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What does dreaming about your divorced parents being married mean?

Integrating Emotions and Actions

Dream 389: Getting It Together

A woman had the following dream:

“Dreams are wonderful for me lately. I dream of my deceased parents staying married (they divorced when I was 4), seeing them grow old together. Just wishful thinking?”

My Interpretation

Whatever theory you look at in mental health, it eventually gets back to mom and dad, it is not the whole thing, it is just a part of it which gets less and less as you get older but there is probably always still some remnant of your parents. The mother and the father you dream of now are the mother and father in your mind which are called a mother introject and a father introject.

The father introject is most often the basis of your actions. The mother introject is most often the basis of your emotions.

Marriage is a union of different parts of your mind. If it is a marriage between your father and your mother, it typically represents you’re integrating your emotions with your actions. The fact that you dream of them growing old together indicates that the integration is a long-term effect. Congratulations!

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Is She Good or Bad for Me: The Ancient Question

imagesDream 189: Is She Good or Bad for Me?

A 33-year-old man dreamt that he was relaxing in an open green field. He was lying on his back and looking up to the sky and the surrounding beautiful natural fields enveloped within shelter belts. Every so often a presence or force appeared above him. He was trying to figure out if it was a force associated with his beautiful girlfriend that he loved very much or whether it was a dark and insidiously evil force. In any case, he felt that it was a very powerful force.

Dream 189–Interpretation

He was the survivor of two disastrous divorces after short marriages where his wives were obviously using him for his wealth. He was in therapy because he found it difficult to trust his girlfriend whom he previously dated in high school. She was beautiful and talented and had played games with him dating wise in high school.

Their reunion was very different from what happened in high school. His girlfriend’s previous arrogance transformed to empathy because she suffered a previous emotionally abusive relationship. He felt he could trust her now, but was cautious because of their history in high school and his relatively recent divorces.

The dream indicated the progress he was making in psychotherapy. He recently was trying to relax more around his girlfriend. The scene of the dream told what happens when he relaxes about his girlfriend as it occurred in a beautiful natural scene where he was physically relaxed.

The image that appears above him is his shadow. Almost all major changes in psychotherapy involve the shadow. The dream was giving him an up close look at his shadow on his girlfriend.

He was subconsciously worried how his girlfriend would affect him if he allowed her to be predominant (above him) in his life. Lying down with stomach up is a classic submission pose among animals. That she was close enough to be considered on a par with his shadow verified the current depth of their relationship.

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What is the meaning of a swimming pool in a dream?

Emotions Close to Home
Emotions Close to Home

Dream 233: What is the meaning of a swimming pool in a dream?

The dreamer was a 29-year-old coed in Florida. She could never remember her parents getting along with one another. She dreamt that her mother and father were now swimming in their pool at home, playfully splashing about as if they had never divorced or experienced any sort of trauma. She walked inside and saw a tattoo machine and proceeded to tattoo herself, knowing that tattooing yourself can be a very dangerous thing. She put the machine in her hand and carved a heart on her ankle.

And then she awoke, feeling good about her accomplishment!

Dream 233–Interpretation

The dream showed aspects of a dream of desire. I believe that at the first level of dream interpretation, it represented what was occurring within the dreamer. Her emotions (mother introject) and actions (father introject) were integrating. Water in dreams is virtually always subconscious emotion. A swimming pool in particular represents emotions at home since pools are near home.

On the second and interpersonal level, the dream represented a lifelong desire that her parents would have gotten along and that the dreamer’s own marriage was not in separation. She was taking matters into her own hands (the tattoo machine) now. The tattooed heart represented a permanent subconscious promise to herself about what she learned from her parents and from her husband. The fact that the tattoo was on her ankle, a supportive part of anatomy that helps us get somewhere in life, emphasized the emotional support she felt from making this commitment not to forget the painful lessons she learned.

She was making sure that the pain and lessons from parent and relationship troubles was never dismissed or forgotten. The experiences etched into and under her skin the importance of taking care of her heart. The dream was good news in that she was integrating and transforming and was generally happier with her life.

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