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What does vomit mean in a dream?

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Dream 465: Making decisions about life and relationships

I recently interpreted the following dream:

“I was at some formal event dressed to the nines with my buds, and we were uphill from a dancefloor that was connected to where we were with a sidewalk (all of this was outside).

It seemed like a prom, but it was different architecture, so I’m thinking it was kind of like a wedding.

The important part was that we were all uphill because our friend (let’s just call him Bob) was throwing up in small bouts repeatedly. We were trying to figure out what to do and trying our best to be supportive.

This was all interrupted by a man with a deep voice (one of the other guy’s father’s I assumed in the dream) shouting as he came over a hill that was slightly higher ground than where we were.

He was shouting as if this guy in our group was in trouble about something.  It was one of those bouts of shouting so reprimanding that you kind of feel in trouble yourself, even though it’s not directed towards you.

Somewhere after that I woke up but that’s all I remember.

I would love interpretations, especially involving myself, because it seemed like the dream was showing me something about these two guys…

“Bob” is now in a relationship that he is going to try to take through college, but I don’t think will work out.

And

The kid getting yelled at is apprenticing to become a pastor, and his Dad is passively rich through ownership of a lot of stock in a company.”
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My interpretation of the dream

At the first level of dream interpretation, each character represents a different part of yourself. The part of yourself similar to Bob is a part that should give up on relationships that are not good if they’re making you sick. This part of yourself, Bob, is it is in danger of going downhill if he doesn’t rid himself of negative emotions.

Vomit is a combination of water and food. Water in dreams is invariably emotions. Food is nurturance. Vomit is spoiled nurturance that is no longer good for us and must be expelled. The dream is saying to get rid of negative relationships because it will bring you down hill otherwise.

Your friend Bob who is also a part of you is getting rid of something that was once nurturing, but is no longer good for you and just is making you sick. In any case, it is a statement of advice for now or for the future.

His father reprimanding the guy becoming a pastor is your inner father introject that wants you to succeed financially (like he has) and doesn’t want you to do too many altruistic things (symbolized by wanting to be a pastor) that are too self sacrificing.

A dance setting is usually about how you are going to engage with others in life. He is making decisions about staying with relationships that make you sick. He is also deciding to do what he wants in life (helping others) or going for the money.

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What does sand, your father, a plum tree, and orangutans represent in a dream?

 

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Dream 447: Stopping Monkeying Around 

A woman had the following dream:

“I had a dream last night. In the dream there was a plum tree with 5 orangutans.  They had their  backs to me. Then my father picked me up and ran with me because there was a lot of sand coming at us from behind. Then we tumbled and I was carrying my father. Then we ran to a truck and rode the sand waves.
What’s this mean ?”

Interpretation

This is a very interesting dream. A tree is a symbol of integration because its roots grow in the ground, it opens to the sky, and it is here on the level with us. The plum tree has several meanings in my world. First off, a plum is a fruit and a food that nurtures you. Also a plum is usually something especially appealing like a plum job.

I would guess that the orangutans are barriers to getting something favorable that nurtures you. Animals usually represent instincts, the dreamer’s instincts. In this case, I think the dream is signaling that too much monkeying around is keeping you from getting something you want that would be favorable to you like a plum position of some kind. I think the orangutan instinct is interfering because I think it represents “monkeying around.”

Sand usually represents impermanence as it can be blown around and it never provides a solid foundation. You do not want to just build sand castles as goals in your life to my way of thinking. From that standpoint, it can be seen as insecurity.

Your father in the dream represents an action part of your mind as men tend to go with actions. Fathers most often are the basis of your actions to some degree. Your carrying your father might mean that you need to be supportive of your actions you are taking to avoid being insecure and wanting to build your future into a more secure and semi-permanent situation. You may want to build something in your life that is not subject to the shifting sands of time.

It also has significance that there are five orangutans. In my world, five usually represents adding something on to your stable self (4 is a stable number and five is literally adding something to your stable self as 1+4=5.

I think the dream is wanting you to take life more seriously, stop monkeying around, and support your actions towards building something more permanent in your life.

In my world, trucks are associated with work and you escape the sand on a truck. I think the dream is saying that you have to work to build a future worth having.

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What does it mean to have an ex killed by gangsters and to dream of a father you loved?

Not Reacting to Insults to Your Ego
Not Reacting to Insults to Your Ego

Dream 391: Avoid Provocations and Act More Like Dad

A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed my ex and I were someplace about to cross the street as I stepped into the street a car full of young men speed up in front of me nearly hitting me… I panicked and banged the hood of their car. This angered them all as did when my ex told them to ef’n watch what they’re doing. The driver turned looked at his friends in the backseat and front passenger seat… I saw him reach for a gun… I turned and ran…hearing gunshots…my ex was killed.

After that dream waking me up when I fell back asleep I dreamed of my dad who passed away from a heart attack 1 1/2 ago.. It wasn’t so much a dream but a flash of different memories of him, i kept seeing of him in my dream. Smiling, laughing, being silly, making his grumpy faces, hearing his voice, cooking.. I don’t know these two dreams left me wondering if they had any meaning.”

My Interpretation

Each character represents a different part of the psyche with women going more with an emotional part and men going more with your actions. An ex represents a relationship you rejected and he (an action part) is killed. What this means is that you have decided not to engage in behavior that enrages others (such as swearing and pounding your fist in anger) even if you are provoked.

The father in your dream is your father in your mind, your father introject, which is often the basis of actions. You have fond memories of what he was like. It sounds like you want the basis of your actions to be somewhat similar to the way your dad did things.

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What does dreaming about your divorced parents being married mean?

Integrating Emotions and Actions

Dream 389: Getting It Together

A woman had the following dream:

“Dreams are wonderful for me lately. I dream of my deceased parents staying married (they divorced when I was 4), seeing them grow old together. Just wishful thinking?”

My Interpretation

Whatever theory you look at in mental health, it eventually gets back to mom and dad, it is not the whole thing, it is just a part of it which gets less and less as you get older but there is probably always still some remnant of your parents. The mother and the father you dream of now are the mother and father in your mind which are called a mother introject and a father introject.

The father introject is most often the basis of your actions. The mother introject is most often the basis of your emotions.

Marriage is a union of different parts of your mind. If it is a marriage between your father and your mother, it typically represents you’re integrating your emotions with your actions. The fact that you dream of them growing old together indicates that the integration is a long-term effect. Congratulations!

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What does asking your parents for permission to have a grand piano mean in a dream?

Mastery of My Emotions and Creativity
Mastery of My Emotions and Creativity

Dream 375: Permission to Master and Guide My Emotions and Creativity

A woman had the following dream:

“I was talking to my dad asking his permission to bring home a grand piano. He said we have to ask your mom. So,anyway I brought the grand piano in a den that I’ve never seen before nor have I been there.My mom and dad were there and I said to my mom “Can we keep it? The piano matches the mantel, mom, please.” She said, “Okay.” The dream ended there.”

My Interpretation

At the first level in a dream, your father represents your father introject which is often the basis of your actions. Your mother introject is usually the foundation of your emotions. So this is a big dream.

A piano, and particularly a grand piano, usually represents creativity and mastery. Music puts us in a certain mood that we control by our selection of music we play so that it can be emotionally related. It may be related to deciding to control your emotions.

In thought emotionally, and in action, you decided on some level to give yourself the means to make beautiful music emotionally or something on that order would be my first idea. And giving yourself permission to do this creative or emotional thing is something that you have decided upon to let yourself do.

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Dreams: Guide to the Soul

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This book shows how an experienced psychologist developed an intuitive dream interpretation method.

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20160810_125921 Steven G. Fox, Ph.D. Is the author of “Dreams: Guide to the Soul”

I am finishing my personal story and sojourn to health by putting MS into remission with the help of the universe/God. It will be my second book showing that dreams were an important part of that journey. My personal psychology enters into the picture a lot. I basically see years of physical abuse as laying the foundation for having the foundation for contracting the chronic illness of multiple sclerosis. Amazon will publish it first as an ebook. The name of the book will be something like MS Mission Remission: Healing Severe Chronic Multiple Sclerosis Against All Odds.

Killing My Disability

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Dream 222: Killing the Idea of Going On Disability

A 42-year-old man dreamt that he was walking with his 8-year-old daughter down a path. They came upon a rattlesnake that looked threatening. He killed the rattlesnake and gave the rattlesnake’s rattlers to his daughter which she used as a play toy.

Dream 222–Interpretation

He was an engineer for many years. He quit when his anxiety became unmanageable after he was given an exceedingly critical supervisor. He went on short-term disability. He decided for many reasons not to go back to engineering. He then went to college to become a physician’s assistant.

He did not like the effect disability had on his emotions nor did he like the example it was setting for his children. Each animal, human, creature or spirit represents a part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation. The path represented his path in life.

Snakes in particular represent change, as they are one of few animals that completely shed their skin. In this case, it signaled the massive change in family life that the disability threatened to entrench. The dream was saying thst he needed to change his path in life. He frankly killed the idea of going on disability.

His daughter in this dream represented the Divine Child archetype which were his hopes and dreams. He decided to go into a healing profession which was the medical field. It is notable that snakes are also often associated with healing (think of the two snakes encircling a staff which is the symbol for the American Medical Association). His giving the rattlers to his daughter to play with as a toy suggested that he would even find these massive changes in his life fun.

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Falling Down

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A 22-year-old woman dreamt that she was at the Grand Canyon. Her grandparents were also there. Her brother, who was only a year older, fell to the bottom of the Grand Canyon and died. She was emotionally close to her brother.

Dream 209 Interpretation

Her brother represented an action part of her psyche because men usually go with the dreamer’s actions. The dream was pointing out what her major “downfall” was. She confirmed my assumption that it was her paternal grandparents at the Grand Canyon. I would have been surprised if she said it was her maternal grandparents since women are usually identified with emotional parts of the mind.

She was having problems with the action part of herself as she was having difficulty teaching high school. It was her paternal grandparents because things associated with father typically involve the dreamer’s actions. A father’s role with children traditionally includes encouraging their actions in the world.

It follows that the conflict and trouble she was describing at work would most likely be affected by her father’s introjects. Her father introjects were best represented by the paternal grandfather and paternal grandmother. As such, her troubles with teaching would probably best be helped by working with her father introject.

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Let a Fool Help Drive Your Life

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A 44-year-old professional and serious woman dreamt that she stopped at a house to check up on her father. When she got back into the car at night, there was a baby boy crawling in the street that she narrowly missed. Then her carefree and happy-go-lucky brother ran along the car. He suddenly jumped into her lap. She and he shared the driving as she was in the driver’s seat always.

Dream 200 Interpretation

This woman was serious to the point of almost being grim sometimes. A house can represent the dreamer somewhat, especially if there is a family member there. A car is how one gets somewhere in life. She essentially checks up on her father introject, usually a major driver of the person’s actions. This dream essentially reviews action parts of her psyche to make a recommendation (since the three other characters are male).

The baby boy was a new action part of her psyche which had not been integrated and was in danger of almost becoming psychological road kill. The brother that jumped onto her lap was a significant recommendation by the dream. He essentially “plays the fool” and embodies the fool archetype. The dream is recommending that she integrate more fun as a major driver in her life to get to where she wants to go.

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Vision of My Deceased Father

It was so real it was like he was there
It was so real it was like he was there

Dream 178: I Never Left You
A 43-year-old woman dreamt that she was looking into a mirror. Suddenly, her deceased father walked through the mirror and was hugging her. The dream was vivid beyond words as she felt that she actually saw, heard, smelled and touched her father. She said, “Daddy, don’t leave me.” He replied in a vivid, gently commanding and overriding voice, “I never have.”
Dream 178 Interpretation
This dream was a vision dream. Vision dreams seldom need any interpretation. There were several indicators that this was a vision dream. First of all, the shear vividness of the dream is remarkable. All of the senses were involved. It is infrequent that a dreamer senses she can feel, touch and smell the deceased loved one. She was grieving the death of her father. She was very emotionally close to her father who died only a month prior to this vision dream.
As Jungian analyst Geri Grubbs Ph.D. pointed out in her book, Bereavement Dreaming and the Individuating Soul, deceased loved ones tend to appear in one’s dreams intensely for up to two years after the person’s death. The fact that she saw her father walk out of a mirror further supports the vision nature of the dream. Popular cinema always insisted that one could not see a ghost in a mirror. The dream vision was emphasizing the vision nature of this dream. This dream needed no interpretation. It is what it was.

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You’ve Caught a Big One!

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Son, I’m Mighty Proud of You

Dream 174: You’ve Caught a Big One!
A 52-year-old man dreamt that he and his father were camping in a cave with a lake nearby.  As he left the cave a huge catfish that could somehow run came after him.  He thought the large fish was going to hurt him but it did not.  He was eventually able to restrain the catfish and put it on a stringer.
Dream 174 Interpretation
The dreamer was contemplating subconscious emotions. His father in the dream was his father introject which basically directs the dreamer’s actions. The cave is the subconscious (subterranean). Water is emotion.  Lakes are localized emotion. The catfish is a part of his instinctive energy. The catfish in particular is a scavenger that lives on waste material.
The dreamer was recently conflicted about being consumed with a hobby which was refurbishing thrown away electronic equipment.  He was worried that this interest was pursuing him and would hurt his chances of achieving other goals.  Refurbishing electronic equipment was metaphorically represented by a scavenger catfish (his instinctive energy was scavenging, refurbishing, thrown away electronic equipment).
The dream was reassuring him that he would not be hurt by this interest if he controlled himself. He needed to restrain (stringed) his interest, so that the hobby could be nourishing to him (eating the catfish).  He felt he needed to control the scavenging interest somewhat because he had bigger fish to fry.
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What is the meaning of a swimming pool in a dream?

Emotions Close to Home
Emotions Close to Home

Dream 233: What is the meaning of a swimming pool in a dream?

The dreamer was a 29-year-old coed in Florida. She could never remember her parents getting along with one another. She dreamt that her mother and father were now swimming in their pool at home, playfully splashing about as if they had never divorced or experienced any sort of trauma. She walked inside and saw a tattoo machine and proceeded to tattoo herself, knowing that tattooing yourself can be a very dangerous thing. She put the machine in her hand and carved a heart on her ankle.

And then she awoke, feeling good about her accomplishment!

Dream 233–Interpretation

The dream showed aspects of a dream of desire. I believe that at the first level of dream interpretation, it represented what was occurring within the dreamer. Her emotions (mother introject) and actions (father introject) were integrating. Water in dreams is virtually always subconscious emotion. A swimming pool in particular represents emotions at home since pools are near home.

On the second and interpersonal level, the dream represented a lifelong desire that her parents would have gotten along and that the dreamer’s own marriage was not in separation. She was taking matters into her own hands (the tattoo machine) now. The tattooed heart represented a permanent subconscious promise to herself about what she learned from her parents and from her husband. The fact that the tattoo was on her ankle, a supportive part of anatomy that helps us get somewhere in life, emphasized the emotional support she felt from making this commitment not to forget the painful lessons she learned.

She was making sure that the pain and lessons from parent and relationship troubles was never dismissed or forgotten. The experiences etched into and under her skin the importance of taking care of her heart. The dream was good news in that she was integrating and transforming and was generally happier with her life.

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