Twenty-five years ago, I made a vow to myself that I would never again set foot in the state where I was born. I would still talk to members of my family, but did not want to be submerged into their confusion. Five years ago, my brother was in financial trouble and I helped him out. My reward was that despite attempts to contact him, he stopped communicating with me shortly after he got what he wanted from me. We were close when we were young, so it hurt.
Two months ago he finally contacted me because he needed some advice about how he should proceed with some medical problems. I stayed in touch for about six weeks, giving advice on what I knew about what he was going through. He made it through the procedures without difficulty. I resolved throughout, that I would tell him what I knew, nothing more and nothing less. So, nowadays, if he asks me how I am doing, I give one word responses like “okay.” You are not allowed into my world anymore beyond the minimal.
About two years ago, I violated the rule of not visiting family. I visited what I thought was one of the more saner parts of my large extended family. They were in a nearby state to my hometown, so I rationalized that I was not breaking my vow. This first visit was glorious, beyond my wildest expectations.
Having some hope that I could salvage a part of my family, I planned a vacation to Europe with a few of them. The trip was wonderful, but the interaction with them was a complete disaster. I thought that this is what I get for violating the vow I had made years earlier.
Shortly before going overseas with them I had a simple but powerful vivid and luminous dream. It was an image of a train being violently forced to change tracks.
Dreams love using trains as a depiction of our life course and plans, i.e., you want to be on the “right track” in life. I believe it was a dream predicting that my life course was going to be dramatically changed. In one sense, I was trying to change it by my efforts; however, the derogation and humiliation of that trip would forever seal me off from what was left of my so called family.
I will once again commit to listening to my inner voice and not being seduced by trying to do what I think is good in the world. Some situations cannot be salvaged.
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“I was in a library and the feeling of awe because of all the books and knowledge that are in them. I wanted to get a new book for new knowledge and couldn’t wait but then I spotted this gorgeous man. He was alluring. He had tan skin and long dark hair. He reminded me of my boyfriend from age 19 who was a Victorias Secret model. He was younger as well. The man looks back and our eyes connect and he notices me too.
I see he is talking to a woman. He’s smiling and quite friendly with her. We end up talking a bit with tons of flirting. He tells me to meet him upstairs where we can be alone for sex. While slipping out of the library I see him flirt with other women and they want him. I did not like the way he was so flirtatious to the other women but said to myself he still chose me.
I walk out of the library and to my surprise I am in a huge building. The walls are shiny gold. The ceilings are high. There is a stairwell that has marble stairs and shiny gold guardrails going up. I go up the stairs and find its an attic. When I walk in its nothing like where I came from. It’s dark, only one window and a humongous blow up matress. Dark wooden beams were on the ceiling for support in an angle. There on the mattress was the man completely naked and ready. I was very upset. I thought I was worth at least some sweet talk and romance.
He convinced me to sit by him but tried to just go for it. I kissed him but was hesitant. Then one of the workers came in and said we couldn’t be there so we had to leave aa if we were caught. He said to meet him later somewhere else. I said ok.
I went down and had to find the way out. I walked through this huge building and ran into what was a casino I believe. It had the machines with gold knobs on them. I thought how odd a casino was in there. I walked in for a minute but couldn’t walk through because I can’t stand the energy of casinos and people gambling.
I searched for another way out but couldn’t find one. I ended up walking through the casino and finally getting out. Exhausting.
Some friends pick me up and we drive around town for a bit. I keep thinking I told this man I’d meet him and didn’t think I wanted to. Hours later we ended up at some storage units where I was suppose to meet him.
I had given him my word so I was thinking I’d tell him I changed my mind but really I didn’t want to deal with it at all. But I kept going back and forth because he was so good looking, lol. I finally thought to myself that I was worth more than sex at a storage unit, how he had flirted with other women and it didn’t make me special that he chose me but probably gullible instead. Also that I wasn’t even worth some romance with the two places he had picked. I told myself no way, I didnt care how good looking he was bc this now made him ugly. I left knowing he’d be stood up. I woke.
I want to approach this dream from the point of view of each character in the dream being part of your mind.Men usually go more with actions and women going more with emotions usually.
The dream starts out in the library. Usually the way a dream starts out usually tells us what it’s going to be about. Right off the bat the dream is emphasizing learning and knowledge and you were flirting with the idea of gaining more knowledge. Having sex in a dream is a sign of integration. But this integration never really happens in this dream. The problem is that the man isn’t worth integrating with. He is a trickster, manipulator who does not have your best interest at heart.
This dream is a major caution against going after what looks good. The first place he wants to have sex with you is in a high place in an attic. A building frequently can correspond with the dreamer to some extent in which case this is talking about your mind and your higher ideals probably.
You are caught in the attic and asked to leave because there are other parts of yourself that do not want you to lower your standards.
Going to the casino is interesting. I think the dream is screaming that you don’t want to gamble yourself on shallow circumstances.
Being asked to have sex in storage units is not only doubling down on it being dingy and the lowering of your self esteem, but I think the dream is expressly saying it wants you to put this memory in storage, they want you to remember this lesson and not compromising yourself excessively.
All in all, the dream is emphasizing deepening yourself through learning and knowledge and warning you about rationalizing yourself into compromising situations. It is explicitly warning you about being lured by what looks good rather than gaining knowledge (the library).
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A 22-year-old female college sophomore dreamed that a slick and fast talking lawyer was trying to talk her into investing in a dubious deal. She then had the scene of entering a classroom and the students were voting about whether they should each receive an injection of a drug that would hypnotize the recipient. The dream shifted to her at a busy nightclub. Her mother was in one corner of the nightclub urging her to ingest ketamine, the date rape drug. The dreamer was disgusted with her mother’s advice.
The slick lawyer was the embodiment of the Tricksterarchetype. Archetypes are patterns of thought common in culture that are passed on through human consciousness. The trickster is often a wheeler-dealer manipulator who gets what he wants. The dreamer was influenced too much by tricksters both financially and socially.
The classroom scene emphasized that there were many parts of herself (each character in the dream is a part of the dreamer’s mind) that expressly do not want to be hypnotized or controlled by other. That this occurs in a classroom emphasized that she should not be swayed by others to ignore what she has learned.
The final scene emphasized that her tendency to go along with others wants came from her mother. Mom was excessively giving to the point that she was often used by others with sometimes disaster results. Her disgust was actually a good sign that the dreamer was going to be more careful in social or dating situations.
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