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Dream 273: Be A Man

images(3)Dream 273: A 33-year-old man dreamt that he fathered a child with his younger brother’s girlfriend.

 

Interpretation

To begin to take this dream apart, one has to realize that each character in the dream represents a part of the dreamers psyche or mind. Men tend to go with action part while women usually represent emotional parts of the mind.

 

The first step is to find out what his brother and his girlfriend separately represent to the dreamer. His brother was younger and impulsive and extroverted and social. So his brother represents action. The dreamer himself was a passive accountant who was introverted.

 

So the dream is calling for the dreamer to be more extroverted and somewhat impulsive. His subconscious is trying to move him from being passive into being more actively involved with others. A new baby represents a new part of the dreamer’s mind. In that way, it represents new potential that is being developed.

 

This is what the dream means on the first level. The dream is also true on the second or interpersonal level. He recently started to date a woman who used to date his younger brother. She was very extroverted and social. The dream was calling for him to develop the qualities of being more social while giving approval to his recent dating. When both levels collapse together like that, we call it condensation.

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You Are So Far Gone!

images(2)Dream 263: A 19-year-old man dreamed that he was in a parked car at night. One of his friends from high school, David, tapped on the passenger window. He asked the dreamer to come out of the car.

The dreamer proceeded to the back of a car and simultaneously saw his best girlfriend from high school and his worst and most evil girlfriend walking hand in hand down the sidewalk in front of the car. When the dreamer went to the back of the car, David hugged him and said “You are so far gone!”

Interpretation:Being in a car parked at night means that you have been subconsciously passive. Night time goes with inactivity and passivity. Darkness usually represents the subconscious while the brightness of day represents more conscious and more active parts of the psyche.

Each character in the dream represents a different part of the dreamer’s mind or psyche. Men tend to go with more active parts of the mind while women usually represent more emotional parts of the psyche. He was being beckoned by an active part of his psyche, David, to be more active.

Two characters in a dream hugging indicates that those two parts of the psyche are integrating. The dream wanted him to integrate action into his life more.

The good girlfriend represented more positive emotional parts of himself while the evil girlfriend represented his shadow emotions.

He was very resistant to recognizing and using shadow emotions in his life. In therapy, it was clear he needed to use some of the aggressive shadow emotions because these emotions end up being your “get up and go.” It was a good sign that his positive emotions (the good girlfriend) was holding hands with shadow emotions (the evil girlfriend) because this indicated some beginning integration.

This statement that “You are so far gone!” was actually a compliment. It meant that his new outlook of being willing to be more assertive in seeking his goals was firmly established. He would never return to being his old self.
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