A woman dreamt that she was attending someone’s wedding. She decided to leave and take an uber ride share home. The driver was an 84-year-old man who violated her sexually when she arrived home.
At home, someone had shot her father in the leg, and he was not hurt very bad. Her mother was mortally wounded as the bullet was lodged near her heart. She vividly experienced holding the wound shut with her hand to prevent bleeding. The dream ended with her mother being take to the hospital.
Her parents were in the process of a bitter divorce. Her father had an affair with another woman. The dream starts out with a wedding because a wedding represents integration of the dreamer. The divorce of her father introject (her actions) from her mother introject (the dreamer’s emotions) was affecting her integration as a person at the first level of dream interpretation.
At the second or interpersonal level of dream interpretation, the dream starts out with someone’s wedding because it was announcing that someone’s marriage (her parents) was going to be involved. When both the first and second levels are true it is condensation. The dream is fitting the maximum amount of meaning into the smallest space.
I am more and more impressed how everyday sayings can add to the interpretation of a dream. I believe being sexually violated by an old uber driver was the dream emphasizing that she was “being taken for a ride.” The dream was highlighting how personally violated her father’s affair and resulting divorce made her feel. The driver was 84 because personal violations by her father were “getting old.”
The number 84 is not insignificant. Four is the number of stability as there are four legs to a chair, four legs to a table, four directions, four quarters to a game, etc. When a dream wants to emphasize something, it may give you two of them, as in 2×4=8. I believe the number 8 in this case stresses how the affair and divorce negatively affected her feelings of stability.
Mother introjects typically go with the foundation of emotions which is emphasized by the bullet being lodged near the heart (the body organ most associated with love).
Legs support us. Her father is shot in the leg because she felt the loss of support from her father. Her father was not hurt as bad because he was not hurt as seriously by the divorce. He had already immersed himself in a relationship with the other woman.
Her placing her hand over her mother’s heart, and her mother being taken to the hospital, emphasized the hope that the dreamer’s emotions and her mother would heal from the disturbing divorce.
Hospice workers noticed that dying patients frequently dream of family or friends who have died before in this article
I have noticed for years that people can have spiritual or vision dreams where it feels like the deceased friend, relative, or lover is actually there. That is, the dreamer believes they can see, hear, touch, and smell the person they knew so very well. It feels more like a visit than a dream sometimes.
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Dream 517: Giving a funeral for your feelings of guilt
A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed I and a friend were trapped in a house with a guy I dated briefly in my late teens. He was acting strange. Crazy almost. He had a shotgun pointed at me and was about to shoot, but my friend had one too, and shot him before he shot me. About the same time, the police burst into the house. But it was too late. She’d already killed him. We had to go to the police station and answer questions. His sisters came in. And more of his family. Then some of my family. Then we were at a church in the congregation hall. Everybody was crying. All dressed up. The funeral I’m guessing. I was holding someone’s baby and talking to another girl who was his girlfriend back in the day. We were talking about another man that I lived with that had died a few years ago by suicide and I woke up.
I often have dark morose sometimes violent dreams but why. I wake up and have a hard time getting these dreams out of my mind. Why do I dream disturbing things like this? And of course, in the dream it’s always so dramatic and vivid, and you wish you could wake up and it would end!”
Very interesting dream. I think it is probably about your feelings about how you have acted in relationships. In dreams, men tend to go with your actions and women tend to go with your emotions.
It starts out with a past relationship where he was clearly going to hurt you, but a part of your emotions correctly ended the harmful relationship.
Police usually represent your superego or conscience. The funeral with his family and comiserating with a girlfriend about a man you lived with who committed suicide (the ultimate guilt trip) are all about guilt tripping yourself over relationships that you appropriately ended.
Your subconscious is screaming that it is time to put an end to, to have a funeral for, your self-doubts and remorse over relationships that were best terminated.
You are holding a baby in the dream probably because babies can represent new beginnings or a new part of yourself. The dream may be urging you to content yourself with new positive feelings and free yourself from depressing self-doubts.
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The above article is the best dream therapy article I have have read in some time. I think the thing about dream therapy is that it took me ten years to get really good at it–I mean I was always OK, but did not feel accomplished until I had been doing it for a while.
At some point, the interpreter has to seriously believe and move on the images and what they are saying, and not get distracted by rationalization because we do not like the news that the dream is delivering.
At the end of the article, the dream about the woman who would not jump into a pool in spite of being urged to do so by friends reinforces the importance of water in dreams. Water virtually always is emotion. At the first level, it probably means that she avoids diving into her own emotions. At the second level, it probably means that she is avoiding getting emotionally involved with others, such as friends, too much.
People wonder if dreams mean something–it is rare for a dream to mean absolutely nothing in a relatively healthy person. The more frequent mistake is underestimating the meaning of a dream. The question more often is how many levels of reality is the dream addressing?
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I dreamed of a black german shepard dog with a yellow collar running down the road. He was obviously lost by the way he acted and looked. Does this have a meaning?
Dogs usually represent your instinctive affection of loyalty and protection. It sounds like you may have lost that feeling of being protected by another’s loyalty. Yellow can be a color signifying caution is needed. These feelings have probably been “unleashed” and are looking for a home.
The dreamer replied:
Well, I’m about to get married at the end of the month. Maybe I’ve got prewedding jitters?
To which I answered:
That sounds reasonable to me. It could represent worries, that you do not want the feelings of loyalty and protection to be lost.
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Dream 508: Losing your cool
A man had the following dream:
I had a dream that I walked into my old friend’s shop and a bunch of gangsters showed up and started stripping it of the AC units and everything else of value because he owed them money. I tried to respectfully remove myself from the situation with charm and friendliness towards the gangsters. I ended up losing my vehicle and crashing another while trying to escape the area because I had gone back for some of my things. On my final escape on foot a gangster couldn’t help himself from trying to shoot me in the parking lot even though the leader had given me a pass. I pounced on him, turned the gun on him and shot him. Now I had to run into the city on foot being persued by some of the gangsters. I found a officer who was listening to someone else and wasn’t interested in helping anyone. I was then rescued by a passing friend.
When I woke up before the dream started fading I yelled out in my mind to the Creator to let me know what I should learn from such a dream. The Creator’s reply was “let the things in your life be separate from things that gangsters occupy themselves with.” I thought in response, that my friend was a noble gangster and has done nothing ethically wrong in my own eyes that I know of. The response to that was that I should know that my friend wouldn’t hesitate for a second to kill me for the sake of his enterprise. And I believe that.
What a stunning and monumental dream! At the first level of dream interpretation, the intrapsychic level, the gansters represent shadow elements within the dreamer. At the second level of dream interpretation, the interpersonal level, the gangsters represents shadow elements or people he is dealing with in his life. It probably involves the money-making part of his life because it occurs in a friend’s shop. The gangsters steal air conditioning units–I believe the dream is screaming that he is allowing shadow elements into his life that are leading to him losing his “cool.” Additionally, it may represent at the second interpersonal level that these shadow elements in his life may lose their cool and rip him off. He is betrayed by getting shot after given assurance that he will not be shot warning the dreamer not to believe assurances of safety that he may be receiving. The police officer probably represents his own conscience at the first level who is not listening to the reality of the situation. At the second level, it may be advice that going to the police will do no good, although the second level is much more unreliable than the first level. In any case, he is left to his own devices to deal with this situation. He has internal resources (the friend) that will help him deal with this situation. The dream then abandons all symbolism and tells the dreamer what he knows in his heart, “let the things in your life be separate from things that gangsters occupy themselves with.” This is your subconscious or soul telling you the truth which you recognize. I think this dream is a warning for what you already knew at a deep level but maybe were putting off until the dream highlighted it in its own inimitable way.
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Dream 505: Her shadow wants her to be more emotionally independent
A man asked me for interpretation of his girlfriend’s dream:
“My girlfriend had a dream that she was sitting in a living room (not recognizable) and a black figure was sitting across from her. No cape or cloak just like a shadow. He then grabbed her hand and as she went to talk, he put his finger in front of his mouth in a “shh” manner. She got quiet then had another dream running through the woods in fear and this black figure led her into a tree that had a door on it. Then this led to the final of the trilogy. She was once again running from something and there was a “safe room” at the end. I was in this one and trying to get her in safely. I kept waving my hand in a “cmon” manner. The black shadow man told me to go in but wouldn’t let her in. This was all in one night. 3 separate dreams, one figure in all of them seemingly trying to help her but holds her back once she gets to the safe room and tries to get to me in there. Just curious as to what this could mean. We have a few theories but not sure.”
These dreams are 3 stages of a big dream, it sounds like to me. Her shadow is definitely trying to communicate with her to get her to do what she doesn’t want to do and which the shadow believes is necessary for her to grow. They shadow frequently is the therapeutic part of your subconscious that makes you do things you don’t want to do or are denying.
In the 1st stage, this shadow is indicating that what he wants is to show her what she needs to do and not only talk about it. In other words, the shadow wants more than talk. He wants action.
In the 2nd stage of dreams, the shadow shows what the problem is. The problem is that she runs from her problems. A tree is a symbol of integration. Being on the inside of a tree is the dreams indication that the person needs to do much inner work to integrate. That is why the shadow leads her to the inside of a tree, because she is too dependent on others and needs to rely more on her own internal integration of thoughts, feelings and actions.
The 3rd stage to dreams indicates further what the shadow and her dream wants her to do to to function better. She wants to join you as a solution to her problems which could be seen as wanting to be too emotionally dependent upon you. The shadow is holding you back from doing too much emotionally for her that she should be doing for herself. She needs to find safe space within herself instead of running to a loved one’s safe room. This is said without me knowing you or the situation and probably needs considerable modification.
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“I had a dream just before I woke up this morning in which I had somehow acquired a large mansion or palace in the UK, in or near London. In the dream, I knew it had been the former residence of the King/Queen of England, and it had a lot of red brick. If it is an actual place, I have never been there or seen it in a photo. I was the only one there and was looking around, wondering, “what am I going to do with all of this?” It was in good condition but would obviously require a lot of upkeep. -This dream is symbolic, as are most dreams, and I won’t be unpacking there to live in it. However, I am now considering where I want to live. I doubt it will be in London, let alone in a former royal palace. But, the size and history of the palace may indicate for me a more influential presence abroad. This “palace” could house a lot of people, doing a lot of things, for many types of benefits to others. -Any thoughts?www.drstevenfox.com”
To go really symbolic here and teeter on the edge, a place where you’re thinking of living can represent your future Self. I wonder if you are in the process of restoring yourself in some kind of way. To help you restore things that you’ve lost maybe or try to change things back to the way they were in some way. The idea is that it would be something about either restoring your situation, your relationships, yourself, or your activities somehow in some way they used to be in the illustrious or better parts of your past.
The dreamer later told me that the dream interpretation was more correct than I would ever know.
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“The dream begins in a workplace where there are multiple staff members. I am unsure of the type of work but it seems to be some sort of customer service where they help people. I was a staff member and noticed that certain people were getting promoted while others who I thought deserved it were not I believe.
After some observation I demanded to see the owner; however, I was led to a room where several supervisor staff men and women sat taking complaints via phone, and some in person trying to ease their frustrations.
I was led to a man about 5’9, medium build, grey hair, blue eyes approximately in his 60’s. He had a softness about his soul, a kindness in his eyes. I told him he would have to do, and proceeded to tell him the I didn’t believe everyone was being treated fairly. I told him since I had been there over the past few months I had been sexually assaulted. One man grabbed my butt, another my boob, and another pushed me against a wall wanting a kiss which I denied, among other flirtatious advances.
I had been quiet about it; however, now I see something in the company that did not look right. I told him I would not lower my standards any longer and I was going to take the company down in the name of all women who had ever been treated unfairly. He said he understood this.
Word got out that I was going to take the company down. Some of the women got a bit snotty with me. I assumed these were ones in a click. I said loudly that if these women had any respect for themselves, they would stand up.
I said if I had to be the only one, then I would do it for all women, until they were strong enough. I would no longer play nice with all I’ve witnessed and would no longer turn a blind eye with chuckles to wrong advancements. Some of the women stood by my side as they felt they now had the strength to do so, with my strength beside them.
I found myself in a mansion next. It was absolutely beautifully decorated, exquisite actually. I went outside to the gardens and noticed men and women gathered at a pond or lake on the property. I walked over. The women there were acting a bit odd when I arrived as if I was the talk of the place. I walked to the water and swam across it.
I got to the opposite end, stood on the grass and knew I had set a boundary line between myself and them. A man swam across to stand with me. He says “I will stand by your side because I believe in you.” He then proceeds to tell me he ate my feces and knew he could believe in me. Say what? I thought.
Next he turns on his belly and places his bossom in the air right in front of me. He asks me to wait and tells me he is going to push his feces out so I may eat of his. He says it was such an honor to eat mine and treats me like a celebrity in a sense. His offering was sincere and he told me how much it would mean to him if I did this. I could see his brown eye staring right at me as his poop very slowly began to come out. It was long and smelly. I could taste the feces in my mouth from the smell it gave.
It was between a brown, yet green color. I honestly didn’t know what to say. I didn’t want to offend him but no way in hell was I eating poop! Before I could figure out how I was going to “tastefully” reject this notion I woke.
Disgusting I thought. What the heck did THAT dream mean? Sh__ happens… maybe?
This is basically recycled poop. First it goes through the man who ate the dreamer’s feces, then it goes through the dreamer if she ate it. But the dreamer doesn’t eat it, and she was disgusted by the whole thing.
What is confusing about this, is always to think of it at the first level of dream interpretation. The person offering them recycled poop is a part of themselves. It is a apart of the dreamer she disliked. It is a part of herself that keeps dealing with the same old sh__.
The man who digested her feces is an action part of herself because men tend to go with an action part of the dreamer. So she keeps on digesting the same old stuff over and over which is disgusting and doesn’t do any good.
The message of the dream is taking in information once and digesting it and be done with it. Dreams are too graphic for us to stand most of the time which is why they are disguised. But in this particular case, the dream is going out of its way to make it disgusting, so that the dreamer will stop doing actions, which in this case, as we shall see, involves giving advice. In her case, it doesn’t do anyone any good, because the women she is advising don’t listen to any of her advice.
At the first level, the dream is about the dreamer doing actions for others over and over, that she keeps digesting the same material over and over again, and it doesn’t do any good. The dream is going out of its way to make it as disgusting as can be so that she stops giving advice to people who don’t use the advice anyway. Her actions are just exhausting her.
In the beginning of the dream the dreamer was standing up for other women, and then the poop was presented. She has a sister in her life that is being emotionally abused by her husband. The dreamer has stood by her side but is sick of her husband continuing to mistreat her. Her sister keeps telling her the same abusive stories over and over. It is obvious that she needs to leave the relationship, but she’s making no effort towards it.
The dream is emphasizing that it is disgusting that she keeps putting out energy to people who don’t listen to it. This was also happening in her work situation. Women were telling her their stories; she would give advice; and they would do the opposite or would do nothing regarding the advice.
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I had an interesting dream.I was walking alone on the shoulder of a highway it seemed little traffic,I heard a man’s voice say move or do you want to get hit by a car. Then I turned my back, and there was a three-car accident. All three cars were white.
I said to myself that I could have been in that car, oh my my! What if John (my son) is in that car! I started walking towards that wreck.
Before the accident, there was a white truck that passed by when I heard the mans voice but I never saw the person,the box truck just passed by me.
The important thing about this dream is that you are an observer in the dream. The dream is possibly giving advice. There’s three cars is so we think that it means something spiritual or on a higher plane.
A car is how you get somewhere in life. The dream implies that there’s three courses of action that are on a collision course to one another and that you best be an observer or be a witness and stay out of it.
Your son in the dream could represent a course of action by yourself, personal to yourself. It is in doubt whether he is in the accident though.
The important thing is you may be trying to involve yourself in a situation where you may not really be involved, but are drawn to it like a moth to a flame because you think you are directly personally impacted. This situation could involve your son and, but that is on the interpersonal level, and tends to be less reliable. If it does involve your son it is a example of condensation, but which may or may not be occurring, I don’t know enough of the details to be able to see that but maybe you do. Anyway, if he is not involved, the situation would seem to involve work actions that you take at work, because the man’s voice comes from a truck which is a box truck which is usually a working truck.
The primary thing I would get from this dream is be careful about involving yourself in situations where people is higher goals are on a collision course and things are going to change, but if you stay out of the situation, you will be okay. You will be tempted to throw yourself into the situation because you think you are involved, but you probably are not. I may be best stay on the sidelines, or on the shoulder, or even get further away from it.
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Dream 497: When I’m nice, I get taken advantage of
A woman had the following dream:
I need help interpreting a dream. Well, actually two of them. 1- I don’t remember most of it, but the part that stands out was I had found the cat eating a mouse. I took it out of the cat’s mouth and found another mouse in that mouses mouth, so I grabbed it by the tail and pulled it out of the mouse’s mouth. It squirmed and fell and landed on my tongue, and all i could taste was mouse….very weird! 2- I was with Jeff (my hubby) and was explaining to him that if we couldn’t get along, then we needed to be friends because we are going to be raising these kids. I’d rather them see us as friends who respect each other rather than fighting. He was like “ok,” and suddenly there was some other woman there who was with him. Then I woke up and wanted to lose it on him, but realized I was just dreaming, and he”d have no idea why I was freaking out. So what do you think?
Animals usually represent instincts in dreams. A cat is a predator. A mouse is a vegetarian and is a peaceful creature. You are a rescuer. So the cat, in this particular instance, but not generally, represents your predatory or anger instincts. It consumes or overtakes your peaceful instincts. But what surprises you is that the peaceful creature you are trying to rescue, is trying to kill or be a predator to its own kind.
The second dream is a repeat of the first dream, only less graphically and symbolically. Your instinct to fight or contend with your hubby is replaced by a peaceful instinct to be friends. But you are betrayed by a predatory woman (or the predations or aggressiveness of your husband).
In both cases, you start out by trying to be a peacemaker, and then find out that you were betrayed, that your efforts to be peaceful resulted in your being preyed upon.
In one case, trying to replace your anger with peacemaking results in your being preyed upon by your own kind. In the human case, your efforts to make peace with your husband leads to fears that you’re going to be taken advantage of.
All of which leaves a bad taste in your mouth.
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A man dreamed that he was walking with his mother and all of a sudden a pitbull ran out and bit her on the hand. But somehow, when she pulled her hand away, there was no wound and no bleeding. He wondered what this might mean? I, as usual, gave him an answer off the top of my head.
At the first level of dream interpretation, each a living thing represents a different part of your mind. Your mother usually goes with your emotions. Dogs and animals in general represent instinct. Dogs in particular usually represent something to do with protection and loyalty. In a dream like this, figuring out what the contradiction means is always important. The contradiction in this dream is how is it that she gets bitten, but isn’t hurt? In the dream, your mother usually represents the basis of your emotions.
A dog would represent your loyalty or protection of your emotions. I wonder if you tend to be a person who is hesitant to express anger. Because what happens is the dog does something very aggressive, but no harm is done to your emotions. In other words, I think the dream is emphasizing that you’re very worried about hurting others, but might not be standing up for yourself enough.
It is interesting that the dream is exaggerating the point by making the dog a pitbull, a dog known to be aggressive. The dream seems to be saying that it’s not going to hurt your feelings or others feelings by showing some aggression, as long as you don’t draw blood, that is, be too aggressive in your remarks or actions. I believe your dream is going out of its way to exaggerate that being more assertive wouldn’t hurt anything, especially your feelings.
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Dream Question 494:It is probable that energy is sometimes exchanged from one subconscious to another through the collective subconscious.
A man recently asked me the following question:
“Subject: Point of View in A Dream
Recently read ‘Dreams’. Loved it. So helpful! If I incubate a dream asking what someone else feels, how do I know if the dream is telling me how that person feels and not how I am feeling?”
Answer: It depends on whether you take the dream as being at the first level or the second level of or higher predictive or spiritual level of dream interpretation. The first level considers each character and feeling in the dream to be part of the dreamer. The second level or interpersonal level of dream interpretation is the one people commonly use, where you assume that the person in the dream is that person in fact.
The first level tends to be more reliable. So I would take the first level as indicating what your subconscious thinks is likely to happen, that is, it is your thinking what is likely to happen that you are not aware of, it is subconscious. It is complicated, but it is your subconscious feeling of how that person is likely to feel probably unless it involves more advanced levels of dream interpretation as well.
The second level is your interpersonal guess about what that person might say. And above and beyond all this, there are predictive dreams that we don’t really know where the prediction comes from, other than to say it comes from the collective subconscious. The collective subconscious is like an internet of the mind that contains every thought than any man has ever thought.
It’s possible that some information from the other person’s subconscious could influence the outcome as well. It is true, I believe, that we are connected in ways we do not understand. I believe that it is likely that we all feed into the same collective subconscious and receive some information from it. It’s possible that two of these levels, or all of these levels, could be true at the same time, in which case we call it condensation, as the dream tries to fit as much information into the smallest space possible.
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Dream 493: Don’t ever be in a relationship like that again
A woman asked me what it might mean that she had a dream that she killed her ex-boyfriend?
At the first level of dream interpretation, each living thing in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s mind. Men tend to go with actions, women tend to go with emotions; not absolutely so, but it usually falls out that way.
In the dream, your ex-boyfriend would represent the part of your mind that had to deal with your ex-boyfriend. The dream is actually saying at least two things. One is that your subconscious definitely does not want you to be in a relationship, in the future, that is similar in any way to the relationship you had with that ex-boyfriend. Secondly, it is emphasizing that it is best for you, that your relationship with that ex-boyfriend is over.
Having a dream like this may indicate that you still have feelings about the damage that relationship did to you. The dream may be putting an exclamation point on the necessity to resolve that relationship in your mind, and put it behind you.
The main thing to be learned from this dream is that it doesn’t want you to return to a past destructive relationship, or to enter into a relationship that is anything similar to it. It probably does not want you to act in any way similar that you acted in this relationship in future relationships. Your emotions or intentions may have been good, but your actions did harm probably.
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Dream 490: Analyzing a series of dreams, or skipping the details and going for theme
A man described having the following series of dreams:
“In my dreams dreams I am sitting at a table in a resturant and then I suddenly am flying and I am aware by the sound and feeling of electricity. I fly to the table next to me and then seemingly enter into this womans smiling face. Then in my dream i am talking about this dream and i start flying again and my head hits a chandelier and i realize OH I AM FLYING AGAIN …Another part, there are these mutant human women who are like white alien mermaid creatures and someone I’m with wants to kill them or hunt them down possibly, but they are fast and stealthy. I see them moving around with light speed precision. We finally come upon them as they are rested and realize they are safe and very precious. They tell us about themselves and their eyes are extremely beautiful and mesmerizing. Another dream, girlfriend and I are walking up my driveway placing crystal alters all along the middle of the path in these big bowls. We reach the end of the driveway. I suddenly see a Windstream van parked on the road and the notice we are standing on a newly built bridge that is crossing over a creek that passes thru my driveway. Im a very surprised. This is new to me and i notice its not finished and so i wont be able to drive over when it comes times. Another dream, I am exiting a parking lot. The car in front of me passes thru the gate and I go behind them while its open. I realize then that I did not pay the ticket I had so I pull over and walk to the ticket machine to pay. I pay and then when I go to walk away a woman comes out and is upset with me for avoiding paying. I try to be nice but she is being cold and tells me she has already called the cops. I explain to her that I was not being mindful and thats why i came back to pay. I shake her hand an introduce myself but she isnt warming up to me. Another dream, a guy is standing in front of Grants Lounge and and ask me for drugs. I quickly realize I know the guy and ask him if he has tried the Dmt I gave him. He mentions something or another about it not being that great. I then realize I don’t know the guy and he has no idea what I am talking about.”
I’m going to be quite short and to the point. In reading this series of dreams I tried to look for commonalities and patterns. The first dream sets the stage for the dreams that follow.
In that dream you are flying which means you’re feeling personally powerful. You also are feeling “electrified” and are quite taken sensually by emotional or female positive emotions. You get so excited at one point that you literally forget where you are and start flying (“there he goes flying off again”) and hit your head on the chandelier.
Hitting your head is often the dream screaming that you have to start “using your head” to avoid trouble. The dreams that follow, in one form or another, are emphasizing the importance of noticing detail and not being taken in by first appearances. This is specially the case when attracted to women or positive emotions, as you become totally mesmerized by beauty, as most men are.
Each of these dreams could be taken separately and interpreted in their own right, but I thought there was a general pattern that may be an overarching issue that may be more useful.
The dreamer later gave me positive feedback on the analysis and noted that he had been having issues with his girlfriend and DMT. He consciously thought what the dream was indicating he should do subconsciously. A dream giving support to your conscious intuition is the strongest support your unconscious can give you.
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“I had a dream last night that I was holding four children, two boys and twin girls…they were so adorable…I have no idea what it means, but I felt do much love for them.”
Each living thing in a dream is usually a part of the dreamer psyche. Boys tend to go with actions. Girls tend to go with emotions. There is something new in your life, either a new idea, a new relationship, or new plans that you are taking new actions to implement on the basis of new emotions. The reason I believe this is that when the dream wants to emphasize something it gives you two and you have double twins. Congratulations!
Reaction: I received the following reaction from the dreamer:
“Wow, that is correct…I just launched my freelance writing business this year and am planning a move out of state, plus hoping to meet someone new to date once there. Thanks!”
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“I am posting for a friend, because when she recalls her dreams, they usually mean something. They use imagery, symbolism and metaphors.
In the first part of her dream, she had to contain a room full of snakes without hurting any. That’s about it…
In the second part of the same dream, she was on ‘Earth’ but there were human-animal hybrids that imprisoned and ruled over humanity. They were protected from the ‘end’.
The moon was to collide with the planet, but as it hit, the sky flickered like a hologram, and the world leaders announced a failed nuclear detonation. They were trying to destroy the planet but blame something else.
The hybrids stand out to me:
-A strange form of centaur that was half horse, but half were-wolfish
-A form of pegasi that had bat wings
-Human-Lioness hybrids. White/blonde
The first part of a dream sequence usually announces what the dream is going to be about. Snakes almost invariably represent change. What is interesting about this is that she’s not worried about the snakes hurting her, she wanted to be careful to not hurt the snakes.
A snake is considered, broadly speaking, to be an animal. Animals usually represent our instincts. It is interesting that she wants to be careful not to damage her instincts which is unusual and bodes well for her, I believe. As we treat ourselves so we tend to treat others, and I would suspect that she is a very considerate type of person. So the dream is announcing that this sequence is going to be about change and how she handles her instincts, making sure not to damage her groundedness.
One can’t help but like the hybrids part of this dream. It represents instincts that are well-controlled.
In fact, I believe this series of dreams is all about her concern over controlling her instincts. Fortunately, I think the dream delivers mostly good news on this account. She is a very diverse person with well-controlled instincts. Let me take them one by one.
The Avians are like birds and usually represent freedom, i.e., “free as a bird.” Freud was right on a few things, and one of the things he was right about is that a horse usually goes with female sexual power. But this is a centaur, which is half human, which would normally indicate that her sexuality instincts are usually well-controlled; however, this centaur is half-horse and half were-wolf-like. That would indicate that she is worried about the wild side of her sexuality.
I think of the pegasi as a magical flying horse. So this would probably represent the magical power of sensuality.
The human lioness image is powerful. It is always good to have powerful animals in your dream. She has a lot of psychic energy that can be used for good. A lioness is Queen of the Jungle and actually does all of the hunting while the King of the Jungle sleeps. To me this would imply that she has a solid work ethic and maternal instincts.
The white & blonde color is interesting. White is the most spiritual color, while blonde is considered to be an ideal quality of the feminine and Divine Child in Western culture.
The Moon is usually thought of as going with subconscious emotional impulses that are somewhat in the dark. The Moon is literally colliding with the Earth which is a way of saying what she fears what will happen if her subconscious instincts are actualized, i.e., what will happen if her instincts become grounded and actualized in reality.
The Hologram is interesting. Any piece of a hologram will reflect the whole hologram. So in some sense a hologram is indestructible. I think the dream is trying to reassure her that her world doesn’t come to an end because of subconscious conflicts and change going on in her life.
Fire goes with change because fire changes matter into energy. A nuclear explosion is super fire or super change.
I think part of this involves the dream trying to reassure her that her world doesn’t come to an end if she becomes somewhat more instinctually uninhibited.
The world leaders are the opposite of the instinctive parts of herself. They actually think about destroying the world when they are supposed to be the leaders of the world. In other words, they are so logical that they make no sense. Does this sound like her parents?
This dream is partially a cautionary tale of rationalization and logic going too far, which she will not do because she honors her instincts highly. On the other hand, safe sex should be practiced to prevent a detonation.
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I dreamed a tall bold head girl lying in my bed eyes closed. In her dress. I wasn’t happy with the size of her or anything else. If somebody can help me in interpretation of this dream, please do. Thank you.
Forgot to mention that I saw her before sitting in the chair and in few seconds she was sleeping in my bed. In the first place, I felt she needed help and I was happy to help. But all of a suddem, seeing her in my bed sleeping without checking with me, and also her size bothered me. Do I need changes in me or is something in my environment bothering me…may be I need to be more flexible…mmmm…
I think this dream involves your boundaries and feeling your personal sanctuary has been violated. It sounds like you may try to help others too much emotionally to the point that they take it for granted. You then are stuck with the “too big” of a problem of putting them back in their place, which is really hard to do after you let the genie out of the bottle. I think the dream is saying that you can help others, but expect them to honor your boundaries.
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“Last night I had a dream about my mother and I haven’t dreamed of her in quite a while in the dream she and I went to an auto body repair shop to get the front end of my truck repaired and painted (minor accident)so the guy was explaining the process and said it would only cost about $500 for the repair I said fine let’s do it. I went to the restroom and came back the guy said let’s finalize the paperwork so we can get started my mother looked at me and said it’s taken care of I said are you sure she said yes I said thank you and say down.
A few minutes later the guy comes and say you are all set and had a me the keys but I don’t see the key to my truck and mom is standing there looking around and I say to him my key is missing and he shows me another key and says this is your car. I look at my mom and she says I took care it of it. She really took care of it she traded my truck and bought me a new Genesis fully paid for. I hugged her and cried and that hug felt so real I couldn’t let go. We got in the car and left.
Not sure what this means but any help is greatly welcomed…”
A vehicle usually represents your progress in life in a dream. In any case, your mother usually represents the basis of your emotions. The dream may be saying that your emotions have been repaired.
You may be making some kind of shift from work or the financial part of your life (the truck) to focusing on the beginning of a new area (a Genesis) for your life.
The dream may also be integrating mother emotions.
The fact that the hug felt so real implies a vision dream where you were visited. All in a place, it sounds like a reparative and emotionally integrating dream that wants to give you a new vehicle to enjoy a different area of your life.
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A woman had a dream that a good friend John that she thought she should like to date, but did not, offered her a Coke after telling her to wake up. She accepted the beverage and felt happy in the dream.
She was distressed because she typically always wanted to date Macho “Bad Boys” who usually ended up not treating her very well. She was mystified that she had this sensitive male friend who she talked to and they had a good relationship, but she never saw him as being interesting as a date. She would typically look through her dreams trying to get information about what kind of man she should date.
The dream was giving her a direct answer. Her subconscious obviously favored her dating someone like John. In the dream, this male friend literally tells her to “wake up.” Further, I do not believe him offering her a Coke soda was without meaning. Liquids such as water and Coke, for that matter, tend to be associated with emotion. Water is virtually always emotion. Coke specifically is an energizing drink that helps you to wake up because it has caffeine in it typically.
The dream was literally telling her to wake up. Why? Because her subconscious was actually telling her that she should consider dating this friend because, as the Coke commercials say, he is “the real thing.”
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I remind myself at work that dreams are the most direct way to get to the bottom of root conflicts and psychodramas. Dreams still surprise me as they are often counterintuitive and saying what you don’t want to hear necessarily.
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A woman told me the following before describing her dream:
I had a disagreement with someone that’s been in and out of my life. This person contacted me to tell me that I have the the power to fix it. I was asking for a sign if this relationship could be fixed or if this is a toxic relationship that I shouldn’t have in my life. [Before she went to sleep, she incubated a dream by asking for a dream that would indicate what she should do with this relationship and she had the dream described in the next paragraph]:
“In the dream, my golden retriever bit a cousin’s daughter, which is totally out of the dog’s character. The daughter’s mother (also my longtime friend and patient I provide care for) told me I need to put the dog down. I woke up feeling conflicted. Oddly enough I went to sleep asking spirit for a sign and that’s the sign the I received!”
I think the dream is voting that it is a toxic relationship that you should stay away from. Dogs are all about loyalty and the dream does a double entendre dream condensation on the theme of loyalty. Remember that each character in the dream is a part of your mind with women going more with emotions. Animals often represent our instinctive feelings. Dream condensation occurs when the dream is true on more than one level.
I think the woman represents your emotional common sense which says that, painful as it may be, you have to kill your instinctual loyalty (the dog) before you get bitten. The reason you put a dog down is because the dog has proven itself to be dangerous by biting someone. To me, this means you have to kill your internal loyalty to this person so that you do not get bitten again.
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“I had a dream last night. In the dream there was a plum tree with 5 orangutans. They had their backs to me. Then my father picked me up and ran with me because there was a lot of sand coming at us from behind. Then we tumbled and I was carrying my father. Then we ran to a truck and rode the sand waves.
What’s this mean ?”
This is a very interesting dream. A tree is a symbol of integration because its roots grow in the ground, it opens to the sky, and it is here on the level with us. The plum tree has several meanings in my world. First off, a plum is a fruit and a food that nurtures you. Also a plum is usually something especially appealing like a plum job.
I would guess that the orangutans are barriers to getting something favorable that nurtures you. Animals usually represent instincts, the dreamer’s instincts. In this case, I think the dream is signaling that too much monkeying around is keeping you from getting something you want that would be favorable to you like a plum position of some kind. I think the orangutan instinct is interfering because I think it represents “monkeying around.”
Sand usually represents impermanence as it can be blown around and it never provides a solid foundation. You do not want to just build sand castles as goals in your life to my way of thinking. From that standpoint, it can be seen as insecurity.
Your father in the dream represents an action part of your mind as men tend to go with actions. Fathers most often are the basis of your actions to some degree. Your carrying your father might mean that you need to be supportive of your actions you are taking to avoid being insecure and wanting to build your future into a more secure and semi-permanent situation. You may want to build something in your life that is not subject to the shifting sands of time.
It also has significance that there are five orangutans. In my world, five usually represents adding something on to your stable self (4 is a stable number and five is literally adding something to your stable self as 1+4=5.
I think the dream is wanting you to take life more seriously, stop monkeying around, and support your actions towards building something more permanent in your life.
In my world, trucks are associated with work and you escape the sand on a truck. I think the dream is saying that you have to work to build a future worth having.
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Dream 446: Wondering about carrying my baggage into the future
A woman had the following dream:
“I had a dream that I was at an airport waiting to be called for my flight.Then I was called,and I got up and picked up my black bag.I think I was traveling with my youngest son…”
There is something almost spiritual about flight and usually has to do with your overall life goals. Picking up a bag could mean that you were worried about carrying “baggage” into your future. That your youngest son is in the dream usually means that you’re probably considering making some fairly major change. Each person in a dream is usually a part of your mind at the first level. Boys tend to go with actions while girls usually go more with emotions. That isn’the absolute, but is usually the case.
You are probably worried about how “baggage” from the past might affect that move. Unless you actually have a black bag, the color in this case could signal being worried about negative or depressing baggage being carried into your future. The type of action you may be considering would be related to the personality of your youngest son.
It is also possible that it is the condensation of two levels of the dream in the sense that the decision could involve your youngest son in some sense or how it would affect him. Again, the main thing is taking some action for your overall life goes intowards the future and being worried about carrying baggage into the future and how that baggage might affect your future.
The dreamer later indicated that she had been looking for a job and was wondering how that would affect her and her youngest son’s future.
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A 36-year-old fine arts professor dreamt that he was on the patio of a Mexican restaurant. There was a wasp’s nest above the kidney shaped bar. Suddenly, a wasp flew down and stung him in the head. The dream shifted to him listening to a waittress. She was telling him about a long sordid affair she had with a professor.
This professor recently received job offers from colleges in Ohio and California. WASP also stands for White Anglo Saxon Protestant. I asked him which college was more conservative. He replied that the college in Ohio was much more conservative and he did not know if it would tolerate his avant-garde teaching style and research. I asked him what he associated with Mexican restaurants, and he replied California. I asked him what was the biggest mistake he ever made in his field, and he replied that he regretted a decision not to attend a college in California. That she, the waittress had a sordid affair with a professor indicated that his emotions (the waitress) had been untrue to his intellectual decisions (the male professor)—this was highlighted by the fact that he regretted not going to college in California/
The dream voted in the direction of the college in California. His subconscious exclaimed that a conservative atmosphere was hard on his head and thinking. A restaurant in a dream nurtures one psychologically, and the dream is saying that, for him, California is much more likely to be nurturing.
The female waittress is a part of his work emotions. In dreams, a waittress is often seen as “one who waits.” He told me consciously that his biggest career mistake was not attending a learning institution in California. The waittress is talking about an emotional mistake with a professor. The dream is warning him about making sincere and solid emotional connections. The dream is screaming that he needs to attend a learning institution in California.
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I have had very vivid and odd dreams every night for the past month. Yet when I awake I usually only remember pieces. I was standing in front of my ex husband. We were talking as I began to think in my head about our split. Reminding myself of the monster he became…the reason I left. I used to have no voice when in his presence so I was reminding myself before I made eye contact.
I reached in my pocket though and pulled out a seemingly endless stack of large bills. He put his hands out and one by one I placed the bills in his Palm. It never ended. I remember thinking what about my needs. If I give it all I’ll have nothing. He never stopped me and I never spoke up.
I looked down and Instantly fell to my knees. I quickly place my hands out to catch This large Brown ribbed vase. I was unable to catch it in time. The glass broke shattering and slicing my right Index finger. I remember specifically the feel of glass shards across my fingers.
I looked up to see a woman I have not yet the chance to meet. She had black curly hair old style framed glasses. She had a dark-tinted color to her, like not a normal color. She just stared blankly at me. It was creepy, almost like I felt I was in trouble.
I heard “Watch her–When she appears pay close attention to her.” Then I woke up. I’ve yet to understand this one. A lot of my dreams are about money or past lives, even god. I’m not sure why the oddities, but would greatly appreciate any Insight.
Money usually represents energy in dreams. He was a viper who took all your energy and never reciprocated.
The woman in your dreams is negative emotions. Jung called her the queen or the negative mother complex. She resides in everyone’s subconscious.
The queen is all about power and control. Her attitude toward you is capricious and arbitrary.
Her motto is “ask not what I can do for you–ask what you can do for me now.” She looks very strong, but will wilt unless the odds are overwhelmingly in her favor.
The savage masculine will aggravate and make her stronger. It sounds like you were married to a savage masculine man. The only part of the psyche that has any success against her is the heroic masculine–which usually involves being dedicated to taking positive actions that focus mainly, if not exclusively, on your needs and not making any excuses about it nor apologizing for looking after your needs.
I think the brown vase falling and cutting your finger right before the queen appears was done to emphasize that the queen is the emotional part of yourself that is hurting you. When glass is breaking in a dream, that usually means that the emotional impact of something is finally fully reaching you. Her favorite putdown is “who do you think you are.”
I hope this is helpful.
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“I had a dream I was in my wedding dress and looking for an iron for my veil. My young kids got out the flat with a strange wee boy. I went looking for them when I found them my little boy was lying lifeless in front of a car the other two kids where sitting up and the man from the car was sitting down he was on the phone crying and couldn’t look at me saying “sorry.” What does this mean?
“Weddings usually represent integration of different parts of your mind and personality. This one is focusing on your actions in particular integrating with your emotions as men tend to go with actions and women tend to go with emotions in dreams.
The clothing represents your defenses psychologically. A veil is something that you would have to look through that partially covers who you really are.
An iron is something you do to take the wrinkles out of your clothes, the wrinkles out of your defenses. There’s also the comment saying that we ” iron out our problems.” You are preparing to integrate, but delay doing so because you want to iron out your problems first, in particular, how you look at things through the veil of your consciousness.
At the first level, your little boy would represent a new action on your part that you delayed doing. Cars are usually vehicles that represent our progress in life.
The man in the dream is communicating with others how sorry you will feel if you delay taking a small action you need to do which involves changing your outlook and not putting off your integration of your emotions with your actions.
My bias is to think that the dream thinks that you should be taking some action which you know you should do which you are delaying because you want to wait till things look better through the way you are thinking about things now.”
The dreamer later indicated to me that you recently had a child and was deciding whether to get married.
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“I had a dream about a friend involving a robbery and gun shots were fired towards her and I. When I later talked to her about it, she said 2 other friends had dreams of her either as the one doing the shooting or was being shot at. What do guns in dreams mean? Also, it’s so weird how several people had similar themed dreams about one person. Any ideas? Shes kinda freaked out by it. Some insights would be much appreciated!”
Guns usually are associated with aggression or confrontation. Freud thought of it as a classic phallic symbol so it is associated with being Macho–rough and tough and not taking anything from anyone.
With your friend, I wonder if she tends to be confrontation or aggressively assertive to the point that she inspires retaliation and/or bursts of emotions from others. The thought would be that she is subject to confrontations/burst of emotions which she points at others and is reciprocated by others.
If we look at just your dream, shots are being fired at you. You are not instigating any gunplay in the dream you had. The focus of your dream would seem to be other people’s explosive reactions to you at times for no clear reason. In your dream, the robbery would maybe indicate some worry about being personally violated.
The collective unconscious means that we are all connected subconsciously with one another. When she has several friends dreaming about guns with her involved, I would take it that the collective subconscious is trying to get the message to her by whatever means possible that she needs to be protective of herself and assertive / aggressive / confrontative in a different kind of way so that she or others do not get hurt either emotionally or physically.
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A dreamer reported an ex girlfriend had a couples dreams of him one night. He wondered about the significance of the sea shell. The former girlfriend’s dream was as follows:
“I kept singing prayers into your ear and kissing your forehead after every one. Every time I did a new orb would appear and I’d have a vision of some place. You were holding sea shells”
” I was little and someone was reading a bedtime story while I gazed out the window into the dark woods when all of a sudden this freaky alien ripped me out of the house and into the woods.”nbsp;
Her singing to you and kissing dreamer’s forehead in the dream would mean that at the first level she’s praying to the action part of herself that loved him which is expressed by her kissing his forehead.
If it were my dream, the orbs would probably represent hopes regarding relationships. Orbs are round and are light and rocks are circular mostly. Circular objects, especially circular objects that are lighted usually represent the soul since the circle has no beginning and it has no end. The dream is suggesting that she’s dealing with soul issues.
If these dreams were together relatively, it seems to be about listening. The dream seems to be saying she has emotional wishes that she prays would come true, but probably really doesn’t listen to them very closely.
I think the above for two reasons, the first one being the seashells. When I was young it was always said that if you held a seashell to your ear you could hear the ocean. The ocean is the biggest symbol of the subconscious that we have. Symbolically, these seashells would represent listening to her subconscious, specifically, the part of her subconscious that dealt with dreamer.
The second reason to suspect it has to do with listening is that when she is read a bedtime story, she is not paying attention and is staring out into the dark woods.
The dream gets savage in emphasizing that she needs to listen and pay attention to her subconscious emotions by having an alien jerk her out of her world.
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“I need guidance if possible on what this dream meant..
So I dreamt I was not a ghost but invisibly present in my ex and I’s home, which is just his home now. And I noticed little upgrades, for example I thoroughly noticed little ottomans that were black and white stripe, three of them, and also noticed a very high techy fancy massage chair, very similar to the one the gentleman I was dating recently has in his home. That was the whole dream. Very odd, can anybody give me clarity on this one?”
I would suggest that at the first level, the ghost may represent the observing ego part of yourself.
In this case, I think it is very hard to separate the first and second levels of interpretation so I’m going to mix the two together. The first level is within the dreamer’s own psyche. The second level is interpersonal.
The house usually represents the dreamer because it is the framework of which one lives. Furniture usually represent what supports you in your life since furniture supports your body. In this case, I think this particular house because you and an ex lived in it more specifically represents the relationship part of your life.
I think the Ottomans being black and white to me suggest it is more clear what you want and what you don’t want in a supportive relationship. The dream is giving high grades to relationships that are supportive of a modern and soothing relationship. It may also be giving recognition to the idea that the next relationship needs to be modern and physically supportive.
This interpretation may only work in certain universes and is limited by my limited experience which includes my not personally knowing you.
The dreamer later confirmed that the interpretation “sounded about right.”
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I dreamed hat my deceased brother-in-law hugged me as i was leaving the hospital after visiting my wife who was a patient there.
My wife was having a number of medical difficulties. She was hospitalized right before I had this dream. What was different about this dream was the feeling of touch. I had the feeling that I actually was physically hugged by him.
The deceased brother-in-law in the dream was a doctor in real life who was totally loved by his wife, family of eight children, and the world. He was a strong and empathetic healer. He gave encouragement and clear direction to all that knew him.
One major type of dream is what I call a vision dream. People typically report that they feel is more of a vision than a dream. I could vividly see him and had the sensation of being physically hugged.
What sets these dreams apart is the sensation part of it. The vision or seeing of the person seems more vivid. The sense of touch is usually filled which does not occur in many dreams actually.
Sometimes people indicate they can even smell the familiar person. The vivid image of him in extraordinary detail and the physical feeling of touch were in this dream. I usually do not have dreams like this.
It is memorable the few times they do happen. It always seems to be significant to what is happening in the outside world or in reality. On the other hand, what is the ultimate reality?
Theoretical physicists tell me that there are at least 10 dimensions plus time. We see only three of them. They say that it is all happening here right now . I believe that leaves a lot of room for spiritual interpretation of visions like this one.
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A man dreamed that he was sitting on a couch between his divorced mother and father. He was in the 8th grade. His mother’s head was full of snakes that looked quite threatening and they were green and gooey.
My interpretation of the dream
The first question I asked him was whether he blamed his mother for the divorce. He responded that he had talked with her the night before this dream about the divorce that occurred in an important stage of his life. He noted that he looks like his father and was absent-minded like his father which drove his mother up the wall.
Snakes often signal transformation. The mother in the dream is his mother interject which is usually the basis of emotions. The dream is saying that he went through a major emotional transformation when he was 14 which was in fact when the divorce occurred.
The mother having snakes for hair replicates the Medusa archetype. In Greek mythology, Medusa was a fearsome image and men they looked at her turned into stone. Medusa is a perfect image in this instance.
I believe Medusa shows up also because emotionally he felt his mother was stony and rigid towards him. She could break the dreamer down with one cold stare when he was young. These stares occurred mainly when she equated him with his father because of the similarity of looks and actions.
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A woman dreamed that her 94 year old mother-in-law who is in a wheelchair suddenly got up and started walking around very fast to show the dreamer that she actually could move and walk very well. The mother in law in real life weighed 300 pounds and was morbidly and pathologically psychologically dependent upon her son. She had difficulty walking mainly because of her weight.
The dreamer thought she was a phony and that her mother-in-law knew that she knew her mother-in-law was being phony. The mother in law for some reason had been amazingly alert and coherent lately.
My Interpretation to the Dreamer
Taking the dream at different levels, your subconscious is saying both that she is phony and that you yourself have to be phony to be able to put up with her. At a deeper level, it may be trying to reassure you that you are fine, that you are physically and psychologically healthy, in spite of her antipathy towards you.
Her being very alert is interesting and something I can never explain. Both personally and in the lives of my clients, people who are on a long downward course health wise will often have a brief intense period of emotional/cognitive clarity and physical vitality before sinking into a clasped physical and mental disrepair and even death.
I thought this mother-in-law had characteristics of the Queen archetype that Carl Jung describes– domineering, controlling, selfish, egocentric, and wanting to dominate the household situation. The dreamer confirmed most of my insights.
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Dream 393: A coed dreamed that a football player who was a “player” socially (had many affairs with different women at the same time) wanted her to be his girlfriend. She could see his girlfriend in the background. The girlfriend was angry and anxious.
Each living thing in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s mind. Women usually go with an emotional power of the mind while men tend to go with an action-oriented part of the mind. The football player in the dream represented her wanting to date a player and convert him to being faithful to her.
This conflict had deep psychological roots. She constantly felt the need to prove herself worthy by winning the competition for a popular man or alpha male over other women. This was because she felt in a one-down position from wealthy and popular women who were her friends. Her family had once been wealthy but fell on hard times.
Her relationships with players invariably ended with her feeling angry and anxious. She was caught in what Freud called a repetition compulsion. She was trying to prove needlessly that she was as good as other women despite being beautiful and having many positive qualities.
The girlfriend in the dream represented how she ended up feeling pursuing “players.” She invariably ended up feeling angry and anxious. The dream was a warning to stop engaging in this repetitive mistake.
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Dream 391: Avoid Provocations and Act More Like Dad
A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed my ex and I were someplace about to cross the street as I stepped into the street a car full of young men speed up in front of me nearly hitting me… I panicked and banged the hood of their car. This angered them all as did when my ex told them to ef’n watch what they’re doing. The driver turned looked at his friends in the backseat and front passenger seat… I saw him reach for a gun… I turned and ran…hearing gunshots…my ex was killed.
After that dream waking me up when I fell back asleep I dreamed of my dad who passed away from a heart attack 1 1/2 ago.. It wasn’t so much a dream but a flash of different memories of him, i kept seeing of him in my dream. Smiling, laughing, being silly, making his grumpy faces, hearing his voice, cooking.. I don’t know these two dreams left me wondering if they had any meaning.”
Each character represents a different part of the psyche with women going more with an emotional part and men going more with your actions. An ex represents a relationship you rejected and he (an action part) is killed. What this means is that you have decided not to engage in behavior that enrages others (such as swearing and pounding your fist in anger) even if you are provoked.
The father in your dream is your father in your mind, your father introject, which is often the basis of actions. You have fond memories of what he was like. It sounds like you want the basis of your actions to be somewhat similar to the way your dad did things.
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A woman had the following dream: “I had a strange dream I was walking then I saw my sister at an office and she says that my mom got bit by ants. I believe that was the doctors office. It ended there.”
“Each living thing in the dream represents a part of your mind at the first level. It sounds like it mainly involves emotions since women tend to go more with emotions. The mother in the dream is the mother in your mind that we call the mother introject. The mother introject is often the basis of emotions.
Animals (in this case ants) usually represent our instincts, what we are prone to do naturally. Ants are methodical, routine and focused on accomplishing what needs to be done for the group compulsively.
Being bit by ants is a nuisance/irritating. I wonder if there is a situation (maybe involving family) where you have put in a lot of work and are feeling a little annoyed or taken for granted?”
The dreamer responded with the following confirmation: “Yes, my sister was over for a month.My sister is very bossy and doesn’t use nice words to tell them to do things. Not cursing, not a sweet person very cold and mean!”
Dream 390: Old MacDonald had a Barn Full of Energy
A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed that the family I babysit for (I am friends with the mother) had lost like a friend or family member and a very large sum of cash was owed/given to them. The family drove me to the place to pick it up because they needed help getting it. We go to this farm looking space and I walk into the barn/ware-house type building. It was only being lit from the natural lighting coming from outside but it was enough for me to see this huge trunk in the middle of the room that i needed to use to put the money in for the family, there was huge wads of cash and single bills scattered about the floor. I filled up the trunk as much as I could, and left the rest there, as I made my way back to the family’s car. Just because I was the only one in there taking the money for the family, it felt in a way like I was stealing, but i was only doing what I was told to do, I think I felt odd being the one having to go get the money instead of one of the family members doing it themselves, but they said they needed me to help get it for them. When I got to the car, a man who was following me, walked up to us (tan, dark hair and handsome; wearing overalls), said sorry he was not in the room with me to help out and he had work elsewhere to do, and he brought me the remaining cash that was for the family. Then we all drove away.”
In dreams, money is energy. The barn is a natural and I want to say innocent place where your instincts (animals) are nurtured.
It sounds like you want to give all of the instinctive energy you can to the family you babysit for and want to give even more, but hold back wondering if you should, but then say it is okay because that is what I am supposed to do.
You get the energy free of charge from the universe by doing what you do for this family and you even get paid for doing it (no reason to feel guilty about being paid). The heroic action part of yourself feels that you could give even more energy to this family because it is nothing but good. What a country!
The tall, dark and handsome man is the representation of your own heroic masculine archetype which is often the initiator of therapeutic action, of things that are good for you. This part wholeheartedly wants you to feel uninhibited in giving personal energy to the family (the energy of the universe is supplied to you without your asking for it and this is a good thing for you and for the family).
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“Dreams are wonderful for me lately. I dream of my deceased parents staying married (they divorced when I was 4), seeing them grow old together. Just wishful thinking?”
Whatever theory you look at in mental health, it eventually gets back to mom and dad, it is not the whole thing, it is just a part of it which gets less and less as you get older but there is probably always still some remnant of your parents. The mother and the father you dream of now are the mother and father in your mind which are called a mother introject and a father introject.
The father introject is most often the basis of your actions. The mother introject is most often the basis of your emotions.
Marriage is a union of different parts of your mind. If it is a marriage between your father and your mother, it typically represents you’re integrating your emotions with your actions. The fact that you dream of them growing old together indicates that the integration is a long-term effect. Congratulations!
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A man had the following dream: “I dreamt a lot but there’s one particular part I can’t find an answer to. I saw a tarot card, beautiful card. It was of a queen wearing white sitting she had a crescent above her head, porcelain face, and by her side were these green cartoonish creatures that looked non threatening yet I’m sure they could if wronged or ordered to.
My Interpretation for Him
At first, I thought you were talking about the queen of swords in the Tarot deck. However, the imagery you described is closer to the two of swords. This part of the dream probably goes with emotions as women in dreams tend to represent an emotional part of your psyche.
The image in the Tarot deck in the two of swords is a woman completely dressed in white with a white blindfold who is holding two swords with her arms crossed across her chest. The thought is that she is stuck in the middle and can’t make a decision and is afraid to move or to choose one of the options. The crescent appears on this card as a new moon. The moon tends to go with the subconscious and it could mean that you have some dawning awareness or insight in your subconscious.
The thought would be that possibly you have to choose between two relationships and feel unable to choose because you are going to have to hurt someone in making the choice. The green creatures could be involved as they may represent money, or marijuana, or a condensation of both. It also could be having to choose between a relationship and money or marijuana.
As always, I am interpreting the dream totally blind and I’m presenting possible options.
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Dream 385: I Want to Recapture How I Was Emotionally in My First Relationship with a Girl
When I was 12 I fell in love with a girl at first sight(right when I looked in her eyes) , and her dad was the first one to teach me how to kick a soccer ball when I was just 7(I’m really good, could play pro if I want ). She has a lot of reason why I am spiritual and pay attention to my dreams. Problem is when I was in high school, we would fight and I would ignore her and not look at her. We aren’t really on talking terms like we were when I was younger and I don’t follow her on social media.
The reason I bring this up is because she has been in my dreams all the time, and 90% of the time I can’t look at her or talk to her. Other 10% is amazing (dancing, doing things together , kissing etc) but 90% of the time she’ll be in my dream and won’t be able to look at her. I want to look at her and kiss her, but in my dreams I feel like I have subconsciously put it in there that I can’t speak or talk to her.
Just recently I was in my dreams teaching a yoga class with just two other people and she showed up to do the class and while I was doing the yoga poses she was doing them too and we were looking at each other but neither of us could say anything to each other. She was sort of looking at me funny snd i just looked her and kept going…
If I knew I was dreaming I would of kissed her right there, lol. Just yesterday I had another one where we were in the car together in the backseat and I tried talking to her but something wouldn’t let me. It must of been a 15 minute car ride and we just stared at each other , it seems like she can’t say anything to me either.
This is just two examples out of the more than 100x this has happened with her in my dream. What do you think is the best thing to do? I’m stubborn. If she’s meant to be in my life the universe will have me run into her like it usually does with her, so I feel like I should wait for that.
Do you think she experiences the same dreams?
The dreams may be about her and having a relationship with her, but only you would know that since that is the second level of dream interpretation where only you have enough to detail to determine that.
At the first level, I think you probably have idealized that early relationship and want to emotionally be the way you were with her when things were good in future relationships. My money is on this is a fantasy about an idealized relationship from the past that your subconscious wants you to learn from so that you learn the lesson and look for the right relationship and act appropriately in the future.
This is based only on the structure of the dream and only you can determine what interpersonal value it has if any. Each character in the dream represents a part of your psyche at the first level with men going with your actions and women going with your emotions.
My thought is there was something about the way you were emotionally with this girl that you were developing that was not finished and you want to emotionally change yourself to find the ideal relationship. As such, in your mind she probably represents an ideal woman or anima. It is a big dream about how you should be in a relationship.
To answer your questions at the end, it is possible she's having dreams about you. If that is the case, I would see it more as a sign that the universe was trying to get the two of you together. I do like your idea that if it was meant to be, the universe will conspire to have the two of you meet again.
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“I’ve been having this recurring dream and i’m not sure what to make of it…Until a few months ago i’ve been in a relationship with this girl and we would meet very rarely since she lives far far away.
In this dream, i’m rushing to a place where we supposedly said we would meet, first in a cab, then on foot. It looks a bit like the park in my city but it’s not quite it. I think it’s autumn time, leaves all around the pavement, few passers-by.
The realisation comes to me that i don’t really know the exact spot where i’m supposed to go… I’m starting to run late and i get a little agitated. Then, starting to cross a bridge over a small stream, I see a door in the middle of it, nothing else, just a door standing there. Somehow the idea that i’m supposed to enter it hits me. “This is the place where people go to find each other” or something similar comes into my mind suddenly.
I enter the door and there’s something like a small waiting room, a clinic or hospital waiting room by the looks of it. There’s light coming from the windows but i can’t see anything outside of it. There are these benches crammed full of people and people leaning against the walls. I think to myself if she’s here i’ll have a hard time finding her.
But i find her right away, and as i’m standing no more than 3 meters away she looks around as if looking for someone, and she keeps looking right passed me as if i’m not really there. I think to myself maybe she didn’t see me, but what if she just changed her mind and she’s just pretending? Should I just go and tap her on the shoulder or walk away? But I go towards her, in spite of having to push aside people passing by… I get nervous and i always wake up. There are always small variations in the dream but it’s mostly the same.”
A reoccurring dream is usually very significant because it represents a situation where your subconscious has repeatedly tried to solve a situation or problem.
In this dream and in most dreams, a bridge usually represents a major passage in life. Something has materially happened to change your life.
You are crossing over water, a small stream. Water is emotions usually and rivers or streams usually represent the river of life.
This is not a massive river but a small stream. That indicates that you’re trying to bridge the gap over emotions that probably are not there as much as they should be, that it is more important to bridge the gap than it is to make it over massive emotions.
The door probably represents the opening to solving your conflicts over losing her.
A clinic is a place where people come to get healed. Your subconscious seems to see the issue as you getting over her. The emotion again is not there, so she does not recognize you.
You then try to make your way past people to get to her. The dream does not say this outright, but I think it may be hinting that it is time to give up the chase, and to invest yourself in the people you are passing by.
This sounds painful, but is a passage in your life and your challenge is to bridge the gap, and not chase something that emotionally is not there.
Take it for what its worth because this is without knowing you and you should glean what seems to be true to yourself.
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“I was walking around a mall alone. I was going around and around the same shops like I was trying to find a special one but never could. Then I finally found it and it looked like a clothing and candle shop.
I went in immediately searching for a cobalt blue candle. I wanted the largest one I could find with 3 wicks. I was smelling them and the smells were vivid and I found one I wanted.
Then I was standing near the checkout and there were some long single chain necklaces. I searched thru them until I found a long gold chain with a feather charm on the end. I went to grab it but as I did some other woman grabbed it too. We debated for a bit who had it first and she let me have it.
So I went back to the checkout counter and realized I had lost my shoes. I had been wearing white socks with colorful Nike sandals. I don’t ever do that. But seemingly someone took my sandals when I had taken them off debating the necklace issue.
A guy who worked there confronted me asking where my shoes were. Then he said show me the bottom of your feet. He wanted to see if I had been walking in the grass in my socks. When I raised my foot it was covered in grey dirt not green.
Then I started talking to a guy standing in line in front of me and he was making a payment on something that the store was charging him interest on. He had a large check that he showed me was written out for $3333.”
One thing I’ve found to be almost always be true is that if you have a dream about a shopping mall, the dream usually is going to be talking about how you have been mauled in a business, career, or financial sense.
Looking for a candle implies you are always trying to look for the light in a business situation and usually you are able to sniff out what is right. You have to compete with other people who may be onto the same thing, but usually you can convince others to see it your way. Looking for a candle implies you always try and look for the light in the business situation and usually are able to sniff out what is right.
You have to compete with other people who may be on to the same thing, but usually you can convince others to see it your way.
Cobalt blue usually would go with mental activity and speaking out loud according to the chakra system if I looked at the concept of blue in a broad sense.
You can usually sniff out what is good and is likely to lead to change (smelling the candles and three is the number of change as there are 3 wicks).
I like the interpretation of the golden necklace with a feather being having valuable intuitive ability that you can bet your neck on (the necklace) and that can take wing(the feather).
The debate with the woman indicates the you can usually convince others to see it your way for your own advantage.
Socks are usually protective as are sandals in getting you to where you need to go. It is interesting that these are white socks. White is the most spiritual color that there is.
The whole thing about the socks and the grass and the dirt and the Nikes I believe indicates that you are willing to do what needs to be done and do not necessarily do things just to look good.
You sometimes and probably more often are more willing to do the dirty work (the grey on the socks) than to do things for your own personal growth (the green from plants on the bottom of your socks). You focus on getting the job done and not necessarily protecting yourself excessively and are willing to make yourself vulnerable to a degree.
The final image of the guy paying off the $3333 debt he was being charged interest on is perhaps one of the most interesting aspects of this dream. Money is energy in dreams. It can be money itself but it also can be energy that other people have loaned you in in this case.
The dream is emphasizing that you need to pay back the favors you’ve been given before they end up costing you too much. It could end up costing you more if people feel that you have not shown enough interest.
3 is the number of change and you have four 3’s. I believe the dream might be saying that if you change this aspect and pay off the favors early, it will lead to stability because 4 is the number of stability as there are four legs on a table, four legs on a chair, four directions, four seasons, etc.
This is a nicely done and well rounded dream about how to conduct your career/business/financial aspects of your life.
Feedback from the Dreamer
The dreamer gave me the following feedback:
“Steven-this is pretty awesome! I wanna show u how accurate. Hugely mauled over at work but also benefiting from it and competing not for the same position but to do the same work..long story and it’s incredibly draining has been for months. My intuition is always spot on especially regarding others’ intentions. I have a hard time verbalizing that and sharing my insights and hold back on speaking about it especially lately and even when asked. I always over exert myself and energy in order to ‘get the job done’ re: the dirt not green. The check for $3333 was interesting and I remember thinking he bought an engagement ring with it and was making payments. Although I did recently have a reiki session and now I’m wondering if I need to be repaying them or the universe in some way to pay it forward.”
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“I dreamed the other night that I helped two guys who became infatuated with me. (This actually happens to me a lot in life.) There were two other guys there that were my friends in the dream and they looked at me like I knew better and why did I help further knowing better. I signaled back “I know, I know”. We didn’t need words because they were my intuition side. I got rid of the infatuated boys and became incredibly attracted to the intuitive ones. We had very intimate sex. I then ended up at a hospital to help deliver a baby with them and after got to see all the new-born babies in the hospital.”
This would be seen as your integrating intuitive action parts of yourself. Sex between a man and a woman is usually seen as integration of actions (men) and emotions (women) as each character is a part of the dreamer’s psyche.
The first part of the dream where you are involved with two nerdy men basically is asking the question, “Why are you wasting your time with them or with those aspects of your life?”
Sex usually represents integration with the different part of yourself that you are having sex with. Integrating the different intuitive aspects leads to a whole new part of your psyche, the new baby. The thought would be since the dreamer was a female having sex with two intuitive men, that she was integrating two intuitive action parts of her mind.
This integration could be stimulated by any of several different actions. Such actions would include discussion with other intuitive people (probably men in this case or it could be the action parts of women’s minds). Watching intuitive movies, honing intuitive skills, psychic abilities, reading new age books and out-of-body travel would be examples of intuitive actions. A strong spirituality is probable.
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Dream Question 370: A female dreamer asked: What does it mean if you dream that you have sex with someone almost identical to yourself?
Sex at the first level usually means integration especially if it was good consensual sex. If you have a dream where you are having sex with someone who is identical to yourself, how the act was performed would make substantial difference in my world.
Let’s say the act was very loving, then the dream would be signaling that you were integrating love into yourself. If the act was aggressive but none the less satisfying, the dream would be signaling either that you have integrated some aggressive impulses into your personality, or the dream maybe advising for some reason that you integrate some aggression more into your personality. This isn’t necessarily bad, because it’s aggression that gives us the get up and go to accomplish things. It just has to be controlled by other parts of the personality.
The more intimate the sexual act, the more integrated it is. Having sex with an identical self is rather awesome in a way because it is saying that you really don’t need any other person other than yourself. Women usually represent an emotional part of the dreamer, and since the dreamer was a woman, the emphasis is on emotional integration. If the dreamer were a man, the dream would be emphasizing integrating his actions since men tend to go more with action parts of the mind.
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Dream 358: A woman dreamed that an ex-lover whom she had known for years were floating side by side together passively in a pool of water. They both were floating and were perfectly still. She somehow knew that he was going to die. Basically the dream was saying that their relationship died because it was drowned in emotion.
Over the years, she had an on and off relationship with him because he was a drug addict. The next day after this dream, she heard that he died from a drug overdose. From figuring the time she went to sleep and the approximate time he died, she believed she had this dream within 3 or 4 hours of his death.
She had a predictive dream of his death, which is one of the six major types of dreams in my world. Psychics tell me that traumatic events send out a stronger signal which I believe the dreamer received.
Carl Jung popularized the idea of synchronicity which is a meaningful coincidence. Synchronicity happens when two things that are unrelated happen in such a way that they seem related. Her story about this dream becomes even more synchronious.
Several days later she went to her ex lover’s funeral. After they lowered the casket in the ground, as a final farewell, the viewers were supposed to pick out a flower from a variety of flowers which were presented to them. They then threw their chosen flower onto the casket in the ground. She chose a red carnation.
After she went home from the funeral, her small son said that there was a flower growing in her lawn. She had not planted many flowers in her lawn. She asked her son to bring the flower to her. The flower was a red silk carnation. The synchronicity of these events is almost unbelievable.
Synchronicity is when things that are unrelated happen in such a way that they seem related. It is always significant and one should always take notice in your world.
Jung, like the Chinese have believed for millenniums, thought that the world was one big connection, with everything related to everything else. This idea actually has scientific support with theoretical physics idea of entangled atoms. Einstein had a mystical side which emerged more in his elderly years.
When you think of it, Einstein’s life was mystical. How do you sit down at a desk and figure out that there must be black holes in the universe when no one at that time had seen a black hole?
I believe the universe is sometimes sending a message by way of synchronicity. It is incumbent upon us to pay attention to these messages for our own benefit.
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“Twice within a month I have dreamed of large tomatoes… (I’m saying bigger than your head large).
Also last night I dreamed of a black horse that was bleeding,I tried tending to the wounds. It was dark and I was in the woods.”
She later indicated that the horse ran away in the dream.
Food represents support, psychological support or emotional support in a dream.
The tomatoes are large maybe because the dreamer wanted some juicy and nurturing psychological support for which she probably was longing.
At the first level of dream interpretation, a person or animal or spirits usually represents different parts of your mind . Horses often represent female sexual power or energy, literally they are “horsepower.”
The horse being black indicates that this horse may represent the shadow side of sexuality. That part of the dreamer’s world has been hurt deeply and she was trying to repair it and get her instincts back in line. She probably wants to run away from the deep issues of shadow sexuality that this dream may represent.
Like the horse in the dream, she was probably hurt, restless, and running around trying to find her way. Her trying to help the horse in the dream indicates that she probably needed emotional healing.
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Is this a beautiful young woman or an old lady? It depends upon your point of view.
Dream 350: My Love Gets Carried Away
An adult man dreamed that his girlfriend was being carried away by a young woman and an old lady. Something kept him from being able to reach his girlfriend to stop them from carrying her away.
Each character in the dream can represent a part of the dreamer’s mind. Women tend to go with the dreamers emotions. Young attractive women typically represent beautiful emotions.
An old lady is typically thought of as being a Crone which is an archetype of wisdom in old age and experience. An archetype is a pattern of thought that is repetitive throughout human consciousness. This dream is about how the dreamer’s emotions could get carried away.
He seemingly fears losing a lover after he has invested all of his emotions in her. His greatest fear probably is that this would happen and there was nothing he could do about it. It sounds like he is worried about losing the love of his life.
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A woman dreamed that she was camping. Some people asked her if they could use her restroom. She said “Sure.”
She went to walk her dog. When she came back, the people’s kids were jumping all over inside the camper. Some more older people appeared. The campsite was overrun with about thirty people.
She noticed that her wallet was missing. She then noticed a woman going through the wallet. The dreamer asked for it back, and took down the license plate number of the van they were driving.
They begged her not to report them. She told them that she was going to report them to the police. The itinerant mob fled.
The setting of this dream indicated that it was going to be about how the dreamer naturally operates because she was camping in the great outdoors. At the first level of dream interpretation, each character in the dream is a different part of the dreamer’s personality.
When you go to the bathroom in a dream, you are getting rid of something that you no longer need, that you do not need to carry, and that will actually harm you if you keep it. I think the dream was urging her to not let people take advantage of her. The dream ended with her deciding that there were going to be consequences if she allowed others to take advantage of her.
The dreamer told me that the interpretation felt right. She said that she was prone to give too much without receiving from others. She needed to insist that others reciprocate her favors.