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What does it mean to have an ex killed by gangsters and to dream of a father you loved?

Not Reacting to Insults to Your Ego
Not Reacting to Insults to Your Ego

Dream 391: Avoid Provocations and Act More Like Dad

A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed my ex and I were someplace about to cross the street as I stepped into the street a car full of young men speed up in front of me nearly hitting me… I panicked and banged the hood of their car. This angered them all as did when my ex told them to ef’n watch what they’re doing. The driver turned looked at his friends in the backseat and front passenger seat… I saw him reach for a gun… I turned and ran…hearing gunshots…my ex was killed.

After that dream waking me up when I fell back asleep I dreamed of my dad who passed away from a heart attack 1 1/2 ago.. It wasn’t so much a dream but a flash of different memories of him, i kept seeing of him in my dream. Smiling, laughing, being silly, making his grumpy faces, hearing his voice, cooking.. I don’t know these two dreams left me wondering if they had any meaning.”

My Interpretation

Each character represents a different part of the psyche with women going more with an emotional part and men going more with your actions. An ex represents a relationship you rejected and he (an action part) is killed. What this means is that you have decided not to engage in behavior that enrages others (such as swearing and pounding your fist in anger) even if you are provoked.

The father in your dream is your father in your mind, your father introject, which is often the basis of actions. You have fond memories of what he was like. It sounds like you want the basis of your actions to be somewhat similar to the way your dad did things.

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What does dreaming about your divorced parents being married mean?

Integrating Emotions and Actions

Dream 389: Getting It Together

A woman had the following dream:

“Dreams are wonderful for me lately. I dream of my deceased parents staying married (they divorced when I was 4), seeing them grow old together. Just wishful thinking?”

My Interpretation

Whatever theory you look at in mental health, it eventually gets back to mom and dad, it is not the whole thing, it is just a part of it which gets less and less as you get older but there is probably always still some remnant of your parents. The mother and the father you dream of now are the mother and father in your mind which are called a mother introject and a father introject.

The father introject is most often the basis of your actions. The mother introject is most often the basis of your emotions.

Marriage is a union of different parts of your mind. If it is a marriage between your father and your mother, it typically represents you’re integrating your emotions with your actions. The fact that you dream of them growing old together indicates that the integration is a long-term effect. Congratulations!

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What does a wedding and vomit mean in a dream?

Actions and Emotions Become One
Actions and Emotions Become One

Dream 330: Don’t Go Downhill

A man dreamed he was at an outside wedding. He was dressed formally for the wedding and was uphill from the outside dance floor. He and his friends were uphill from Bob who was throwing up repeatedly. Bob in reality was in a relationship that he wanted to take through college, but everyone thought the relationship was unlikely to work.

One of his friend’s (George) was completing an apprenticeship to become a pastor. His father was passively rich and very financially successful from the stock market. George’s father came down from higher ground to scream and shout at George.

Interpretation

The setting of a dream frequently indicates what type of issues are going to be addressed by the dream. At the first level of dream interpretation, each character represents a different part of yourself. Men characters tend to go more with action part of the mind while women characters often go with subconscious emotions. A wedding most often signals integration within the dreamer because a wedding is the union of male (actions) with female (emotions).

The part of the dreamer similar to Bob is a part of his mind that should give up on relationships that are not good and are unhealthy. This part of the dreamer was in danger of going downhill if he doesn’t rid himself of negative emotions.

Vomit is a combination of water and food. Water in dreams is invariably emotions. Food is nurture.

Vomit is spoiled nurture that is no longer good for us and must be expelled. The dream was saying to get rid of negative relationships because it would bring the dreamer downhill otherwise. His friend Bob who is also a part of the dreamer’s mind was getting rid of something that was once nurturing, but was no longer good and was just making him sick.

In any case, the dream was  advice for now or for the future. George’s father reprimanding George for becoming a pastor was his inner father introject that wanted him to succeed financially. This father introject didn’t want him to do too many altruistic things that were too self-sacrificing.

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Falling Down

Dream 209: Falling Down on the Jobgrand-canyon-skywalk-2-1024x680 (1)

A 22-year-old woman dreamt that she was at the Grand Canyon. Her grandparents were also there. Her brother, who was only a year older, fell to the bottom of the Grand Canyon and died. She was emotionally close to her brother.

Dream 209 Interpretation

Her brother represented an action part of her psyche because men usually go with the dreamer’s actions. The dream was pointing out what her major “downfall” was. She confirmed my assumption that it was her paternal grandparents at the Grand Canyon. I would have been surprised if she said it was her maternal grandparents since women are usually identified with emotional parts of the mind.

She was having problems with the action part of herself as she was having difficulty teaching high school. It was her paternal grandparents because things associated with father typically involve the dreamer’s actions. A father’s role with children traditionally includes encouraging their actions in the world.

It follows that the conflict and trouble she was describing at work would most likely be affected by her father’s introjects. Her father introjects were best represented by the paternal grandfather and paternal grandmother. As such, her troubles with teaching would probably best be helped by working with her father introject.

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Let a Fool Help Drive Your Life

170525476Dream 200: Let a Fool Help Drive Your Life

A 44-year-old professional and serious woman dreamt that she stopped at a house to check up on her father. When she got back into the car at night, there was a baby boy crawling in the street that she narrowly missed. Then her carefree and happy-go-lucky brother ran along the car. He suddenly jumped into her lap. She and he shared the driving as she was in the driver’s seat always.

Dream 200 Interpretation

This woman was serious to the point of almost being grim sometimes. A house can represent the dreamer somewhat, especially if there is a family member there. A car is how one gets somewhere in life. She essentially checks up on her father introject, usually a major driver of the person’s actions. This dream essentially reviews action parts of her psyche to make a recommendation (since the three other characters are male).

The baby boy was a new action part of her psyche which had not been integrated and was in danger of almost becoming psychological road kill. The brother that jumped onto her lap was a significant recommendation by the dream. He essentially “plays the fool” and embodies the fool archetype. The dream is recommending that she integrate more fun as a major driver in her life to get to where she wants to go.

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You’ve Caught a Big One!

Son, I'm Mighty Proud of You
Son, I’m Mighty Proud of You

Dream 174: You’ve Caught a Big One!
A 52-year-old man dreamt that he and his father were camping in a cave with a lake nearby.  As he left the cave a huge catfish that could somehow run came after him.  He thought the large fish was going to hurt him but it did not.  He was eventually able to restrain the catfish and put it on a stringer.
Dream 174 Interpretation
The dreamer was contemplating subconscious emotions. His father in the dream was his father introject which basically directs the dreamer’s actions. The cave is the subconscious (subterranean). Water is emotion.  Lakes are localized emotion. The catfish is a part of his instinctive energy. The catfish in particular is a scavenger that lives on waste material.
The dreamer was recently conflicted about being consumed with a hobby which was refurbishing thrown away electronic equipment.  He was worried that this interest was pursuing him and would hurt his chances of achieving other goals.  Refurbishing electronic equipment was metaphorically represented by a scavenger catfish (his instinctive energy was scavenging, refurbishing, thrown away electronic equipment).
The dream was reassuring him that he would not be hurt by this interest if he controlled himself. He needed to restrain (stringed) his interest, so that the hobby could be nourishing to him (eating the catfish).  He felt he needed to control the scavenging interest somewhat because he had bigger fish to fry.
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