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What might killing a scorpion that stung you mean in a dream?

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Dream 538: I hate that I hate you

A woman dreamed that she killed a white scorpion that stung her and wondered what it could mean.

Interpretation

In dreams, animal represents part of the dreamer’s instincts. Scorpions typically represent aggression. This dream is probably a combination of levels one and two.

If it were just level two, the interpersonal level, it would represent getting revenge or wanting to get revenge, for someone being aggressive toward you.

At the first or intrapsychic level, it would represent repressing your aggressive instinct (killing it) for aggressive thoughts or acts against another.

A condensation of the two levels, which I think may be the case, would be getting revenge for someone being aggressive towards you, and not feeling great about it (or at least your subconscious does not think the idea was so great) and subconsciously decreasing or killing the idea of counterattack (or resolving not to do it in the future).

The fact that it was a white scorpion may be significant. White is the most spiritual color there is which makes it more likely that the dream is referencing thoughts and intentions more than acts.

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What might your mother hugging a crocodile in a dream mean?

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A woman had the following dream:

Dream 454: I’ll Be Better in a While, Crocodile

 All I really remember of it is that there was an alligator or crocodile, I don’t know which one. It was on the ground and it crawled up to my mom. She was able to tame it and ended up literally cuddling with this crocodile or alligator! She wasn’t afraid and she literally was totally cool with having this animal right up by her. My mom is very compassionate and empathic. Google has not helped me at all to sift through what this means. Any thoughts?

Interpretation 

When you dream of your mother you are in this case dreaming of the emotionally positive qualities you have internalized from your mother. Crocodiles usually represent aggressive energy. That is not necessarily negative.

Your get-up-and-go is fueled by aggressive energy so you need a certain amount of aggressive energy to accomplish your goals. Water invariably represents emotions and this dream is about emotional integration within yourself. The dream is urging you to accept all parts of yourself even the aggressive parts because they can be used positively.

The dream says that you either are or it is recommending further use of your positive feminine mothering energy to accept your aggressive impulses so that they can be put to positive use such as being your get up and go to accomplish the goals that you want to. This dream is all about modulating aggressive Shadow energy so that it can be used positively. The dream is emphasizing that you have it within you to accomplish this.

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Playing with Players

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Tackling a Challenge

Dream 393: A coed dreamed that a football player who was a “player” socially (had many affairs with different women at the same time) wanted her to be his girlfriend. She could see his girlfriend in the background. The girlfriend was angry and anxious.

Interpretation

Each living thing in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s mind. Women usually go with an emotional power of the mind while men tend to go with an action-oriented part of the mind. The football player in the dream represented her wanting to date a player and convert him to being faithful to her.

This conflict had deep psychological roots. She constantly felt the need to prove herself worthy by winning the competition for a popular man or alpha male over other women. This was because she  felt in a one-down position from wealthy and popular women who were her friends. Her family had once been wealthy but fell on hard times.

Her relationships with players invariably ended with her feeling angry and anxious. She was caught in what Freud called a repetition compulsion. She was trying to prove needlessly that she was as good as other women despite being  beautiful and having many positive qualities.

The girlfriend in the dream represented how she ended up feeling pursuing “players.” She invariably ended up feeling angry and anxious. The dream was a warning to stop engaging in this repetitive mistake.

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What do closets, warehouses and storage units mean in dreams?

What can I use from my past?
What can I use from my past?

Storage areas in a dream such as warehouses,closets, storage facilties and even junkyards in some cases, typically represent influences in our mind or psyche. These things are “real” in the sense of being psychological memories, abilities, personal qualities and/or defenses we have stored in our minds. Dreams frequently rummage through these assets from the past to see if there is anything in our personal inventory that we can use in our present life situation. The dream that follows is an example of our subconscious taking inventory of our personal assets through a dream.

Dream 310: I Think About Things I Could Use From the Past, (but it makes me so angry)

A woman dreamt she had a dream that she lived on an army post. She saw a whole bunch of furniture and clothes right in front of her door. Some woman was leaving from her storage unit and had items that the dreamer owned in her hands.

The dreamer was puzzled. She was trying to figure out why this woman felt she had the right to take her personal items. At least one of the items was given to the dreamer by her mother. The dreamer felt hurt and angry that these things were being taken from her.

The dreamer was outraged. She was so angry that she was ready to physically fight the lady. The dreamer then woke up crying with a tremendous headache.


Interpretation

The dream begins at an army post. The army is part of the Department of Defense.  So the dream announced at the beginning that it was going to be about the dreamer’s defenses.

A house can represent the dreamer because it is the framework out of which the dreamer lives. Clothing represents defenses usually because it is what we present to the outside world.  Each character in the dream is usually a part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level.

This was a part of the dreamer’s psyche trying to look through her past and trying to see what was of value. In dreams storage facilities are frequently memory storage of our past. When storage areas are being rummaged through, typically the dreamer’s shadow is trying to find what could be of value there.

This is a shadow with a double entendre. That is, it may possibly be saying that her anger is getting in the way of retrieving valuable assets, defenses and personal qualities she had from the past. This is complicated by the possibility that anger over things that happened in the past may be getting in the way of using what was valuable from those difficult experiences.

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What does a deer and a mailbox mean in a dream?

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A deer my dear

Mailboxes have to do with messages we receive from others. A deer is a beautiful image that relates to instinctive affection or love. How these two play out in a dream is illustrated below.

Dream 309

The dreamer was a woman who went outside to get the mail. There was some snow and ice on the mail. There also were paper plates with little kid writing on it and. Wrapped inside the plates were parts of a maimed baby deer someone stuck in her mail box.

She looked up to explain what was happening to an inquiring passing neighbor. The neighbor mystifyingly and impatiently queried “already”? The neighbor became angry for some reason and the dreamer told her she was calling the police.

Interpretation

In dreams, water is emotion. Snow is cold water, i.e., cold emotion. This dream involves the mail which is where we receive messages from others.

Many letters to start out with “dear.” There literally is a maimed “deer” in the mailbox. It is written on material that typically involves nurturance, (plates usually hold food).

The messages looked like scribbling written by little kids. The neighbor apparently was seen by her as criminally insensitive so that she called the police. The trend of this dream implies that she were hurt by an insensitive childish thoughtless message or remark by someone she thought was a friend (her old lawyer?) who suddenly delivered an unkind message without realizing it.

The dreamer later verified the heart of this interpretation. She had just received an unfavorable message from a custody court involving her young children. She was dissatisfied to the point that she decided to get a new lawyer.

One surmises that the court and/or lawyer hurt her feelings to the point that he was no longer “dear” to her. Dreams often make a concrete almost clang association between words (deer=dear by analogy). She was advised to use dream incubation to help clarify her feelings toward the new lawyer.

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What does a shark mean in a dream?

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It’s Really Difficult to Leave This Home Pool

Dream 302                                                                     
A woman dreamed that she was underwater in a swimming pool that was a combination of a swimming pool and the ocean. It seemed vast and open on the one hand, but had a ladder and  swimming pool accessories on the other hand. In the water with her was a shark with a bloody mouth because he had just been feeding.

The shark made no move towards attacking her. She decided to leave the pool because she could not hold her breath any longer. She climbed up the pool ladder and was intending to go towards her mother and sister.

The shark grabbed her by the right leg as she was leaving the pool/ocean. The shark did not hurt or bite her. The shark only put enough pressure on the leg that  she could not leave the ocean/pool.

Interpretation

Water is invariably emotions in dreams. Particularly subconscious emotions. It depends upon what type of body of water it is also.

The open ocean represents the best symbol we have for the vast subconscious. A pool represents our emotions at home because pools are located near homes. The image in the dream sounds like a combination of the ocean and a pool so that they together represent deep subconscious emotions at home.

Each character in a dream represents a part of our mind. Women tend to represent the parts of the dreamers mind that deals with emotions. That her mother and sister are in the dream especially emphasizes that it’s about emotions at home.

Also, the shark having a bloody mouth indicates the color red. The color red goes with the first chakra. The first chakra often deals with family (or tribe) issues. The color red also signals strong emotions such as love and anger (which are present in spades in family issues).

Animals represent our instincts. The shark is an aggressive predator. It is a shadow energy that we all deal with and are uncomfortable with for the most part.

The dream implies that she is immersed in her emotions and dealing with instincts or anger which we all have. We need these instincts to some extent to defend ourselves. The dream indicates that she worries about being overly angry sometimes at home and tries not to dwell on it as it makes her uncomfortable.

When she tries to get out of the pool to go to her mother and sister, the shark grabs her right leg. This is important. It sounded like it didn’t really hurt the dreamer but mainly wanted her to stay in the pool.

This is the dreams way of saying it wants her to deal with these emotions. The dream wanted to help her deal emotionally with others. Even the fact that it grabbed her right leg is significant.

Legs support us. The right side is associated with our conscious intentions. This suggest that the dream wants her to deal with any angers she had at home to help her be supportive to others and to herself.

Possible Details to Wonder About

We know at the first level that this dream is about emotional conflicts at home. At the next and second level of the dream, it is vital to get details from the dreamer. Let me explain.

For example, this dream could involve money conflicts and difficulty leaving home. The term “loan shark” comes to mind. One wonders whether there are money issues.

It is possible that she is subconsciously angry because she feels controlled because someone she is close to her has a financial hold on her (the shark not allowing her to leave the pool is the major clue here). Being in such a situation is especially stressful because if she leaves the current financial arrangements, she might feel that she didn’t have a leg to stand on (the shark would not let go of her leg). While it looks like she might be in a “hostile dependency” situation, getting further details from the dreamer would be vital to fully interpret this interesting dream.

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The Whole Enchilada

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There Are Many Ways To Be Hot

Dream 293:A 32-year-old woman dreamt that she was an enchilada in a pan with other enchiladas on both sides of her. She was suffocatingly hot. She was so hot that she actually woke up to find her cat and her husband on each side of her.

Interpretation

This dream was true on both the physical and emotional levels of dream interpretation. She woke up because she was physically hot as the heat was turned up in her house and she was between the bodies of her cat and husband. Many people interpreting dreams would stop with the physical interpretation. That is most often a mistake.

While the physical interpretation is certainly true, the emotional interpretation of this dream was also accurate. She was a very nurturing person to her family which is why she appears as food in the dream. Food is psychological nurture in dreams. She admitted that she was “hot” in the sense that her husband had not had sex with her for awhile.

In this case the word “hot” took on multiple meanings. She was “hot” in the sense that she was good-looking. She was “hot” because she had not had sex for a while. Finally her anger toward her husband was a “hot” emotion. To disregard the psychological meaning of this dream would have missed a lot.

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Appearance of the Sacred Heroic Masculine

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Dream 288
A man in his forties dreamed repeatedly that he was visited by a white robed faceless spirit. This spirited man gave the dreamer all elements of a knights armor. He was given a knights helmet, breastplate, body armor, sword, etc.

This was a recurring dream where he found himself fighting evil night after night in his protective knights armor. He felt powerful and strong. He felt the dream was spiritually significant.

Interpretation
At the first level of dream interpretation, each character in the dream represents a part of the dreamer’s mind or psyche. Men are usually associated more with action parts of the mind. Women usually represent more emotional parts of the psyche.

Repetitive or recurrent dreams are almost always big dreams as Carl Jung believed that some dreams meant more than others. This was especially likely to be the case with recurrent dreams. Usually, the recurrent dream is returning to a repeated theme to continue to try to resolve a repetitive problem.

This dreamer was visited by his own spirit of the heroic masculine. The heroic masculine is the most positive aspect of masculinity. It is a major archetype ingrained in the collective subconscious of mankind.

The heroic masculine motto is “to serve and protect.” This is a very spiritual dream. White is the most spiritual color.

The fact that the heroic masculine was faceless and the evil he was fighting was vague indicated that there are many aspects of himself that he is not familiar with. The dream was recurring over the course of a month as his subconscious wanted him to get to know both the positive and shadow parts of his subconscious. The dream used knights armor to emphasize that chivalry of the heroic masculine. The dream use the armor to emphasize that it was mainly about how he protected himself so that he could protect and help others.

This dream was saying that he would be protected when he uses his heroic masculine to protect himself and others from evil. This dream was saying that the dreamer had developed the positive aspects of masculinity to the point where he was a spiritual warrior. The appearance of this strong of a form of the heroic masculine indicates that he was ready to take major positive action for himself and loved ones.

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My Attempt to Change Died

Dream 280: Change Died
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A 48-year-old woman dreamed that she bought the house of her son’s mother-in-law. When she arrived at this house, there was a dead baby in a casket with large funeral candles on each side of the casket.

Interpretation

This woman was hyper-critical of her son. His mother-in-law had a troubled background similar to his mother’s personal history. The mother-in-law was, nevertheless, relatively calm, more diplomatic, and less critical than the dreamer.
A house can represent the dreamer because it is the framework out of which one lives. That the dreamer bought the house indicates that the dreamer is aspiring to be a different person, to be more like her son’s mother-in-law. The deceased baby is not good news.

Each character in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s personality at the first level of dream interpretation. A baby represents a new part of the personality or psyche that the dreamer tried to develop. So a baby represents personal growth on the part of the dreamer.

That the baby is dead signals that her attempt to be different, to be more like the calmer mother-in-law, failed. That it was an attempt to change was highlighted by the funeral candles. Candles imply fire, and fire represents change because fire changes matter into energy.

It is perfect that they were funeral candles. Funeral candles are typically unlit. The unlit candles emphasized that no change had occurred. That it is a funeral scene gives some hope because the dreamer saw her lack of change as a real loss. The dreamer is in mourning which suggests that being more like the mother-in-law personality-wise was something that the dreamer really wanted.

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Feeding the Inner Shark

Dream 278: Feeding the Inner Shark

shark-predator-picture_29A0381-596x397A 42-year-old man dreamed that he was swimming in the ocean infested with sharks. Sometimes the sharks would bite him, and sometimes he would bite the sharks. Neither he nor the sharks were seriously hurt by the bites.

The scene shifted to his hometown streets being flooded. Again the water was filled with sharks. He was able to bite and nourish himself from the sharks. He somehow knew that eating the sharks was “medicinal.”

A Chinese woman came to warn him not to bite the sharks too much. She did not disapprove of his feeding on the sharks, but mainly wanted him not to go overboard. He knew that the sharks were not hurt by his feeding upon them, because the bite marks immediately healed and regenerated.

Interpretation
Water is emotion. The ocean is the best symbol of the subconscious that we have. Creatures in the ocean, like sharks, represent subconscious energy.

Sharks represent aggressive energy because they are the ultimate predators. A persona needs some aggressive energy to accomplish goals, as aggressive energy ends up being the “get up and go” needed to achieve. Other parts of the personality need to moderate the aggressive energy so that it is sublimated into desired outcomes.

The dream starts out by noting that sometimes he is the prey, and sometimes he is the predator. When the sharks are moved from the ocean to the streets of his hometown, the dream is moving from his subconscious (the ocean) to his conscious (the land). The dream emphasizes that incorporating predator behavior into himself (eating the shark) was genuinely healing or “medicinal.”

Women tend to represent more emotional parts of the psyche. That she was Chinese was the dream’s way of indicating that her way of handling emotions was somewhat foreign to him. The message of the dream was that he perhaps should be somewhat more assertive in getting what he wanted, but that he should not take it too far.

It was interesting that shark cartilage is thought to be healing. In the dream, this was emphasized over and over. No one was hurt by being bitten. Tissue that was bitten regenerated.

The dream was not overly critical as it indicated he vacillated from being prey or predator. It just thought he should be more predator-like somewhat more of the time. He may need even to be aggressive sometimes.

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Torrent of Anger

images(5)Dream 253: Changing the Torrent of Anger

A 34-year-old man dreamt of a tornado over the ocean creating a funnel of water. He was viewing the scene through his omniscient observer-ego. Suddenly two helicopters appeared. One was well above the top of the funnel while the other helicopter was well below the top of the funnel. Each of them fired a missile at the base of the funnel which destroyed it and removed its destructive potential.

Interpretation– He returned from Afghanistan with severe post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). He was losing his temper with his family and their children so often that they felt like they “were walking on eggshells.” In dreams, water is emotions and a tornado is a powerful and potentially destructive natural force which in this case is anger. Fire in dreams is change or transformation. Missiles explode and create fire, i.e. change.

Changes in elevation in dreams often represent different levels of consciousness. Lower levels address practical and everyday needs while higher levels typically address higher or even spiritual aspirations especially when flight is involved. Helicopters are strongly identified with the military.

Helicopters are a type of flight that is methodical, strategic and calculating. The dream indicated that he had totally changed. He had methodically trained himself to eliminate uncontrolled natural forces, i.e., anger, from family interactions. The dream was recognizing his radical changes on both higher and lower levels of consciousness.

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Dreams: Guide to the Soul

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This book shows how an experienced psychologist developed an intuitive dream interpretation method.

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What is the meaning of fire in a dream?

Dream 234: Descending Into Hell

   A 28-year old man dreamt that a pet cat was attacking and chewing on his neck. The scene then shifted to a large pit. He was standing to the side of a platform that was being lowered into the bowels of the pit. There were many people stacked on top of one another sideways with their feet toward the dreamer.

   He eventually saw that the platform was descending into hell. Fire raged all about them. A great sucking force was also starting to pull him down into the ghastly pit. He resisted with all his might and reached up to his wife who was at home in bed. She refused to help him.

Dream 234 Interpretation

   Family pets are associated with affections. Dogs tend to go with men. Cats tend to go with women. His wife was angry with him to the point that she could bite his head off.

   The people on the platform he recognized in his own words as parts of himself “that needed to go to hell.” Feet are a supportive part of the body.  The dream was emphasizing feet to show that providing psychological support to himself and his family (a wife and two sons) was a central issue.

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Burning Change

   Fire indicates the need for change as fire transforms matter into energy. He had many controlling and intimidating parts of himself that he needed to extricate from his psyche. These parts developed in response to abuse from his father and stepfathers. The dream makes a point of indicating that these threatening parts “sucked” and threatened to ruin the marriage (his wife was in bed at home). In any case, his wife had it with him and he would have to change through his efforts and not rely on her to pull him through.
 

Carl Jung and the Cosmic Reality of Dreams

Carl Jung and the Cosmic Reality of Dreams

The dream is the small hidden door in the deepest and most intimate sanctum of the soul, which opens to that primeval cosmic night that was soul long before there was conscious ego and will be soul far beyond what a conscious ego could ever reach. Dr. Carl Jung

Working with dreams makes one more spiritual. The organization, depth, breadth, and reach of dreams is truly cosmic. One feels a greater unifying power when interpreting dreams. Steven G. Fox, Ph.D.

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Dream 212: Slinging Mud

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Dream 212: Don’t Muddy the World

A 50-year-old man dreamt that he had grenades made of mud. He was throwing the grenades over a hill and they exploded.

Dream 212–Interpretation

The dream was saying that, for him, slinging mud was explosive.

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Saving Myself from My Anger

 

Dream 194: Saving Myself from My Anger

A 36-year-old man dreamt that he was on a raft2004-tsunami with his brother who was two years older.  There were other swimmers in the water who were quite relaxed.  Suddenly a huge wave came that lifted the water level very high.  Then another wave raised the water level even higher.  He decided to land the raft at a nearby island where he went to a campground.  He left the brother behind.

Dream 194 Interpretation

The brother consistently bullied him when they were growing up.  Worse than that, his brother hit on two of his girlfriends when he was in his early twenties.  The dream presents himself surrounded by his relaxed parts of the psyche while he tries to deal with his anger (his older brother).  He is trying to deal with the emotional upset with his bullying brother that still irritated him and made it more likely that he would lose his temper.

Water is emotion. The two huge waves are the huge waves of emotion he felt after his brother tried to seduce each of his girlfriends.  The dream, by the way it begins with relaxed bodies in the river (relaxed parts of his psyche), and by the way it ends with him going to a natural island campground and leaving the brother on the raft, is urging him to leave the anger behind and relax.  The dream urged him to ride the waves of emotion out to where they can do no harm.

My Temper Is Old Faithful

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My Temper Is Old Faithful

Dream 177: My Temper Is Old Faithful

A 28-year-old man dreamed that he saw in his mind a huge amount of volcanic activity going on below the surface of the earth. He then saw himself near a field of geysers. The geysers were erratically with no predictability spewing huge sprays of hot water into the air.

Dream 177–Interpretation
Beneath the surface in this case meant that the volcanic activity was occurring within his subconscious. The fiery red activity he envisioned that propelled the heating of the water was his subconscious anger. Water is emotion. Red signifies intense emotion.

Hot water is often a hot temper. He was in therapy to change his tendency to erupt impulsively with anger in job situations. His unpredictable and explosive rants of anger adversely affected his career.

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Her Paint Wears Thin

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Dream 230: The Paint Is Wearing Thin

Analyst Jeremy Taylor in his book, Where People Fly and Water Runs Uphill, described a woman who was terrorized by a recurrent dream in which the white paint of her house was bubbling up and peeling away. She felt strangely horrified by this dream and would awaken each time she had it.

Dream 230—Interpretation

Recurrent dreams are “big” dreams because they usually represent the dreamer trying to solve repetitive and similar problems at different points in the dreamer’s lifetime. The house can represent the dreamer because that was the framework out of which she lived. White in almost all cultures is the most spiritual color as it is representative of “the light.”

The paint bubbling away meant that she was at those times feeling hypocritical. Her spiritual veneer or what she showed to the outside world was wearing off and exposing her inner worn surface. That the paint was “bubbling” off indicated that she felt internal anger that threatened to surface. This possibility horrified her.

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