Let Your Hair Down

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 Below is a dream and interpretation from my psychologist private practice. The client is anonymous and biographical details were changed to protect the identity of the dreamer. The interpretation is based upon my book at http:www.drstevenfox.com 

Dream 162: Let Your Hair Down

A 33-year-old woman dreamt that she was sitting in a room.  A group of young adult handsome and dashing men came in and started to help her put on coat after coat, one on top of the other.  After she was wearing three coats at the same time, the leader of the group announced that was enough, that she did not need any more coats.

She then saw herself and a female friend having a discussion.  The friend unfurled her long hair and urged the dreamer to do the same.  They next were sitting at a house of prostitution.  They were simply viewers of the scene.  Each man was receiving money for having sex with each prostitute.  Each man did not enjoy the experience and felt forced to do it.

Dream 162–Interpretation 

The group of young men were various parts of her inner heroic masculine.  These parts typically are protective and encourage positive action.  Clothing represents defenses as they are the outer shell we show the outside world. The number three (number of coats) is significant because it implies change.  She did not like her current job and had sought out and interviewed with three other possible jobs that were interested in her. She did this as she was preparing for a written test at her current workplace.  She had obtained the three job possibilities as defensive backups if she did not pass the test.  The leader of the heroic masculine announced that she had sought out enough jobs for her security.  The implication was to stop looking for more jobs and continue studying for the test.  Her heroic masculine was concerned that she was devoting too much energy on finding backup jobs rather than studying for the test before her.

She worked in customer service.  She felt like she was hired to screw customers over (the prostitutes) who did not appreciate it (she did not like the way she had to interact with customers).  The dream was encouraging her to “let her hair down” emotionally, i.e., to be less defensive (the female friend unfurling her hair).

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Dream Art is Like a Dream

Dream Art is Like a Dream

Many of the great more modern artists, like Salvador Dali, produce images that are compelling because they look like images from a dream.

Where People Fly and Water Runs Uphill

Jeremy Taylor in his 1992 book of the same title as this post talked about dream interpretation. The idea that people could fly without engines was absurd back then. The thought was that people could only fly under their own power in dreams.
This was before wingsuits allowed people to fly using the natural heat updrafts near mountains. No matter how many times I view it, flying by wingsuit always looks dreamlike to me. The following video is another astounding example of wingsuit flight:


There were many interesting techniques and ideas in Taylor’s book. He used dreams to explain delirium tremens. Delirium tremens is a condition where an alcoholic has hallucinations such as seeing bugs crawling all over his or her body. Extreme alcohol abuse is known to stop the alcoholic from dreaming.

It is known that people who are kept from dreaming will make up for the lost dream time on subsequent nights. What Taylor believes is that the alcoholic is dream deprived when abusing alcohol to such an extreme that when they begin to sober up, they literally have an awake dream because the need to dream has built up to the point that it is extremely intense.

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Beloved Mentor: I Want to Be You

Below is a dream and interpretation from my psychologist private practice. The client is anonymous and biographical details were changed to protect the identity of the dreamer. The interpretation is based upon my book at drstevenfox.com

Dream

A nineteen-year-old woman had a dream that she and an older and wiser female friend (her mentor) were at a party. Her mentor was a 33-year-old professional woman from Chicago. She and her mentor were talking on a patio all night.

Her mentor told the dreamer that she had a baby this last summer because she wanted to start doing “real” life things. The dreamer was surprised that she was strangely jealous of her mentor. The dreamer suddenly and dramatically went and took fish heads and dissolved them in acid water. This image made an impression on the dreamer.

Interpretation

At the first level of dream interpretation, each character in the dream reveals a part of the dreamer’s psyche. Women in dreams tend to go with emotions, while men often go with actions. This is not absolutely so, but is usually the way it falls out after thousands of years of culture. This is an equal opportunity principle which generally holds whether the dreamer is a man or a woman.

The dreamer had an emotional part that wanted to be like her confident mentor. That they were at a party indicated that the dreamer wanted to be more fun. It is night so we are talking about the subconscious rather than waking consciousness.

The mentor’s baby is a new part of the dreamer’s mind she wanted to give birth to so that she would be more like her older confidante. Her mentor was a strong, smart and successful woman who was idealistic and fiercely independent. The mentor recently had a major shakeup of her personal life which moved her to revolutionize her life in a positive direction consistent with her beliefs.

The dreamer wanted to live a life based on reality like her ever brave older friend. Fish are animals in water and are her instinctive subconscious emotions (water is almost invariably emotions). She wants to quit thinking with her head. She does not want her head to direct her instincts, and she is willing to go to extreme measures to enforce this commitment. Her choices had to pass the acid test of working with her instincts and avoiding head games which was a primary lesson she took from her mentor.

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No part of the above is intended for psychological, psychiatric, or medical treatment or advice. The reader should personally contact an appropriate professional if seeking treatment or advice.

Water Is Primary in Dreams

Water Is Primary in Dreams

L.Z. Marie does an excellent analysis of water’s symbolism.

Water Is Primary in Dreams

Water Is Primary in Dreams

Water appears so often in dreams because it represents subconscious emotions. L.Z. Marie does an excellent analysis of water’s possible symbolic meanings.

The Answer Is Obvious, Watson

Below is a dream and interpretation from my psychologist private practice. The client is anonymous and biographical details were changed to protect the identity of the dreamer. The interpretation is based upon my book at drstevenfox.com

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A 31-year-old man dreamt that an elderly man, who devoutly and religiously practiced Taoism, was instructing the dreamer. The dreamer thought that he should accept the precepts of Taoism, but he emotionally felt resistance to what he knew was true wisdom.

Dream 206 Interpretation

I asked the dreamer if there was something occurring in his life where the answer was obvious but that he could not emotionally accept the answer. He replied that he thought he should marry the woman he was living with because she brought nothing but peace and joy into his life, but he could not bring himself to ask her. He had been in three disastrous relationships and was wary of commitment. He eventually decided that he would stay engaged a long time to work on his feeling .

Taoism emphasizes perceiving reality correctly. The pious man was the epitome of the Wise Old Man archetype. The dream was screaming that in the considered opinion of ancient wisdom, he should devote himself to the relationship.

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No part of the above is intended for psychological, psychiatric, or medical treatment or advice. The reader should  personally contact an appropriate professional if seeking treatment or advice.  ©Steven G. Fox 2013

 

 

The Importance of Depth and Dreams

The Importance of Depth and Dreams

This emagazine from the Depth Psychology Alliance

emphasizes that dreams could play an important role in our future.

 

To Dust Thou Shall Return

Below is a dream and interpretation from my psychologist private practice. The client is anonymous and biographical details were changed to protect the identity of the dreamer. The interpretation is based upon my book at drstevenfox.com

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Dream 205: To Dust Thou Shalt Return

A 58-year-old woman dreamt that she was watching the desert from her picture window. Suddenly, she thought an asteroid hit the moon. It broke a chunk of the moon off. She somehow knew that if the chunk of the moon reached her, she would die. She felt the dust pass through her and knew that she died. She was surprised that she then had a feeling of relief and joy.

Dream 205 Interpretation

The moon tends to represent the unconscious while the sun goes with the conscious. The moon is associated with love and romance (think of the song Moon River or George’s promise to his fiancee to “lasso the moon” for her in the movie It’s a Wonderful Life.) A death in a dream can mean that a part of the psyche “died” or was modified significantly. Part of the moon crashing to earth, in this case, meant that she was changing her love life significantly by being more “down to earth” with her lover. She recently had transformed the relationship with him by being more assertive. She expected more from him and was pleasantly surprised that she was much happier in the relationship.

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No part of the above is intended for psychological, psychiatric, or medical treatment or advice. The reader should  personally contact an appropriate professional if seeking treatment or advice.  ©Steven G. Fox 2013

What’s happening?

There is a recent upsurge in sales of the book at amazon.com. The book “Dreams: Guide to the Soul” is rated fifth under dream books for both mental health and new age dream books. I am shocked. I am pleased that people that read it tell me that they “get it” as I tried to be complete without pretending I was in graduate school again where I could barely understand the articles I wrote myself :^)  drstevenfox.com

“Merkabah Recruit,” and “Merkabah Deception”

“Merkabah Recruit,” and “Merkabah Deception”

The Merkabah books by L.Z. Marie are engaging, creative page-turners with intuitive literary splendor. Do yourself a favor and purchase them today at tinyurl.com/merkabahrecruit

They Blinded Me with Science

People love to interpret dreams. Many times, they are close to the meaning, but have difficulty because it is difficult to be objective about your own dreams. When you interpret dreams as a therapist, it pays to take an incisive analytic view of dreams that assumes that each living thing or spirit or being in a dream is part of the dreamer’s psyche. Taking this point of view agrees with the recent movie Inception with Leonardo Decapprio. This first level of dream is the most difficult, but is often the most rewarding. Accuracy of dream interpretation at this level can be as high as eighty or ninety percent. Accuracy of therapeutic interpretation often drops to about fifty percent at the second and interpersonal level of interpretation. The therapist can seldom know enough of the details of the dreamer’s life, unless the person has been in psychotherapy for a long time. Dreams often do not mean what they look like at face value. Let’s consider an example. Suppose that a thirty-two-year-old man dreams that an alcoholic he despised in high school dies. What might this mean at the first level? Any and all sincere responses will be viewed as valuable and will be respected because as we exchange information, both of us can learn important information. So what may it mean when a man you despise dies in a dream?

© Steven G. Fox 2013

Decison, Decision

Decison, Decision.

No part of the above is intended for psychological, psychiatric, or medical treatment or advice. The reader should  personally contact an appropriate professional if seeking treatment or advice.  ©Steven G. Fox 2013

Decison, Decision

Being Conservative Is Hard on My Head

A 36-year-old fine arts professor dreamt that he was on the patio of a Mexican restaurant. There was a wasp’s nest above the kidney shaped bar. Suddenly, a wasp flew down and stung him in the head. The dream shifted to him listening to a waittress. She was telling him about a long sordid affair she had with a professor.

Dream Interpretation

This professor recently received job offers from colleges in Ohio and California. WASP also stands for White Anglo Saxon Protestant. I asked him which college was more conservative. He replied that the college in Ohio was much more conservative and he did not know if it would tolerate his avant-garde teaching style and research. I asked him what he associated with Mexican restaurants, and he replied California. I asked him what was the biggest mistake he ever made in his field, and he replied that he regretted a decision not to attend a college in California. That she, the waittress had a sordid affair with a professor indicated that his emotions (the waitress) had been untrue to his intellectual decisions (the male professor)—this was highlighted by the fact that he regretted not going to college in California/

The dream voted in the direction of the college in California. His subconscious exclaimed that a conservative atmosphere was hard on his head and thinking. A restaurant in a dream nurtures one psychologically, and the dream is saying that, for him, California is much more likely to be nurturing.

The female waittress is a part of his work emotions. In dreams, a waittress is often seen as “one who waits.” He told me consciously that his biggest career mistake was not attending a learning institution in California. The waittress is talking about an emotional mistake with a professor. The dream is warning him about making sincere and solid emotional connections. The dream is screaming that he needs to attend a learning institution in California.

No part of the above is intended for psychological, psychiatric, or medical treatment or advice. The reader should  personally contact an appropriate professional if seeking treatment or advice.  ©Steven G. Fox 2013

Is This a Vision Dream?

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Is this a dream of a visitation from a loved one in a dream like “The Sixth Sense” movie or is the dream symbolic? In what follows, it is usually more comprehensive to consider the dream to be both:

Dream 203: Take Care of Your Little Boy

A 34-year-old man dreamt that his recently deceased mother was hugging his son who was six years old. The mother was nodding approvingly toward the dreamer as she hugged his son.

Dream 203 Interpretation

The dreamer noted that this dream seemed almost real. So real that we could classify this dream as a vision dream. Mother in the dream was his mother introject since each character in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation.

If we look at this dream symbolically, his emotions were giving approval as to how he was taking care of his son because the mother introject is often the foundation of emotions. The dreamer recently stopped negative activities and dedicated himself to being a good father to his son. His subconscious approved.

Mom would be proud. If we consider this to be a vision dream, then it simply is what it is. Which one is it?

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Dream 130–Getting Away from It All

Photo of Devil's Island, a former penal colony
Photo of Devil’s Island, a former penal colony

Dream 130 Getting Away From It All

A twenty-eight year old man dreamed that he was on a ship which navigated to an island.  When he went onto the island, there was a path covered with an ongoing bamboo mat which led to a vibrantly green and lush jungle.  There was a large muscular brute of a man blocking his way down the path.

The dream then shifted to his being on board the ocean liner which was anchored near the island.  There were two huge pipes that were large enough for a man to walk in.   The devil appeared and said that they should race down each pipe to see who gets to the island first.  He then saw himself lying on the beach with the island in the distant horizon.  A cloud formed  over him and  rained upon him.

Dream 130 Interpretation

This was an early therapy dream.  He was navigating his subconscious to find a new path in life.  The bamboo paving the way to his growth was the recent growth within him that allowed him to even consider therapy.  The lush jungle represented the new growth he was considering.  The brute of a man was his earlier macho man attitude which is similar to the savage masculine archetype.  The devil represented his shadow because he really “raised hell” when he was younger.  His shadow was encouraging him to race towards change and was trying to inspire his get up and go.

Sitting on the beach means that he was in that area between the subconscious ocean and conscious land.  He was backing away and distancing himself from therapy.  The dream assured him that staying away from therapy would not be pleasant and would result in depression (represented by the rain).

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The Buddhist compassion meditation

The Buddhist compassion meditation

I plan to do the Buddhist compassion meditation described in the link listed in hope that a diplomatic solution will be found to the Syrian crisis.

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