“Dreams are wonderful for me lately. I dream of my deceased parents staying married (they divorced when I was 4), seeing them grow old together. Just wishful thinking?”
Whatever theory you look at in mental health, it eventually gets back to mom and dad, it is not the whole thing, it is just a part of it which gets less and less as you get older but there is probably always still some remnant of your parents. The mother and the father you dream of now are the mother and father in your mind which are called a mother introject and a father introject.
The father introject is most often the basis of your actions. The mother introject is most often the basis of your emotions.
Marriage is a union of different parts of your mind. If it is a marriage between your father and your mother, it typically represents you’re integrating your emotions with your actions. The fact that you dream of them growing old together indicates that the integration is a long-term effect. Congratulations!
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Dream 375: Permission to Master and Guide My Emotions and Creativity
A woman had the following dream:
“I was talking to my dad asking his permission to bring home a grand piano. He said we have to ask your mom. So,anyway I brought the grand piano in a den that I’ve never seen before nor have I been there.My mom and dad were there and I said to my mom “Can we keep it? The piano matches the mantel, mom, please.” She said, “Okay.” The dream ended there.”
At the first level in a dream, your father represents your father introject which is often the basis of your actions. Your mother introject is usually the foundation of your emotions. So this is a big dream.
A piano, and particularly a grand piano, usually represents creativity and mastery. Music puts us in a certain mood that we control by our selection of music we play so that it can be emotionally related. It may be related to deciding to control your emotions.
In thought emotionally, and in action, you decided on some level to give yourself the means to make beautiful music emotionally or something on that order would be my first idea. And giving yourself permission to do this creative or emotional thing is something that you have decided upon to let yourself do.
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A woman dreamed one night that she was nursing a bear cub. The next night she had the following dream:
“I dreamed of bears again only this time there was a very large herd of them being chased into a coral by men on atv’s; big bears, mama’s and daddy’s and cubs. I must confess, I am really excited about all this dream activity and what it portends for my future.”
Nurturing a bear cub usually means you are nurturing perhaps new-found strength and assertiveness. You are developing ways to use your aggression for positive purposes like proper assertiveness.
Bears usually go with aggression and animals most often represent your instincts. The Bear is a powerful animal and indicates that you have massive energy inside probably.
Bears often represent aggressive impulses. This does not mean that they are bad. Aggressive impulses also end up being your “get up and go.”
I think the men on the ATVs, the all terrain vehicles, show that you are flexible and strong enough to corral your aggressive impulses so that they can be used positively. Men usually go with doing the actions you need to do to accomplish a goal. All terrain vehicles signal flexibility probably.
You have massive inner energy, get up and go, that you are nurturing and corraling for a productive purpose. Go for it!
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In a dream, the dreamer who was a man was in a medical facility escorting a young soldier to an operation. A dark haired lady and another fellow were pushing the soldier along on a cart. The dreamer somehow knew the two physicians were actually escaped convicts. The soldier was given a syringe of something and passed out.
Dreams at a medical facility or physicians are often about healing. Each person in a dream usually represents a part of your mind with men going more with actions and women going more with emotions. The convicts would be shadow parts of the personality that are imposters.
A soldier typically represents the heroic masculine because he is willing to die for his country. This part of the personality is often a healing action part–it is a part of the dreamer that is usually involved in implementing the healing actions. The problem is that he is wounded and needs genuine help and not imposters.
The syringe that causes him to pass out is a phoney cure. The implication is that the dreamer has been wounded and is trying to get healing, but is taken advantage of by imposters that do not have his best interests at heart. There is an implication that the dreamer is looking for a substance or force outside himself for healing that causes him not to be conscious (the soldier passes out) of his best interests. The remedy is not to believe imposters posing as healers who are criminally minded. The bottom line may be a warning to rely more on his own internal strength or soul.
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A woman dreamed she was in a gigantic cathedral whose ceiling went far into the sky. There were 3 five-year-old boys who ran over to a pew where she was. They were very excited and each wanted her to choose him.
She felt she had to touch each of their hands to pick the right one for her. She felt a massive energy exchange when she touched each one. She then had a second dream of a tiny loving puppy curled in her lap.
The dream starts out in a Cathedral so it is probably about spiritual choices. There are three young boys. 3 is the number of change because 3 people in a relationship is the most unstable situation .
The idea is that each of the little boys is a part of the dreamer’s psyche. They are action parts of her psyche because they are male. (Female characters tend to go with more emotional parts of the mind.)
The dream was predicting that the dreamer will pick a new course of action with spiritual implications. Puppies like kitties usually go with affections. Only puppies usually go more with men which again goes with an action part of the mind.
All in all, looking across the two dreams, they were probably predicting, I believe, that she was going to choose a new course of action which had spiritual implications that she was going to love. The energy exchange she felt when she passed her hand in front of each boy indicated that her choice will bring new energy into her life.
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Spiders weave intricate webs which are traps to catch their prey. Thus, they are associated with manipulation. Someone may have a complex plan to ensnare the dreamer into a compromised situation in their life which serves the manipulator. Conversely, the dreamer may be the manipulator and the dream may be commenting on complicated plans that the dreamer has.
Insects are not mammals and have no empathy. They represent pure action and precise strategic moves without emotion. They treat everything outside themselves, including people, as objects to be used for their own advantage.
The meaning has taken a different turn in some cases in this day and age. The dream may be commenting on the dreamers involvement with the Internet which is frequently called the “web.” This is not that common and is confined mostly to people that are extremely technology astute or involved with modern Internet applications.
There’s usually a nefarious meaning associated with catching someone in a web. This is rooted in ancient history such as in the saying, “What a tangled web we weave when we first start to deceive.”
When the dreamer is the manipulator, there is the chance that the planned complicated deception could backfire on the dreamer. A manipulative liar has to have a good memory of the path of the many deceptions involved in trapping another person.The manipulator or spider wants to make sure that it can negotiate its own weaved intricate web. It makes sense that a manipulative liar is seen as a repugnant spider.
So dreaming of spiders often involves situations in the dreamer’s life where the dreamer is either being manipulated or is the manipulator. In my experience, it is more often associated with the dreamer being concerned about being manipulated. I believe this is because dreams main goal is the best interests of the dreamer.
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(1) The intrapsychic level involves the psychodynamic processes within the person themselves. At this first level, each person or creature in the dream represents a part of the dreamer’s psyche. Females signal the dreamer’s emotions, while males are associated with behavior. One can literally think of the characters/creatures/animals in a dream representing different parts of the dreamer’s psyche–either an emotional (female) or an action (male) part of the psyche.
This is at once the most difficult and most fruitful level of dream interpretation. One has to discipline oneself to see this level because the natural human tendency is to go to the second and interpersonal level of dream interpretation. At this first level, it is hard to see each character in the dream as part of the dreamer because one enters an endless hall of mirrors. For example, at the first level, the dreamer’s wife in the dream typically represents the emotional part of the dreamer’s mind that deals with his wife. (to be continued)
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Dream 290: A woman in her twenties dreamed that she was in a broken run down apartment. She was with loved ones who were insanely content with the condition of the building. The dreamer wondered why they were so happy. They replied that they were satisfied and intended to stay.
Suddenly, the walls began crumbling, the ceilings fell in and the doors were in flames. She then had a vision of Zeus and saw a storm approaching. She somehow felt that she chose lightning which struck a tree in her yard which burst into flames. The tree fell toward the dreamer and crashed through her window.
The dreamer was unscathed, but ran out of the house because she was full of fear that she and loved ones would be hurt. As she ran outside, there was a party going on with neighbors and loved ones. It was a celebration with food and friends. She woke up craving a Pepsi.
Each character represents a part of the dreamer’s mind. A house or apartment represents the framework out of which the dreamer lives. The dream starts out by commenting that the dreamer is entirely too happy with her life when there are obvious flaws and cracks in it.
Fire represents change because fire transforms matter into energy. Lightning is instantaneous and dramatic change. That Zeus appears in the dream indicates that the tumultuous change was sanctioned by the gods.
The dream went on to say that a storm was developing in the dreamer’s life. A tree is a major symbol of integration as its roots go deep beneath visible reality (subconscious), it is present on the surface (conscious), and it opens to the sky (which often has spiritual implications). The storm in her life was disturbing or crashing into her life so that instantaneous change (lightning) was required.
Windows breaking in a dream typically means that the emotional impact has reached the dreamer, i.e., the dreamer now not only sees what is happening, but feels what is happening. The dreamer was afraid that the change would hurt her; however, the appearance of food and friends was meant to assure her that the change was or will be psychologically and socially nurturing. The dream ends by telling her to get with it because she is a part of the Pepsi generation.
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Dreams 289: A man in his early forties dreamed that he was talking to some girls when he was in high school in New York. It was very casual and relaxed conversation in a restaurant located at the top of a mansion. When he left, he found himself at the top of stairs on a landing where there was a stairway to his right and there was a stairway to his left.
He went down the left stairway and knew somehow that he had to use a phone. He then went down the right stairway and found a woman that looked like his wife. She was pretty and looked like his wife. He thought she looked depressed as she was leaning forward on her arms with her forearms resting on the table. He then saw the girls he was talking to earlier pass by in the distance.
This dream is all about communication with his wife. Stairs invariably represent sex because it is a rhthymic activity that ends in a climax. The left tends to be associated in ancient India with subconscious emotions, while the right usually represents conscious activity. The dream is emphasizing the importance of communication in their sex life.
Restaurants are where people are physically and psychologically nourished. The dream is saying that there was something about the way he communicated with those girls in New York that would be useful in his marriage, that there was something about that type of communication that would be especially nourishing in his marriage.
Movement in this dream is down stairways because their sex life was a “downer.” Movement down the left involves emotion. A phone is at the bottom of this stairway to emphasize the importance of communication.
The right is associated with conscious action. In this case, his depressed wife at the bottom of these stairs represented disappointment over the lack of sexual action, intimacy, in his marriage. The dream ends by recommending interaction with his wife like he had with the New York girls that pass in the distance.
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A man in his forties dreamed repeatedly that he was visited by a white robed faceless spirit. This spirited man gave the dreamer all elements of a knights armor. He was given a knights helmet, breastplate, body armor, sword, etc.
This was a recurring dream where he found himself fighting evil night after night in his protective knights armor. He felt powerful and strong. He felt the dream was spiritually significant.
At the first level of dream interpretation, each character in the dream represents a part of the dreamer’s mind or psyche. Men are usually associated more with action parts of the mind. Women usually represent more emotional parts of the psyche.
Repetitive or recurrent dreams are almost always big dreams as Carl Jung believed that some dreams meant more than others. This was especially likely to be the case with recurrent dreams. Usually, the recurrent dream is returning to a repeated theme to continue to try to resolve a repetitive problem.
This dreamer was visited by his own spirit of the heroic masculine. The heroic masculine is the most positive aspect of masculinity. It is a major archetype ingrained in the collective subconscious of mankind.
The heroic masculine motto is “to serve and protect.” This is a very spiritual dream. White is the most spiritual color.
The fact that the heroic masculine was faceless and the evil he was fighting was vague indicated that there are many aspects of himself that he is not familiar with. The dream was recurring over the course of a month as his subconscious wanted him to get to know both the positive and shadow parts of his subconscious. The dream used knights armor to emphasize that chivalry of the heroic masculine. The dream use the armor to emphasize that it was mainly about how he protected himself so that he could protect and help others.
This dream was saying that he would be protected when he uses his heroic masculine to protect himself and others from evil. This dream was saying that the dreamer had developed the positive aspects of masculinity to the point where he was a spiritual warrior. The appearance of this strong of a form of the heroic masculine indicates that he was ready to take major positive action for himself and loved ones.
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Dream 286: A Woman in her twenties had a recurrent dream that she woke up in a room with a man sleeping next to her. A noise caught her attention. She leaned over the man to see a little girl playing on the floor.
She woke the man up who picked up the little girl. The little girl had been playing with books. She looked at her book while sitting on the man’s lap. The little girl was a beautiful child that had hair so soft the dreamer could not resist touching her hair.
The dreamer asked the man who the beautiful little girl was. He had an amazing smile on his face as he said to the dreamer that the little girl was hers. As he handed the toddler to the dreamer, the child wrapped her arms around the dreamer’s neck.
The dreamer then felt that she knew exactly who the little girl was. She knew now with conviction that the little girl was hers. She felt joyously elated.
The dreamer was visited by her Divine Child archetype. The Divine Child is usually a little girl often with blonde hair and blue eyes (not necessarily) between the ages of 3 and 10 years old. She represented the dreamer’s hopes and dreams for the future.
At the first level of dream interpretation, each character in a dream represents part of the dreamer’s mind. Men typically go with actions; women usually go more with emotions. This is not absolutely so, but it is usually the case.
Thus, the man in the dream and the child together represent her mature actions energized by her hopes and dreams, the Divine Child archetype. The thought is that she recently decided on actions that will further her hopes and dreams. The inclusion of books suggest a thoughtful, intelligent or academic decision might be part of the scenario. The dreamer is to be congratulated.
Only the dreamer knows enough of the details of her life to be able to apply this interpretation to her interpersonal life. The man in the dream is significant in a positive way. He is the heroic masculine archetype. His appearance is often good news because it means the dreamer is ready to take positive action in life. His motto is “to serve and protect.”
It is no wonder that this dream made the dreamer feel joyous. Usually a dreamer at this stage begins to know what they want and are ready to take steps to actualize their life. The fact that this was a recurrent dream means that this dream is a “big dream.”
Recurrent dreams are big dreams that mean more than other dreams. That is because the dream is addressing repetitive issues in the dreamer’s life. Recurrent dreams make repeated attempts to get the message to the dreamer until the dreamer “gets it.”
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A 42-year-old man dreamed that he was climbing a ladder to the top of his high school. He knew there was an airport on top of the building. As he was climbing up the ladder he looked up and saw a morbidly obese woman near the top of the ladder.
She was ready to go on the roof, but she had to make her way through a narrow tunnel to get to the airport on the top of the high school building. She was able to get through the tunnel only because the dreamer helped her by pushing her through. He felt overjoyed as he headed for the airplane.
The dreamer recently was on a diet. He was frustrated because he always came to a plateau after losing fifteen pounds when his goal was to lose fifty. Dreams like to use high school as a place where the higher self of a person is schooled. He was emotionally learning how to carry out his goal of losing weight.
Climbing a ladder can be a metaphor for accomplishing a goal as one is literally “climbing to the top.” Each character is a part of the dreamer’s own psyche with women being associated with emotions, and men being correlated with action parts of the mind. His emotions about losing weight (the morbidly obese woman) were the main barrier he had to push through to “go over the top” and accomplish his goal.
Flight is almost always related to spiritual or higher level goals. His learning how to push his emotions through so that he could lose weight was very satisfying. He felt more confidence in his appearance and in his ability to reach personal aspirations.
Dream 275: Cut It Out–No Yearning for the Meat Market A 36-year-old woman dreamed that there were two copy machines at her therapist’s office, a regular one and a large one. The regular copier worked fine. The large copier produced over-sized copies. She adjusted it so that it produced copies that were only 104% the size of the original.
She then saw herself driving a car through a forest. At different times a man in a white suit with a butchers cleaver would appear to the right as an image to her. These images appeared three times.
The dream shifted to a cow that was disoriented and “loony.” It was pointlessly milling about and mooing like it was yearning for other cows. It stumbled into a mud pit, but was able to climb out of it.
The copy machines were encouraging her to retain what she learns from therapy (since her therapist was in the dream and copy machines are used to keep information). The dream was urging her to retain what she learned in therapy. The different sizes were urging her not to “make mountains out of mole hills” as the large copier was so large it was almost unusable. It also indicated she was trying to get a good perspective on things in her life as she was only exaggerating concerns a bit (104% images).
Three is the number of change as three people in a relationship is inherently unstable. The three (change) white (white is the most spiritual color) men were the conscious (the right side tends to go with conscious action) heroic masculine or action parts of yourself urging her to “cut out” (the butcher’s cleaver) some behavior. The appearance of the heroic masculine (the action part associated with positive change in psychotherapy) and the color white implied this is deep spiritual healing. The forest simply indicated that she was “not out of the woods yet.”
Dreams are seldom subtle. A butcher’s hatchet, along with a cow later in the dreams may be suggesting that she avoid being on the “meat market” dating scene because it would drive her “loony.” It wanted her instincts (animals represent instinctive urges) to avoid getting “stuck in the mud” and avoid yearning too much. That her instincts were able to climb out of the mud was a vote of confidence from her subconscious.
Dream 273: A 33-year-old man dreamt that he fathered a child with his younger brother’s girlfriend.
To begin to take this dream apart, one has to realize that each character in the dream represents a part of the dreamers psyche or mind. Men tend to go with action part while women usually represent emotional parts of the mind.
The first step is to find out what his brother and his girlfriend separately represent to the dreamer. His brother was younger and impulsive and extroverted and social. So his brother represents action. The dreamer himself was a passive accountant who was introverted.
So the dream is calling for the dreamer to be more extroverted and somewhat impulsive. His subconscious is trying to move him from being passive into being more actively involved with others. A new baby represents a new part of the dreamer’s mind. In that way, it represents new potential that is being developed.
This is what the dream means on the first level. The dream is also true on the second or interpersonal level. He recently started to date a woman who used to date his younger brother. She was very extroverted and social. The dream was calling for him to develop the qualities of being more social while giving approval to his recent dating. When both levels collapse together like that, we call it condensation.
Dream 263: A 19-year-old man dreamed that he was in a parked car at night. One of his friends from high school, David, tapped on the passenger window. He asked the dreamer to come out of the car.
The dreamer proceeded to the back of a car and simultaneously saw his best girlfriend from high school and his worst and most evil girlfriend walking hand in hand down the sidewalk in front of the car. When the dreamer went to the back of the car, David hugged him and said “You are so far gone!”
Interpretation:Being in a car parked at night means that you have been subconsciously passive. Night time goes with inactivity and passivity. Darkness usually represents the subconscious while the brightness of day represents more conscious and more active parts of the psyche.
Each character in the dream represents a different part of the dreamer’s mind or psyche. Men tend to go with more active parts of the mind while women usually represent more emotional parts of the psyche. He was being beckoned by an active part of his psyche, David, to be more active.
Two characters in a dream hugging indicates that those two parts of the psyche are integrating. The dream wanted him to integrate action into his life more.
The good girlfriend represented more positive emotional parts of himself while the evil girlfriend represented his shadow emotions.
He was very resistant to recognizing and using shadow emotions in his life. In therapy, it was clear he needed to use some of the aggressive shadow emotions because these emotions end up being your “get up and go.” It was a good sign that his positive emotions (the good girlfriend) was holding hands with shadow emotions (the evil girlfriend) because this indicated some beginning integration.
This statement that “You are so far gone!” was actually a compliment. It meant that his new outlook of being willing to be more assertive in seeking his goals was firmly established. He would never return to being his old self. See how the shadow works in dreams at http://www.drstevenfox.com
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Dream 228: Spilling My Guts
(female dreamer questioning) A friend of mine had a dream that her husband’s abdomen kept getting bigger and bigger and finally burst spewing out fluid. What are your thoughts on this?
Answer: Dreaming of her husband involves an action part of her psyche at the first level. The abdomen is close to the solar plexus where self-esteem resides according to traditions of the East. Water in dreams is almost invariably emotion. Putting this all together implies that she was doing something that she felt really good about, but for some reason lost the stamina to do it, i.e., lost her guts and felt emotionally drained.
As a note, the interpreter always wants to make sure that there is not an overriding physical reason involved. One wants to make sure that the body is not trying to signal that she has some serious ailment. Or it could be something like cramps or stomach upset or menstrual troubles.
Sometimes the two different levels can condense which would be something like hoping to get pregnant and then troubles occur or some variation on that theme.
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A 54-year-old woman dreamt that she was viewing a graduation class of all men from an auditorium seat. She was viewing this scene through the eyes of an aunt. All of the male graduates had their backs to her. There was one male graduate who was out of place because he wore casual and somewhat tacky clothing. She felt that the out-of-place graduate was like herself.
She recently started a job with a Wall Street brokerage. She was the trainer and supervisor of new stockbrokers who recently graduated from qualifying examinations. Almost all new trainees were men (or were very action-oriented women). She was older and felt out of place.
The male graduates in the dream mirror the circumstance of her training male graduates. That their backs were to her was a reflection of her feeling that they did not really listen to her. Her aunt was a stern businesswoman which she emulated at work. The out-of-place graduate was how the business action part of her psyche felt about the situation. The fact that he was out-of-place because of his clothing meant that she felt that psychological defenses (her clothing) were not sophisticated enough for the complex work situation she was in.
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A 44-year-old professional and serious woman dreamt that she stopped at a house to check up on her father. When she got back into the car at night, there was a baby boy crawling in the street that she narrowly missed. Then her carefree and happy-go-lucky brother ran along the car. He suddenly jumped into her lap. She and he shared the driving as she was in the driver’s seat always.
Dream 200 Interpretation
This woman was serious to the point of almost being grim sometimes. A house can represent the dreamer somewhat, especially if there is a family member there. A car is how one gets somewhere in life. She essentially checks up on her father introject, usually a major driver of the person’s actions. This dream essentially reviews action parts of her psyche to make a recommendation (since the three other characters are male).
The baby boy was a new action part of her psyche which had not been integrated and was in danger of almost becoming psychological road kill. The brother that jumped onto her lap was a significant recommendation by the dream. He essentially “plays the fool” and embodies the fool archetype. The dream is recommending that she integrate more fun as a major driver in her life to get to where she wants to go.
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Is this a dream of a visitation from a loved one in a dream like “The Sixth Sense” movie or is the dream symbolic? In what follows, it is usually more comprehensive to consider the dream to be both:
Dream 203: Take Care of Your Little Boy
A 34-year-old man dreamt that his recently deceased mother was hugging his son who was six years old. The mother was nodding approvingly toward the dreamer as she hugged his son.
Dream 203 Interpretation
The dreamer noted that this dream seemed almost real. So real that we could classify this dream as a vision dream. Mother in the dream was his mother introject since each character in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation.
If we look at this dream symbolically, his emotions were giving approval as to how he was taking care of his son because the mother introject is often the foundation of emotions. The dreamer recently stopped negative activities and dedicated himself to being a good father to his son. His subconscious approved.
Mom would be proud. If we consider this to be a vision dream, then it simply is what it is. Which one is it?
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