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What does dreaming about your divorced parents being married mean?

Integrating Emotions and Actions

Dream 389: Getting It Together

A woman had the following dream:

“Dreams are wonderful for me lately. I dream of my deceased parents staying married (they divorced when I was 4), seeing them grow old together. Just wishful thinking?”

My Interpretation

Whatever theory you look at in mental health, it eventually gets back to mom and dad, it is not the whole thing, it is just a part of it which gets less and less as you get older but there is probably always still some remnant of your parents. The mother and the father you dream of now are the mother and father in your mind which are called a mother introject and a father introject.

The father introject is most often the basis of your actions. The mother introject is most often the basis of your emotions.

Marriage is a union of different parts of your mind. If it is a marriage between your father and your mother, it typically represents you’re integrating your emotions with your actions. The fact that you dream of them growing old together indicates that the integration is a long-term effect. Congratulations!

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What does flying, robots, babies and your mom criticizing you in a dream mean?

Robots, Flying and Kids

Dream 334: I’m Ready to Fly (almost)

A career woman dreamed that she was flying like superwoman. A flying robot was flying after her trying to catch her, which he never did. It was like having to escape from the flying robot helped her to learn to fly better.

She saw a festival and went down to feast before returning to flying. She could hear her mother saying that she should go home and take care of her babies instead of partying and flying around. The dreamer felt resentment that she had to stop flying to take care of her babies (the dreamer had no children in real life.)

Interpretation

Flying implies that the dreamer is feeling personally powerful and able to accomplish many goals. A robot is not human in a mechanical repetitive rote memory way that is boring. A baby represents new projects in the dreamer’s life or new parts of herself that she wants to develop.

Each character in the dream is a part of the dreamer’s mind which is the first rule in my book Dreams: Guide to the Soul. Her mother in the dream is the image of her mother she introjected into her subconscious as a child. The mother introject is often the basis of the dreamer’s emotions. In this case, the mother introject is functioning primarily to make her feel guilty for not living up to her responsibilities.

Given the above, I have several thoughts: (1) The dreamer felt held down and wanted to fly, (2) Her attempts to avoid being robotic-like (she is flying away from a pursuing robot) encouraged her to fly (to boldly strike out in new directions), (3) She felt guilty about festivaling/feasting too much (her mother introject did not approve) and (4) She probably feel held down by new projects (the dream is emphasizing new babies which are usually new projects or developing new parts of herself, i.e., “it’s your baby.”)

The dreamer later told me that “feeling held down is exactly how I feel, it is a good representation of how I feel….I just feel weighted down by all these things, even new projects..and I have little to no energy to make myself become not weighted down……the way I interpreted my dream was, I have to take care of some projects before i learn, or am finally able to fly.”

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I Will Not Be Like My Mother

Dream 245: I Will Not Be Like My Mother

A 58-year-old woman dreamt that she was walking down a long hall with a mirror at the end in a house where she was married for a long time. Her deceased mother suddenly appeared and claimed the house was hers. The dreamer successfully defended her claim to the house. She then saw a hearse back up to the house where three men loaded the casket into the vehicle. She noticed that the casket slide to the right going into the hearse.

Dream 245–Interpretation

A house, especially where the dreamer lived for a long time, often represents the dreamer because it is the frame out of which the dreamer lived. The dream pointedly directs her to take a long reflective look at herself (the long hall with the mirror at the end). Her Mother introject appears (the mother instilled in her mind) and claims dominion over the dreamer which the dreamer will not accept.

The hearse implies that the mother in her died which in this dream meant that her mother introject, her internalized mother, was prioritized lower and would no longer be the major influence in her life. Three is the number of change as three people in a relationship almost always creates change. Even the casket sliding to the right is significant, as the right is associated with conscious change versus subconscious (left) change.

Her mother no longer being a major influence in her life would have real daily living consequences which would be positive. She had worked in therapy to escape the mostly negative influence of her mother. This dream indicated that her work in therapy was successful.

Let It Go

Dream 196: Let It Go Child
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A 46-year-old woman dreamed that she was going to the bathroom. The bathroom was filthy. She saw the largest cockroach she had ever seen and felt disgusted. Someone was knocking on the bathroom door and telling her to hurry up. When she opened the door, her mother stomped on the cockroach and urged the dreamer to get on with her life.

Dream 193 Interpretation

The dreamer’s mother recently died. Her sister was the executor of the estate. Her sister arranged the way she administered the trust so that almost all the financial benefits went to herself. The mother was cremated. The mother indicated before she died that she wanted her ashes kept together and buried with a marker on the grave. The dreamer’s sister refused to spend any money on buying a marker for her mother’s grave. The disgust the dreamer felt in the dream toward the cockroach was exactly how she felt about her sister’s actions. The dreamer was totally disgusted that the sister who received all the financial proceeds after her mother’s death was now too cheap to buy a modest marker for her mother’s grave.

A bathroom in a dream is where you get rid of things you no longer need. The mother in the dream is the dreamer’s internalized mother introject. This emotional part of her was engraved in her subconscious by her mother. The dreamer’s mother is urging the dreamer to get over her disgust (hurry up and get out of the bathroom) in graphic terms (mom kills the cockroach in front of the dreamer). The dreamer verified that if her mother were alive, that is what she would ask the dreamer to do, i.e., “Come on dear and put this behind you now because it is not worth it and your sister is not going to change.”
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