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What might your mother hugging a crocodile in a dream mean?

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A woman had the following dream:

Dream 454: I’ll Be Better in a While, Crocodile

 All I really remember of it is that there was an alligator or crocodile, I don’t know which one. It was on the ground and it crawled up to my mom. She was able to tame it and ended up literally cuddling with this crocodile or alligator! She wasn’t afraid and she literally was totally cool with having this animal right up by her. My mom is very compassionate and empathic. Google has not helped me at all to sift through what this means. Any thoughts?

Interpretation 

When you dream of your mother you are in this case dreaming of the emotionally positive qualities you have internalized from your mother. Crocodiles usually represent aggressive energy. That is not necessarily negative.

Your get-up-and-go is fueled by aggressive energy so you need a certain amount of aggressive energy to accomplish your goals. Water invariably represents emotions and this dream is about emotional integration within yourself. The dream is urging you to accept all parts of yourself even the aggressive parts because they can be used positively.

The dream says that you either are or it is recommending further use of your positive feminine mothering energy to accept your aggressive impulses so that they can be put to positive use such as being your get up and go to accomplish the goals that you want to. This dream is all about modulating aggressive Shadow energy so that it can be used positively. The dream is emphasizing that you have it within you to accomplish this.

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What does an aggressive baby and a prizefighter mean in a dream?

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Feisty Baby

Dream 400: Change without hurting who you are

A woman had the following dream:

“I had a nightmare…. I was in a mall and people kept coming up the escalator covered in blood. I didnt pay any attention to them until my deceased uncle came up the excalator and said do something. Then at that point I went looking for who was hurting the people and it turned out to be a baby ! So I stabbed this baby with an unusual tool, and the baby fell to the ground and then got back up again and I kept jabbing the baby in the neck….at that point I woke up feeling very disturbed.”

My Interpretation

Each person in a dream represents a part of your mind. Men tend to go with your actions while women tend to go with your emotions. Having a baby in a dream means that this is a new part of yourself that you are developing.

Developing this new part of yourself is causing all kinds of commotion in your life and is changing you symbolized by the innocent people being hurt in the mall. You want to get rid of it, but it is persistent and wants to live in you.

It is interesting that your uncle was a prize fighter. One would think his advice would go something like “keep this part in line, and don’t let it hurt any other parts of you.” So you have to keep this newer feisty part of you in line so that it does not hurt who you have been.

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What does it mean when cats attack me in my dreams?

Avoid those who do not return your affection
Avoid those who do not return your affection

Dream 395: Looking for love in all the wrong places

A man had the following dream:

“I have trouble with cats in some dreams. At first I’m glad to see a cat, but sooner or later they claw in my arms or legs and they won’t let go. It’s painful and I want it to stop asap, feeling annoyed and threatened maybe. I don’t really know what to make of it.”

Interpretation

I think this dream is a combination or a condensation of the first two levels of dream interpretation which is as it involves yourself and as it involves you in interpersonal relationships.

To say it simply, you have hurt yourself by having affections for people who do not have affection for you. Pets usually represent your affections. They are probably women given the cat usually goes with women and female affections. In any case, the emphasis is on emotional affection and how you are being hurt by it.

The thought is that on the interpersonal level the people you are having affection for do not only not return the affection, but actively hurt you. It is interesting that the cats will not let go and continue to hurt you.

I believe this is saying that you persist in showing affection to people who do not return the affection, and these people continue to persist in wanting to hurt you. You continue to show affection to people who are not only not neutral, but are hazardous to your welfare.

  1. This is not given in a professional sense but in an investigative / interest way and should not be relied upon to run your life.
Love those that return the affection
Love those that return the affection and see things from a different angle

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Catholic Church on Dreams

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The following was written by Father Augustine and may represent the Catholic Church’s stance on dreams:

“The Nature of Dreams A dream is an illusory psychic activity, particularly of a visual nature that occurs during sleep. It is essentially a psychological phenomenon with many philosophical, religious and moral implications.

Scientific findings on dreams have shown them to involve perception, creative and reproductive imagination, association of ideas and images, memory and emotion. Thinking and reasoning may also occur in dreams but on a superficial and uncritical level (this is important in relation to the moral relevance of what one does in the midst of a dream). At times one is aware of a type of “choosing” within dreams — such as resistance to temptation; however, such “willed acts” do not stem from a free decision-making ability but rather from behavioral habits and automatic responses.

The critical powers of the mind such as reality testing and decision making are greatly impaired in dreaming, which accounts for the incoherent and chaotic nature of many dreams. In a dream the distinction between reality and imagination is totally lost or at least impaired. Dreams can be natural or supernatural.

If they are supernatural then their origin lies in God, angels or demons. Dreams can also be induced by hypnosis. What causes dreams can seldom be traced to one well defined external or internal stimulus. Rather, they are brought about my many interacting factors of a perceptual, emotional, motivational and physiological nature.

Dreaming occurs in cycles following the fluctuation of sleep stages. It appears when the dreamer emerges from the stage of deep sleep. In an average night’s sleep a person dreams from 1 to 2 hours with dreams distributed in three to five periods, lasting from 20 to 30 minutes, and each sleep period followed at intervals of about 90 minutes.

Dreams are primarily made up of visual imagery. Most of the images are black and white. The content of dreams is usually very personal and intimate, and has to do with one’s attitudes toward oneself and toward important people in one’s environment.

In terms of emotional content, dreams range from ecstatic fantasies to nightmares. There is a preponderance of unpleasant dreams caused by fear, anger or sadness. Dreams of sex and aggression are quite frequent.”

My views do not conflict with the Catholic Church; however, I do take a more expanded view of dreams which I think is acceptable to nearly every religion. I also like Buddhists’ view of reality and dreams.

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What does nursing a bear and corraling a herd of bears mean in a dream?

Your inner bear can help you fly
Your inner bear can help you fly

Dream 373: Nursing and Corralling Bears

A woman dreamed one night that she was nursing a bear cub. The next night she had the following dream:
“I dreamed of bears again only this time there was a very large herd of them being chased into a coral by men on atv’s; big bears, mama’s and daddy’s and cubs. I must confess, I am really excited about all this dream activity and what it portends for my future.”

My Interpretation

Nurturing a bear cub usually means you are nurturing perhaps new-found strength and assertiveness. You are developing ways to use your aggression for positive purposes like proper assertiveness.

Bears usually go with aggression and animals most often represent your instincts. The Bear is a powerful animal and indicates that you have massive energy inside probably.

Bears often represent aggressive impulses. This does not mean that they are bad. Aggressive impulses also end up being your “get up and go.”

I think the men on the ATVs, the all terrain vehicles, show that you are flexible and strong enough to corral your aggressive impulses so that they can be used positively. Men usually go with doing the actions you need to do to accomplish a goal. All terrain vehicles signal flexibility probably.
You have massive inner energy, get up and go, that you are nurturing and corraling for a productive purpose. Go for it!

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What is the Divine Child archetype in dreams?

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Dream 367: Giving the Divine Child archetype some spiritual courage
A young man had the following dream in his own words:

“I was walking beside a girl in a part of my dream last night. She was very sweet. As we were walking into a building I felt a presence behind her.

I looked back and there was a woman dressed in dark holding a gun to her.

I put my hand on the spine of the girl I was beside and humbly whispered ‘in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit.’

Nothing more

Nothing less

And in that moment a light flashed over the girl with the gun and she put it down and said in a similar tone as mine when I spoke. She said ‘thank you.’

I smirked at her in a loving but strong way and walked the girl into the building she was going into.”

Interpretation

Assuming that the girl was a child, it was probably the Divine Child archetype. The Divine Child carries all our hopes, dreams and wishes for the future, like Jesus Christ did. It often is a blue-eyed blonde-haired little girl between the ages of 3 and 11. It can be other physical features, but these are the most frequent in our culture.

The girl as a Divine Child archetype would represent positive emotions and hoped for plans for the future. Women usually represent an emotional part of the dreamer. A woman with a gun is shadow aggressive/negative emotions.

The dreamer put his hand on her spine and say something very spiritual. The dream is saying that strong spirituality helps him stand up to negative emotions, it helps him have more spine.

The dreamer in the dream is acting as the heroic masculine which is usually the part of the personality that is involved in healing. It takes the action necessary to heal the person or make them better. In this case, the heroic masculine is lending his strength to Divine Child emotionality so that his plans can be actualized and come into reality.

When the Heroic Masculine lends it’s strength in performing healing action to the Divine Child, the Self can only say “thank you” that Shadow emotions were overcome and vanquished.

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What does being stabbed in the heart mean in a dream?

I cannot believe how I have been hurt
I cannot believe how I have been hurt

Dream 315: You Actually Did That!

A woman dreamed that she was asleep in the dream. Someone was sneaking up on her with a knife. She woke up just as they went to stab her in the heart. She dreamed that she woke up as the person was completing actually stabbing her in the heart. She later indicated that the attacker was a hooded figure.

Interpretation

Being stabbed in the heart often means that the dreamer has been hurt and has heartache over either words or actions. Being asleep in a dream usually means that the dreamer was unconscious or unaware of what led up to the hurt, but she suddenly woke up while being stabbed which usually indicates sudden awareness and shock that the hurtful actions and/or words are occurring right in front of her.

The first level of dream interpretation is always the hardest but potentially the most beneficial.  At this first level, where you consider each character to be a part of the dreamer’s psyche, a hooded figure like that is often the dreamer’s shadow. We think of it as being the aggressive part which is used for self-protection and usually is the main part that changes in therapy.

If the dream is looked at in that way,  her shadow could be urging her to wake up and have a change of heart because she was  hurt.  The shadow wants to get  her out of the situation. Messages from the shadow are almost always dramatic and this may or may not apply to the dreamer’s situation.

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What does a shadow figure mean in a dream?

Shadow Energy
Shadow Energy

The Shadow is a major dream archetype. It is usually a dark figure in profile or can be a criminal or aggressive stalking figure that either tries to break in to your residence or is pursuing you in some way. We all have a shadow. These contain aggressive impulses and parts of ourselves that we have rejected for now.

The shadow also contains our “get up and go.” it is vital to the personality. Other parts of the personality need to be in contact with the shadow to place appropriate limits on it. By working with the shadow, the other parts of the personality benefit by getting the energy that is in the shadow that can be put to good use.

The following is a dream I had at a critical time that assured me that I would make it through a conflict:

Dream 305: The Caped Crusader

I saw a dark caped figure moving energetically down a hall towards me who seemed mysterious but not threatening. It had the aire almost of an evangelical figure arriving to save us all. I looked at him with awe as I was leaning down to tie my shoe.

Interpretation

This was a numinous or luminous image of the shadow. A numinous or luminous image fills the observer with awe because of its power and is almost sacred in nature. The Savior-moving energy of this dark almost evangelical hero image was to reassure me that I had lots of energy which I would have to use in the adversarial conflict I was in the middle of.

Even the detail of tying my shoes was important. Shoes protect the feet and allow us to get somewhere faster in safety. The feet are supportive of our body.

Tying my shoe meant that I was getting myself together to protect and support myself to get to where I needed to be in this conflict. While it was a high level conflict, I believe this detail was emphasizing the importance of details. Not tying your shoe could impede your progress. Not overlooking a detail in the huge administrative conflict I was involved in was extremely important.

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What does a shark mean in a dream?

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It’s Really Difficult to Leave This Home Pool

Dream 302                                                                     
A woman dreamed that she was underwater in a swimming pool that was a combination of a swimming pool and the ocean. It seemed vast and open on the one hand, but had a ladder and  swimming pool accessories on the other hand. In the water with her was a shark with a bloody mouth because he had just been feeding.

The shark made no move towards attacking her. She decided to leave the pool because she could not hold her breath any longer. She climbed up the pool ladder and was intending to go towards her mother and sister.

The shark grabbed her by the right leg as she was leaving the pool/ocean. The shark did not hurt or bite her. The shark only put enough pressure on the leg that  she could not leave the ocean/pool.

Interpretation

Water is invariably emotions in dreams. Particularly subconscious emotions. It depends upon what type of body of water it is also.

The open ocean represents the best symbol we have for the vast subconscious. A pool represents our emotions at home because pools are located near homes. The image in the dream sounds like a combination of the ocean and a pool so that they together represent deep subconscious emotions at home.

Each character in a dream represents a part of our mind. Women tend to represent the parts of the dreamers mind that deals with emotions. That her mother and sister are in the dream especially emphasizes that it’s about emotions at home.

Also, the shark having a bloody mouth indicates the color red. The color red goes with the first chakra. The first chakra often deals with family (or tribe) issues. The color red also signals strong emotions such as love and anger (which are present in spades in family issues).

Animals represent our instincts. The shark is an aggressive predator. It is a shadow energy that we all deal with and are uncomfortable with for the most part.

The dream implies that she is immersed in her emotions and dealing with instincts or anger which we all have. We need these instincts to some extent to defend ourselves. The dream indicates that she worries about being overly angry sometimes at home and tries not to dwell on it as it makes her uncomfortable.

When she tries to get out of the pool to go to her mother and sister, the shark grabs her right leg. This is important. It sounded like it didn’t really hurt the dreamer but mainly wanted her to stay in the pool.

This is the dreams way of saying it wants her to deal with these emotions. The dream wanted to help her deal emotionally with others. Even the fact that it grabbed her right leg is significant.

Legs support us. The right side is associated with our conscious intentions. This suggest that the dream wants her to deal with any angers she had at home to help her be supportive to others and to herself.

Possible Details to Wonder About

We know at the first level that this dream is about emotional conflicts at home. At the next and second level of the dream, it is vital to get details from the dreamer. Let me explain.

For example, this dream could involve money conflicts and difficulty leaving home. The term “loan shark” comes to mind. One wonders whether there are money issues.

It is possible that she is subconsciously angry because she feels controlled because someone she is close to her has a financial hold on her (the shark not allowing her to leave the pool is the major clue here). Being in such a situation is especially stressful because if she leaves the current financial arrangements, she might feel that she didn’t have a leg to stand on (the shark would not let go of her leg). While it looks like she might be in a “hostile dependency” situation, getting further details from the dreamer would be vital to fully interpret this interesting dream.

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The Joy of the Divine Child

Our Hopes and Dreams
Our Hopes and Dreams

Dream 286: A Woman in her twenties had a recurrent dream that she woke up in a room with a man sleeping next to her. A noise caught her attention. She leaned over the man to see a little girl playing on the floor.

She woke the man up who picked up the little girl. The little girl had been playing with books. She looked at her book while sitting on the man’s lap. The little girl was a beautiful child that had hair so soft the dreamer could not resist touching her hair.

The dreamer asked the man who the beautiful little girl was. He had an amazing smile on his face as he said to the dreamer that the little girl was hers. As he handed the toddler to the dreamer, the child wrapped her arms around the dreamer’s neck.

The dreamer then felt that she knew exactly who the little girl was. She knew now with conviction that the little girl was hers. She felt joyously elated.

Interpretation

The dreamer was visited by her Divine Child archetype. The Divine Child is usually a little girl often with blonde hair and blue eyes (not necessarily) between the ages of 3 and 10 years old. She represented the dreamer’s hopes and dreams for the future.

At the first level of dream interpretation, each character in a dream represents part of the dreamer’s mind. Men typically go with actions; women usually go more with emotions. This is not absolutely so, but it is usually the case.

Thus, the man in the dream and the child together represent her mature actions energized by her hopes and dreams, the Divine Child archetype. The thought is that she recently decided on actions that will further her hopes and dreams. The inclusion of books suggest a thoughtful, intelligent or academic decision might be part of the scenario. The dreamer is to be congratulated.

Only the dreamer knows enough of the details of her life to be able to apply this interpretation to her interpersonal life. The man in the dream is significant in a positive way. He is the heroic masculine archetype. His appearance is often good news because it means the dreamer is ready to take positive action in life. His motto is “to serve and protect.”

It is no wonder that this dream made the dreamer feel joyous. Usually a dreamer at this stage begins to know what they want and are ready to take steps to actualize their life. The fact that this was a recurrent dream means that this dream is a “big dream.”

Recurrent dreams are big dreams that mean more than other dreams. That is because the dream is addressing repetitive issues in the dreamer’s life. Recurrent dreams make repeated attempts to get the message to the dreamer until the dreamer “gets it.”

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Emotional Terror

Emotional Veiled Terror
Emotional Veiled Terror

Dream 282: A 42-year-old man dreamed that he saw a woman through the keyhole of his front door who was a veiled terrorist. He later saw the terrorist watching his house from several hundred feet away. His wife went out to the street and she and the terrorist got into a fight.

The fighting was very intense and cat-like. His wife was enraged that the female terrorist/spy was smoking. They were then both arrested by the police.

Interpretation

Each character in the dream represents a
part of the dreamer’s mind or psyche. A house can represent the dreamer because it is the framework out of which he lives. Women usually represent emotional parts of the mind.

His wife is his most significant other and that is a good representation of his overall emotions. It is of interest that the dreamer used to work as a corporate spy so he was well familiar with the emotions that go along with that role. He recently had been emotionally terrorising his wife by being unpredictably catty and somewhat harsh.

The dream assured him that no good would come of this strategy as the conflict is too intense. His wife being enraged at the smoking is probably due to his wife and that portion of his mind that deals with his wife being enraged/concerned that he was making being unpredictable with his wife a habit.

There is condensation of the two levels of dream interpretation as he feels intrapsychic conflict over the difficulties with his wife and he has some guilt over spying on her; however, the dream is also concerned with the interpersonal strife he is raising in his personal life. The police showing up and arresting the women indicated that he felt some guilt over the conflict he caused within himself and in his marriage. Police are usually superego figures that enforce the law of your conscience.

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Calming the Tiger Within

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Calming the Tiger Within

This stunning picture is of a Buddhist monk sharing his meal with a tiger. His inner peace is so strong that the tiger feels it, is not threatened by him, and is able to modulate tiger instinct. This could be a model of how to deal with the vastly different parts of each person’s mind.

In dreams, at the first level, each creature and character in the dream represents a part of the mind or psyche. If this were a dream, the tiger would represent the shadow, often the aggressive side of our instinctual nature. This instinctual nature needs to be tamed and not eliminated. The monk would typically represent an altruistic action part of the subconscious.

The Shadow energy is vital for self-defense. It also is our “get up and go” energy needed to complete any work, projects, or competition successfully. The Shadow has to allow other parts of the personality to cooperate with it or disaster unfolds.

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Feeding the Inner Shark

Dream 278: Feeding the Inner Shark

shark-predator-picture_29A0381-596x397A 42-year-old man dreamed that he was swimming in the ocean infested with sharks. Sometimes the sharks would bite him, and sometimes he would bite the sharks. Neither he nor the sharks were seriously hurt by the bites.

The scene shifted to his hometown streets being flooded. Again the water was filled with sharks. He was able to bite and nourish himself from the sharks. He somehow knew that eating the sharks was “medicinal.”

A Chinese woman came to warn him not to bite the sharks too much. She did not disapprove of his feeding on the sharks, but mainly wanted him not to go overboard. He knew that the sharks were not hurt by his feeding upon them, because the bite marks immediately healed and regenerated.

Interpretation
Water is emotion. The ocean is the best symbol of the subconscious that we have. Creatures in the ocean, like sharks, represent subconscious energy.

Sharks represent aggressive energy because they are the ultimate predators. A persona needs some aggressive energy to accomplish goals, as aggressive energy ends up being the “get up and go” needed to achieve. Other parts of the personality need to moderate the aggressive energy so that it is sublimated into desired outcomes.

The dream starts out by noting that sometimes he is the prey, and sometimes he is the predator. When the sharks are moved from the ocean to the streets of his hometown, the dream is moving from his subconscious (the ocean) to his conscious (the land). The dream emphasizes that incorporating predator behavior into himself (eating the shark) was genuinely healing or “medicinal.”

Women tend to represent more emotional parts of the psyche. That she was Chinese was the dream’s way of indicating that her way of handling emotions was somewhat foreign to him. The message of the dream was that he perhaps should be somewhat more assertive in getting what he wanted, but that he should not take it too far.

It was interesting that shark cartilage is thought to be healing. In the dream, this was emphasized over and over. No one was hurt by being bitten. Tissue that was bitten regenerated.

The dream was not overly critical as it indicated he vacillated from being prey or predator. It just thought he should be more predator-like somewhat more of the time. He may need even to be aggressive sometimes.

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What does eating and Holy Communion mean in a dream?

“Do this in memory of me”

Dream Symbolism 350: I have always wondered about the symbolism of “Holy Communion.” Followers literally talk about symbolically eating the body and drinking the blood of the avatar. I’ve come to some understanding of this phenomenon through dreams.

Dreams use primary process thinking. It consists of very raw, primitive and unfiltered drives. As Freud maintained, sex and aggression are important drives. This is a limited view which includes only the most basic drives.

Jung recognized added drives such as social desires and self actualization needs that dreams expressed. A big part of fulfilling these needs is the want to improve one’s character.

Eating in dreams is usually one of two main metaphors:

(1) Eating in a restaurant, at home, at work or a pleasant scene usually is talking about how one is psychologically nurtured in that particular part of his or her life. The setting and who one is eating with has much to say about how the dreamer is supported / nurtured in a particular situation or with a certain person .

(2) Especially when one is eating something unusual or symbolic, the dream is usually indicating the dreamer is trying to merge certain qualities into his psyche. For example, a person taking Holy Communion in a ceremony is trying to join the holy and good qualities of the avatar being worshipped. These ceremonies are joyfully celebrating the idea that one is incorporating the holiness of the divine into themselves.

In the case of unusual items, the dreamer eating clay mugs may symbolize that the person wants to contain their emotions more. Mugs contain liquids that we are drinking. Liquids, and especially water, usually represent emotion. At the most basic level, a mug contains water and puts limits on the water so that one can handle it properly and ingest it. What the dream is saying is that the person wants to properly contain and deal with their emotions within themselves.

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Quit Irritating Me!

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A 44-year-old man dreamt that he was sitting on a couch. Little wild, furry and aggressive creatures were trying to climb up the back of the couch. A high school friend was leaning over him and protecting him from the creatures. Every so often the friend slapped a creature so that it fell down the back of the couch.

Dream 190 Interpretation

The furry aggressive creatures represented instinctive aggression. He described the high school friend as chronically depressed.  The dream is saying that he becomes depressed to avoid becoming aggressive. At work, he was very irritated by all the little squabbles he had to deal with in customer service.

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