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What does the negative Queen represent in a dream?

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Dream 437: The Evil Queen

I have had very vivid and odd dreams every night for the past month. Yet when I awake I usually only remember pieces. I was standing in front of my ex husband. We were talking as I began to think in my head about our split. Reminding myself of the monster he became…the reason I left. I used to have no voice when in his presence so I was reminding myself before I made eye contact.

I reached in my pocket though and pulled out a seemingly endless stack of large bills. He put his hands out and one by one I placed the bills in his Palm. It never ended. I remember thinking what about my needs. If I give it all I’ll have nothing. He never stopped me and I never spoke up.

I looked down and Instantly fell to my knees. I quickly place my hands out to catch This large Brown ribbed vase. I was unable to catch it in time. The glass broke shattering and slicing my right Index finger. I remember specifically the feel of glass shards across my fingers.

I looked up to see a woman I have not yet the chance to meet.  She had black curly hair old style framed glasses. She had a dark-tinted color to her, like not a normal color. She just stared blankly at me. It was creepy, almost like I felt I was in trouble.

I heard “Watch her–When she appears pay close attention to her.” Then I woke up. I’ve yet to understand this one. A lot of my dreams are about money or past lives, even god. I’m not sure why the oddities, but would greatly appreciate any Insight.

Interpretation

Money usually represents energy in dreams. He was a viper who took all your energy and never reciprocated.

The woman in your dreams is negative emotions. Jung called her the queen or the negative mother complex. She resides in everyone’s subconscious.

The queen is all about power and control. Her attitude toward you is capricious and arbitrary.

Her motto is “ask not what I can do for you–ask what you can do for me now.” She looks very strong, but will wilt unless the odds are overwhelmingly in her favor.

The savage masculine will aggravate and make her stronger. It sounds like you were married to a savage masculine man. The only part of the psyche that has any success against her is the heroic masculine–which usually involves being dedicated to taking positive actions that focus mainly, if not exclusively, on your needs and not making any excuses about it nor apologizing for looking after your needs.

I think the brown vase falling and cutting your finger right before the queen appears was done to emphasize that the queen is the emotional part of yourself that is hurting you. When glass is breaking in a dream, that usually means that the emotional impact of something is finally fully reaching you.  Her favorite putdown is “who do you think you are.”

I hope this is helpful.

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What do guns, shooting and robbery mean in a dream?

Dream 427: Violence Begets Violenceimages (2)

A woman reported the following dream:

“I had a dream about a friend involving a robbery and gun shots were fired towards her and I. When I later talked to her about it, she said 2 other friends had dreams of her either as the one doing the shooting or was being shot at. What do guns in dreams mean? Also, it’s so weird how several people had similar themed dreams about one person. Any ideas? Shes kinda freaked out by it. Some insights would be much appreciated!”

Interpretation 

Guns usually are associated with aggression or confrontation. Freud thought of it as a classic phallic symbol so it is associated with being Macho–rough and tough and not taking anything from anyone.

With your friend, I wonder if she tends to be confrontation or aggressively assertive to the point that she inspires retaliation and/or bursts of emotions from others. The thought would be that she is subject to confrontations/burst of emotions which she points at others and is reciprocated by others.

If we look at just your dream, shots are being fired at you. You are not instigating any gunplay in the dream you had. The focus of your dream would seem to be other people’s explosive reactions to you at times for no clear reason. In your dream, the robbery would maybe indicate some worry about being personally violated.

The collective unconscious means that we are all connected subconsciously with one another. When she has several friends dreaming about guns with her involved, I would take it that the collective subconscious is trying to get the message to her by whatever means possible that she needs to be protective of herself and assertive / aggressive / confrontative in a different kind of way so that she or others do not get hurt either emotionally or physically.

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What does an aggressive baby and a prizefighter mean in a dream?

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Feisty Baby

Dream 400: Change without hurting who you are

A woman had the following dream:

“I had a nightmare…. I was in a mall and people kept coming up the escalator covered in blood. I didnt pay any attention to them until my deceased uncle came up the excalator and said do something. Then at that point I went looking for who was hurting the people and it turned out to be a baby ! So I stabbed this baby with an unusual tool, and the baby fell to the ground and then got back up again and I kept jabbing the baby in the neck….at that point I woke up feeling very disturbed.”

My Interpretation

Each person in a dream represents a part of your mind. Men tend to go with your actions while women tend to go with your emotions. Having a baby in a dream means that this is a new part of yourself that you are developing.

Developing this new part of yourself is causing all kinds of commotion in your life and is changing you symbolized by the innocent people being hurt in the mall. You want to get rid of it, but it is persistent and wants to live in you.

It is interesting that your uncle was a prize fighter. One would think his advice would go something like “keep this part in line, and don’t let it hurt any other parts of you.” So you have to keep this newer feisty part of you in line so that it does not hurt who you have been.

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What does going to the bathroom and other people taking advantage of you in a dream mean?

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Can we abuse your campsite?

Dream 349: Get Rid of this stuff now!

A woman dreamed that she was camping. Some people asked her if they could use her restroom. She said “Sure.”

She went to walk her dog. When she came back, the people’s kids were jumping all over inside the camper. Some more older people appeared. The campsite was overrun with about thirty people.

She noticed that her wallet was missing. She then noticed a woman going through the wallet. The dreamer asked for it back, and took down the license plate number of the van they were driving.

They begged her not to report them. She told them that she was going to report them to the police. The itinerant mob fled.

Interpretation

The setting of this dream indicated that it was going to be about how the dreamer naturally operates because she was camping in the great outdoors. At the first level of dream interpretation, each character in the dream is a different part of the dreamer’s personality.

When you go to the bathroom in a dream, you are getting rid of something that you no longer need, that you do not need to carry, and that will actually harm you if you keep it. I think the dream was urging her to not let people take advantage of her. The dream ended with her deciding that there were going to be consequences if she allowed others to take advantage of her.

The dreamer told me that the interpretation felt right. She said that she was prone to give too much without receiving from others. She needed to insist that others reciprocate her favors.

What does a tall dark stranger mean in a dream?

Dream 306 The dreamer was a woman who was looking around a room only noticing there was a lot of other people. She saw a tall dark stranger staring at her. He had bright grey eyes that glowed

Come to Me
Come to Me

in the dark. She initially thought he had a mustache and beard and somewhat disheveled blonde hair so that he looked like a mountain man. A long black trench coat completed his mountain-man appearance. They were locked in a gaze at each other before she finally looked away. She decided that she would not look at the stranger again.

Interpretation
This intense stranger is a form of the shadow archetype with mystical penetrating eyes. He represents a civilized form of the savage masculine. The strength that is almost always in the shadow is conveyed by the strong mountain man image. He is a man of action who is beckoning her to use his strength.

The thought is that he is a civilized natural man of action who is part of her subconscious. This part of her mind is urging her to use his strength to inform her actions so that she is more assertive. The eyes are the windows to the soul and his eyes are light glowing in the dark.

The dream is being mystical. It is implying that using this strength to be assertive will change her soul. Using the strength of the shadow to support positive behavior is called using the shadow in service to the ego.

She will see the light if she follows the dream’s advice. As usual, it is changing the shadow that most affects our behavior. Melding all the archetypes together so that the person functions best results in good mental health.

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What does a baby mean in a dream?

What's new is your life?
What’s new in your life?

Dream Answer 298: Babies are almost always good news in dreams. They typically signal new growth in the dreamer of either new emotional (girl babies) or new behavior (boy babies). The following dream indicated new emotional growth:

An adult woman dreamed that she saw a spirit (baby-like) floating up in the corner of her bedroom near the ceiling. She staring at it trying to figure out what to do when her chihuahua, who was also looking at it, turned to her and said “you see it, just speak to it”. So she asked “who are you” and it materialized into a flower (like a daisy) against her wall.

Interpretation

Each person or creature in a dream is a part of the dreamer’s psyche at the first level. Females tend to go with emotions. Males tend to be associated with behavior. A baby represents a new part of the mind/psyche.

Floating or flying typically takes on spiritual meaning. Floating indicates usually an activated energy that is hanging above the dreamer. The emotional change that the new female baby portends is likely to happen soon when it is floating which is a peaceful and serene form of flying.

Dogs typically go with the dreamer’s affections and are associated with loyalty and protection. The dog gives you advice in the sense of urging you to speak to activate this new emotional part of you. Specifically, the dreamer was urged to speak directly about what she sees going on to others (“you see it, just speak it”).

The baby turning into a flower indicated that her new emotional growth was beautiful. The flower went against her “wall” which indicated she was going to be less defensive. The new emotional growth on the verge of entering the dreamer’s life was that she was becoming less defensive by speaking out directly about what she sees going on. She was being urged to be less defensive and to be more assertive. The dream wanted her to speak her truth.

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Feeding the Inner Shark

Dream 278: Feeding the Inner Shark

shark-predator-picture_29A0381-596x397A 42-year-old man dreamed that he was swimming in the ocean infested with sharks. Sometimes the sharks would bite him, and sometimes he would bite the sharks. Neither he nor the sharks were seriously hurt by the bites.

The scene shifted to his hometown streets being flooded. Again the water was filled with sharks. He was able to bite and nourish himself from the sharks. He somehow knew that eating the sharks was “medicinal.”

A Chinese woman came to warn him not to bite the sharks too much. She did not disapprove of his feeding on the sharks, but mainly wanted him not to go overboard. He knew that the sharks were not hurt by his feeding upon them, because the bite marks immediately healed and regenerated.

Interpretation
Water is emotion. The ocean is the best symbol of the subconscious that we have. Creatures in the ocean, like sharks, represent subconscious energy.

Sharks represent aggressive energy because they are the ultimate predators. A persona needs some aggressive energy to accomplish goals, as aggressive energy ends up being the “get up and go” needed to achieve. Other parts of the personality need to moderate the aggressive energy so that it is sublimated into desired outcomes.

The dream starts out by noting that sometimes he is the prey, and sometimes he is the predator. When the sharks are moved from the ocean to the streets of his hometown, the dream is moving from his subconscious (the ocean) to his conscious (the land). The dream emphasizes that incorporating predator behavior into himself (eating the shark) was genuinely healing or “medicinal.”

Women tend to represent more emotional parts of the psyche. That she was Chinese was the dream’s way of indicating that her way of handling emotions was somewhat foreign to him. The message of the dream was that he perhaps should be somewhat more assertive in getting what he wanted, but that he should not take it too far.

It was interesting that shark cartilage is thought to be healing. In the dream, this was emphasized over and over. No one was hurt by being bitten. Tissue that was bitten regenerated.

The dream was not overly critical as it indicated he vacillated from being prey or predator. It just thought he should be more predator-like somewhat more of the time. He may need even to be aggressive sometimes.

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Go Deeper

The Soul Self
The Soul Self

Dream 221: Go Deeper

A 38-year-old woman dreamt that she was going skin diving and had a mask on. The mask was quite prominent on her face. She remembered being pulled down to the bottom of the ocean.

She noted that there was a blackout mark over her mouth as you sometimes see in magazines only the mark is most often over people’s eyes. She had images of her mother flashing in and out during the dream.

Dream 221–Interpretation

She was having a hard time asserting herself at work in a new supervisor position. She noted that her mother had always been very unassertive and passive. Her mother introject appeared throughout the dream because it is the emotional part of herself that she is trying to resolve.

She has a mask over her face that is prominent because she feels like she is hiding and not being true to herself to a large extent. The censor mark or blackout mark is over her mouth because she does not say what she truly means to others because she is too unassertive. She feels pulled to the bottom of the ocean which is her dream’s way of saying that she needs to be true to herself and experience deeper emotion.

The ocean is the best symbol of unconscious emotion that we have. The dream was pointing out that she needs to go deeper into her subconscious emotion to change her so that she allows herself ro speak out. The dream traced the beginnings of her lack of assertiveness to her internalized mother introject. She needed to love herself more to have the confidence to assert herself.

Jung maintained that we each had a higher Self that should always be capitalized. This soulful Self was expressed through the subconscious in dreams. Her Self is asking her to change in this dream.

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To Dust Thou Shall Return

asteroid-hurtling-towards-earth-640x353Dream 205: To Dust Thou Shalt Return

A 58-year-old woman dreamt that she was watching the desert from her picture window. Suddenly, she thought an asteroid hit the moon. It broke a chunk of the moon off. She thought that when the chunk reached her, she would die. After the moon chunk hit the earth, she felt the dust pass through her and knew that she died. She was surprised that she then had a feeling of relief and joy.

Dream 205–Interpretation

The moon tends to represent the unconscious. The sun goes with the conscious. The moon is associated with love and romance (think of the song Moon River or George’s promise to his fiancee to “lasso the moon” for her in the movie It’s a Wonderful Life.)

A death in a dream can mean that a part of the psyche “died” or was modified significantly. Part of the moon crashing to earth, in this case, meant that she was changing her love life significantly by being more “down to earth” with her lover. She recently had transformed the relationship with him by being more assertive. She expected more from him and was pleasantly surprised that she was much happier.

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