The one with red ms letters or the plain one?
The one with red ms letters or the plain one?
Dream 490: Analyzing a series of dreams, or skipping the details and going for theme
A man described having the following series of dreams:
“In my dreams dreams I am sitting at a table in a resturant and then I suddenly am flying and I am aware by the sound and feeling of electricity. I fly to the table next to me and then seemingly enter into this womans smiling face. Then in my dream i am talking about this dream and i start flying again and my head hits a chandelier and i realize OH I AM FLYING AGAIN …Another part, there are these mutant human women who are like white alien mermaid creatures and someone I’m with wants to kill them or hunt them down possibly, but they are fast and stealthy. I see them moving around with light speed precision. We finally come upon them as they are rested and realize they are safe and very precious. They tell us about themselves and their eyes are extremely beautiful and mesmerizing. Another dream, girlfriend and I are walking up my driveway placing crystal alters all along the middle of the path in these big bowls. We reach the end of the driveway. I suddenly see a Windstream van parked on the road and the notice we are standing on a newly built bridge that is crossing over a creek that passes thru my driveway. Im a very surprised. This is new to me and i notice its not finished and so i wont be able to drive over when it comes times. Another dream, I am exiting a parking lot. The car in front of me passes thru the gate and I go behind them while its open. I realize then that I did not pay the ticket I had so I pull over and walk to the ticket machine to pay. I pay and then when I go to walk away a woman comes out and is upset with me for avoiding paying. I try to be nice but she is being cold and tells me she has already called the cops. I explain to her that I was not being mindful and thats why i came back to pay. I shake her hand an introduce myself but she isnt warming up to me. Another dream, a guy is standing in front of Grants Lounge and and ask me for drugs. I quickly realize I know the guy and ask him if he has tried the Dmt I gave him. He mentions something or another about it not being that great. I then realize I don’t know the guy and he has no idea what I am talking about.”
I’m going to be quite short and to the point. In reading this series of dreams I tried to look for commonalities and patterns. The first dream sets the stage for the dreams that follow.
In that dream you are flying which means you’re feeling personally powerful. You also are feeling “electrified” and are quite taken sensually by emotional or female positive emotions. You get so excited at one point that you literally forget where you are and start flying (“there he goes flying off again”) and hit your head on the chandelier.
Hitting your head is often the dream screaming that you have to start “using your head” to avoid trouble. The dreams that follow, in one form or another, are emphasizing the importance of noticing detail and not being taken in by first appearances. This is specially the case when attracted to women or positive emotions, as you become totally mesmerized by beauty, as most men are.
Each of these dreams could be taken separately and interpreted in their own right, but I thought there was a general pattern that may be an overarching issue that may be more useful.
The dreamer later gave me positive feedback on the analysis and noted that he had been having issues with his girlfriend and DMT. He consciously thought what the dream was indicating he should do subconsciously. A dream giving support to your conscious intuition is the strongest support your unconscious can give you.
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A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamt I was in a closed store, not shopping, but hanging out. Suddenly I realized there were little spiders and webs all around me. I had walked through them and the web and spiders were all over me. They were biting me. I tried to leave and a huge spider fell in front of me and when I tried to swat it away, it bit my hand. Then when I was trying to get out the only available path, a huge 10 foot anaconda was coiled up blocking me from leaving. It had a silly face though, with a goofy smile. So i was not afraid of it for long. I slowly walked around it and it never attacked.
In real life, I just started a new job and it’s very exhausting. What could this all mean together?”
When a dream starts out with a commercial setting like this dream does it’s usually about your job or your finances. Spiders and webs usually indicate fears of being trapped or caught by others plans.
The huge spider biting your hand indicates that you are worried that the job is going to limit your ability to do things since we do things with our hands. It also could be a warning not to “bite the hand that feeds you.” You may be taking the job too seriously, not that you shouldn’t take it too seriously, but you might be taking it in a way that you are not trusting enough. On the other hand, there may be reasons that you aren’t trusting and are worried about others nefarious plans.
An anaconda is a huge snake. Snakes virtually always indicate change since they are one of the few animals to completely shed its skin. The characteristics of the snake usually indicate what kind of change it’s talking about. In this case, it’s talking about big change.
First off, it sounds like the job is a big change in your life. Secondly, the dream, by the way that snake is behaving, may be indicating that you need to change the way you’re reacting to the job. Specifically, the snake becomes almost comical. I think the dream may be advising you to lighten up as you may be feeling more threatened than the situation warrants or lightening up will help you succeed as it is probably a difficult situation. I think that the snake never attacking you means that these changes you’re going through aren’t going to kill you.
**The dreamer later gave me feedback that she was indeed having troubles on the job that fit with the interpretation.
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Dream Thought 486:
Dreams about the bathroom focus on what you need to eliminate from your life. If it is number one, it is about getting rid of negative emotions. If it is number two, it is about getting rid of negative stuff you have internalized and/or no longer do you any good.
If you go into a bathroom and there is feces everywhere, the dream is talking about external things that you need to get rid of and out of your life. It is toxic and must be eliminated.
Water is virtually always emotions in dreams. If the dream involves showering or taking a bath, it is talking about how you need to clean up emotionally.
If it is a shower, it is more likely to be probable that it is about how you need to get rid of emotions towards others or emotions that are being directed towards you.
If it is a bathtub, it is likely to be more about immersing yourself in your emotions to clean yourself of them and free yourself from the negative portions of those emotions.
Most frequently, whatever proceeded the toileting, is probably what you need to cast out of your life because you do not need that stuff, so to speak.
A man had a dream that he went on a bus with other children to the school field day. In the dream, he was supposed to go number 2 in a single small hole in the ground. He was extremely embarrassed.
Regarding this man’s dream, questions I would ask would involve whether there was something in his life where he was being treated like a child and forced to go along with the crowd (he traveled on a bus) to learn something that was elementary, embarrassing, and/or distasteful to him.
Freud thought toileting was important. Psychological theories such as Eric Ericsson’s indicate that we learn skills at that point in our life involving toileting which is a matter of trust and mainly autonomy. I devote an entire chapter to the bathroom because it is so frequent in dreams in my book “Dreams: Guide to the Soul” at http://www.drstevenfox.com
Dream 484: The power to stop yourself from doing something
A man told me he dreamed that a giant cut his right hand off and wondered what it might mean.
A giant is a person that is bigger than life. The right hand is mainly used by most people to do things. It sounds like your higher or larger self is keeping you from doing something.
At the second level of dream interpretation, which is more unreliable, it could mean someone powerful is keeping you from doing something in a way that deters you from doing it permanently.
The right is usually conscious action, while the left goes with subconscious emotion. The idea would be that your higher self and/or someone powerful is strongly and aggressively keeping or inhibiting you from doing something.
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Dream 483: Journey to the Center of Your Soul
A woman had a dream that she was standing in a bucket and was being lowered into a water well. She wondered what the dream meant.
A famous Jungian dream analyst had a dream that she saw a flower grow out of a water well. The flower had to grow about 40 ft before it reached the surface and could then prosper. She wrote books for 20 years before getting one published. Her books then became best sellers and she had a whole slough of books to publish. Her name is Marion Woodman.
She always saw the dream as indicating that she had beautiful growth within her that would take a long time to emerge out into the world so it ended up being a predictive dream.
For some reason, you are being immersed in your emotions to get fully in touch with your subconscious and who you are at a root level would be part of my guess.
Another woman thought she should have as much fun as she can. She thought the dream was indicating or even recommending that the dreamer have a bucket list of things that she wanted to do. Movement downward usually represents movement towards the subconscious and the Soul, if you will.
It may well be her soul’s urging to do the things she wants before it’s too late, before she dies. Water is virtually always emotions in dream. She is being submerged into her emotions.
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Dream 478: Have fun, but avoid the strings attached or it could lead to a long slide
A man had the following dream:
“So I had a fairly weird dream this morning/yesterday night..
In one portion of my dream, I dreamed that I was texting my crush(I’m a guy and my crush is a girl), and we both had a good time texting each other(she joked around with me and in my dream, I believe I was smiling).
The other portion of my dream involves me being at a water park/resort with my friends. I saw a ton of light blue and there were these structures with ropes hanging around and I climbed them effortlessly(although there were mishaps here and there). I also went down a long slide.
What does this dream mean?”
A woman usually represents the emotional side of a dreamer. Men usually represent more of an action part of your mind in a dream. It sounds like you are logically working out how to combine your actions with your emotions in the first part which sounds pleasant actually.
So the dream announces at the beginning that this is going to be about how to combine your actions with your emotions in regard to your social life. It takes you to a waterpark with friends. Water virtually always represents emotions in dreams. The dream, I think, is giving a mild warning.
Blue is the color of the sky and I think of it as representing freedom and unlimited possibility. I think it is giving a warning with the the ropes that you will be given opportunities with your friends, and you will be able to enjoy them for the most part, but one mustn’t forget that there are strings attached.
I see this dream as being all about your own integration of emotion and action vs how much to play the social game that could have strings attached. The strings could lead to some mishaps, although you will probably mostly have fun. The final warning is the long slide. Playing the game too long could lead to a slide in your social life.
Take it for what it’s worth as I do not know you.
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Dream 474: Hole in your soul
A woman dreamed she was at her work and this big cave opened up in the parking lot. It seemed to get bigger and no matter how much dirt she got in there to cover it, it never filled up.
Movement underground in a dream tends to represent the subconscious. You are at work so it probably involves work issues. I think the dream is saying that you’re staying at where you’re working is just digging a deeper hole for yourself. Pretty dramatic and the dream is doing this to emphasize it, I think.
Dreams are always perfect. The fact that it occurs in a parking lot, I think, means that your subconscious views you as stationery at your job, as not moving ahead career-wise. This dream recommends that the woman get a new job and not stay with the company she was working for.
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Dream 470: Controlling My Instincts
A man posted the following question:
“I am posting for a friend, because when she recalls her dreams, they usually mean something. They use imagery, symbolism and metaphors.
In the first part of her dream, she had to contain a room full of snakes without hurting any. That’s about it…
In the second part of the same dream, she was on ‘Earth’ but there were human-animal hybrids that imprisoned and ruled over humanity. They were protected from the ‘end’.
The moon was to collide with the planet, but as it hit, the sky flickered like a hologram, and the world leaders announced a failed nuclear detonation. They were trying to destroy the planet but blame something else.
The hybrids stand out to me:
-A strange form of centaur that was half horse, but half were-wolfish
-A form of pegasi that had bat wings
-Human-Lioness hybrids. White/blonde
The first part of a dream sequence usually announces what the dream is going to be about. Snakes almost invariably represent change. What is interesting about this is that she’s not worried about the snakes hurting her, she wanted to be careful to not hurt the snakes.
A snake is considered, broadly speaking, to be an animal. Animals usually represent our instincts. It is interesting that she wants to be careful not to damage her instincts which is unusual and bodes well for her, I believe. As we treat ourselves so we tend to treat others, and I would suspect that she is a very considerate type of person. So the dream is announcing that this sequence is going to be about change and how she handles her instincts, making sure not to damage her groundedness.
One can’t help but like the hybrids part of this dream. It represents instincts that are well-controlled.
In fact, I believe this series of dreams is all about her concern over controlling her instincts. Fortunately, I think the dream delivers mostly good news on this account. She is a very diverse person with well-controlled instincts. Let me take them one by one.
The Avians are like birds and usually represent freedom, i.e., “free as a bird.” Freud was right on a few things, and one of the things he was right about is that a horse usually goes with female sexual power. But this is a centaur, which is half human, which would normally indicate that her sexuality instincts are usually well-controlled; however, this centaur is half-horse and half were-wolf-like. That would indicate that she is worried about the wild side of her sexuality.
I think of the pegasi as a magical flying horse. So this would probably represent the magical power of sensuality.
The human lioness image is powerful. It is always good to have powerful animals in your dream. She has a lot of psychic energy that can be used for good. A lioness is Queen of the Jungle and actually does all of the hunting while the King of the Jungle sleeps. To me this would imply that she has a solid work ethic and maternal instincts.
The white & blonde color is interesting. White is the most spiritual color, while blonde is considered to be an ideal quality of the feminine and Divine Child in Western culture.
The Moon is usually thought of as going with subconscious emotional impulses that are somewhat in the dark. The Moon is literally colliding with the Earth which is a way of saying what she fears what will happen if her subconscious instincts are actualized, i.e., what will happen if her instincts become grounded and actualized in reality.
The Hologram is interesting. Any piece of a hologram will reflect the whole hologram. So in some sense a hologram is indestructible. I think the dream is trying to reassure her that her world doesn’t come to an end because of subconscious conflicts and change going on in her life.
Fire goes with change because fire changes matter into energy. A nuclear explosion is super fire or super change.
I think part of this involves the dream trying to reassure her that her world doesn’t come to an end if she becomes somewhat more instinctually uninhibited.
The world leaders are the opposite of the instinctive parts of herself. They actually think about destroying the world when they are supposed to be the leaders of the world. In other words, they are so logical that they make no sense. Does this sound like her parents?
This dream is partially a cautionary tale of rationalization and logic going too far, which she will not do because she honors her instincts highly. On the other hand, safe sex should be practiced to prevent a detonation.
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Dream 467: Don’t sell yourself short or Remember who you were
A woman reported the following dream:
“I had a dream that i visited a museum with some family. In this place I met a short man who was happy to see me. I felt odd in this dream–he asked me to dance with him .
I said, “What is it, do you know me from a past life?
He replied, “Yes, we loved each other!”
He showed me a photograph from the 1800’s or so. He was taller back then. I was wearing an old Victorian-era dress. My name was written behind this picture with just a slight difference in spelling. Thank you for reading.
Each person in a dream is a part of your mind. Men usually go with an action part of the mind while women often go with an emotional part of the mind. There is a part of you that wants to get your attention, that wants to dance with you. It is a part probably that you have been “selling short” (the short man) and underestimating what you can do.
You were shown old pictures and were in a museum to prove to you that in the past, you were more elegant and/or sophisticated emotionally (the formally clad lady) and stood taller in your assessment of your ability to do things. I think it shows you a couple to emphasize that you were more integrated emotionally and behaviorally in the past probably.
It hit me that your name on the back of the photo was slightly different for a reason. I think the dream did this to emphasize that the photo was of you, but you were “different” in the past. It was a way of emphasizing that it indeed was you, while emphasizing you were different back then.
Another way of looking at it is at it from a higher level, is that it was a previous life. In other words, from that perspective it could be your Soul (unconscious) reminding you to remember your eloquent and graceful way of doing things from a previous life.
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Dream 465: I help out, but stay out of my bed!
I dreamed a tall bold head girl lying in my bed eyes closed. In her dress. I wasn’t happy with the size of her or anything else. If somebody can help me in interpretation of this dream, please do. Thank you.
Forgot to mention that I saw her before sitting in the chair and in few seconds she was sleeping in my bed. In the first place, I felt she needed help and I was happy to help. But all of a suddem, seeing her in my bed sleeping without checking with me, and also her size bothered me. Do I need changes in me or is something in my environment bothering me…may be I need to be more flexible…mmmm…
I think this dream involves your boundaries and feeling your personal sanctuary has been violated. It sounds like you may try to help others too much emotionally to the point that they take it for granted. You then are stuck with the “too big” of a problem of putting them back in their place, which is really hard to do after you let the genie out of the bottle. I think the dream is saying that you can help others, but expect them to honor your boundaries.
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Dream Post 466: My hopes and dreams
People in my practice frequently describe a young girl, from ages say five to ten years old, who keeps appearing in their dreams. They are typically mystified by this. It is especially disturbing to fully heterosexual men when they dream of kissing them or having even closer intimacy.
Welcome to the Divine Child archetype. It is usually a girl because women tend to go more with emotional parts of your mind. (At the first level, each character represents a part of your psyche.) The Divine Child is usually a young girl with blonde hair and blue eyes. The reason for this is that those physical features are the stereotypical ideal feminine features in Western culture.
Other cultures may have different idealized features. For example, Hispanic cultures tend to idealize dark hair with brown eyes.
Sex in dreams at the first level represents different parts of your mind integrating. Kissing or being intimate with the Divine Child, in this case, represents integrating your hopes/dreams into your life with your behavior, actions and emotions. The younger the Divine Child in the dream, the less developed is a particular hope or dream that you have.
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A woman had the following dream:
Dream 454: I’ll Be Better in a While, Crocodile
All I really remember of it is that there was an alligator or crocodile, I don’t know which one. It was on the ground and it crawled up to my mom. She was able to tame it and ended up literally cuddling with this crocodile or alligator! She wasn’t afraid and she literally was totally cool with having this animal right up by her. My mom is very compassionate and empathic. Google has not helped me at all to sift through what this means. Any thoughts?
When you dream of your mother you are in this case dreaming of the emotionally positive qualities you have internalized from your mother. Crocodiles usually represent aggressive energy. That is not necessarily negative.
Your get-up-and-go is fueled by aggressive energy so you need a certain amount of aggressive energy to accomplish your goals. Water invariably represents emotions and this dream is about emotional integration within yourself. The dream is urging you to accept all parts of yourself even the aggressive parts because they can be used positively.
The dream says that you either are or it is recommending further use of your positive feminine mothering energy to accept your aggressive impulses so that they can be put to positive use such as being your get up and go to accomplish the goals that you want to. This dream is all about modulating aggressive Shadow energy so that it can be used positively. The dream is emphasizing that you have it within you to accomplish this.
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Dream 452: Bringing My Higher Self to Others
A woman had the following dream:
“I’m standing on a high bridge whose poles are made of small pieces of clouds. I don’t know how they can keep this whole weight. I don’t see that its something real.I can see on the bridge, now it s forming a kind of egg-shaped plate, greenish color as it has a mild vibration. Beside me it opens a small hole through which it is possible to see a lot of green trees and vegetation which is so thick that i can t see the ground .
This bridge connects two big trees through which flows some kind of electricity, or something like that, and the bridge is feeding them. The trees bend their branches as if they have conscience. Then one of the branches wants me to sit on it.
I’m climbing and at the moment I feel, I rise very quickly in the air. It discharges me from itself, so high above. I’m falling through the hole on the bridge. I’m wearing on my back a bright green disk color that is slowing me downhill between trees. It’s like I’m not from matter anymore. I’m completely empty, and I now know that I’m made of air and light.”
A disk or circle in my world usually symbolizes the Soul because it has no beginning and no end. Green is growth because it is the color of plants. Trees are major symbols of integration in my world. Bridges are passages in life, going from one stage or area of life to another.
Holy naturalness! Everything in this dream is natural. It sounds like you are probably a very integrated and natural person who might be in the process of bridging two major areas, practices or teachings, or people in your life.
There are two concerns I might consider about this dream. One is the clouds that seemingly cannot support the bridge. The other is the tree ejecting you on high.
When I try to make sense of this dream, I think that it is indicating that the two areas of your life are already naturally bridged. I see it as less concerned about bridging those areas, beliefs or practices in your life because they have already been bridged.
The dream might see you as having very noble goals, but may want you to come down from the clouds and ground your goals in reality. The green disk assures us that you have the Soul and growth to bring these two major areas of integration to earth, to “ground” them, and bring your knowledge to others.
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Dream 450: Testing your metal
A woman dreams that she went through surgery that she did not want to have. The surgeons left metal in her body. She thought the dream was weird and wondered what it could mean.
When doctors and hospitals are involved, the dream almost invariably is about healing. Surgery is dramatic healing which has a downside and benefits. Hopefully, the benefits outweigh the downside.
Metal left in the body can indicate new strength or it also can represent hard feelings/rigidity. She was a young woman in her twenties who had recently gone through a dramatic therapeutic intervention in the sense of detoxing. She alsowent through therapy and was given medication.
The dream, I believe, was a reflection of her not liking the intense treatment she went through. The experience had “tested her metal.” The metal left behind was her hard feelings over the ordeal, but the experience had made her stronger (strong as steel).
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Dream 448: Getting Rid of a Friend that Bites
A woman told me the following before describing her dream:
I had a disagreement with someone that’s been in and out of my life. This person contacted me to tell me that I have the the power to fix it. I was asking for a sign if this relationship could be fixed or if this is a toxic relationship that I shouldn’t have in my life. [Before she went to sleep, she incubated a dream by asking for a dream that would indicate what she should do with this relationship and she had the dream described in the next paragraph]:
“In the dream, my golden retriever bit a cousin’s daughter, which is totally out of the dog’s character. The daughter’s mother (also my longtime friend and patient I provide care for) told me I need to put the dog down. I woke up feeling conflicted. Oddly enough I went to sleep asking spirit for a sign and that’s the sign the I received!”
I think the dream is voting that it is a toxic relationship that you should stay away from. Dogs are all about loyalty and the dream does a double entendre dream condensation on the theme of loyalty. Remember that each character in the dream is a part of your mind with women going more with emotions. Animals often represent our instinctive feelings. Dream condensation occurs when the dream is true on more than one level.
I think the woman represents your emotional common sense which says that, painful as it may be, you have to kill your instinctual loyalty (the dog) before you get bitten. The reason you put a dog down is because the dog has proven itself to be dangerous by biting someone. To me, this means you have to kill your internal loyalty to this person so that you do not get bitten again.
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Dream 446: Wondering about carrying my baggage into the future
A woman had the following dream:
“I had a dream that I was at an airport waiting to be called for my flight.Then I was called,and I got up and picked up my black bag.I think I was traveling with my youngest son…”
There is something almost spiritual about flight and usually has to do with your overall life goals. Picking up a bag could mean that you were worried about carrying “baggage” into your future. That your youngest son is in the dream usually means that you’re probably considering making some fairly major change. Each person in a dream is usually a part of your mind at the first level. Boys tend to go with actions while girls usually go more with emotions. That isn’the absolute, but is usually the case.
You are probably worried about how “baggage” from the past might affect that move. Unless you actually have a black bag, the color in this case could signal being worried about negative or depressing baggage being carried into your future. The type of action you may be considering would be related to the personality of your youngest son.
It is also possible that it is the condensation of two levels of the dream in the sense that the decision could involve your youngest son in some sense or how it would affect him. Again, the main thing is taking some action for your overall life goes intowards the future and being worried about carrying baggage into the future and how that baggage might affect your future.
The dreamer later indicated that she had been looking for a job and was wondering how that would affect her and her youngest son’s future.
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Dream 444: His never changing infuriates me
“I had a dream I was sitting on my bed talking with my ex and I herd a rustling under my bed. Out came a snake with tiger stripes. It bit him in the neck. What could this mean?”
Snakes usually represent change because they shed their skin. The type of snake usually indicates what kind of change it would be. That the snake emerges from under your bed indicates that the dream is probably addressing change in a personal and intimate relationship.
This is an aggressive tiger snake. This could mean that it involves him being aggressive in the relationship and/or it could involve you’re having anger towards him. I believe the dream condenses here and probably both of those statements are true to some degree. I think the dream could be signaling your anger over your ex never changing as well as indicating that he was aggressive in the relationship in his way of interacting with you.
It is likely that it is a dream of desire. You probably, within the relationship, wished that he would change seriously, which he never did. The snake was aggressive because maybe your boyfriend was too aggressive, in his way, and you understandably have anger over that. For what it’s worth, where the snake strikes him suggests he was a pain in the neck.
The dreamer later told me that the interpretation was accurate.
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Dream 443: A diamond is forever
A woman dreamed that she was walking along and she noticed the diamond was missing from her finger. She thought she had lost it. A young boy then came up to her with the ring and gave the ring back to her.
Each character in the dream represents a different part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Men tend to go with actions or a more action-oriented part of the mind. Women tend to go more with an emotional part of the psyche.
The maturity level of the character in the dream usually represents how developed either the action or the emotion is. That it was a young boy who returns the ring to her means that she is probably taking new action to confirm a commitment, an allegiance, a loyalty, a close relationship, or even a job.
It is unknown whether this dream describes the current state of affairs or whether the dream is predictive. Only the dreamer will be able to discern the full meaning of this dream.
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Dream 441: It’s your baby
A woman had the following dream:
“I had a dream I delivered my own baby and unwrapped the cord from his neck too . Was directing my family to call 911 and get scissors to cut cord to.”
Having a baby means giving birth to a new aspect of yourself. The dream is saying probably that you need to give some air to a new idea, project or new characteristic of yourself.
I think it may be saying that no one can do this for you. It is literally your baby.911 emphasizes usually that you should make the changes now. The scissors cutting the cord and you calling your family may mean something about cutting the cord with your family.
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A 36-year-old fine arts professor dreamt that he was on the patio of a Mexican restaurant. There was a wasp’s nest above the kidney shaped bar. Suddenly, a wasp flew down and stung him in the head. The dream shifted to him listening to a waittress. She was telling him about a long sordid affair she had with a professor.
This professor recently received job offers from colleges in Ohio and California. WASP also stands for White Anglo Saxon Protestant. I asked him which college was more conservative. He replied that the college in Ohio was much more conservative and he did not know if it would tolerate his avant-garde teaching style and research. I asked him what he associated with Mexican restaurants, and he replied California. I asked him what was the biggest mistake he ever made in his field, and he replied that he regretted a decision not to attend a college in California. That she, the waittress had a sordid affair with a professor indicated that his emotions (the waitress) had been untrue to his intellectual decisions (the male professor)—this was highlighted by the fact that he regretted not going to college in California/
The dream voted in the direction of the college in California. His subconscious exclaimed that a conservative atmosphere was hard on his head and thinking. A restaurant in a dream nurtures one psychologically, and the dream is saying that, for him, California is much more likely to be nurturing.
The female waittress is a part of his work emotions. In dreams, a waittress is often seen as “one who waits.” He told me consciously that his biggest career mistake was not attending a learning institution in California. The waittress is talking about an emotional mistake with a professor. The dream is warning him about making sincere and solid emotional connections. The dream is screaming that he needs to attend a learning institution in California.
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Dream 434: Dump Trump
A woman had the following dream:
“Oh wow…I was in what seemed to be a frat house. Some young guy was complaining about all the hoes at the party. I went upstairs to go to the bathroom and saw a man coming towards the house with a black object/machine/vacuum in his hands, although the dream itself blocked out what it really was. Then BOOM, the entire house was decimated, no one left, even a small baby had been killed. Only people on the porch survived and this is where I was. Then a woman came by and my brother and we had to sign papers. Then I saw the ghost of that baby because I was sad it had died too.
Then I saw another man in a vision in front of people in a city like new york square setting. He was dressed in black with red acting crazy with some kind of message for me. Then another guy dressed in black in another place i cannot remember yet was very clear in this dreamline…
Dream 435: Dump Trump
Every person in the dream is a part of your mind. Men go with your actions. A frat house is a Brotherhood of educated men who Goof Off a lot in my world. In the dream, they are anti-women, which means they are anti-emotional as women tend to go more with your emotions while men tend to go more with your actions.
These men are all off including a baby. I think the dream may be saying you need to get rid of any actions that are even unintentionally derogating to women. The baby is included because it is saying you have to get rid of even any tiny notion that might not be in favor of emotions or women.
The speaker in New York is obviously Donald Trump. The dream isn’t being clear about the two men. I suspect strongly that one of them was Donald Trump. I suspect the other man was the opposite of Donald Trump, what your actions preferably could be.
This extremely biased opinion was not paid for and I agree with its content. It is speculation of what I think is likely and humorous comments may also be true, but there is no way of definitely knowing.
The dreamer later told me after the interpretation that she and her daughter had been having major debates about Trump’s misogynist view of women.
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Dream 433: There is something I know I should do
A woman had the following dream:
“I had a dream I was in my wedding dress and looking for an iron for my veil. My young kids got out the flat with a strange wee boy. I went looking for them when I found them my little boy was lying lifeless in front of a car the other two kids where sitting up and the man from the car was sitting down he was on the phone crying and couldn’t look at me saying “sorry.” What does this mean?
“Weddings usually represent integration of different parts of your mind and personality. This one is focusing on your actions in particular integrating with your emotions as men tend to go with actions and women tend to go with emotions in dreams.
The clothing represents your defenses psychologically. A veil is something that you would have to look through that partially covers who you really are.
An iron is something you do to take the wrinkles out of your clothes, the wrinkles out of your defenses. There’s also the comment saying that we ” iron out our problems.” You are preparing to integrate, but delay doing so because you want to iron out your problems first, in particular, how you look at things through the veil of your consciousness.
At the first level, your little boy would represent a new action on your part that you delayed doing. Cars are usually vehicles that represent our progress in life.
The man in the dream is communicating with others how sorry you will feel if you delay taking a small action you need to do which involves changing your outlook and not putting off your integration of your emotions with your actions.
My bias is to think that the dream thinks that you should be taking some action which you know you should do which you are delaying because you want to wait till things look better through the way you are thinking about things now.”
The dreamer later indicated to me that you recently had a child and was deciding whether to get married.
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Dream 413: She should have listened
A dreamer reported an ex girlfriend had a couples dreams of him one night. He wondered about the significance of the sea shell. The former girlfriend’s dream was as follows:
“I kept singing prayers into your ear and kissing your forehead after every one. Every time I did a new orb would appear and I’d have a vision of some place. You were holding sea shells”
” I was little and someone was reading a bedtime story while I gazed out the window into the dark woods when all of a sudden this freaky alien ripped me out of the house and into the woods.”nbsp;
Her singing to you and kissing dreamer’s forehead in the dream would mean that at the first level she’s praying to the action part of herself that loved him which is expressed by her kissing his forehead.
If it were my dream, the orbs would probably represent hopes regarding relationships. Orbs are round and are light and rocks are circular mostly. Circular objects, especially circular objects that are lighted usually represent the soul since the circle has no beginning and it has no end. The dream is suggesting that she’s dealing with soul issues.
If these dreams were together relatively, it seems to be about listening. The dream seems to be saying she has emotional wishes that she prays would come true, but probably really doesn’t listen to them very closely.
I think the above for two reasons, the first one being the seashells. When I was young it was always said that if you held a seashell to your ear you could hear the ocean. The ocean is the biggest symbol of the subconscious that we have. Symbolically, these seashells would represent listening to her subconscious, specifically, the part of her subconscious that dealt with dreamer.
The second reason to suspect it has to do with listening is that when she is read a bedtime story, she is not paying attention and is staring out into the dark woods.
The dream gets savage in emphasizing that she needs to listen and pay attention to her subconscious emotions by having an alien jerk her out of her world.
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Dream 410: Born again
A woman had the following dream:
“So I had a dream that I was the mother of Jesus, I looked like me but I didn’t at
the same time. My hair was longer and darker, my skin was darker, etc ..yet the
same exact eyes,lips,height, and curls. I was standing in a door way & I can feel
the Sun on my back as I look into the shaded small building. It looked like a very
small home (far from modern).
I can’t recall what was said.
The twist is I believe in God but I haven’t accepted Jesus as God. Im not saying
its impossible,because nothing is. I look into all religions & “mythologies”. When I
woke up I felt like I literally just slammed into my body,I had tears in my eyes and
this tingling in my heart.”
At the first and symbolic level of dream interpretation, an important spiritual and emotional part of you is standing at the doorway to a new life (a new house). You are literally being reborn
in the sense of giving birth to a new part of your spirituality. Your
emotions are getting ready to deliver a new spiritually active and central
part of yourself. This part is small now but important. One wants to
remember that Jesus was born in a manger.
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Dream 409: The ghost of relationships past
A woman had the following dream:
“I need guidance if possible on what this dream meant..
So I dreamt I was not a ghost but invisibly present in my ex and I’s home, which is just his home now. And I noticed little upgrades, for example I thoroughly noticed little ottomans that were black and white stripe, three of them, and also noticed a very high techy fancy massage chair, very similar to the one the gentleman I was dating recently has in his home. That was the whole dream. Very odd, can anybody give me clarity on this one?”
I would suggest that at the first level, the ghost may represent the observing ego part of yourself.
In this case, I think it is very hard to separate the first and second levels of interpretation so I’m going to mix the two together. The first level is within the dreamer’s own psyche. The second level is interpersonal.
The house usually represents the dreamer because it is the framework of which one lives. Furniture usually represent what supports you in your life since furniture supports your body. In this case, I think this particular house because you and an ex lived in it more specifically represents the relationship part of your life.
I think the Ottomans being black and white to me suggest it is more clear what you want and what you don’t want in a supportive relationship. The dream is giving high grades to relationships that are supportive of a modern and soothing relationship. It may also be giving recognition to the idea that the next relationship needs to be modern and physically supportive.
This interpretation may only work in certain universes and is limited by my limited experience which includes my not personally knowing you.
The dreamer later confirmed that the interpretation “sounded about right.”
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Dream 408: Loving Life
I dreamed I was in a dark forest walking on a dirt path, in the middle of the path there were black horses breathing fire thru nostrils. I felt terrified and sat on ground in a fetus position, praying to please allow me to cross over the other side. I crawled slowly, getting under the horses. Suddenly these horses started rubbing heads on my face with so much love. Slowly removing the extreme fear with loving touches. Then different animals in the forest– deer, mice, rats,snakes and so on. All where rubbing and caressing me, and I was in a state of overwhelming love..WOKE UP..cried because i still felt the sensation of this love, I couldn’t eat meat for months. I couldn’t cut chicken for my family’s dinners. I would start crying. It was strange to still feel it after months. I am not religious or a vegetarian.
Animals generally represent our instincts which are biological necessities in order to survive. Horses in particular seem to represent female living energy or libido. The first part of the dream is you have the power of that life force. It is the shadow side of the life or love force that provides the “horsepower” needed in life. The remainder of the dream is trying to make you comfortable with accepting that energy because when that life force is used correctly, it is loving, instinctual, and the basis of life.
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Dream 407: Eating Forbidden Fruit
A woman had the following dream:
“I had a dream that I was in a huge office building with many floors, offices etc. I was just trying to go home, but first find a restroom. I kept ending up in offices where there were people dressed in business attire and I didn’t have my top on…Trying to squeeze through, but they wouldn’t move. So rude!
I finally found a hall. Relief. I was walking to find a restroom, then I see a sitting area with a table on which was a plate of caramel apples with nuts. Yum! I picked one up and took a bite.
Then 2 ladies to the side shook their heads and fingers, no…I put it back and continued….exhausted! WHAT I DETERMINED: I am never going to fit in, no matter how I try to reveal my true self and good things are not for me! Well, I won’t accept that! Any other interpretations? I’m very open to your analysis.”
I am going to be sounding like a bit of a preacher and I don’t mean to sound that way but here it comes. The setting in a dream usually indicates what the dream is going to be about. It starts out in a commercial office building that has many floors.
Usually in a building the different floors can represent different levels of consciousness. So I am just saying that there are people who have many different ways of looking at things that may be at variance with your level of consciousness.
When you are looking for a restroom in a dream, that usually indicates that there are things that you need to get rid of that no longer serve you. One of the things that you probably need to change is being more careful about who you open yourself up to.
Clothing usually represents psychological defenses in dreams because that’s what we show the rest of the world. The people are dressed in business clothing which means that they are defensive and about commercial and business interests. You do not have a top on which indicates that you are probably risking yourself by opening yourself up in that environment.
Each character in the dream is a part of your psyche and women tend to go more with emotions. I think the women are disapproving of your eating the apple because part of your emotions realize that your effort to open yourself up to very defensive people is well meaning but is not going to work out very well probably. Trying to get psychological nourishment in that environment (eating the apple) is ill fated and not likely to work out no matter how sweet it may look on the outside (the caramel).
If it were my dream, the lesson would go something like, “I have to be more careful about who I expose myself to.” You mean well, but you want to make sure that the people you are talking to are at least potentially open to what you have to offer which sounds like it probably is a lot. One does want to put pearls in front of swine–it will annoy the pig and dirty the pearls.
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Dream 403: Bird of Paradise Defies the Snake
A woman described the following dreams:
Two recent dream’s…
•One large cardinal in the forest..
•One large copperhead
The cardinal was abnormally large, sitting in a tree and I was watching it as it flew down.The snake was coiled at the bottom and errect facing me with its mouth open as I looked at its fangs and talked to someone about its poison.
Birds usually represent freedom, independence and taking flight in life. Snakes most often represent change. Snakes are one of the few animals to completely shed its skin. You may be trying to assess what dangers (fangs and poison) are involved in your taking flight in life. Cardinals are typically red. Red goes with love and intense emotions. Red is also the color that goes with our family chakra.
It sounds like you are trying to assess how much damage or change in your life is going to occur as you become more independent. It is likely that you are especially concerned on how it affects family emotions.
The cardinal being abnormally large probably means you are in the process of making big decisions regarding your independence and flight. The decision you make could be of Cardinal importance.
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Dream 400: Change without hurting who you are
A woman had the following dream:
“I had a nightmare…. I was in a mall and people kept coming up the escalator covered in blood. I didnt pay any attention to them until my deceased uncle came up the excalator and said do something. Then at that point I went looking for who was hurting the people and it turned out to be a baby ! So I stabbed this baby with an unusual tool, and the baby fell to the ground and then got back up again and I kept jabbing the baby in the neck….at that point I woke up feeling very disturbed.”
Each person in a dream represents a part of your mind. Men tend to go with your actions while women tend to go with your emotions. Having a baby in a dream means that this is a new part of yourself that you are developing.
Developing this new part of yourself is causing all kinds of commotion in your life and is changing you symbolized by the innocent people being hurt in the mall. You want to get rid of it, but it is persistent and wants to live in you.
It is interesting that your uncle was a prize fighter. One would think his advice would go something like “keep this part in line, and don’t let it hurt any other parts of you.” So you have to keep this newer feisty part of you in line so that it does not hurt who you have been.
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The stone-cold stare
Dream 398: How Dare You Be Like Your Father
A man dreamed that he was sitting on a couch between his divorced mother and father. He was in the 8th grade. His mother’s head was full of snakes that looked quite threatening and they were green and gooey.
My interpretation of the dream
The first question I asked him was whether he blamed his mother for the divorce. He responded that he had talked with her the night before this dream about the divorce that occurred in an important stage of his life. He noted that he looks like his father and was absent-minded like his father which drove his mother up the wall.
Snakes often signal transformation. The mother in the dream is his mother interject which is usually the basis of emotions. The dream is saying that he went through a major emotional transformation when he was 14 which was in fact when the divorce occurred.
The mother having snakes for hair replicates the Medusa archetype. In Greek mythology, Medusa was a fearsome image and men they looked at her turned into stone. Medusa is a perfect image in this instance.
I believe Medusa shows up also because emotionally he felt his mother was stony and rigid towards him. She could break the dreamer down with one cold stare when he was young. These stares occurred mainly when she equated him with his father because of the similarity of looks and actions.
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Dream 397: Time to Get Real
A woman dreamed that her 94 year old mother-in-law who is in a wheelchair suddenly got up and started walking around very fast to show the dreamer that she actually could move and walk very well. The mother in law in real life weighed 300 pounds and was morbidly and pathologically psychologically dependent upon her son. She had difficulty walking mainly because of her weight.
The dreamer thought she was a phony and that her mother-in-law knew that she knew her mother-in-law was being phony. The mother in law for some reason had been amazingly alert and coherent lately.
My Interpretation to the Dreamer
Taking the dream at different levels, your subconscious is saying both that she is phony and that you yourself have to be phony to be able to put up with her. At a deeper level, it may be trying to reassure you that you are fine, that you are physically and psychologically healthy, in spite of her antipathy towards you.
Her being very alert is interesting and something I can never explain. Both personally and in the lives of my clients, people who are on a long downward course health wise will often have a brief intense period of emotional/cognitive clarity and physical vitality before sinking into a clasped physical and mental disrepair and even death.
I thought this mother-in-law had characteristics of the Queen archetype that Carl Jung describes– domineering, controlling, selfish, egocentric, and wanting to dominate the household situation. The dreamer confirmed most of my insights.
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Dream 395: Looking for love in all the wrong places
A man had the following dream:
“I have trouble with cats in some dreams. At first I’m glad to see a cat, but sooner or later they claw in my arms or legs and they won’t let go. It’s painful and I want it to stop asap, feeling annoyed and threatened maybe. I don’t really know what to make of it.”
I think this dream is a combination or a condensation of the first two levels of dream interpretation which is as it involves yourself and as it involves you in interpersonal relationships.
To say it simply, you have hurt yourself by having affections for people who do not have affection for you. Pets usually represent your affections. They are probably women given the cat usually goes with women and female affections. In any case, the emphasis is on emotional affection and how you are being hurt by it.
The thought is that on the interpersonal level the people you are having affection for do not only not return the affection, but actively hurt you. It is interesting that the cats will not let go and continue to hurt you.
I believe this is saying that you persist in showing affection to people who do not return the affection, and these people continue to persist in wanting to hurt you. You continue to show affection to people who are not only not neutral, but are hazardous to your welfare.
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Dream 391: Avoid Provocations and Act More Like Dad
A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed my ex and I were someplace about to cross the street as I stepped into the street a car full of young men speed up in front of me nearly hitting me… I panicked and banged the hood of their car. This angered them all as did when my ex told them to ef’n watch what they’re doing. The driver turned looked at his friends in the backseat and front passenger seat… I saw him reach for a gun… I turned and ran…hearing gunshots…my ex was killed.
After that dream waking me up when I fell back asleep I dreamed of my dad who passed away from a heart attack 1 1/2 ago.. It wasn’t so much a dream but a flash of different memories of him, i kept seeing of him in my dream. Smiling, laughing, being silly, making his grumpy faces, hearing his voice, cooking.. I don’t know these two dreams left me wondering if they had any meaning.”
Each character represents a different part of the psyche with women going more with an emotional part and men going more with your actions. An ex represents a relationship you rejected and he (an action part) is killed. What this means is that you have decided not to engage in behavior that enrages others (such as swearing and pounding your fist in anger) even if you are provoked.
The father in your dream is your father in your mind, your father introject, which is often the basis of actions. You have fond memories of what he was like. It sounds like you want the basis of your actions to be somewhat similar to the way your dad did things.
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Dream 391: My Sister Is Very Irritating
A woman had the following dream: “I had a strange dream I was walking then I saw my sister at an office and she says that my mom got bit by ants. I believe that was the doctors office. It ended there.”
“Each living thing in the dream represents a part of your mind at the first level. It sounds like it mainly involves emotions since women tend to go more with emotions. The mother in the dream is the mother in your mind that we call the mother introject. The mother introject is often the basis of emotions.
Animals (in this case ants) usually represent our instincts, what we are prone to do naturally. Ants are methodical, routine and focused on accomplishing what needs to be done for the group compulsively.
Being bit by ants is a nuisance/irritating. I wonder if there is a situation (maybe involving family) where you have put in a lot of work and are feeling a little annoyed or taken for granted?”
The dreamer responded with the following confirmation: “Yes, my sister was over for a month.My sister is very bossy and doesn’t use nice words to tell them to do things. Not cursing, not a sweet person very cold and mean!”
Dream 389: Getting It Together
A woman had the following dream:
“Dreams are wonderful for me lately. I dream of my deceased parents staying married (they divorced when I was 4), seeing them grow old together. Just wishful thinking?”
Whatever theory you look at in mental health, it eventually gets back to mom and dad, it is not the whole thing, it is just a part of it which gets less and less as you get older but there is probably always still some remnant of your parents. The mother and the father you dream of now are the mother and father in your mind which are called a mother introject and a father introject.
The father introject is most often the basis of your actions. The mother introject is most often the basis of your emotions.
Marriage is a union of different parts of your mind. If it is a marriage between your father and your mother, it typically represents you’re integrating your emotions with your actions. The fact that you dream of them growing old together indicates that the integration is a long-term effect. Congratulations!
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Caught Between Two Lovers
Feeling Like a Fool
Dream 387: Caught Between Two Lovers
A man had the following dream: “I dreamt a lot but there’s one particular part I can’t find an answer to. I saw a tarot card, beautiful card. It was of a queen wearing white sitting she had a crescent above her head, porcelain face, and by her side were these green cartoonish creatures that looked non threatening yet I’m sure they could if wronged or ordered to.
My Interpretation for Him
At first, I thought you were talking about the queen of swords in the Tarot deck. However, the imagery you described is closer to the two of swords. This part of the dream probably goes with emotions as women in dreams tend to represent an emotional part of your psyche.
The image in the Tarot deck in the two of swords is a woman completely dressed in white with a white blindfold who is holding two swords with her arms crossed across her chest. The thought is that she is stuck in the middle and can’t make a decision and is afraid to move or to choose one of the options. The crescent appears on this card as a new moon. The moon tends to go with the subconscious and it could mean that you have some dawning awareness or insight in your subconscious.
The thought would be that possibly you have to choose between two relationships and feel unable to choose because you are going to have to hurt someone in making the choice. The green creatures could be involved as they may represent money, or marijuana, or a condensation of both. It also could be having to choose between a relationship and money or marijuana.
As always, I am interpreting the dream totally blind and I’m presenting possible options.
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Dream 385: I Want to Recapture How I Was Emotionally in My First Relationship with a Girl
When I was 12 I fell in love with a girl at first sight(right when I looked in her eyes) , and her dad was the first one to teach me how to kick a soccer ball when I was just 7(I’m really good, could play pro if I want ). She has a lot of reason why I am spiritual and pay attention to my dreams. Problem is when I was in high school, we would fight and I would ignore her and not look at her. We aren’t really on talking terms like we were when I was younger and I don’t follow her on social media.
The reason I bring this up is because she has been in my dreams all the time, and 90% of the time I can’t look at her or talk to her. Other 10% is amazing (dancing, doing things together , kissing etc) but 90% of the time she’ll be in my dream and won’t be able to look at her. I want to look at her and kiss her, but in my dreams I feel like I have subconsciously put it in there that I can’t speak or talk to her.
Just recently I was in my dreams teaching a yoga class with just two other people and she showed up to do the class and while I was doing the yoga poses she was doing them too and we were looking at each other but neither of us could say anything to each other. She was sort of looking at me funny snd i just looked her and kept going…
If I knew I was dreaming I would of kissed her right there, lol. Just yesterday I had another one where we were in the car together in the backseat and I tried talking to her but something wouldn’t let me. It must of been a 15 minute car ride and we just stared at each other , it seems like she can’t say anything to me either.
This is just two examples out of the more than 100x this has happened with her in my dream. What do you think is the best thing to do? I’m stubborn. If she’s meant to be in my life the universe will have me run into her like it usually does with her, so I feel like I should wait for that.
Do you think she experiences the same dreams?
The dreams may be about her and having a relationship with her, but only you would know that since that is the second level of dream interpretation where only you have enough to detail to determine that.
At the first level, I think you probably have idealized that early relationship and want to emotionally be the way you were with her when things were good in future relationships. My money is on this is a fantasy about an idealized relationship from the past that your subconscious wants you to learn from so that you learn the lesson and look for the right relationship and act appropriately in the future.
This is based only on the structure of the dream and only you can determine what interpersonal value it has if any. Each character in the dream represents a part of your psyche at the first level with men going with your actions and women going with your emotions.
My thought is there was something about the way you were emotionally with this girl that you were developing that was not finished and you want to emotionally change yourself to find the ideal relationship. As such, in your mind she probably represents an ideal woman or anima. It is a big dream about how you should be in a relationship.
To answer your questions at the end, it is possible she's having dreams about you. If that is the case, I would see it more as a sign that the universe was trying to get the two of you together. I do like your idea that if it was meant to be, the universe will conspire to have the two of you meet again.
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The great Rumi shows his profound understanding of life:
“THE DREAM THAT MUST BE INTERPRETED
This place is a dream.
Only a sleeper considers it real.
Then death comes like dawn,
and you wake up laughing
at what you thought was your grief.
But there’s a difference with this dream.
Everything cruel and unconscious
done in the illusion of the present world,
all that does not fade away at the death-waking.
and it must be interpreted.
All the mean laughing,
all the quick, sexual wanting,
those torn coats of Joseph,
they change into powerful wolves
that you must face.
The retaliation that sometimes comes now,
the swift, payback hit,
is just a boy’s game
to what the other will be.
You know about circumcision here.
It’s full castration there!
And this groggy time we live,
this is what it’s like:
A man goes to sleep in the town where he has always lived
and he dreams he’s living in another town.
In the dream, he doesn’t remember
the town he’s sleeping in his bed in. He believes
the reality of the dream town.
The world is that kind of sleep.
The dust of many crumbled cities
settles over us like a forgetful doze,
but we are older than those cities.
We began as a mineral.
We emerged into plant life
and into the animal state, and then into being human,
and always we have forgotten our former states,
except in early spring when we slightly recall
being green again.
That’s how a young person turns
toward a teacher. That’s how a baby leans
toward the breast, without knowing the secret
of its desire, yet turning instinctively.
Humankind is being led along an evolving course,
through this migration of intelligences,
and though we seem to be sleeping,
there is an inner wakefulness
that directs the dream,
and that will eventually startle us back
to the truth of who we are.”
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Dream 381: Give Me a Head with Hair
A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed I was bleaching my hair then I was going bald from the front to the back.”
Hair is on your head where thinking occurs.
Hair is also usually a part of sexual attraction.
Bleach is a harsh way of cleansing impurities. In fact, the implication is that you go bald from the bleaching of the hair.
Going bald often has something to do with a change in your perception of your self-image. Going bald usually is associated with the dreamer viewing herself too negatively.
Putting this together, it may have something to do with trying to cleanse your mind of impure thoughts probably related to sex, but you are being too harsh with yourself to the point that it is negatively affecting your self-image or ego.
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Dream 379: Avoiding Handsome Manipulators
A woman had the following dream:
“I was in a library and the feeling of awe because of all the books and knowledge that are in them. I wanted to get a new book for new knowledge and couldn’t wait but then I spotted this gorgeous man. He was alluring. He had tan skin and long dark hair. He reminded me of my boyfriend from age 19 who was a Victorias Secret model. He was younger as well. The man looks back and our eyes connect and he notices me too.
I see he is talking to a woman. He’s smiling and quite friendly with her. We end up talking a bit with tons of flirting. He tells me to meet him upstairs where we can be alone for sex. While slipping out of the library I see him flirt with other women and they want him. I did not like the way he was so flirtatious to the other women but said to myself he still chose me.
I walk out of the library and to my surprise I am in a huge building. The walls are shiny gold. The ceilings are high. There is a stairwell that has marble stairs and shiny gold guardrails going up. I go up the stairs and find its an attic. When I walk in its nothing like where I came from. It’s dark, only one window and a humongous blow up matress. Dark wooden beams were on the ceiling for support in an angle. There on the mattress was the man completely naked and ready. I was very upset. I thought I was worth at least some sweet talk and romance.
He convinced me to sit by him but tried to just go for it. I kissed him but was hesitant. Then one of the workers came in and said we couldn’t be there so we had to leave aa if we were caught. He said to meet him later somewhere else. I said ok.
I went down and had to find the way out. I walked through this huge building and ran into what was a casino I believe. It had the machines with gold knobs on them. I thought how odd a casino was in there. I walked in for a minute but couldn’t walk through because I can’t stand the energy of casinos and people gambling.
I searched for another way out but couldn’t find one. I ended up walking through the casino and finally getting out. Exhausting.
Some friends pick me up and we drive around town for a bit. I keep thinking I told this man I’d meet him and didn’t think I wanted to. Hours later we ended up at some storage units where I was suppose to meet him.
I had given him my word so I was thinking I’d tell him I changed my mind but really I didn’t want to deal with it at all. But I kept going back and forth because he was so good looking, lol. I finally thought to myself that I was worth more than sex at a storage unit, how he had flirted with other women and it didn’t make me special that he chose me but probably gullible instead. Also that I wasn’t even worth some romance with the two places he had picked. I told myself no way, I didnt care how good looking he was bc this now made him ugly. I left knowing he’d be stood up. I woke.
I want to approach this dream from the point of view of each character in the dream being part of your mind.Men usually go more with actions and women going more with emotions usually.
The dream starts out in the library. Usually the way a dream starts out usually tells us what it’s going to be about. Right off the bat the dream is emphasizing learning and knowledge and you were flirting with the idea of gaining more knowledge. Having sex in a dream is a sign of integration. But this integration never really happens in this dream. The problem is that the man isn’t worth integrating with. He is a trickster, manipulator who does not have your best interest at heart.
This dream is a major caution against going after what looks good. The first place he wants to have sex with you is in a high place in an attic. A building frequently can correspond with the dreamer to some extent in which case this is talking about your mind and your higher ideals probably.
You are caught in the attic and asked to leave because there are other parts of yourself that do not want you to lower your standards.
Going to the casino is interesting. I think the dream is screaming that you don’t want to gamble yourself on shallow circumstances.
Being asked to have sex in storage units is not only doubling down on it being dingy and the lowering of your self esteem, but I think the dream is expressly saying it wants you to put this memory in storage, they want you to remember this lesson and not compromising yourself excessively.
All in all, the dream is emphasizing deepening yourself through learning and knowledge and warning you about rationalizing yourself into compromising situations. It is explicitly warning you about being lured by what looks good rather than gaining knowledge (the library).
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Dream 375: Permission to Master and Guide My Emotions and Creativity
A woman had the following dream:
“I was talking to my dad asking his permission to bring home a grand piano. He said we have to ask your mom. So,anyway I brought the grand piano in a den that I’ve never seen before nor have I been there.My mom and dad were there and I said to my mom “Can we keep it? The piano matches the mantel, mom, please.” She said, “Okay.” The dream ended there.”
At the first level in a dream, your father represents your father introject which is often the basis of your actions. Your mother introject is usually the foundation of your emotions. So this is a big dream.
A piano, and particularly a grand piano, usually represents creativity and mastery. Music puts us in a certain mood that we control by our selection of music we play so that it can be emotionally related. It may be related to deciding to control your emotions.
In thought emotionally, and in action, you decided on some level to give yourself the means to make beautiful music emotionally or something on that order would be my first idea. And giving yourself permission to do this creative or emotional thing is something that you have decided upon to let yourself do.
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Dream 374: I Need a New Image
A woman dreamed that she cut her hair in a dream. When she woke in the morning, her hair was arranged somewhat like it was in the dream. She wondered what it meant if you give yourself a haircut in a dream.
Dreams are usually about problems you’re having. A haircut usually means a demotion or diminution of power. We talk about getting a haircut at work which usually means that you were put in your place.
It also could be a new start or a new beginning, and it probably is the new start or new beginning because you decided to change something about yourself you did not like. This particularly would be the case if you gave yourself a haircut. You looked at yourself and started to change something to give yourself a new look in life would be my take on it.
The meaning I am taking from the dream is positive in the sense that you are getting a new look because you want to correct the problems from the past. Dreams are almost always about solving problems. This has adaptive value which is why dreams have stayed with people through the millenniums.
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Dream 371: Going Crazy on You
A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed the other night that I helped two guys who became infatuated with me. (This actually happens to me a lot in life.) There were two other guys there that were my friends in the dream and they looked at me like I knew better and why did I help further knowing better. I signaled back “I know, I know”. We didn’t need words because they were my intuition side. I got rid of the infatuated boys and became incredibly attracted to the intuitive ones. We had very intimate sex. I then ended up at a hospital to help deliver a baby with them and after got to see all the new-born babies in the hospital.”
This would be seen as your integrating intuitive action parts of yourself. Sex between a man and a woman is usually seen as integration of actions (men) and emotions (women) as each character is a part of the dreamer’s psyche.
The first part of the dream where you are involved with two nerdy men basically is asking the question, “Why are you wasting your time with them or with those aspects of your life?”
Sex usually represents integration with the different part of yourself that you are having sex with. Integrating the different intuitive aspects leads to a whole new part of your psyche, the new baby. The thought would be since the dreamer was a female having sex with two intuitive men, that she was integrating two intuitive action parts of her mind.
This integration could be stimulated by any of several different actions. Such actions would include discussion with other intuitive people (probably men in this case or it could be the action parts of women’s minds). Watching intuitive movies, honing intuitive skills, psychic abilities, reading new age books and out-of-body travel would be examples of intuitive actions. A strong spirituality is probable.
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Dream Question 370: A female dreamer asked: What does it mean if you dream that you have sex with someone almost identical to yourself?
Sex at the first level usually means integration especially if it was good consensual sex. If you have a dream where you are having sex with someone who is identical to yourself, how the act was performed would make substantial difference in my world.
Let’s say the act was very loving, then the dream would be signaling that you were integrating love into yourself. If the act was aggressive but none the less satisfying, the dream would be signaling either that you have integrated some aggressive impulses into your personality, or the dream maybe advising for some reason that you integrate some aggression more into your personality. This isn’t necessarily bad, because it’s aggression that gives us the get up and go to accomplish things. It just has to be controlled by other parts of the personality.
The more intimate the sexual act, the more integrated it is. Having sex with an identical self is rather awesome in a way because it is saying that you really don’t need any other person other than yourself. Women usually represent an emotional part of the dreamer, and since the dreamer was a woman, the emphasis is on emotional integration. If the dreamer were a man, the dream would be emphasizing integrating his actions since men tend to go more with action parts of the mind.
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Dream 368: The World Goes Round in Circles
A young woman had the following dream:
“Like I found myself laying partially in the ground in some very beautiful moss carpeted forest. In the ground meaning I was buried just beneath the surface as if the ground dirt and moss was my bed/blanket. And it felt amazing like I woke up feeling at home partially inside the earth. That was one piece. In another segment I awoke (in my dream) to find myself on a merry go round in some park. The merry go round was already spinning quite fast but I wasn’t dizzy because my perspective was looking within the merry go round. But then I looked up and to the side as if to view the park and immediately my balance was thrown off and my perspective changed and I got really dizzy just as you would if you were on a fast spinning one. It was just very bizarre to me that in my dream I could change perspectives like this and actually feel and see the world around the merry go round spinning and it physically felt as though I was on it.”
The dream starts out by saying in the most explicit way possible that you are very well grounded. Being on the merry-go-round is interesting. A merry-go-round is a circle. A circle is the best symbol we have of the soul. Things that are in an amusement park, like merry-go-rounds, are usually seen as you’re having fun or entertainment in life.
The dream gives very strong advice. You must keep your perspective on what is close to you and avoid looking outside for fun as it will only make you confused and dizzy.
Dream 367: Giving the Divine Child archetype some spiritual courage
A young man had the following dream in his own words:
“I was walking beside a girl in a part of my dream last night. She was very sweet. As we were walking into a building I felt a presence behind her.
I looked back and there was a woman dressed in dark holding a gun to her.
I put my hand on the spine of the girl I was beside and humbly whispered ‘in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit.’
And in that moment a light flashed over the girl with the gun and she put it down and said in a similar tone as mine when I spoke. She said ‘thank you.’
I smirked at her in a loving but strong way and walked the girl into the building she was going into.”
Assuming that the girl was a child, it was probably the Divine Child archetype. The Divine Child carries all our hopes, dreams and wishes for the future, like Jesus Christ did. It often is a blue-eyed blonde-haired little girl between the ages of 3 and 11. It can be other physical features, but these are the most frequent in our culture.
The girl as a Divine Child archetype would represent positive emotions and hoped for plans for the future. Women usually represent an emotional part of the dreamer. A woman with a gun is shadow aggressive/negative emotions.
The dreamer put his hand on her spine and say something very spiritual. The dream is saying that strong spirituality helps him stand up to negative emotions, it helps him have more spine.
The dreamer in the dream is acting as the heroic masculine which is usually the part of the personality that is involved in healing. It takes the action necessary to heal the person or make them better. In this case, the heroic masculine is lending his strength to Divine Child emotionality so that his plans can be actualized and come into reality.
When the Heroic Masculine lends it’s strength in performing healing action to the Divine Child, the Self can only say “thank you” that Shadow emotions were overcome and vanquished.
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Dream 362: The Heroic Masculine Wants to Heal
In a dream, the dreamer who was a man was in a medical facility escorting a young soldier to an operation. A dark haired lady and another fellow were pushing the soldier along on a cart. The dreamer somehow knew the two physicians were actually escaped convicts. The soldier was given a syringe of something and passed out.
Dreams at a medical facility or physicians are often about healing. Each person in a dream usually represents a part of your mind with men going more with actions and women going more with emotions. The convicts would be shadow parts of the personality that are imposters.
A soldier typically represents the heroic masculine because he is willing to die for his country. This part of the personality is often a healing action part–it is a part of the dreamer that is usually involved in implementing the healing actions. The problem is that he is wounded and needs genuine help and not imposters.
The syringe that causes him to pass out is a phoney cure. The implication is that the dreamer has been wounded and is trying to get healing, but is taken advantage of by imposters that do not have his best interests at heart. There is an implication that the dreamer is looking for a substance or force outside himself for healing that causes him not to be conscious (the soldier passes out) of his best interests. The remedy is not to believe imposters posing as healers who are criminally minded. The bottom line may be a warning to rely more on his own internal strength or soul.
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