you really are.

An iron is something you do to take the wrinkles out of your clothes, the wrinkles out of your defenses. There’s also the comment saying that we ” iron out our problems.” You are preparing to integrate, but delay doing so because you want to iron out your problems first, in particular, how you look at things through the veil of your consciousness.

At the first level, your little boy would represent a new action on your part that you delayed doing. Cars are usually vehicles that represent our progress in life.

The man in the dream is communicating with others how sorry you will feel if you delay taking a small action you need to do which involves changing your outlook and not putting off your integration of your emotions with your actions.

My bias is to think that the dream thinks that you should be taking some action which you know you should do which you are delaying because you want to wait till things look better through the way you are thinking about things now.”

The dreamer later indicated to me that you recently had a child and was deciding whether to get married.

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What does dreaming about your divorced parents being married mean?

Integrating Emotions and Actions

Dream 389: Getting It Together

A woman had the following dream:

“Dreams are wonderful for me lately. I dream of my deceased parents staying married (they divorced when I was 4), seeing them grow old together. Just wishful thinking?”

My Interpretation

Whatever theory you look at in mental health, it eventually gets back to mom and dad, it is not the whole thing, it is just a part of it which gets less and less as you get older but there is probably always still some remnant of your parents. The mother and the father you dream of now are the mother and father in your mind which are called a mother introject and a father introject.

The father introject is most often the basis of your actions. The mother introject is most often the basis of your emotions.

Marriage is a union of different parts of your mind. If it is a marriage between your father and your mother, it typically represents you’re integrating your emotions with your actions. The fact that you dream of them growing old together indicates that the integration is a long-term effect. Congratulations!

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What does a wedding and vomit mean in a dream?

Actions and Emotions Become One
Actions and Emotions Become One

Dream 330: Don’t Go Downhill

A man dreamed he was at an outside wedding. He was dressed formally for the wedding and was uphill from the outside dance floor. He and his friends were uphill from Bob who was throwing up repeatedly. Bob in reality was in a relationship that he wanted to take through college, but everyone thought the relationship was unlikely to work.

One of his friend’s (George) was completing an apprenticeship to become a pastor. His father was passively rich and very financially successful from the stock market. George’s father came down from higher ground to scream and shout at George.

Interpretation

The setting of a dream frequently indicates what type of issues are going to be addressed by the dream. At the first level of dream interpretation, each character represents a different part of yourself. Men characters tend to go more with action part of the mind while women characters often go with subconscious emotions. A wedding most often signals integration within the dreamer because a wedding is the union of male (actions) with female (emotions).

The part of the dreamer similar to Bob is a part of his mind that should give up on relationships that are not good and are unhealthy. This part of the dreamer was in danger of going downhill if he doesn’t rid himself of negative emotions.

Vomit is a combination of water and food. Water in dreams is invariably emotions. Food is nurture.

Vomit is spoiled nurture that is no longer good for us and must be expelled. The dream was saying to get rid of negative relationships because it would bring the dreamer downhill otherwise. His friend Bob who is also a part of the dreamer’s mind was getting rid of something that was once nurturing, but was no longer good and was just making him sick.

In any case, the dream was  advice for now or for the future. George’s father reprimanding George for becoming a pastor was his inner father introject that wanted him to succeed financially. This father introject didn’t want him to do too many altruistic things that were too self-sacrificing.

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The Right and Left Stairways

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Dreams 289: A man in his early forties dreamed that he was talking to some girls when he was in high school in New York. It was very casual and relaxed conversation in a restaurant located at the top of a mansion. When he left, he found himself at the top of stairs on a landing where there was a stairway to his right and there was a stairway to his left.

He went down the left stairway and knew somehow that he had to use a phone. He then went down the right stairway and found a woman that looked like his wife. She was pretty and looked like his wife. He thought she looked depressed as she was leaning forward on her arms with her forearms resting on the table. He then saw the girls he was talking to earlier pass by in the distance.

Interpretation

This dream is all about communication with his wife. Stairs invariably represent sex because it is a rhthymic activity that ends in a climax. The left tends to be associated in ancient India with subconscious emotions, while the right usually represents conscious activity. The dream is emphasizing the importance of communication in their sex life.

Restaurants are where people are physically and psychologically nourished. The dream is saying that there was something about the way he communicated with those girls in New York that would be useful in his marriage, that there was something about that type of communication that would be especially nourishing in his marriage.

Movement in this dream is down stairways because their sex life was a “downer.” Movement down the left involves emotion. A phone is at the bottom of this stairway to emphasize the importance of communication.

The right is associated with conscious action. In this case, his depressed wife at the bottom of these stairs represented disappointment over the lack of sexual action, intimacy, in his marriage. The dream ends by recommending interaction with his wife like he had with the New York girls that pass in the distance.

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Commitment

A Commitment Is Forever
A Commitment Is Forever
Dream 287: A 47-year-old man dreamed that he and his wife were on a beach. They took their wedding rings off and threw them into a pleasantly rising wave in the ocean. They felt safe and relaxed.

Interpretation

A circle is the best symbol we have for the soul because it has no beginning and it has no end. A ring is circular and is worn on your finger virtually permanently. A wedding in a dream represents the integration of male and female aspects of the dreamer as it stands for a man and woman forming a committed relationship.

Water is almost always emotion. The ocean is the best symbol for subconscious emotion that there is. The dream indicated that their emotions were rising. What the dream is saying by their throwing their rings into a rising tide is that their commitment to one another was increasing and creating a new and pleasant wave of emotion. Their commitment to one another created a new wave of lasting love.

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Let Them Eat Cake

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Dream Image 284: Someone recently asked me what a wedding cake symbolizes in a dream. I saw this as good opportunity to show how to combine and use the different principles explained in my book. A wedding or marriage symbolizes the integration of male and female aspects of the dreamer. Males represent action parts of the mind, while females represent more emotional aspects of the psyche.

Dreams use gender as code to indicate whether it is an action part of the mind or an emotional part. This is true whether the person is male, female, lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transsexual. Dreams are an equal opportunity employer of symbols.

So we all have various action and emotional parts of the mind. A wedding and marriage represents the integration of male and female, of the action parts and the emotional parts of the deamer’s psyche.
Food stands for psychological or emotional support.

A wedding cake in particular is very sweet, which is how the couple getting married hopes they will treat one another. You might say that they are sweet on one another. Eating in the dream indicates that the dreamer is trying to incorporate that quality into their character.

The fact that they’re feeding one another indicates that your actions want your emotions to be sweet. Conversely, your emotions want your actions to be sweet. At the second or interpersonal level of dream interpretation, this is also true as the couple wants their partner to be sweet in actions and emotion. How sweet it is!

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My Attempt to Change Died

Dream 280: Change Died
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A 48-year-old woman dreamed that she bought the house of her son’s mother-in-law. When she arrived at this house, there was a dead baby in a casket with large funeral candles on each side of the casket.

Interpretation

This woman was hyper-critical of her son. His mother-in-law had a troubled background similar to his mother’s personal history. The mother-in-law was, nevertheless, relatively calm, more diplomatic, and less critical than the dreamer.
A house can represent the dreamer because it is the framework out of which one lives. That the dreamer bought the house indicates that the dreamer is aspiring to be a different person, to be more like her son’s mother-in-law. The deceased baby is not good news.

Each character in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s personality at the first level of dream interpretation. A baby represents a new part of the personality or psyche that the dreamer tried to develop. So a baby represents personal growth on the part of the dreamer.

That the baby is dead signals that her attempt to be different, to be more like the calmer mother-in-law, failed. That it was an attempt to change was highlighted by the funeral candles. Candles imply fire, and fire represents change because fire changes matter into energy.

It is perfect that they were funeral candles. Funeral candles are typically unlit. The unlit candles emphasized that no change had occurred. That it is a funeral scene gives some hope because the dreamer saw her lack of change as a real loss. The dreamer is in mourning which suggests that being more like the mother-in-law personality-wise was something that the dreamer really wanted.

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What does jewelry, toys, unfamiliar faces, a house, high fashion, a garden, a pool and clothing mean in a dream?

woman jewelryDream 277: A woman had a dream that a male friend who had died was at the house where she was living now. She said “hi” even though is it was not the face of her deceased friend. She somehow knew it was her deceased friend, but his face was very different. Then her male friend proceeded to tell her how many pounds of weight he had lost and how many more he wanted to lose.

She looked at him as he was thin. She asked him why would he want to lose more? He looked great. He answered, “Because I like high fashion.”

She went into another room to get something for the wedding rehearsal and when she returned, the room was filled with children. As she walked through the house every room in the house was filled with children. So she told her friend to wait outside in the garden by the pool. She needed to think.

When she went outside to look for him, the garden and pool area was filled with children. As she looked the garden kept stretching and stretching in size until the grounds got bigger and more children appeared. So she told her friend that they might have to wait a bit.

She went back in the house and went to her room which was filled with children. They were playing and holding some of her belongings which included her whole collection of jewelry. She began to get irritated and then they showed her some things they had built like toys from her jewelry. She was impressed, and thought their creations were amazing. These children were of our various cultures and backgrounds.

Interpretation

A house can represent the dreamer herself because it is the framework out of which one lives. In dreams, each person in the dream is part of the dreamer’s mind. Men tend to go with action parts of the psyche or mind, while women tend to go with more emotional parts of the psyche. Unfamiliar faces are parts of ourselves that we do not know very well.

Children are parts of the self that have not been developed and so represent creative potential. The dream mentions a wedding which is a primary symbol of integration since it joins male (action) parts of the mind with emotional (female) aspects of the psyche. A garden, of course, represents personal growth. Water is virtually always emotion and a pool is emotion that is close to home.

The dream tried to appeal to the dreamer’s ego by saying that it is “high fashion” to rid oneself of excessive and unnecessary ego defenses. Clothing typically represents defenses because it is what the world sees. It similarly looked at her personal belongings as defenses supporting the ego and tried to encourage her to be more playful (with the children making toys of them). The moral of the dream is to have fun and stop worrying about looking good.

In the case of the over-weight man, one looks better to others if your actions are less defensive and more playful. Losing weight is getting rid of a barrier or defense to becoming close to other people. The dream emphasized that there were many diverse parts of herself that she had to offer the world. Her subconscious was trying to get her to be less concerned with appearances, particularly concern over appearances that cover who she really was.

Jewelry is personal adornment and does not represent who she is. With the many children and their creativity, the dream is emphasizing that she had much to offer the world.

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Check Emotions at the Door

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Dream 223: Check Your Emotions at the Door

An executive dreamt that he left his former workplace which was a commercial building. As he walked outside it became a residential home like the house that his best friends owned. He walked to the house next door which was a thatched shanty like his bipolar ex-wife owned.

He decided not to go inside. He went back his former workplace and entered in a different and new doorway. The female vastly underemployed security guard was fastidiously checking through multiple papers to see if he could return.

Dream 223–Interpretation

The setting of the dream often indicates what issues the dream wishes to address. We know that this dream primarily deals with his work life because of reference to a commercial building. He was on disability for a year and was getting restless.

He did not feel that he could return to work fully. He was offered contract work on projects that he could work on from home, i.e., he could telecommute. The dream is screaming that he could benefit from working from home.

Each character in a dream represents a different part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Men are usually associated with an action part of the psyche. Women typically signal an emotional part of the mind.

 

A house can represent the dreamer to some extent because it is the framework out of which the dreamer lives. In this dream, the different houses or buildings represent different aspects of his life, i.e. his employment, mental health and home life. The dream encourages working from home by showing the house of his two best friends he had growing up that married each other in life.

Marriage is a sign of integration of actions with emotions. He basically says no to depression by not entering the shanty since it was owned by his mentally ill ex-wife. The dream indicates he is integrating actions and emotions that are friends.

The female guard is the emotional part of himself that was concerned with his security. He was vastly underutilized like the security guard was. The dream is screaming that he needs to check his emotions, like the female security guard, to decide what projects to accept for his own security. The dream advises that he now should take a different approach to work, i.e., that he enter work through a new and different doorway.

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A Giraffe Is a Better Phallic Symbol Than a Puppet

Dream 201: A Giraffe Is a Better Phallic Symbol Than a Sock Puppet

A 46-year-old woman dreamt that she was watching a staged reading. The dreamer was in the audience. On stage was the author of a book about a huge giraffe. She was a little girl who was about eight years old. The book was being read by a muscular and handsome man. A woman in the crowd shouted an objection to the reading when there was nothing objectionable going on. The dreamer thought to herself that the objector needed to get a life. It was somehow hoped that a giraffe would emerge from back stage at that moment. Instead, a disappointing sock puppet made a limp appearance. 

She then saw the same little girl in a kitchen making a large multi-layered wedding cake. A band of little girls wanted to carry the cake to its destination. The dreamer intervened because she thought the woman herself should carry the cake because she thought the children would be careless. The woman dropped and ruined the cake by trying to carry it by herself.

Dream 201 Interpretation

This dream opens by using the Divine Child and the Heroic Masculine to stage what the dreamer wants sexually. We know this because the giraffe is a potent phallic symbol of sexual and animal instinct. The heroic masculine would be expected to provide what she wants.

There is a part of her that objects, while another part of her realizes that she must get on with life. After the objection, we are given the consequences of her current attitude toward sex. Instead of the highly visible and phallic giraffe, her husband’s response to her objection was more similar to the limp sock puppet.

The second part of the dream is about integration. A wedding is a prime symbol of integration because it is the symbolic union of the masculine (actions) with the feminine (emotions). The little girls are relatively new emotions that would help her. The dreamer’s problem is that she wants no help because she does not trust these new emotional ways of doing things.

 As a little girl, she was raised by a promiscuous mother who was physically abusive toward her. The dreamer promised herself that she would never have children or be like her mother sexually. As her husband was getting older, he reminded her more of her father who was distant from her as a child. Her husband thus received unwanted transference from her parents.  Subconscious memories of her parents resulted in reinforcing the aversion she felt toward sex as a child because of her mother’s promiscuous behavior.

She decided that she needed to take a more active role in their married sex life. She avoided snuggling with her husband even though he craved this contact. She decided that she would engage in more snuggling. She also decided that she needed help to get in the mood, i.e., after they snuggled she was going to ask what type of sex they had. She was dissatisfied in the past and was reluctant to say anything to her husband. Their sex life improved.

What is the meaning of a swimming pool in a dream?

Emotions Close to Home
Emotions Close to Home

Dream 233: What is the meaning of a swimming pool in a dream?

The dreamer was a 29-year-old coed in Florida. She could never remember her parents getting along with one another. She dreamt that her mother and father were now swimming in their pool at home, playfully splashing about as if they had never divorced or experienced any sort of trauma. She walked inside and saw a tattoo machine and proceeded to tattoo herself, knowing that tattooing yourself can be a very dangerous thing. She put the machine in her hand and carved a heart on her ankle.

And then she awoke, feeling good about her accomplishment!

Dream 233–Interpretation

The dream showed aspects of a dream of desire. I believe that at the first level of dream interpretation, it represented what was occurring within the dreamer. Her emotions (mother introject) and actions (father introject) were integrating. Water in dreams is virtually always subconscious emotion. A swimming pool in particular represents emotions at home since pools are near home.

On the second and interpersonal level, the dream represented a lifelong desire that her parents would have gotten along and that the dreamer’s own marriage was not in separation. She was taking matters into her own hands (the tattoo machine) now. The tattooed heart represented a permanent subconscious promise to herself about what she learned from her parents and from her husband. The fact that the tattoo was on her ankle, a supportive part of anatomy that helps us get somewhere in life, emphasized the emotional support she felt from making this commitment not to forget the painful lessons she learned.

She was making sure that the pain and lessons from parent and relationship troubles was never dismissed or forgotten. The experiences etched into and under her skin the importance of taking care of her heart. The dream was good news in that she was integrating and transforming and was generally happier with her life.

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My Wife Marries an Artist

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A 44-year-old man dreamed that his wife married an artist.

Dream 165 Interpretation

Women in dreams, regardless of the gender of the dreamer, often represent an emotional part of the dreamer’s mind. Marriage usually represents an integration of male (action) and female (emotional) parts of the dreamer’s psyche. As such, it often signals that the dreamer’s actions and emotions are congruent and at peace. In this case, the dream was a reflection that he recently found artistic pursuits emotionally satisfying.