Being Conservative Is Hard on My Head
A 36-year-old fine arts professor dreamt that he was on the patio of a Mexican restaurant. There was a wasp’s nest above the kidney shaped bar. Suddenly, a wasp flew down and stung him in the head. The dream shifted to him listening to a waittress. She was telling him about a long sordid affair she had with a professor.
This professor recently received job offers from colleges in Ohio and California. WASP also stands for White Anglo Saxon Protestant. I asked him which college was more conservative. He replied that the college in Ohio was much more conservative and he did not know if it would tolerate his avant-garde teaching style and research. I asked him what he associated with Mexican restaurants, and he replied California. I asked him what was the biggest mistake he ever made in his field, and he replied that he regretted a decision not to attend a college in California. That she, the waittress had a sordid affair with a professor indicated that his emotions (the waitress) had been untrue to his intellectual decisions (the male professor)—this was highlighted by the fact that he regretted not going to college in California/
The dream voted in the direction of the college in California. His subconscious exclaimed that a conservative atmosphere was hard on his head and thinking. A restaurant in a dream nurtures one psychologically, and the dream is saying that, for him, California is much more likely to be nurturing.
The female waittress is a part of his work emotions. In dreams, a waittress is often seen as “one who waits.” He told me consciously that his biggest career mistake was not attending a learning institution in California. The waittress is talking about an emotional mistake with a professor. The dream is warning him about making sincere and solid emotional connections. The dream is screaming that he needs to attend a learning institution in California.
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Dream 359: Please Listen to Me
A woman reported the following dream:
“I dreamed I was in robes in a desert town in front of a very old brick building. I was pleading with those passing by to believe in what Jesus was trying to teach them. From the crowd someone yelled Mary you don’t know what you’re talking about. My dream then transported me to a more modern home I was in a large desert field with my husband and we were looking at the only thing growing in it which was a Walnut tree. My husband said he wanted to chop it down. He did not want to clean up walnuts every year. (not like him at all by the way) I protested and I got my way.”
It is a very archetypal dream as it invokes Jesus. The dreamer was called Mary who was the mother of Jesus. She was trying to proselytize and spread the Faith. She was not being listened to enough and being heckled by some.
Then the dream moved to the walnut tree. Each person and each living thing in a dream is a part of your mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Her husband would represent an action part of her mind. Males typically go with an action part of the mind while women tend to go more with emotional parts.
Her husband probably represented the part of her that carried out her ideas, the part of her that put her ideas in motion. A tree is a symbol of integration as it opens to the sky, sends roots deep into the earth, and is with you on the surface. It gives off a nutrient which is a walnut which symbolically is the fruit of her integration and higher thoughts.
The dream is drawing a similarity between Mary not being listened to and so many walnuts being wasted each year. It may be that it felt like not enough people were absorbing her message. She could be feeling subconsciously that the valuable life-giving message she had to give that would nurture people (the walnut) was being wasted or ignored too much, that she even may have felt heckled sometimes.
The action part of her that spread these valuable messages, represented by her husband in the dream, gets tired and frustrated with her efforts not being appreciated enough. The dream ends on a positive note as she convinced that action part of herself to carry on in spreading the fruit of her labors.
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Dream 355: Let It Go
“I just woke up from a dream at 3:06 when I looked at the time. I dreamt I was in a room so familiar with a door open, with a furnace, a lot of boxes, and tossed aside stuff. I had a friend over and a kitten, but that’s not what spoke to me in my dream.
It is when I walked into the room of boxes and next to the cold furnace…my roommate’s dead dog Lily. My buddy! I told my whoever was in the room to come to me, its my dog. I wanted to see if she could see her to.
I heard a meow. I looked to my left. My poor cold underground cat, my baby boy Kidd. I cried in grief but yet happy to see him.
My full attention was on him. He felt cold and a bit damp. Not what I wanted him to be since I found him barely alive in the rain one night. I cried loving him just giving him attention.
I said, “I got my wish. I got to see you again. Just wish you guys were back with me.” Then (Here’s the weird part) a voice came from inside him.
A male voice. Calming, gentle and yet again familiar. He said, “Its time for Kidd Lily and Jack (or scrap) to return now. But remember you’re still with us.” I asked him “do I know you?” He laughed a bit deeply and it worried me.
I hugged my dear cat again wishing he’ll be fine. It hurt to say goodbye again. He continued to laugh then “POOF.” I woke up as they vanished.
I’m curious. Who could that voice be? For months I had wished to have Kidd back. That voice gave him back for a few minutes…You can’t bring back the dead but you can still see them in dreams.
Thank you voice. My wish still came true cause of you. I just hope you’re not evil. My best friends deserve the best.”
I believe that the voice was probably his Shadow. We usually think of the shadow as being negative and aggressive and want nothing to do with it. That is why the shadow talks to him through his beloved cat, so that he might accept what it says.
It asked him to do something he did not want to do, to let go of his pets and decrease actively mourning for them. Owners are usually emotionally close to their pets. That is why parents usually represent our affections.
He tries to reassure the dreamer that he could let go of them because they will always be with him in his subconscious. When we make major changes in life, it is usually due at least partly to the shadow.
Males usually go more with action parts of your mind and that is why it is a male voice that comes out of the shadow, because it wanted him to take the action of letting go. The voice becomes somewhat mischievous and almost evil. That is because we almost always wonder if the shadow is evil incarnate.
Lack of acceptance of the shadow is a danger. The danger is that it has no contact with other parts of the personality that would keep it in line. The shadow is usually only dangerous when it does not have other parts of your mind to limit it. If other parts of the personality are not there, it becomes excessive and monstrous.
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Dream 351: Pie in the Sky, By and By
A man dreamed he was looking at a gigantic silver horse in the sky with a gigantic silver figured man riding it. They were about three stories high. Large white fluffy clouds covered their lower half.
There are several remarkable things about this dream. First, the figures appear in the sky. Things appearing in the sky probably are related to the dreamer’s higher aspirations.
Silver is a precious metal. Some say it could represent wealth. Each character in the dream is considered to be a different part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation.
A horse is an animal and represents your instincts. Specifically, a horse in particular represents your energy or ability to accomplish what you want to accomplish in life, your horsepower. If this is a predictive dream, it was predicting that the dreamer would do well financially and otherwise.
If it is a dream of desire, and I suspect it is a dream of desire, his aspirations for what he wanted to accomplish materially are very high. Clouds emphasize how high his goals are on the one hand, while also indicating that his plans may be in the formative stage and are “cloudy.” All in all, it looks like a dream of what he wanted to carry out.
It is predicting he has the horsepower to do it. His ground game needs to be worked out as his plans could be in the sky and need to be grounded in reality. Once he works things out pragmatically, the sky is the limit.
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Dream 350: My Love Gets Carried Away
An adult man dreamed that his girlfriend was being carried away by a young woman and an old lady. Something kept him from being able to reach his girlfriend to stop them from carrying her away.
Each character in the dream can represent a part of the dreamer’s mind. Women tend to go with the dreamers emotions. Young attractive women typically represent beautiful emotions.
An old lady is typically thought of as being a Crone which is an archetype of wisdom in old age and experience. An archetype is a pattern of thought that is repetitive throughout human consciousness. This dream is about how the dreamer’s emotions could get carried away.
He seemingly fears losing a lover after he has invested all of his emotions in her. His greatest fear probably is that this would happen and there was nothing he could do about it. It sounds like he is worried about losing the love of his life.
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Dream 334: I’m Ready to Fly (almost)
A career woman dreamed that she was flying like superwoman. A flying robot was flying after her trying to catch her, which he never did. It was like having to escape from the flying robot helped her to learn to fly better.
She saw a festival and went down to feast before returning to flying. She could hear her mother saying that she should go home and take care of her babies instead of partying and flying around. The dreamer felt resentment that she had to stop flying to take care of her babies (the dreamer had no children in real life.)
Flying implies that the dreamer is feeling personally powerful and able to accomplish many goals. A robot is not human in a mechanical repetitive rote memory way that is boring. A baby represents new projects in the dreamer’s life or new parts of herself that she wants to develop.
Each character in the dream is a part of the dreamer’s mind which is the first rule in my book Dreams: Guide to the Soul. Her mother in the dream is the image of her mother she introjected into her subconscious as a child. The mother introject is often the basis of the dreamer’s emotions. In this case, the mother introject is functioning primarily to make her feel guilty for not living up to her responsibilities.
Given the above, I have several thoughts: (1) The dreamer felt held down and wanted to fly, (2) Her attempts to avoid being robotic-like (she is flying away from a pursuing robot) encouraged her to fly (to boldly strike out in new directions), (3) She felt guilty about festivaling/feasting too much (her mother introject did not approve) and (4) She probably feel held down by new projects (the dream is emphasizing new babies which are usually new projects or developing new parts of herself, i.e., “it’s your baby.”)
The dreamer later told me that “feeling held down is exactly how I feel, it is a good representation of how I feel….I just feel weighted down by all these things, even new projects..and I have little to no energy to make myself become not weighted down……the way I interpreted my dream was, I have to take care of some projects before i learn, or am finally able to fly.”
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Mailboxes have to do with messages we receive from others. A deer is a beautiful image that relates to instinctive affection or love. How these two play out in a dream is illustrated below.
The dreamer was a woman who went outside to get the mail. There was some snow and ice on the mail. There also were paper plates with little kid writing on it and. Wrapped inside the plates were parts of a maimed baby deer someone stuck in her mail box.
She looked up to explain what was happening to an inquiring passing neighbor. The neighbor mystifyingly and impatiently queried “already”? The neighbor became angry for some reason and the dreamer told her she was calling the police.
In dreams, water is emotion. Snow is cold water, i.e., cold emotion. This dream involves the mail which is where we receive messages from others.
Many letters to start out with “dear.” There literally is a maimed “deer” in the mailbox. It is written on material that typically involves nurturance, (plates usually hold food).
The messages looked like scribbling written by little kids. The neighbor apparently was seen by her as criminally insensitive so that she called the police. The trend of this dream implies that she were hurt by an insensitive childish thoughtless message or remark by someone she thought was a friend (her old lawyer?) who suddenly delivered an unkind message without realizing it.
The dreamer later verified the heart of this interpretation. She had just received an unfavorable message from a custody court involving her young children. She was dissatisfied to the point that she decided to get a new lawyer.
One surmises that the court and/or lawyer hurt her feelings to the point that he was no longer “dear” to her. Dreams often make a concrete almost clang association between words (deer=dear by analogy). She was advised to use dream incubation to help clarify her feelings toward the new lawyer.
Dream Question 295:
A female professional chef who also was a lightworker/healer wondered why she often had dreams involving food. This raised the question of what does food usually represent in a dream?
Dreams almost always are stimulated by recent day residue. Something in the dreamer’s current life literally or symbolically triggered a dream about situations or emotions that you may be dealing with. Food symbolically represents psychological nurture or a wish to want to support/help others.
As a lightworker/healer, she definitely helped and supported other people. It is no surprise from either a practical standpoint or from a symbolic view that food was prominent in her dreams. She was nurturing as a chef and as a new age lightworker.
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Dream Explanation 292:
There are many levels to dreams which include physical, psychological, and spiritual. At the physical level, it is vitality. At the psychological level, it is emotion. At the spiritual level, it is the energy of the universe.
In most dreams, all levels are true and when this happens we call it dream condensation. Dreams always use the most efficient means of communicating the most information possible which is what condensation is. Having a “big dream” is a gift that keeps on giving.
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Dream 291: A man in his thirties had dreams of different places he was living in or hiding in. The roofs were always leaking water or falling apart and were in poor condition. He had these dreams for the last couple of years.
Water is emotion. The places you are staying can represent yourself to some extent because it is the framework out of which you are living. Parts of the building correspond roughly to different parts of your body. The roof would probably involve your brain or mind.
He also mentioned hiding. The dreams were saying that he was trying to hide from his emotions but they seeped through to his mind anyway. Changing locations does not stop that process. He needed to repair his roof, i.e., he needed to handle his emotions differently because the way he is handling emotions now is getting to him and messing up his life.
The rundown nature of the buildings suggest that this is getting him down. The fact that for years he had dreams with a similar theme is significant. Recurrent dreams indicate repetitive similar conflicts that the subconscious is trying to resolve and expresses this process in a dream. Jung considered recurrent dreams to be “big” dreams.
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Dream 280: Change Died
A 48-year-old woman dreamed that she bought the house of her son’s mother-in-law. When she arrived at this house, there was a dead baby in a casket with large funeral candles on each side of the casket.
This woman was hyper-critical of her son. His mother-in-law had a troubled background similar to his mother’s personal history. The mother-in-law was, nevertheless, relatively calm, more diplomatic, and less critical than the dreamer.
A house can represent the dreamer because it is the framework out of which one lives. That the dreamer bought the house indicates that the dreamer is aspiring to be a different person, to be more like her son’s mother-in-law. The deceased baby is not good news.
Each character in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s personality at the first level of dream interpretation. A baby represents a new part of the personality or psyche that the dreamer tried to develop. So a baby represents personal growth on the part of the dreamer.
That the baby is dead signals that her attempt to be different, to be more like the calmer mother-in-law, failed. That it was an attempt to change was highlighted by the funeral candles. Candles imply fire, and fire represents change because fire changes matter into energy.
It is perfect that they were funeral candles. Funeral candles are typically unlit. The unlit candles emphasized that no change had occurred. That it is a funeral scene gives some hope because the dreamer saw her lack of change as a real loss. The dreamer is in mourning which suggests that being more like the mother-in-law personality-wise was something that the dreamer really wanted.
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Dream 268:Fighting the Zombies
A man dreamed that he died because he was attacked by zombies. His spirit rose above the zombies but he was still able to be in the physical world. He killed one zombie by cutting his throat with garden shears.
A random zombie head somehow moving toward him bit him in the leg. He cut the zombie head in half.
Interpretation: Zombies are almost always depression. Zombies are the “living dead” which is the way major depression can feel. At the first level of dream interpretation, each character represents a part of the dreamer’s psyche or mind. So the dream is announcing that this dream will be about how he handles his depression.
Death in a dream typically means that the dreamer has to change in a major way. In other words, there is a part of the mind that needs to be shelved or “die.” The dream is saying that his new self (his spirit) needs to rise above his depression (the zombies).
The first zombie he kills (the first factor he needs to change) is negative or depressing speech. We know this because speech emanates from the throat. It is interesting that he uses garden shears.
Garden shears get rid of growth (plants). The dream is dramatically saying in regard to his negative speech, that he needs to “cut it out.”
The second zombie is intellectuallization. The dream is saying that he literally is too much in his head. The dream wants him to cut his depressive thinking at least by half.
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Dream 256: A 52-year-old woman dreamed that she had sex with a Catholic priest. She then saw the image of a Catholic nun. She then saw the image of a female Reike energy healer that she knew. This healer looked amazingly attractive and had glorious angel wings.
Interpretation– This dream is all about spirituality. She was raised Catholic. Her having sex with a priest indicates that she wants to actively integrate spirituality into her life (men are associated with action parts of the psyche while women tend to go with more emotional parts). The nun image was present because she emotionally felt she needed more spirituality in her life.
The female Reike healer had an amazing life story. She spent seven years in a wheelchair before healing herself with energy work. The image of the healer with angel wings is numinous (inspiring transcendental sacred awe in the beholder). She was amazingly attractive because she was an ideal woman, an anima figure, which is associated with healing. She wanted an active and inspired spirituality that helped heal people. The dream was symbolic of spirituality instilled in her youth that she wanted to activate to heal others through Divine power.
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I am finishing my personal story and sojourn to health by putting MS into remission with the help of the universe/God. It will be my second book showing that dreams were an important part of that journey. My personal psychology enters into the picture a lot. I basically see years of physical abuse as laying the foundation for having the foundation for contracting the chronic illness of multiple sclerosis. Amazon will publish it first as an ebook. The name of the book will be something like MS Mission Remission: Healing Severe Chronic Multiple Sclerosis Against All Odds.
A 19-year-old man dreamt an image of an apartment. The single enclosed bathroom was in the middle of the apartment. The rest of the apartment was vague and indistinct except featured prominently were a urinal and a toilet in the open.
He lived with his girlfriend in an apartment where a former lover supposedly now turned just-a-roommate also lived. His girlfriend was consistent in her stance that any sign of a former love relationship with her old boyfriend was nonexistent in her mind; however, it was clear to the dreamer that the old boyfriend still loved the woman.
Urinals and toilets get rid of toxic waste we no longer need and must eliminate. Dreams metaphorically use toilets and urinals as a sign that toxic emotions (water is invariably emotions in dreams) and other toxic stuff (euphemism) needs to be eliminated from the dreamer’s life. There is more emphasis on negative emotions being discarded because a urinal is used only to get rid of waste water (it is uncommon to see urinals outside of healthcare or commercial establishments).
It is an interesting side note that the dreamer and girlfriend had no trouble sharing a bathroom and being quite “open” about it. Her old boyfriend was adamant about keeping the bathroom private which is why the dream isolates and encloses one of the toilets.
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Dream 224: No Problem, Man
A 24-year-old woman had the image in a dream of a horse’s head with Jamaican Rastafarian curly and intricately braided hair.
Animals are instinct. Horses are renowned for having common sense, i.e. “horse sense.” Jamaicans are known for having ample supplies of marijuana. She insisted on using marijuana to relax. The dream was screaming that she needed to use her head about how much marijuana she used.
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Dreams help you learn. Dreams affect your mood the next day. Dreams can occur during non-REM sleep. Dream logic is neurologically logical. You get in touch with physical and psychological pain in dreams. Dreams are very useful and informative. http://m.mentalfloss.com/article.php?id=51228
A way to use dreams functionality is through Dream Incubation described in my book Dreams: Guide to the Soul which is at http://www.drstevenfox.com (Chapter 34).