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What do office buildings, suits, and restrooms mean in a dream?

 

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Dream 407: Eating Forbidden Fruit

A woman had the following dream:
“I had a dream that I was in a huge office building with many floors, offices etc. I was just trying to go home, but first find a restroom. I kept ending up in offices where there were people dressed in business attire and I didn’t have my top on…Trying to squeeze through, but they wouldn’t move. So rude!

I finally found a hall. Relief. I was walking to find a restroom, then I see a sitting area with a table on which was a plate of caramel apples with nuts. Yum! I picked one up and took a bite.

Then 2 ladies to the side shook their heads and fingers, no…I put it back and continued….exhausted! WHAT I DETERMINED: I am never going to fit in, no matter how I try to reveal my true self and good things are not for me! Well, I won’t accept that! Any other interpretations? I’m very open to your analysis.”

Interpretation

I am going to be sounding like a bit of a preacher and I don’t mean to sound that way but here it comes. The setting in a dream usually indicates what the dream is going to be about. It starts out in a commercial office building that has many floors.

Usually in a building the different floors can represent different levels of consciousness. So I am just saying that there are people who have many different ways of looking at things that may be at variance with your level of consciousness.

When you are looking for a restroom in a dream, that usually indicates that there are things that you need to get rid of that no longer serve you. One of the things that you probably need to change is being more careful about who you open yourself up to.

Clothing usually represents psychological defenses in dreams because that’s what we show the rest of the world. The people are dressed in business clothing which means that they are defensive and about commercial and business interests. You do not have a top on which indicates that you are probably risking yourself by opening yourself up in that environment.

Each character in the dream is a part of your psyche and women tend to go more with emotions. I think the women are disapproving of your eating the apple because part of your emotions realize that your effort to open yourself up to very defensive people is well meaning but is not going to work out very well probably. Trying to get psychological nourishment in that environment (eating the apple) is ill fated and not likely to work out no matter how sweet it may look on the outside (the caramel).

If it were my dream, the lesson would go something like, “I have to be more careful about who I expose myself to.” You mean well, but you want to make sure that the people you are talking to are at least potentially open to what you have to offer which sounds like it probably is a lot. One does want to put pearls in front of swine–it will annoy the pig and dirty the pearls.

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What does a baby boy not being able to move and falling on your face mean in a dream?

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Fear of falling on your face if you do something new

 

Dream 401: Should I Make This New Move?

A woman had the following dream:

“I had a strange dream that I had put my infant baby on a bed all in white and so was the baby. Just the exact way they wrap them in a hospital, then a lady said to me your baby fell on the floor laying flat face, and I went that way to get him. How strange a infant can’t move wrapped that way, he was not crying either. So confused on this dream.”

My Interpretation

Clothing usually represents your psychological defenses. A baby boy usually represents a new action part of yourself. The dream seems to be implying there is a new action part yourself that is severely limited and bound with limited options. You may have tried to do something different and either have or have fear of “falling on your face.”

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What does floating mean in a dream?

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Dream 329: Floating High

A 50 something man described having a dream that he always remembered even years later. When he was an elementary school boy, he dreamed repeatedly that he was floating above trees. From the sky,he viewed his friend and himself walking through the neighborhood on the sidewalk. He felt like he was actually floating in reality.

Interpretation

Dreaming that you’re floating is not as powerful as flying, but it is significant. The fact that it was a recurrent dream, a dream that occurs repeatedly, emphasizes that it was an important or “big” dream. Floating usually means that the dreamer felt content with the situation, that he was literally “floating on air” at that time.

Trees are a primary symbol of integration which means the dreamer felt pretty together personally back then. Having a friend in a dream is many times a dreams way of doubling the dreamer. The dream was doubling down on the importance of his feelings in the dream.

Alternative explanations of the dream involve it being a lucid dream or an out-of-body experience. These explanations are very speculative; however, it would explain the huge impact these dreams had on him. Decades later, he could remember this dream like it happened yesterday.

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What do lizards and newts mean in dreams?

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Dream Answer 319: When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Get Going

Newts have the unusual ability to regenerate eyes, intestines, hearts, spinal cords and jaws. Lizards are reptiles that are quick to avoid their many enemies and predators and have amazing defenses. Some lizards, to escape a predator who has them in their clenches, can actually separate their tail from their body with the tail still having movability to distract the predator so that they can get away. That lizard will later regenerate the tail.

Animals represent our instincts. Both newts and lizards negotiate and travel in or on water (emotions) and land (conscious thinking). Newts and lizards would represent the part of the person that has adaptive defenses that are regenerative and quick in many different kinds of situations.

Both would usually be a good sign in a dream. Newts probably lean toward generating or regenerating your get up and go, while lizards probably go more with being able to adapt to and defend yourself in difficult circumstances. It is interesting that during the early stages of development a fetus comes very close to looking like an amphibian.

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What do closets, warehouses and storage units mean in dreams?

What can I use from my past?
What can I use from my past?

Storage areas in a dream such as warehouses,closets, storage facilties and even junkyards in some cases, typically represent influences in our mind or psyche. These things are “real” in the sense of being psychological memories, abilities, personal qualities and/or defenses we have stored in our minds. Dreams frequently rummage through these assets from the past to see if there is anything in our personal inventory that we can use in our present life situation. The dream that follows is an example of our subconscious taking inventory of our personal assets through a dream.

Dream 310: I Think About Things I Could Use From the Past, (but it makes me so angry)

A woman dreamt she had a dream that she lived on an army post. She saw a whole bunch of furniture and clothes right in front of her door. Some woman was leaving from her storage unit and had items that the dreamer owned in her hands.

The dreamer was puzzled. She was trying to figure out why this woman felt she had the right to take her personal items. At least one of the items was given to the dreamer by her mother. The dreamer felt hurt and angry that these things were being taken from her.

The dreamer was outraged. She was so angry that she was ready to physically fight the lady. The dreamer then woke up crying with a tremendous headache.


Interpretation

The dream begins at an army post. The army is part of the Department of Defense.  So the dream announced at the beginning that it was going to be about the dreamer’s defenses.

A house can represent the dreamer because it is the framework out of which the dreamer lives. Clothing represents defenses usually because it is what we present to the outside world.  Each character in the dream is usually a part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level.

This was a part of the dreamer’s psyche trying to look through her past and trying to see what was of value. In dreams storage facilities are frequently memory storage of our past. When storage areas are being rummaged through, typically the dreamer’s shadow is trying to find what could be of value there.

This is a shadow with a double entendre. That is, it may possibly be saying that her anger is getting in the way of retrieving valuable assets, defenses and personal qualities she had from the past. This is complicated by the possibility that anger over things that happened in the past may be getting in the way of using what was valuable from those difficult experiences.

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What does a shadow figure mean in a dream?

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Shadow Energy

The Shadow is a major dream archetype. It is usually a dark figure in profile or can be a criminal or aggressive stalking figure that either tries to break in to your residence or is pursuing you in some way. We all have a shadow. These contain aggressive impulses and parts of ourselves that we have rejected for now.

The shadow also contains our “get up and go.” it is vital to the personality. Other parts of the personality need to be in contact with the shadow to place appropriate limits on it. By working with the shadow, the other parts of the personality benefit by getting the energy that is in the shadow that can be put to good use.

The following is a dream I had at a critical time that assured me that I would make it through a conflict:

Dream 305: The Caped Crusader

I saw a dark caped figure moving energetically down a hall towards me who seemed mysterious but not threatening. It had the aire almost of an evangelical figure arriving to save us all. I looked at him with awe as I was leaning down to tie my shoe.

Interpretation

This was a numinous or luminous image of the shadow. A numinous or luminous image fills the observer with awe because of its power and is almost sacred in nature. The Savior-moving energy of this dark almost evangelical hero image was to reassure me that I had lots of energy which I would have to use in the adversarial conflict I was in the middle of.

Even the detail of tying my shoes was important. Shoes protect the feet and allow us to get somewhere faster in safety. The feet are supportive of our body.

Tying my shoe meant that I was getting myself together to protect and support myself to get to where I needed to be in this conflict. While it was a high level conflict, I believe this detail was emphasizing the importance of details. Not tying your shoe could impede your progress. Not overlooking a detail in the huge administrative conflict I was involved in was extremely important.

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What does a baby mean in a dream?

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What’s new in your life?

Dream Answer 298: Babies are almost always good news in dreams. They typically signal new growth in the dreamer of either new emotional (girl babies) or new behavior (boy babies). The following dream indicated new emotional growth:

An adult woman dreamed that she saw a spirit (baby-like) floating up in the corner of her bedroom near the ceiling. She staring at it trying to figure out what to do when her chihuahua, who was also looking at it, turned to her and said “you see it, just speak to it”. So she asked “who are you” and it materialized into a flower (like a daisy) against her wall.

Interpretation

Each person or creature in a dream is a part of the dreamer’s psyche at the first level. Females tend to go with emotions. Males tend to be associated with behavior. A baby represents a new part of the mind/psyche.

Floating or flying typically takes on spiritual meaning. Floating indicates usually an activated energy that is hanging above the dreamer. The emotional change that the new female baby portends is likely to happen soon when it is floating which is a peaceful and serene form of flying.

Dogs typically go with the dreamer’s affections and are associated with loyalty and protection. The dog gives you advice in the sense of urging you to speak to activate this new emotional part of you. Specifically, the dreamer was urged to speak directly about what she sees going on to others (“you see it, just speak it”).

The baby turning into a flower indicated that her new emotional growth was beautiful. The flower went against her “wall” which indicated she was going to be less defensive. The new emotional growth on the verge of entering the dreamer’s life was that she was becoming less defensive by speaking out directly about what she sees going on. She was being urged to be less defensive and to be more assertive. The dream wanted her to speak her truth.

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Lincoln’s Prophetic Dream

The president is dead. He was assassinated.
The president is dead. He was assassinated.

Lincoln had this dream shortly before his assassination:
About ten days ago, I retired very late. I had been up waiting for important dispatches from the front. I could not have been long in bed when I fell into a slumber, for I was weary. I soon began to dream. There seemed to be a death-like stillness about me. Then I heard subdued sobs, as if a number of people were weeping. I thought I left my bed and wandered downstairs. There the silence was broken by the same pitiful sobbing, but the mourners were invisible. I went from room to room; no living person was in sight, but the same mournful sounds of distress met me as I passed along. It was light in all the rooms; every object was familiar to me; but where were all the people who were grieving as if their hearts would break?

I was puzzled and alarmed. What could be the meaning of all this? Determined to find the cause of a state of things so mysterious and so shocking, I kept on until I arrived at the East Room, which I entered.

There I met with a sickening surprise. Before me was a catafalque, on which rested a corpse wrapped in funeral vestments. Around it were stationed soldiers who were acting as guards; and there was a throng of people, some gazing mournfully upon the corpse, whose face was covered, others weeping pitifully. ‘Who is dead in the White House?’ I demanded of one of the soldiers ‘The President’ was his answer; ‘he was killed by an assassin!’ Then came a loud burst of grief from the crowd, which awoke me from my dream.

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What does jewelry, toys, unfamiliar faces, a house, high fashion, a garden, a pool and clothing mean in a dream?

woman jewelryDream 277: A woman had a dream that a male friend who had died was at the house where she was living now. She said “hi” even though is it was not the face of her deceased friend. She somehow knew it was her deceased friend, but his face was very different. Then her male friend proceeded to tell her how many pounds of weight he had lost and how many more he wanted to lose.

She looked at him as he was thin. She asked him why would he want to lose more? He looked great. He answered, “Because I like high fashion.”

She went into another room to get something for the wedding rehearsal and when she returned, the room was filled with children. As she walked through the house every room in the house was filled with children. So she told her friend to wait outside in the garden by the pool. She needed to think.

When she went outside to look for him, the garden and pool area was filled with children. As she looked the garden kept stretching and stretching in size until the grounds got bigger and more children appeared. So she told her friend that they might have to wait a bit.

She went back in the house and went to her room which was filled with children. They were playing and holding some of her belongings which included her whole collection of jewelry. She began to get irritated and then they showed her some things they had built like toys from her jewelry. She was impressed, and thought their creations were amazing. These children were of our various cultures and backgrounds.

Interpretation

A house can represent the dreamer herself because it is the framework out of which one lives. In dreams, each person in the dream is part of the dreamer’s mind. Men tend to go with action parts of the psyche or mind, while women tend to go with more emotional parts of the psyche. Unfamiliar faces are parts of ourselves that we do not know very well.

Children are parts of the self that have not been developed and so represent creative potential. The dream mentions a wedding which is a primary symbol of integration since it joins male (action) parts of the mind with emotional (female) aspects of the psyche. A garden, of course, represents personal growth. Water is virtually always emotion and a pool is emotion that is close to home.

The dream tried to appeal to the dreamer’s ego by saying that it is “high fashion” to rid oneself of excessive and unnecessary ego defenses. Clothing typically represents defenses because it is what the world sees. It similarly looked at her personal belongings as defenses supporting the ego and tried to encourage her to be more playful (with the children making toys of them). The moral of the dream is to have fun and stop worrying about looking good.

In the case of the over-weight man, one looks better to others if your actions are less defensive and more playful. Losing weight is getting rid of a barrier or defense to becoming close to other people. The dream emphasized that there were many diverse parts of herself that she had to offer the world. Her subconscious was trying to get her to be less concerned with appearances, particularly concern over appearances that cover who she really was.

Jewelry is personal adornment and does not represent who she is. With the many children and their creativity, the dream is emphasizing that she had much to offer the world.

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Dream 271: The Orbs Predict Jobs

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Dream 271: Orbs and Ghosts

A twenty-something woman had the following dream: “The other day I had a dream about ghosts in my room, it opened my bedroom door and opened all my dresser drawers and started throwing out all its contents. Then awhile later in my dream, I was in a cabin like house with my mom and I saw 3 orbs, like silver lights, dancing all around the room. I kept saying “mom look! Mom look!” I didn’t know if she could see them. Then suddenly they were coming at me, and as soon as they were up to my face they turned into bubbles that were thick enough to touch without popping. The other integer thing I remember is having an abundance of jobs coming up in my near future. Just thought it was a pretty cool dream to have.”

Interpretation: Clothes usually represent your defenses. The ghost literally represents your spirit. By throwing the clothes on the floor your spirit is urging you to be less defensive. Orbs and circles are usually representatives of the soul and I would have no problem with seeing them as guides.

Houses or cabins can represent the dreamer because they are frameworks out of which you live. The number three is significant because it is the number of change. Three people in a relationship tends to be unstable, and things are going to change. So the dream is predicting personal change.

It is interesting that I think this dream is partly symbolic and partly predictive. Bubbles are made of water and water is emotion almost always. That they do not burst is a good sign because I think the dream is predicting job opportunities for you in the sense that ” your bubble will not be burst.” The ghosts are probably more defensive spirits or attitudes from the past that need to be thrown out. The orbs are likely to be new possibilities she is facing. The orbs are a good omen.

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Don’t Turn Your Backs on Me

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A 54-year-old woman dreamt that she was viewing a graduation class of all men from an auditorium seat. She was viewing this scene through the eyes of an aunt. All of the male graduates had their backs to her. There was one male graduate who was out of place because he wore casual and somewhat tacky clothing. She felt that the out-of-place graduate was like herself.

Dream 218—Interpretation

She recently started a job with a Wall Street brokerage. She was the trainer and supervisor of new stockbrokers who recently graduated from qualifying examinations. Almost all new trainees were men (or were very action-oriented women). She was older and felt out of place.

The male graduates in the dream mirror the circumstance of her training male graduates. That their backs were to her was a reflection of her feeling that they did not really listen to her. Her aunt was a stern businesswoman which she emulated at work. The out-of-place graduate was how the business action part of her psyche felt about the situation. The fact that he was out-of-place because of his clothing meant that she felt that psychological defenses (her clothing) were not sophisticated enough for the complex work situation she was in.

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Be Less Defensive

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Dream 215: Throw Down Your Shield

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A Knight in Shining Armor Needs to Throw Down His Shield

A 28-year-old man dreamt that a knight was defending himself against a powerful opponent knight. He could not see his nemesis very well. The raging knight was attacking women and the dreamer himself with a sword. The dreamer defended himself with a shield. The shield was bulky and he was making little progress against the errant knight.

Suddenly, the dreamer had the thought that if he were less defensive, things would go better. In a dramatic moment, the dreamer threw his shield down and faced his fear of the other knight. The other knight immediately quit fighting and took his shiny armored helmet off. Upon closer examination, the other knight was a handsome man with blonde hair and blue eyes. The dreamer discovered the reason the man was attacking women and the dreamer. The man was wounded and was taking his anger out on them. The dreamer realized that the wound needed to heal.

Dream 215–Interpretation

The dreamer was generally unsuccessful with women. He came on too strong. When his disproportionate advances were not reciprocated by a woman, he became angry and defensive and then ruined any chance of starting a relationship.

The dream dramatically states that his anger is directly related to his defensiveness. He needed to throw down his shield and get in touch with the heroic masculine part of his nature. That he could not see his nemesis very well meant that he had little insight into his problem. The dreamer was always mystified by women rejecting him because he knew his nature was essentially chivalrous and noble like the heroic masculine knight.

The dream showed that underneath his rage, he himself was wounded. For the first time, he realized that he needed to heal his wounds, that he needed to work on his resentments in therapy. It was a major breakthrough in therapy.

Let Your Hair Down

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Dream 162: Let Your Hair Down

A 33-year-old woman dreamt that she was sitting in a room.  A group of young adult handsome and dashing men came in and started to help her put on coat after coat, one on top of the other.  After she was wearing three coats at the same time, the leader of the group announced that was enough, that she did not need any more coats.

She then saw herself and a female friend having a discussion.  The friend unfurled her long hair and urged the dreamer to do the same.  They next were sitting at a house of prostitution.  They were simply viewers of the scene.  Each man was receiving money for having sex with each prostitute.  Each man did not enjoy the experience and felt forced to do it.

Dream 162–Interpretation 

The group of young men were various parts of her inner heroic masculine.  These parts typically are protective and encourage positive action.  Clothing represents defenses as they are the outer shell we show the outside world. The number three (number of coats) is significant because it implies change.  She did not like her current job and had sought out and interviewed with three other possible jobs that were interested in her. She did this as she was preparing for a written test at her current workplace.  She had obtained the three job possibilities as defensive backups if she did not pass the test.  The leader of the heroic masculine announced that she had sought out enough jobs for her security.  The implication was to stop looking for more jobs and continue studying for the test.  Her heroic masculine was concerned that she was devoting too much energy on finding backup jobs rather than studying for the test before her.

She worked in customer service.  She felt like she was hired to screw customers over (the prostitutes) who did not appreciate it (she did not like the way she had to interact with customers).  The dream was encouraging her to “let her hair down” emotionally, i.e., to be less defensive (the female friend unfurling her hair).