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What might twin boys and twin girls mean in a dream?

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Dream 481: The sky is the limit

A woman had the following dream:

“I had a dream last night that I was holding four children, two boys and twin girls…they were so adorable…I have no idea what it means, but I felt do much love for them.”

Interpretation

Each living thing in a dream is usually a part of the dreamer psyche. Boys tend to go with actions. Girls tend to go with emotions. There is something new in your life, either a new idea, a new relationship, or new plans that you are taking new actions to implement on the basis of new emotions. The reason I believe this is that when the dream wants to emphasize something it gives you two and you have double twins. Congratulations!

Reaction: I received the following reaction from the dreamer:

“Wow, that is correct…I just launched my freelance writing business this year and am planning a move out of state, plus hoping to meet someone new to date once there. Thanks!”

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What does a centaur, lioness, avian, Pegasus and nuclear explosion mean in a dream?

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Dream 470: Controlling My Instincts

A man posted the following question:

“I am posting for a friend, because when she recalls her dreams, they usually mean something. They use imagery, symbolism and metaphors.

In the first part of her dream, she had to contain a room full of snakes without hurting any. That’s about it…

In the second part of the same dream, she was on ‘Earth’ but there were human-animal hybrids that imprisoned and ruled over humanity. They were protected from the ‘end’.

The moon was to collide with the planet, but as it hit, the sky flickered like a hologram, and the world leaders announced a failed nuclear detonation. They were trying to destroy the planet but blame something else.

The hybrids stand out to me:
-Avians
-A strange form of centaur that was half horse, but half were-wolfish
-A form of pegasi that had bat wings
-Human-Lioness hybrids. White/blonde

Interpretation

The first part of a dream sequence usually announces what the dream is going to be about. Snakes almost invariably represent change. What is interesting about this is that she’s not worried about the snakes hurting her, she wanted to be careful to not hurt the snakes.

A snake is considered, broadly speaking, to be an animal. Animals usually represent our instincts. It is interesting that she wants to be careful not to damage her instincts which is unusual and bodes well for her, I believe. As we treat ourselves so we tend to treat others, and I would suspect that she is a very considerate type of person. So the dream is announcing that this sequence is going to be about change and how she handles her instincts, making sure not to damage her groundedness.

One can’t help but like the hybrids part of this dream. It represents instincts that are well-controlled.

In fact, I believe this series of dreams is all about her concern over controlling her instincts. Fortunately, I think the dream delivers mostly good news on this account. She is a very diverse person with well-controlled instincts. Let me take them one by one.

The Avians are like birds and usually represent freedom, i.e., “free as a bird.” Freud was right on a few things, and one of the things he was right about is that a horse usually goes with female sexual power. But this is a centaur, which is half human, which would normally indicate that her sexuality instincts are usually well-controlled; however, this centaur is half-horse and half were-wolf-like. That would indicate that she is worried about the wild side of her sexuality.

I think of the pegasi as a magical flying horse. So this would probably represent the magical power of sensuality.

The human lioness image is powerful. It is always good to have powerful animals in your dream. She has a lot of psychic energy that can be used for good. A lioness is Queen of the Jungle and actually does all of the hunting while the King of the Jungle sleeps. To me this would imply that she has a solid work ethic and maternal instincts.

The white & blonde color is interesting. White is the most spiritual color, while blonde is considered to be an ideal quality of the feminine and Divine Child in Western culture.

The Moon is usually thought of as going with subconscious emotional impulses that are somewhat in the dark. The Moon is literally colliding with the Earth which is a way of saying what she fears what will happen if her subconscious instincts are actualized, i.e., what will happen if her instincts become grounded and actualized in reality.

The Hologram is interesting. Any piece of a hologram will reflect the whole hologram. So in some sense a hologram is indestructible. I think the dream is trying to reassure her that her world doesn’t come to an end because of subconscious conflicts and change going on in her life.

Fire goes with change because fire changes matter into energy. A nuclear explosion is super fire or super change.

I think part of this involves the dream trying to reassure her that her world doesn’t come to an end if she becomes somewhat more instinctually uninhibited.

The world leaders are the opposite of the instinctive parts of herself. They actually think about destroying the world when they are supposed to be the leaders of the world. In other words, they are so logical that they make no sense. Does this sound like her parents?

This dream is partially a cautionary tale of rationalization and logic going too far, which she will not do because she honors her instincts highly. On the other hand, safe sex should be practiced to prevent a detonation.

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What does helping someone who sleeps in your bed without permission in a dream mean?

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Dream 465: I help out, but stay out of my bed!

I dreamed a tall bold head girl lying in my bed eyes closed. In her dress. I wasn’t happy with the size of her or anything else.  If somebody can help me in interpretation of this dream, please do. Thank you.

Forgot to mention that I saw her before sitting in the chair and in few seconds she was sleeping in my bed. In the first place, I felt she needed help and I was happy to help. But all of a suddem, seeing her in my bed sleeping without checking with me, and also her size bothered me. Do I need changes in me or is something in my environment bothering me…may be I need to be more flexible…mmmm…

Interpretation

I think this dream involves your boundaries and feeling your personal sanctuary has been violated. It sounds like you may try to help others too much emotionally to the point that they take it for granted. You then are stuck with the “too big” of a problem of putting them back in their place, which is really hard to do after you let the genie out of the bottle.  I think the dream is saying that you can help others, but expect them to honor your boundaries.

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What might getting a new car from your mother mean in a dream?

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Dream 453: Renewed Genesis of Life

A woman had the following dream:

“Last night I had a dream about my mother and I haven’t dreamed of her in quite a while in the dream she and I went to an auto body repair shop to get the front end of my truck repaired and painted (minor accident)so the guy was explaining the process and said it would only cost about $500 for the repair I said fine let’s do it. I went to the restroom and came back the guy said let’s finalize the paperwork so we can get started my mother looked at me and said it’s taken care of I said are you sure she said yes I said thank you and say down.

A few minutes later the guy comes and say you are all set and had a me the keys but I don’t see the key to my truck and mom is standing there looking around and I say to him my key is missing and he shows me another key and says this is your car. I look at my mom and she says I took care it of it. She really took care of it she traded my truck and bought me a new Genesis fully paid for. I hugged her and cried and that hug felt so real I couldn’t let go. We got in the car and left.

Not sure what this means but any help is greatly welcomed…”

Interpretation 

A vehicle usually represents your progress in life in a dream. In any case, your mother usually represents the basis of your emotions. The dream may be saying that your emotions have been repaired.

You may be making some kind of shift from work or the financial part of your life (the truck) to focusing on the beginning of a new area (a Genesis) for your life.
The dream may also be integrating mother emotions.

The fact that the hug felt so real implies a vision dream where you were visited. All in a place, it sounds like a reparative and emotionally integrating dream that wants to give you a new vehicle to enjoy a different area of your life.

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What could Coke mean in a dream?

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Dream 449: The real thing

A woman had a dream that a good friend John that she thought she should like to date, but did not, offered her a Coke after telling her to wake up. She accepted the beverage and felt happy in the dream.

Interpretation 

She was distressed because she typically always wanted to date Macho “Bad Boys” who usually ended up not treating her very well. She was mystified that she had this sensitive male friend who she talked to and they had a good relationship, but she never saw him as being interesting as a date. She would typically look through her dreams trying to get information about what kind of man she should date.

The dream was giving her a direct answer. Her subconscious obviously favored her dating someone like John. In the dream, this male friend literally tells her to “wake up.” Further, I do not believe him offering her a Coke soda was without meaning. Liquids such as water and Coke, for that matter, tend to be associated with emotion. Water is virtually always emotion. Coke specifically is an energizing drink that helps you to wake up because it has caffeine in it typically.

The dream was literally  telling her to wake up. Why? Because her subconscious  was actually telling her that she should consider dating this friend because, as the Coke commercials say,  he is “the real thing.”

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I Love Dreams which are the most direct voice of the subconscious

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I remind myself at work that dreams are the most direct way to get to the bottom of root conflicts and psychodramas. Dreams still surprise me as they are often counterintuitive and saying what you don’t want to hear necessarily.

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What does a dog biting someone in a dream mean?

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Dream 448: Getting Rid of a Friend that Bites

A woman told me the following before describing her dream:

I had a disagreement with someone that’s been in and out of my life. This person contacted me to tell me that I have the the power to fix it. I was asking for a sign if this relationship could be fixed or if this is a toxic relationship that I shouldn’t have in my life. [Before she went to sleep, she incubated a dream by asking for a dream that would indicate what she should do with this relationship and she had the dream described in the next paragraph]:

“In the dream,  my golden retriever bit a cousin’s daughter, which is totally out of the dog’s character. The daughter’s mother (also my longtime friend and patient I provide care for) told me I need to put the dog down. I woke up feeling conflicted. Oddly enough I went to sleep asking spirit for a sign and that’s the sign the I received!”

Interpretation 

I think the dream is voting that it is a toxic relationship that you should stay away from. Dogs are all about loyalty and the dream does a double entendre dream condensation on the theme of loyalty. Remember that each character in the dream is a part of your mind with women going more with emotions. Animals often represent our instinctive feelings. Dream condensation occurs when the dream is true on more than one level.

I think the woman represents your emotional common sense which says that, painful as it may be, you have to kill your instinctual loyalty (the dog) before you get bitten. The reason you put a dog down is because the dog has proven itself to be dangerous by biting someone. To me, this means you have to kill your internal loyalty to this person so that you do not get bitten again.

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What does sand, your father, a plum tree, and orangutans represent in a dream?

 

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Dream 447: Stopping Monkeying Around 

A woman had the following dream:

“I had a dream last night. In the dream there was a plum tree with 5 orangutans.  They had their  backs to me. Then my father picked me up and ran with me because there was a lot of sand coming at us from behind. Then we tumbled and I was carrying my father. Then we ran to a truck and rode the sand waves.
What’s this mean ?”

Interpretation

This is a very interesting dream. A tree is a symbol of integration because its roots grow in the ground, it opens to the sky, and it is here on the level with us. The plum tree has several meanings in my world. First off, a plum is a fruit and a food that nurtures you. Also a plum is usually something especially appealing like a plum job.

I would guess that the orangutans are barriers to getting something favorable that nurtures you. Animals usually represent instincts, the dreamer’s instincts. In this case, I think the dream is signaling that too much monkeying around is keeping you from getting something you want that would be favorable to you like a plum position of some kind. I think the orangutan instinct is interfering because I think it represents “monkeying around.”

Sand usually represents impermanence as it can be blown around and it never provides a solid foundation. You do not want to just build sand castles as goals in your life to my way of thinking. From that standpoint, it can be seen as insecurity.

Your father in the dream represents an action part of your mind as men tend to go with actions. Fathers most often are the basis of your actions to some degree. Your carrying your father might mean that you need to be supportive of your actions you are taking to avoid being insecure and wanting to build your future into a more secure and semi-permanent situation. You may want to build something in your life that is not subject to the shifting sands of time.

It also has significance that there are five orangutans. In my world, five usually represents adding something on to your stable self (4 is a stable number and five is literally adding something to your stable self as 1+4=5.

I think the dream is wanting you to take life more seriously, stop monkeying around, and support your actions towards building something more permanent in your life.

In my world, trucks are associated with work and you escape the sand on a truck. I think the dream is saying that you have to work to build a future worth having.

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What does carrying a bag or luggage aboard an airplane with your son mean in a dream?

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Dream 446: Wondering about carrying my baggage into the future

A woman had the following dream:

“I had a dream that I was at an airport waiting to be called for my flight.Then I was called,and I got up and picked up my black bag.I think I was traveling with my youngest son…”

Interpretation 

There is something almost spiritual about flight and usually has to do with your overall life goals. Picking up a bag could mean that you were worried about carrying “baggage” into your future. That your youngest son is in the dream usually means that you’re probably considering making some fairly major change. Each person in a dream is usually a part of your mind at the first level. Boys tend to go with actions while girls usually go more with emotions. That isn’the absolute, but is usually the case.

You are probably worried about how “baggage” from the past might affect that move. Unless you actually have a black bag, the color in this case could signal being worried about negative or depressing baggage being carried into your future. The type of action you may be considering would be related to the personality of your youngest son.

It is also possible that it is the condensation of two levels of the dream in the sense that the decision could involve your youngest son in some sense or how it would affect him. Again, the main thing is taking some action for your overall life goes intowards  the future and being worried about carrying baggage into the future and how that baggage might affect your future.

The dreamer later indicated that she had been looking for a job and was wondering how that would affect her and her youngest son’s future.

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Can dreams help you make decisions about moving or getting another job?

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A 36-year-old fine arts professor dreamt that he was on the patio of a Mexican restaurant. There was a wasp’s nest above the kidney shaped bar. Suddenly, a wasp flew down and stung him in the head. The dream shifted to him listening to a waittress. She was telling him about a long sordid affair she had with a professor.

Dream Interpretation

This professor recently received job offers from colleges in Ohio and California. WASP also stands for White Anglo Saxon Protestant. I asked him which college was more conservative. He replied that the college in Ohio was much more conservative and he did not know if it would tolerate his avant-garde teaching style and research. I asked him what he associated with Mexican restaurants, and he replied California. I asked him what was the biggest mistake he ever made in his field, and he replied that he regretted a decision not to attend a college in California. That she, the waittress had a sordid affair with a professor indicated that his emotions (the waitress) had been untrue to his intellectual decisions (the male professor)—this was highlighted by the fact that he regretted not going to college in California/

The dream voted in the direction of the college in California. His subconscious exclaimed that a conservative atmosphere was hard on his head and thinking. A restaurant in a dream nurtures one psychologically, and the dream is saying that, for him, California is much more likely to be nurturing.

The female waittress is a part of his work emotions. In dreams, a waittress is often seen as “one who waits.” He told me consciously that his biggest career mistake was not attending a learning institution in California. The waittress is talking about an emotional mistake with a professor. The dream is warning him about making sincere and solid emotional connections. The dream is screaming that he needs to attend a learning institution in California.

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What does the negative Queen represent in a dream?

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Dream 437: The Evil Queen

I have had very vivid and odd dreams every night for the past month. Yet when I awake I usually only remember pieces. I was standing in front of my ex husband. We were talking as I began to think in my head about our split. Reminding myself of the monster he became…the reason I left. I used to have no voice when in his presence so I was reminding myself before I made eye contact.

I reached in my pocket though and pulled out a seemingly endless stack of large bills. He put his hands out and one by one I placed the bills in his Palm. It never ended. I remember thinking what about my needs. If I give it all I’ll have nothing. He never stopped me and I never spoke up.

I looked down and Instantly fell to my knees. I quickly place my hands out to catch This large Brown ribbed vase. I was unable to catch it in time. The glass broke shattering and slicing my right Index finger. I remember specifically the feel of glass shards across my fingers.

I looked up to see a woman I have not yet the chance to meet.  She had black curly hair old style framed glasses. She had a dark-tinted color to her, like not a normal color. She just stared blankly at me. It was creepy, almost like I felt I was in trouble.

I heard “Watch her–When she appears pay close attention to her.” Then I woke up. I’ve yet to understand this one. A lot of my dreams are about money or past lives, even god. I’m not sure why the oddities, but would greatly appreciate any Insight.

Interpretation

Money usually represents energy in dreams. He was a viper who took all your energy and never reciprocated.

The woman in your dreams is negative emotions. Jung called her the queen or the negative mother complex. She resides in everyone’s subconscious.

The queen is all about power and control. Her attitude toward you is capricious and arbitrary.

Her motto is “ask not what I can do for you–ask what you can do for me now.” She looks very strong, but will wilt unless the odds are overwhelmingly in her favor.

The savage masculine will aggravate and make her stronger. It sounds like you were married to a savage masculine man. The only part of the psyche that has any success against her is the heroic masculine–which usually involves being dedicated to taking positive actions that focus mainly, if not exclusively, on your needs and not making any excuses about it nor apologizing for looking after your needs.

I think the brown vase falling and cutting your finger right before the queen appears was done to emphasize that the queen is the emotional part of yourself that is hurting you. When glass is breaking in a dream, that usually means that the emotional impact of something is finally fully reaching you.  Her favorite putdown is “who do you think you are.”

I hope this is helpful.

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What does a wedding veil, car, death of a son, and an older man crying mean in a dream?

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Dream 433: There is something I know I should do

A woman had the following dream:

“I had a dream I was in my wedding dress and looking for an iron for my veil. My young kids got out the flat with a strange wee boy. I went looking for them when I found them my little boy was lying lifeless in front of a car the other two kids where sitting up and the man from the car was sitting down he was on the phone crying and couldn’t look at me saying “sorry.” What does this mean?

Interpretation

“Weddings usually represent integration of different parts of your mind and personality. This one is focusing on your actions in particular integrating with your emotions as men tend to go with actions and women tend to go with emotions in dreams.

The clothing represents your defenses psychologically. A veil is something that you would have to look through that partially covers who you really are.

An iron is something you do to take the wrinkles out of your clothes, the wrinkles out of your defenses. There’s also the comment saying that we ” iron out our problems.” You are preparing to integrate, but delay doing so because you want to iron out your problems first, in particular, how you look at things through the veil of your consciousness.

At the first level, your little boy would represent a new action on your part that you delayed doing. Cars are usually vehicles that represent our progress in life.

The man in the dream is communicating with others how sorry you will feel if you delay taking a small action you need to do which involves changing your outlook and not putting off your integration of your emotions with your actions.

My bias is to think that the dream thinks that you should be taking some action which you know you should do which you are delaying because you want to wait till things look better through the way you are thinking about things now.”

The dreamer later indicated to me that you recently had a child and was deciding whether to get married.

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What do guns, shooting and robbery mean in a dream?

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A woman reported the following dream:

“I had a dream about a friend involving a robbery and gun shots were fired towards her and I. When I later talked to her about it, she said 2 other friends had dreams of her either as the one doing the shooting or was being shot at. What do guns in dreams mean? Also, it’s so weird how several people had similar themed dreams about one person. Any ideas? Shes kinda freaked out by it. Some insights would be much appreciated!”

Interpretation 

Guns usually are associated with aggression or confrontation. Freud thought of it as a classic phallic symbol so it is associated with being Macho–rough and tough and not taking anything from anyone.

With your friend, I wonder if she tends to be confrontation or aggressively assertive to the point that she inspires retaliation and/or bursts of emotions from others. The thought would be that she is subject to confrontations/burst of emotions which she points at others and is reciprocated by others.

If we look at just your dream, shots are being fired at you. You are not instigating any gunplay in the dream you had. The focus of your dream would seem to be other people’s explosive reactions to you at times for no clear reason. In your dream, the robbery would maybe indicate some worry about being personally violated.

The collective unconscious means that we are all connected subconsciously with one another. When she has several friends dreaming about guns with her involved, I would take it that the collective subconscious is trying to get the message to her by whatever means possible that she needs to be protective of herself and assertive / aggressive / confrontative in a different kind of way so that she or others do not get hurt either emotionally or physically.

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What does sex and kissing men on the forehead mean in a dream?

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Dream 413: She should have listened

A dreamer reported an ex girlfriend had a couples dreams of him one night. He wondered about the significance of the sea shell. The former girlfriend’s dream was as follows:

“I kept singing prayers into your ear and kissing your forehead after every one. Every time I did a new orb would appear and I’d have a vision of some place. You were holding sea shells”

” I was little and someone was reading a bedtime story while I gazed out the window into the dark woods when all of a sudden this freaky alien ripped me out of the house and into the woods.”nbsp;

Interpretation

Her singing to you and kissing dreamer’s forehead in the dream would mean that at the first level she’s praying to the action part of herself that loved him which is expressed by her kissing his forehead.

If it were my dream, the orbs would probably represent hopes regarding relationships. Orbs are round and are light and rocks are circular mostly. Circular objects, especially circular objects that are lighted usually represent the soul since the circle has no beginning and it has no end. The dream is suggesting that she’s dealing with soul issues.

If these dreams were together relatively, it seems to be about listening. The dream seems to be saying she has emotional wishes that she prays would come true, but probably really doesn’t listen to them very closely.

I think the above for two reasons, the first one being the seashells. When I was young it was always said that if you held a seashell to your ear you could hear the ocean. The ocean is the biggest symbol of the subconscious that we have. Symbolically, these seashells would represent listening to her subconscious, specifically, the part of her subconscious that dealt with dreamer.

The second reason to suspect it has to do with listening is that when she is read a bedtime story, she is not paying attention and is staring out into the dark woods.

The dream gets savage in emphasizing that she needs to listen and pay attention to her subconscious emotions by having an alien jerk her out of her world.

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What can a ghost, furniture, and a house mean in terms of relationships in a dream?

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Dream 409: The ghost of relationships past

A woman had the following dream:

“I need guidance if possible on what this dream meant..

So I dreamt I was not a ghost but invisibly present in my ex and I’s home, which is just his home now. And I noticed little upgrades, for example I thoroughly noticed little ottomans that were black and white stripe, three of them, and also noticed a very high techy fancy massage chair, very similar to the one the gentleman I was dating recently has in his home. That was the whole dream. Very odd, can anybody give me clarity on this one?”

Interpretation

I would suggest that at the first level, the ghost may represent the observing ego part of yourself.

In this case, I think it is very hard to separate the first and second levels of interpretation so I’m going to mix the two together. The first level is within the dreamer’s own psyche. The second level is interpersonal.

The house usually represents the dreamer because it is the framework of which one lives. Furniture usually represent what supports you in your life since furniture supports your body. In this case, I think this particular house because you and an ex lived in it more specifically represents the relationship part of your life.

I think the Ottomans being black and white to me suggest it is more clear what you want and what you don’t want in a supportive relationship. The dream is giving high grades to relationships that are supportive of a modern and soothing relationship. It may also be giving recognition to the idea that the next relationship needs to be modern and physically supportive.

This interpretation may only work in certain universes and is limited by my limited experience which includes my not personally knowing you.

The dreamer later confirmed that the interpretation “sounded about right.”

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What does it mean when a deceased relative hugs you in a dream?

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Dream Vision 402: Hang in There Baby

I dreamed hat my deceased brother-in-law hugged me as i was leaving the hospital after visiting my wife who was a patient there.

Interpretation

My wife was having a number of medical difficulties. She was hospitalized right before I had this dream. What was different about this dream was the feeling of touch. I had the feeling that I actually was physically hugged by him.

The deceased brother-in-law in the dream was a doctor in real life who was totally loved by his wife, family of eight children, and the world. He was a strong and empathetic healer. He gave encouragement and clear direction to all that knew him.

One major type of dream is what I call a vision dream. People typically report that they feel is more of a vision than a dream. I could vividly see him and had the sensation of being physically hugged.

What sets these dreams apart is the sensation part of it. The vision or seeing of the person seems more vivid. The sense of touch is usually filled which does not occur in many dreams actually.

Sometimes people indicate they can even smell the familiar person. The vivid image of him in extraordinary detail and the physical feeling of touch were in this dream. I usually do not have dreams like this.

It is memorable the few times they do happen. It always seems to be significant to what is happening in the outside world or in reality. On the other hand, what is the ultimate reality?

Theoretical physicists tell me that there are at least 10 dimensions plus time. We see only three of them. They say that it is all happening here right now . I believe that leaves a lot of room for spiritual interpretation of visions like this one.

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What does Medusa mean in a dream?

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Dream 398: How Dare You Be Like Your Father

A man dreamed that he was sitting on a couch between his divorced mother and father. He was in the 8th grade. His mother’s head was full of snakes that looked quite threatening and they were green and gooey.

My interpretation of the dream

The first question I asked him was whether he blamed his mother for the divorce. He responded that he had talked with her the night before this dream about the divorce that occurred in an important stage of his life. He noted that he looks like his father and was absent-minded like his father which drove his mother up the wall.

Snakes often signal transformation. The mother in the dream is his mother interject which is usually the basis of emotions. The dream is saying that he went through a major emotional transformation when he was 14 which was in fact when the divorce occurred.

The mother having snakes for hair replicates the Medusa archetype. In Greek mythology, Medusa was a fearsome image and men they looked at her turned into stone. Medusa is a perfect image in this instance.

I believe Medusa shows up also because emotionally he felt his mother was stony and rigid towards him. She could break the dreamer down with one cold stare when he was young. These stares occurred mainly when she equated him with his father because of the similarity of looks and actions.

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What does my fat phony Queen like mother in law in a wheelchair in a dream mean?

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Dream 397: Time to Get Real

A woman dreamed that her 94 year old mother-in-law who is in a wheelchair suddenly got up and started walking around very fast to show the dreamer that she actually could move and walk very well. The mother in law in real life weighed 300 pounds and was morbidly and pathologically psychologically dependent upon her son. She had difficulty walking mainly because of her weight.

The dreamer thought she was a phony and that her mother-in-law knew that she knew her mother-in-law was being phony. The mother in law for some reason had been amazingly alert and coherent lately.

My Interpretation to the Dreamer

Taking the dream at different levels, your subconscious is saying both that she is phony and that you yourself have to be phony to be able to put up with her. At a deeper level, it may be trying to reassure you that you are fine, that you are physically and psychologically healthy, in spite of her antipathy towards you.

Her being very alert is interesting and something I can never explain. Both personally and in the lives of my clients, people who are on a long downward course health wise will often have a brief intense period of emotional/cognitive clarity and physical vitality before sinking into a clasped physical and mental disrepair and even death.

I thought this mother-in-law had characteristics of the Queen archetype that Carl Jung describes– domineering, controlling, selfish, egocentric, and wanting to dominate the household situation. The dreamer confirmed most of my insights.

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Playing with Players

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Tackling a Challenge

Dream 393: A coed dreamed that a football player who was a “player” socially (had many affairs with different women at the same time) wanted her to be his girlfriend. She could see his girlfriend in the background. The girlfriend was angry and anxious.

Interpretation

Each living thing in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s mind. Women usually go with an emotional power of the mind while men tend to go with an action-oriented part of the mind. The football player in the dream represented her wanting to date a player and convert him to being faithful to her.

This conflict had deep psychological roots. She constantly felt the need to prove herself worthy by winning the competition for a popular man or alpha male over other women. This was because she  felt in a one-down position from wealthy and popular women who were her friends. Her family had once been wealthy but fell on hard times.

Her relationships with players invariably ended with her feeling angry and anxious. She was caught in what Freud called a repetition compulsion. She was trying to prove needlessly that she was as good as other women despite being  beautiful and having many positive qualities.

The girlfriend in the dream represented how she ended up feeling pursuing “players.” She invariably ended up feeling angry and anxious. The dream was a warning to stop engaging in this repetitive mistake.

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What does it mean to have an ex killed by gangsters and to dream of a father you loved?

Not Reacting to Insults to Your Ego
Not Reacting to Insults to Your Ego

Dream 391: Avoid Provocations and Act More Like Dad

A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed my ex and I were someplace about to cross the street as I stepped into the street a car full of young men speed up in front of me nearly hitting me… I panicked and banged the hood of their car. This angered them all as did when my ex told them to ef’n watch what they’re doing. The driver turned looked at his friends in the backseat and front passenger seat… I saw him reach for a gun… I turned and ran…hearing gunshots…my ex was killed.

After that dream waking me up when I fell back asleep I dreamed of my dad who passed away from a heart attack 1 1/2 ago.. It wasn’t so much a dream but a flash of different memories of him, i kept seeing of him in my dream. Smiling, laughing, being silly, making his grumpy faces, hearing his voice, cooking.. I don’t know these two dreams left me wondering if they had any meaning.”

My Interpretation

Each character represents a different part of the psyche with women going more with an emotional part and men going more with your actions. An ex represents a relationship you rejected and he (an action part) is killed. What this means is that you have decided not to engage in behavior that enrages others (such as swearing and pounding your fist in anger) even if you are provoked.

The father in your dream is your father in your mind, your father introject, which is often the basis of actions. You have fond memories of what he was like. It sounds like you want the basis of your actions to be somewhat similar to the way your dad did things.

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What does your mother being bitten by an ant mean in a dream?

It's always when you just get settled!
It’s always when you just get settled!

Dream 391: My Sister Is Very Irritating

A woman had the following dream: “I had a strange dream I was walking then I saw my sister at an office and she says that my mom got bit by ants. I believe that was the doctors office. It ended there.”

My Interpretation

“Each living thing in the dream represents a part of your mind at the first level. It sounds like it mainly involves emotions since women tend to go more with emotions. The mother in the dream is the mother in your mind that we call the mother introject. The mother introject is often the basis of emotions.

Animals (in this case ants) usually represent our instincts, what we are prone to do naturally. Ants are methodical, routine and focused on accomplishing what needs to be done for the group compulsively.

Being bit by ants is a nuisance/irritating. I wonder if there is a situation (maybe involving family) where you have put in a lot of work and are feeling a little annoyed or taken for granted?”

The dreamer responded with the following confirmation: “Yes, my sister was over for a month.My sister is very bossy and doesn’t use nice words to tell them to do things. Not cursing, not a sweet person very cold and mean!”

What does it mean when you find money in a barn for the family you babysit for?

Getting Energy from Doing What You Love
Getting Energy from Doing What You Love

Dream 390: Old MacDonald had a Barn Full of Energy

A woman had the following dream:

“I dreamed that the family I babysit for (I am friends with the mother) had lost like a friend or family member and a very large sum of cash was owed/given to them. The family drove me to the place to pick it up because they needed help getting it. We go to this farm looking space and I walk into the barn/ware-house type building. It was only being lit from the natural lighting coming from outside but it was enough for me to see this huge trunk in the middle of the room that i needed to use to put the money in for the family, there was huge wads of cash and single bills scattered about the floor. I filled up the trunk as much as I could, and left the rest there, as I made my way back to the family’s car. Just because I was the only one in there taking the money for the family, it felt in a way like I was stealing, but i was only doing what I was told to do, I think I felt odd being the one having to go get the money instead of one of the family members doing it themselves, but they said they needed me to help get it for them. When I got to the car, a man who was following me, walked up to us (tan, dark hair and handsome; wearing overalls), said sorry he was not in the room with me to help out and he had work elsewhere to do, and he brought me the remaining cash that was for the family. Then we all drove away.”

My Interpretation

In dreams, money is energy. The barn is a natural and I want to say innocent place where your instincts (animals) are nurtured.

It sounds like you want to give all of the instinctive energy you can to the family you babysit for and want to give even more, but hold back wondering if you should, but then say it is okay because that is what I am supposed to do.

You get the energy free of charge from the universe by doing what you do for this family and you even get paid for doing it (no reason to feel guilty about being paid). The heroic action part of yourself feels that you could give even more energy to this family because it is nothing but good. What a country!

The tall, dark and handsome man is the representation of your own heroic masculine archetype which is often the initiator of therapeutic action, of things that are good for you. This part wholeheartedly wants you to feel uninhibited in giving personal energy to the family (the energy of the universe is supplied to you without your asking for it and this is a good thing for you and for the family).

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What does dreaming about your divorced parents being married mean?

Integrating Emotions and Actions

Dream 389: Getting It Together

A woman had the following dream:

“Dreams are wonderful for me lately. I dream of my deceased parents staying married (they divorced when I was 4), seeing them grow old together. Just wishful thinking?”

My Interpretation

Whatever theory you look at in mental health, it eventually gets back to mom and dad, it is not the whole thing, it is just a part of it which gets less and less as you get older but there is probably always still some remnant of your parents. The mother and the father you dream of now are the mother and father in your mind which are called a mother introject and a father introject.

The father introject is most often the basis of your actions. The mother introject is most often the basis of your emotions.

Marriage is a union of different parts of your mind. If it is a marriage between your father and your mother, it typically represents you’re integrating your emotions with your actions. The fact that you dream of them growing old together indicates that the integration is a long-term effect. Congratulations!

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What does the two of swords mean in the Tarot deck of cards?

Caught Between Two Lovers

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Feeling Like a Fool

Dream 387: Caught Between Two Lovers

 
A man had the following dream: “I dreamt a lot but there’s one particular part I can’t find an answer to. I saw a tarot card, beautiful card. It was of a queen wearing white sitting she had a crescent above her head, porcelain face, and by her side were these green cartoonish creatures that looked non threatening yet I’m sure they could if wronged or ordered to.

My Interpretation for Him

At first, I thought you were talking about the queen of swords in the Tarot deck. However, the imagery you described is closer to the two of swords. This part of the dream probably goes with emotions as women in dreams tend to represent an emotional part of your psyche.

The image in the Tarot deck in the two of swords is a woman completely dressed in white with a white blindfold who is holding two swords with her arms crossed across her chest. The thought is that she is stuck in the middle and can’t make a decision and is afraid to move or to choose one of the options. The crescent appears on this card as a new moon. The moon tends to go with the subconscious and it could mean that you have some dawning awareness or insight in your subconscious.

The thought would be that possibly you have to choose between two relationships and feel unable to choose because you are going to have to hurt someone in making the choice. The green creatures could be involved as they may represent money, or marijuana, or a condensation of both. It also could be having to choose between a relationship and money or marijuana.

As always, I am interpreting the dream totally blind and I’m presenting possible options.

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Why am I constantly dreaming about a girl I loved since I was 12 years old?

Looking for Emotion From the Past
Looking for Emotion From the Past

Dream 385: I Want to Recapture How I Was Emotionally in My First Relationship with a Girl

When I was 12 I fell in love with a girl at first sight(right when I looked in her eyes) , and her dad was the first one to teach me how to kick a soccer ball when I was just 7(I’m really good, could play pro if I want ). She has a lot of reason why I am spiritual and pay attention to my dreams. Problem is when I was in high school, we would fight and I would ignore her and not look at her. We aren’t really on talking terms like we were when I was younger and I don’t follow her on social media.

The reason I bring this up is because she has been in my dreams all the time, and 90% of the time I can’t look at her or talk to her. Other 10% is amazing (dancing, doing things together , kissing etc) but 90% of the time she’ll be in my dream and won’t be able to look at her. I want to look at her and kiss her, but in my dreams I feel like I have subconsciously put it in there that I can’t speak or talk to her.

Just recently I was in my dreams teaching a yoga class with just two other people and she showed up to do the class and while I was doing the yoga poses she was doing them too and we were looking at each other but neither of us could say anything to each other. She was sort of looking at me funny snd i just looked her and kept going…

If I knew I was dreaming I would of kissed her right there, lol. Just yesterday I had another one where we were in the car together in the backseat and I tried talking to her but something wouldn’t let me. It must of been a 15 minute car ride and we just stared at each other , it seems like she can’t say anything to me either.

This is just two examples out of the more than 100x this has happened with her in my dream. What do you think is the best thing to do? I’m stubborn. If she’s meant to be in my life the universe will have me run into her like it usually does with her, so I feel like I should wait for that.

Do you think she experiences the same dreams?

My Interpretation

The dreams may be about her and having a relationship with her, but only you would know that since that is the second level of dream interpretation where only you have enough to detail to determine that.

At the first level, I think you probably have idealized that early relationship and want to emotionally be the way you were with her when things were good in future relationships. My money is on this is a fantasy about an idealized relationship from the past that your subconscious wants you to learn from so that you learn the lesson and look for the right relationship and act appropriately in the future.

This is based only on the structure of the dream and only you can determine what interpersonal value it has if any. Each character in the dream represents a part of your psyche at the first level with men going with your actions and women going with your emotions.

My thought is there was something about the way you were emotionally with this girl that you were developing that was not finished and you want to emotionally change yourself to find the ideal relationship. As such, in your mind she probably represents an ideal woman or anima. It is a big dream about how you should be in a relationship.

To answer your questions at the end, it is possible she's having dreams about you. If that is the case, I would see it more as a sign that the universe was trying to get the two of you together. I do like your idea that if it was meant to be, the universe will conspire to have the two of you meet again.

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What does a bridge, a river, a door, and a girlfriend not recognizing you, mean in a dream?

Bridging the Gap
Bridging the Gap

Dream 383: The Emotion Just Is Not There

A man had the following dream:

“I’ve been having this recurring dream and i’m not sure what to make of it…Until a few months ago i’ve been in a relationship with this girl and we would meet very rarely since she lives far far away.

In this dream, i’m rushing to a place where we supposedly said we would meet, first in a cab, then on foot. It looks a bit like the park in my city but it’s not quite it. I think it’s autumn time, leaves all around the pavement, few passers-by.

The realisation comes to me that i don’t really know the exact spot where i’m supposed to go… I’m starting to run late and i get a little agitated. Then, starting to cross a bridge over a small stream, I see a door in the middle of it, nothing else, just a door standing there. Somehow the idea that i’m supposed to enter it hits me. “This is the place where people go to find each other” or something similar comes into my mind suddenly.

I enter the door and there’s something like a small waiting room, a clinic or hospital waiting room by the looks of it. There’s light coming from the windows but i can’t see anything outside of it. There are these benches crammed full of people and people leaning against the walls. I think to myself if she’s here i’ll have a hard time finding her.

But i find her right away, and as i’m standing no more than 3 meters away she looks around as if looking for someone, and she keeps looking right passed me as if i’m not really there. I think to myself maybe she didn’t see me, but what if she just changed her mind and she’s just pretending? Should I just go and tap her on the shoulder or walk away? But I go towards her, in spite of having to push aside people passing by… I get nervous and i always wake up. There are always small variations in the dream but it’s mostly the same.”

My Interpretation

A reoccurring dream is usually very significant because it represents a situation where your subconscious has repeatedly tried to solve a situation or problem.

In this dream and in most dreams, a bridge usually represents a major passage in life. Something has materially happened to change your life.

You are crossing over water, a small stream. Water is emotions usually and rivers or streams usually represent the river of life.

This is not a massive river but a small stream. That indicates that you’re trying to bridge the gap over emotions that probably are not there as much as they should be, that it is more important to bridge the gap than it is to make it over massive emotions.

The door probably represents the opening to solving your conflicts over losing her.

A clinic is a place where people come to get healed. Your subconscious seems to see the issue as you getting over her. The emotion again is not there, so she does not recognize you.

You then try to make your way past people to get to her. The dream does not say this outright, but I think it may be hinting that it is time to give up the chase, and to invest yourself in the people you are passing by.

This sounds painful, but is a passage in your life and your challenge is to bridge the gap, and not chase something that emotionally is not there.

Take it for what its worth because this is without knowing you and you should glean what seems to be true to yourself.

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What does a shopping mall, a candle, socks and money mean in a dream?

Taking Care of Business
Taking Care of Business

Dream 378: Taking Care of Business

A woman had the following dream:

“I was walking around a mall alone. I was going around and around the same shops like I was trying to find a special one but never could. Then I finally found it and it looked like a clothing and candle shop.

I went in immediately searching for a cobalt blue candle. I wanted the largest one I could find with 3 wicks. I was smelling them and the smells were vivid and I found one I wanted.

Then I was standing near the checkout and there were some long single chain necklaces. I searched thru them until I found a long gold chain with a feather charm on the end. I went to grab it but as I did some other woman grabbed it too. We debated for a bit who had it first and she let me have it.

So I went back to the checkout counter and realized I had lost my shoes. I had been wearing white socks with colorful Nike sandals. I don’t ever do that. But seemingly someone took my sandals when I had taken them off debating the necklace issue.

A guy who worked there confronted me asking where my shoes were. Then he said show me the bottom of your feet. He wanted to see if I had been walking in the grass in my socks. When I raised my foot it was covered in grey dirt not green.

Then I started talking to a guy standing in line in front of me and he was making a payment on something that the store was charging him interest on. He had a large check that he showed me was written out for $3333.”

My Interpretation

One thing I’ve found to be almost always be true is that if you have a dream about a shopping mall, the dream usually is going to be talking about how you have been mauled in a business, career, or financial sense.

Looking for a candle implies you are always trying to look for the light in a business situation and usually you are able to sniff out what is right. You have to compete with other people who may be onto the same thing, but usually you can convince others to see it your way. Looking for a candle implies you always try and look for the light in the business situation and usually are able to sniff out what is right.

You have to compete with other people who may be on to the same thing, but usually you can convince others to see it your way.

Cobalt blue usually would go with mental activity and speaking out loud according to the chakra system if I looked at the concept of blue in a broad sense.

You can usually sniff out what is good and is likely to lead to change (smelling the candles and three is the number of change as there are 3 wicks).

I like the interpretation of the golden necklace with a feather being having valuable intuitive ability that you can bet your neck on (the necklace) and that can take wing(the feather).

The debate with the woman indicates the you can usually convince others to see it your way for your own advantage.

Socks are usually protective as are sandals in getting you to where you need to go. It is interesting that these are white socks. White is the most spiritual color that there is.

The whole thing about the socks and the grass and the dirt and the Nikes I believe indicates that you are willing to do what needs to be done and do not necessarily do things just to look good.

You sometimes and probably more often are more willing to do the dirty work (the grey on the socks) than to do things for your own personal growth (the green from plants on the bottom of your socks). You focus on getting the job done and not necessarily protecting yourself excessively and are willing to make yourself vulnerable to a degree.

The final image of the guy paying off the $3333 debt he was being charged interest on is perhaps one of the most interesting aspects of this dream. Money is energy in dreams. It can be money itself but it also can be energy that other people have loaned you in in this case.

The dream is emphasizing that you need to pay back the favors you’ve been given before they end up costing you too much. It could end up costing you more if people feel that you have not shown enough interest.

3 is the number of change and you have four 3’s. I believe the dream might be saying that if you change this aspect and pay off the favors early, it will lead to stability because 4 is the number of stability as there are four legs on a table, four legs on a chair, four directions, four seasons, etc.

This is a nicely done and well rounded dream about how to conduct your career/business/financial aspects of your life.

Feedback from the Dreamer

The dreamer gave me the following feedback:

“Steven-this is pretty awesome! I wanna show u how accurate. Hugely mauled over at work but also benefiting from it and competing not for the same position but to do the same work..long story and it’s incredibly draining has been for months. My intuition is always spot on especially regarding others’ intentions. I have a hard time verbalizing that and sharing my insights and hold back on speaking about it especially lately and even when asked. I always over exert myself and energy in order to ‘get the job done’ re: the dirt not green. The check for $3333 was interesting and I remember thinking he bought an engagement ring with it and was making payments. Although I did recently have a reiki session and now I’m wondering if I need to be repaying them or the universe in some way to pay it forward.”

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What does having sex with intuitive people in dreams mean?

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Dream 371: Going Crazy on You

A woman had the following dream:

“I dreamed the other night that I helped two guys who became infatuated with me. (This actually happens to me a lot in life.) There were two other guys there that were my friends in the dream and they looked at me like I knew better and why did I help further knowing better. I signaled back “I know, I know”. We didn’t need words because they were my intuition side. I got rid of the infatuated boys and became incredibly attracted to the intuitive ones. We had very intimate sex. I then ended up at a hospital to help deliver a baby with them and after got to see all the new-born babies in the hospital.”

My Interpretation

This would be seen as your integrating intuitive action parts of yourself. Sex between a man and a woman is usually seen as integration of actions (men) and emotions (women) as each character is a part of the dreamer’s psyche.

The first part of the dream where you are involved with two nerdy men basically is asking the question, “Why are you wasting your time with them or with those aspects of your life?”

Sex usually represents integration with the different part of yourself that you are having sex with. Integrating the different intuitive aspects leads to a whole new part of your psyche, the new baby. The thought would be since the dreamer was a female having sex with two intuitive men, that she was integrating two intuitive action parts of her mind.

This integration could be stimulated by any of several different actions. Such actions would include discussion with other intuitive people (probably men in this case or it could be the action parts of women’s minds). Watching intuitive movies, honing intuitive skills, psychic abilities, reading new age books and out-of-body travel would be examples of intuitive actions. A strong spirituality is probable.

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What does sex mean in dreams? Does the kind of sex make any difference?

Women and emotions
Women and emotions

Dream Question 370: A female dreamer asked: What does it mean if you dream that you have sex with someone almost identical to yourself?

Sex at the first level usually means integration especially if it was good consensual sex. If you have a dream where you are having sex with someone who is identical to yourself, how the act was performed would make substantial difference in my world.

Let’s say the act was very loving, then the dream would be signaling that you were integrating love into yourself. If the act was aggressive but none the less satisfying, the dream would be signaling either that you have integrated some aggressive impulses into your personality, or the dream maybe advising for some reason that you integrate some aggression more into your personality. This isn’t necessarily bad, because it’s aggression that gives us the get up and go to accomplish things. It just has to be controlled by other parts of the personality.

The more intimate the sexual act, the more integrated it is. Having sex with an identical self is rather awesome in a way because it is saying that you really don’t need any other person other than yourself. Women usually represent an emotional part of the dreamer, and since the dreamer was a woman, the emphasis is on emotional integration. If the dreamer were a man, the dream would be emphasizing integrating his actions since men tend to go more with action parts of the mind.

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What is Synchronicity?

Notice Synchronicity
Notice Synchronicity

Dream 358: A woman dreamed that an ex-lover whom she had known for years were floating side by side together passively in a pool of water. They both were floating and were perfectly still. She somehow knew that he was going to die. Basically the dream was saying that their relationship died because it was drowned in emotion.

Over the years, she had an on and off relationship with him because he was a drug addict. The next day after this dream, she heard that he died from a drug overdose. From figuring the time she went to sleep and the approximate time he died, she believed she had this dream within 3 or 4 hours of his death.

She had a predictive dream of his death, which is one of the six major types of dreams in my world. Psychics tell me that traumatic events send out a stronger signal which I believe the dreamer received.

Synchronicity

Carl Jung popularized the idea of synchronicity which is a meaningful coincidence. Synchronicity happens when two things that are unrelated happen in such a way that they seem related. Her story about this dream becomes even more synchronious.

Several days later she went to her ex lover’s funeral. After they lowered the casket in the ground, as a final farewell, the viewers were supposed to pick out a flower from a variety of flowers which were presented to them. They then threw their chosen flower onto the casket in the ground. She chose a red carnation.

After she went home from the funeral, her small son said that there was a flower growing in her lawn. She had not planted many flowers in her lawn. She asked her son to bring the flower to her. The flower was a red silk carnation.  The synchronicity of these events is almost unbelievable.

Synchronicity is when things that are unrelated happen in such a way that they seem related. It is always significant and one should always take notice in your world.

Jung, like the Chinese have believed for millenniums, thought that the world was one big connection, with everything related to everything else. This idea actually has scientific support with theoretical physics idea of entangled atoms. Einstein had a mystical side which emerged more in his elderly years.

When you think of it, Einstein’s life was mystical. How do you sit down at a desk and figure out that there must be black holes in the universe when no one at that time had seen a black hole?

I believe the universe is sometimes sending a message by way of synchronicity. It is incumbent upon us to pay attention to these messages for our own benefit.

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How might the shadow side of sex show in a dream?

The shadow side of sex
The shadow side of sex

Dream 356: The Shadow Side of Sex

A woman had the following dream:

“Twice within a month I have dreamed of large tomatoes… (I’m saying bigger than your head large).

Also last night I dreamed of a black horse that was bleeding,I tried tending to the wounds. It was dark and I was in the woods.”
She later indicated that the horse ran away in the dream.

Interpretation

Food represents support, psychological support or emotional support in a dream.

The tomatoes are large maybe because the dreamer wanted some juicy and nurturing psychological support for which she probably was longing.

At the first level of dream interpretation, a person or animal or spirits usually represents different parts of your mind . Horses often represent female sexual power or energy, literally they are “horsepower.”

The horse being black indicates that this horse may represent the shadow side of sexuality. That part of the dreamer’s world has been hurt deeply and she was trying to repair it and get her instincts back in line. She probably wants to run away from the deep issues of shadow sexuality that this dream may represent.

Like the horse in the dream, she was probably hurt, restless, and running around trying to find her way. Her trying to help the horse in the dream indicates that she probably needed emotional healing.

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What does a young woman and an old lady carrying your girlfriend away mean in a dream?

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Dream 350: My Love Gets Carried Away

An adult man dreamed that his girlfriend was being carried away by a young woman and an old lady. Something kept him from being able to reach his girlfriend to stop them from carrying her away.

Interpretation

Each character in the dream can represent a part of the dreamer’s mind. Women tend to go with the dreamers emotions. Young attractive women typically represent beautiful emotions.

An old lady is typically thought of as being a Crone which is an archetype of wisdom in old age and experience. An archetype is a pattern of thought that is repetitive throughout human consciousness. This dream is about how the dreamer’s emotions could get carried away.

He seemingly fears losing a lover after he has invested all of his emotions in her. His greatest fear probably is that this would happen and there was nothing he could do about it. It sounds like he is worried about losing the love of his life.

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What does going to the bathroom and other people taking advantage of you in a dream mean?

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Can we abuse your campsite?

Dream 349: Get Rid of this stuff now!

A woman dreamed that she was camping. Some people asked her if they could use her restroom. She said “Sure.”

She went to walk her dog. When she came back, the people’s kids were jumping all over inside the camper. Some more older people appeared. The campsite was overrun with about thirty people.

She noticed that her wallet was missing. She then noticed a woman going through the wallet. The dreamer asked for it back, and took down the license plate number of the van they were driving.

They begged her not to report them. She told them that she was going to report them to the police. The itinerant mob fled.

Interpretation

The setting of this dream indicated that it was going to be about how the dreamer naturally operates because she was camping in the great outdoors. At the first level of dream interpretation, each character in the dream is a different part of the dreamer’s personality.

When you go to the bathroom in a dream, you are getting rid of something that you no longer need, that you do not need to carry, and that will actually harm you if you keep it. I think the dream was urging her to not let people take advantage of her. The dream ended with her deciding that there were going to be consequences if she allowed others to take advantage of her.

The dreamer told me that the interpretation felt right. She said that she was prone to give too much without receiving from others. She needed to insist that others reciprocate her favors.

What does a Unicorn, flight and thorny bushes mean in a dream?

 

Run for the Roses
Run for the Roses

Dream 348: I Never Promised You a Rose Garden

A woman dreamed she rode a unicorn through a series of thorn bushes and meet a stranger that offered her help. The unicorn disappeared. There was a direction marker pointing south. A stranger appeared who was covered with oil. The stranger who was anointed with oil offered her the great advice that she herself could fly and did not need the unicorn in order to fly. Then she flew away and woke up.

Interpretation

Animals represent instinctive processes. A horse often represents female sexual power. Men have dreams of horses far less often than women. The unicorn brings the element of magic.

The dream portends that the dreamer’s journey through romantic relationships has been thorny. She had been hurt by galloping through situations that she hoped would magically lead to growth (bushes are plants), but had mostly led to her being hurt (the thorns). It is interesting that the most romantic flower, roses, grow on thorny bushes.

I like the idea of the stranger being sacred advice because he is anointed with oil. Being male, he is likely to be offering advice about future actions rather than it being strictly emotional advice. North is at the top of a map and in my mind would imply flight in this case. It is not a usual symbol, but I believe the emphasis is on not letting things “go south,” i.e., get even more negative, by magically hoping that her instincts would get her to where she wanted to go.

The revelation is that she could take flight, which has spiritual implications of her finding her higher self rather than hoping that following her instincts will magically lead her to higher ground away from thorny situations.

This dream was a gift and was giving specific information. If she was recovering from a relationship, or looking for a relationship, the implication was for her to take time out and focus on her higher self.

What does being killed like an animal by redcoats mean in a dream?

Tink, right between the eyes
Tink, right between the eyes

Dream 332: The snooty and prudish tried to kill my instincts but I’m hard-headed enough to resist

A 49-year-old woman dreamed that she was an animal running from British redcoats in an oak forest near a town. They were chasing her on horses. Then two men got off their horses as she slid down a slope.

She turned and looked at a redcoat who fired a shot at her. He shot her right between the eyes. She heard a ‘tink’ noise like metal hitting metal.

Interpretation

The British are known to be very socially proper people. Based on the British troops, the idea at the first level of dream interpretation would be something like the very socially proper part of her personality wanted to get rid of or “kill” an instinctive part of her personality. Animals in dreams represent the dreamer’s instincts. She later reported that she felt like a hunted animal in the dream.

If we go to the second or interpersonal level, which tends to be less accurate, I wondered if some aggressively prudish (British soldiers) people were disapproving of her. She reported that recently she was found to be a descendant of some noble lineage. She found there to be a rich snooty attitude amongst the relatives she met that was foreign to her.

She considered herself to be a country girl with solid values that were resistant to being changed by others snobbish or prudish attitudes. The dream was saying that the noblesse oblige attitude hit her instincts (the hunted animal) like a shot between the eyes, a shot in the brain. Fortunately, the “tink” noise sounded like the bullet hit metal, i.e., she was hard-headed enough not to let the condescending upper class attitude affect her.

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Why am I dreaming of all the things I felt bad about in my life?

Remembering the Past
Remembering the Past Dreams

Dream 331: Easing the Pain

A woman had an elderly mother who had terminal brain cancer and was going through the process of dying. They were very close and her mother was emotionally dependent upon the dreamer. She was having many dreams per night that depicted every emotional situation she felt guilty about in her whole life. She wondered why she was having an onslaught of these dreams now.

Interpretation

Like everyone, the dreamer had a mother introject in her subconscious acquired from her experience as her mother’s child. It many times is the beginning basis of emotion. As her mother went through the process of passing, her subconscious was doing a life review of her emotions which was a way of helping her to cope with her mother’s illness. It was a process of helping her to stay emotionally whole while dealing with the expected loss of her mother.

When a parent is dying, past conflicts emerge from your subconscious for at least three reasons: (1) the subconscious sees it as a chance to resolve inner conflicting feelings, (2) the subconscious is looking out for the dreamer’s well-being because she would be able to handle the loss better having gone through this life review, and (3) the good memories will emerge more once her mother has passed because the conflicting feelings will be dimmed by this process. It is all a grand plan to help acceptance of the inevitable.

You can call it God, your higher self and/or your subconscious since I believe that it turns out that we all end up talking about the same thing.

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What does a wedding and vomit mean in a dream?

Actions and Emotions Become One
Actions and Emotions Become One

Dream 330: Don’t Go Downhill

A man dreamed he was at an outside wedding. He was dressed formally for the wedding and was uphill from the outside dance floor. He and his friends were uphill from Bob who was throwing up repeatedly. Bob in reality was in a relationship that he wanted to take through college, but everyone thought the relationship was unlikely to work.

One of his friend’s (George) was completing an apprenticeship to become a pastor. His father was passively rich and very financially successful from the stock market. George’s father came down from higher ground to scream and shout at George.

Interpretation

The setting of a dream frequently indicates what type of issues are going to be addressed by the dream. At the first level of dream interpretation, each character represents a different part of yourself. Men characters tend to go more with action part of the mind while women characters often go with subconscious emotions. A wedding most often signals integration within the dreamer because a wedding is the union of male (actions) with female (emotions).

The part of the dreamer similar to Bob is a part of his mind that should give up on relationships that are not good and are unhealthy. This part of the dreamer was in danger of going downhill if he doesn’t rid himself of negative emotions.

Vomit is a combination of water and food. Water in dreams is invariably emotions. Food is nurture.

Vomit is spoiled nurture that is no longer good for us and must be expelled. The dream was saying to get rid of negative relationships because it would bring the dreamer downhill otherwise. His friend Bob who is also a part of the dreamer’s mind was getting rid of something that was once nurturing, but was no longer good and was just making him sick.

In any case, the dream was  advice for now or for the future. George’s father reprimanding George for becoming a pastor was his inner father introject that wanted him to succeed financially. This father introject didn’t want him to do too many altruistic things that were too self-sacrificing.

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What do worms, the color pink and biceps represent in a dream?

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Dream 325: She Wormed Her Way Into My Heart

A woman dreamed that a long pink worm had bored its way into her upper arm. Half of the worm was sticking out of her arm. She asked her 9-year-old daughter to break off the part of the worm outside her arm. There was a narrator in the background explaining why this was necessary, that the worm was a strain on the dreamer. Her daughter broke the part of the worm sticking out. Her daughter could barely stand to look at it while she broke it off.

Interpretation

A worm lives on other things. The upper part of your arms is the major muscles used in lifting heavy objects and doing major work. The color pink represents positive affection which is involved with your daughter of course.

I believe the dream is saying that you are doing too much heavy lifting for your daughter and need to break it off like your daughter breaks the worm off. You don’t want to stop it completely because she is your daughter, but you have to measure how much of the heavy lifting you do for your daughter. The dream indicates the change in the relationship will be hard for both you and your daughter. That is probably because she has wormed her way into your heart.

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What does being stabbed in the heart mean in a dream?

I cannot believe how I have been hurt
I cannot believe how I have been hurt

Dream 315: You Actually Did That!

A woman dreamed that she was asleep in the dream. Someone was sneaking up on her with a knife. She woke up just as they went to stab her in the heart. She dreamed that she woke up as the person was completing actually stabbing her in the heart. She later indicated that the attacker was a hooded figure.

Interpretation

Being stabbed in the heart often means that the dreamer has been hurt and has heartache over either words or actions. Being asleep in a dream usually means that the dreamer was unconscious or unaware of what led up to the hurt, but she suddenly woke up while being stabbed which usually indicates sudden awareness and shock that the hurtful actions and/or words are occurring right in front of her.

The first level of dream interpretation is always the hardest but potentially the most beneficial.  At this first level, where you consider each character to be a part of the dreamer’s psyche, a hooded figure like that is often the dreamer’s shadow. We think of it as being the aggressive part which is used for self-protection and usually is the main part that changes in therapy.

If the dream is looked at in that way,  her shadow could be urging her to wake up and have a change of heart because she was  hurt.  The shadow wants to get  her out of the situation. Messages from the shadow are almost always dramatic and this may or may not apply to the dreamer’s situation.

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What does a heart attack mean in a dream?

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Dream 312: You’re Tearing Me Apart

A man in his thirties dreamed that he had a heart attack. Nurses were feverishly trying to revive him with electric paddles.They put one pole of charge on his heart, and mistakenly put the other pole on his hip.

Because when paddle was mistakenly put on his hip, a huge blister developed there. There was so much pressure from the blister that he told the nurses to cut his underwear so that the blister did not burst. The blister took the shape of a heart.

Interpretation

What an interesting dream this is. I’m going to throw out many hypotheses because there’s so many ways these symbols could go in the configuration presented. The only thing that seemed certain was that the dreamer’s feelings had been hurt deeply in some way recently, i.e., it looked like someone had broken the dreamer’s heart.

Nurses are healers. Electricity of course is energy. The hips are near the first chakra and near the genitals. So the configuration of this dream looked like connecting the dreamer’s heart energy with physical desire by mistake led to the dreamer’s feelings being hurt.

Water is emotion. Blisters are full of water that comes from yourself and are a healing reaction to hurt. Having the underwear cut away because of pressure suggests feeling exposed and hurt related to desire somehow.

The blister taking the shape of a heart reinforces the feeling of being hurt emotionally. There were so many ways the details of this dream could be interpreted depending on circumstances. There were many questions that could be posed.

For instance, were nurses actually involved in some way? Did the dreamer’s beloved die of illness? Was his being hurt related to sex or to a sexual relationship in some way?

These were all very invasive questions, but I felt like the meaning of this dream would become fairly obvious if we knew the details which only the dreamer knew for sure.

Feedback

After hearing the above interpretation, the dreamer told me his girlfriend was a nurse. They were going through a painful separation. She was physically ill.

She was pushing him away. She did not think she could give him everything he needed in a relationship. Her misgivings eventually led to the separation. The dreamer felt that the interpretation fit the situation.

What does a house mean in a dream?

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A House Can Be the Dreamer to Some Extent

Dream Answer 296

A house can represent the dreamer to some extent because it is the framework out of which one lives. This is especially the case if it was a house in which the dreamer once lived.

The ages the dreamer was when living in the house (from birth to five years old, from age 12 to 16 years old, etc.) is important. There is something about the dreamer’s present psychodynamics that is situationally similar to the dreamer’s earlier psychodynamics at a specific developmental stage reflected in the dream.

The different areas of the house correspond roughly to different areas of the dreamer’s life. Mental or intellectual processes are associated with the upper floors or roof. An open roof may be a comment on how open minded the dreamer’s mind is, how the dreamer does not protect his thoughts efficiently, or how incomplete and unfinished his or her thoughts are in the sense of being “under construction.”

The family room may be demonstrating family dynamics. The dining room can be associated with how people in the home nurture one another. The garage can represent how people plan to move within their lives.

The living room represents the dreamer’s living space in her life. The kitchen can stand for his creativity since the cook prepares nurturing and creative combinations of food in the kitchen. The subterranean basement can often be a sign of the subconscious because it underlies the reality of the dreamer’s life.

Buildings can signal different portions of the dreamer’s life. Resorts may represent the dreamer’s recreational life or may simply be a “last resort.” Skyscrapers indicate cosmopolitan interests.

Farms may represent ingrained hard work values or bucolic serenity. Universities and, in particular, high schools usually indicate what the dreamer needs to learn in life. Dreams cannot resist using “high school” as a place for your “higher self” to learn.

Dreams cannot resist the metaphor of trains and train stations as a place where you “get your life on track.” Terminals frequently mean where you want to get to in life before you die (before your life is terminated). Airports often signal movement toward higher or spiritual goals in the dreamer’s life.

Shopping malls are frequent in dreams. Dreams cannot resist the play upon words. Dreams often use shopping malls to show how the dreamer has been “mauled” (malled?) in life usually in the person’s career or business life as a shopping mall is a commercial community.

Apartments often suggest only a part, and probably a transitional part, is going to be addressed in the dream. The setting of the dream is almost always important, especially the initial setting. The opening scene often signals what the dream is going to be about. The setting shows the field or area of the dreamer’s life where the subconscious psychodynamics are going to be played out. The above meanings should be seen as tentative hypotheses that the dreamer can confirm or give additional information about.

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What does food represent in a dream?

Healing Light of Reike
Healing Light of Reike

Dream Question 295:

A female professional chef who also was a lightworker/healer wondered why she often had dreams involving food. This raised the question of what does food usually represent in a dream?

Answer

Dreams almost always are stimulated by recent day residue. Something in the dreamer’s current life literally or symbolically triggered a dream about situations or emotions that you may be dealing with. Food symbolically represents psychological nurture or a wish to want to support/help others.

As a lightworker/healer, she definitely helped and supported other people. It is no surprise from either a practical standpoint or from a symbolic view that food was prominent in her dreams. She was nurturing as a chef and as a new age lightworker.

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The Wounded Healer

Much of Life Is a Healing Process
Much of Life Is a Healing Process

Dream 295:An adult man dreamed that he was a white healer. He had healing balls of energy that appeared in his hands which he could use to heal others. When he touched the patient, the energy was transmuted to the healed in a dazzling display of spiritual/physical power. He then dreamed that he healed himself.

Interpretation

The Wounded Healer is a major archetype, a pattern of thought that recurs in many people’s dreams throughout the ages. White is the most spiritual color . Circular and round objects often represent the soul since they have no beginning and no end.

The dream is all about healing. The dream implies that by healing others, the dreamer will heal himself; and by healing himself, the dreamer will heal others. This model is essentially the root of self-help groups like Alcoholics Anonymous, i.e., someone who had previous experience being wounded like you were was more likely to be empathic and knowledgable.

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The Whole Enchilada

The Hot Enchilada
There Are Many Ways To Be Hot

Dream 293:A 32-year-old woman dreamt that she was an enchilada in a pan with other enchiladas on both sides of her. She was suffocatingly hot. She was so hot that she actually woke up to find her cat and her husband on each side of her.

Interpretation

This dream was true on both the physical and emotional levels of dream interpretation. She woke up because she was physically hot as the heat was turned up in her house and she was between the bodies of her cat and husband. Many people interpreting dreams would stop with the physical interpretation. That is most often a mistake.

While the physical interpretation is certainly true, the emotional interpretation of this dream was also accurate. She was a very nurturing person to her family which is why she appears as food in the dream. Food is psychological nurture in dreams. She admitted that she was “hot” in the sense that her husband had not had sex with her for awhile.

In this case the word “hot” took on multiple meanings. She was “hot” in the sense that she was good-looking. She was “hot” because she had not had sex for a while. Finally her anger toward her husband was a “hot” emotion. To disregard the psychological meaning of this dream would have missed a lot.

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The Right and Left Stairways

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Dreams 289: A man in his early forties dreamed that he was talking to some girls when he was in high school in New York. It was very casual and relaxed conversation in a restaurant located at the top of a mansion. When he left, he found himself at the top of stairs on a landing where there was a stairway to his right and there was a stairway to his left.

He went down the left stairway and knew somehow that he had to use a phone. He then went down the right stairway and found a woman that looked like his wife. She was pretty and looked like his wife. He thought she looked depressed as she was leaning forward on her arms with her forearms resting on the table. He then saw the girls he was talking to earlier pass by in the distance.

Interpretation

This dream is all about communication with his wife. Stairs invariably represent sex because it is a rhthymic activity that ends in a climax. The left tends to be associated in ancient India with subconscious emotions, while the right usually represents conscious activity. The dream is emphasizing the importance of communication in their sex life.

Restaurants are where people are physically and psychologically nourished. The dream is saying that there was something about the way he communicated with those girls in New York that would be useful in his marriage, that there was something about that type of communication that would be especially nourishing in his marriage.

Movement in this dream is down stairways because their sex life was a “downer.” Movement down the left involves emotion. A phone is at the bottom of this stairway to emphasize the importance of communication.

The right is associated with conscious action. In this case, his depressed wife at the bottom of these stairs represented disappointment over the lack of sexual action, intimacy, in his marriage. The dream ends by recommending interaction with his wife like he had with the New York girls that pass in the distance.

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The Fur Flies

Emotional Cat Fight
Emotional Cat Fight

Dream 285: A woman dreamt said she saw a huge wave of water crashing into a building. Then she saw she two cats fighting. The fur was flying and the fight was vicious. At least one of the cats was black and white.

Interpretation
Water in dreams is virtually always emotion. Buildings in dreams can represent the dreamer because it is a framework out of which the dreamer operates. Family pets usually represent affections. Dogs often represent male affections or loyalty. Cats typically signal female affection or sensuality.

Each creature in the dream is seen as part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Black and white colors typically stand for opposing feelings or good vs bad. The dream is saying that she has been hit by a wave of emotion that has led to a cat fight amongst her affections.

To know the details of what these affections were for, we would have to go to the second level or interpersonal level of dream interpretation where information from the dreamer is vital. Usually only the dreamer has enough information of the details to specify what content the symbolic conflict amongst her emotions or affections is about. I would speculate that it may have to do with her emotions toward some unspecified women because of the cats engaging in the classic “cat fight.”

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Let Them Eat Cake

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Dream Image 284: Someone recently asked me what a wedding cake symbolizes in a dream. I saw this as good opportunity to show how to combine and use the different principles explained in my book. A wedding or marriage symbolizes the integration of male and female aspects of the dreamer. Males represent action parts of the mind, while females represent more emotional aspects of the psyche.

Dreams use gender as code to indicate whether it is an action part of the mind or an emotional part. This is true whether the person is male, female, lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transsexual. Dreams are an equal opportunity employer of symbols.

So we all have various action and emotional parts of the mind. A wedding and marriage represents the integration of male and female, of the action parts and the emotional parts of the deamer’s psyche.
Food stands for psychological or emotional support.

A wedding cake in particular is very sweet, which is how the couple getting married hopes they will treat one another. You might say that they are sweet on one another. Eating in the dream indicates that the dreamer is trying to incorporate that quality into their character.

The fact that they’re feeding one another indicates that your actions want your emotions to be sweet. Conversely, your emotions want your actions to be sweet. At the second or interpersonal level of dream interpretation, this is also true as the couple wants their partner to be sweet in actions and emotion. How sweet it is!

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Emotional Terror

Emotional Veiled Terror
Emotional Veiled Terror

Dream 282: A 42-year-old man dreamed that he saw a woman through the keyhole of his front door who was a veiled terrorist. He later saw the terrorist watching his house from several hundred feet away. His wife went out to the street and she and the terrorist got into a fight.

The fighting was very intense and cat-like. His wife was enraged that the female terrorist/spy was smoking. They were then both arrested by the police.

Interpretation

Each character in the dream represents a
part of the dreamer’s mind or psyche. A house can represent the dreamer because it is the framework out of which he lives. Women usually represent emotional parts of the mind.

His wife is his most significant other and that is a good representation of his overall emotions. It is of interest that the dreamer used to work as a corporate spy so he was well familiar with the emotions that go along with that role. He recently had been emotionally terrorising his wife by being unpredictably catty and somewhat harsh.

The dream assured him that no good would come of this strategy as the conflict is too intense. His wife being enraged at the smoking is probably due to his wife and that portion of his mind that deals with his wife being enraged/concerned that he was making being unpredictable with his wife a habit.

There is condensation of the two levels of dream interpretation as he feels intrapsychic conflict over the difficulties with his wife and he has some guilt over spying on her; however, the dream is also concerned with the interpersonal strife he is raising in his personal life. The police showing up and arresting the women indicated that he felt some guilt over the conflict he caused within himself and in his marriage. Police are usually superego figures that enforce the law of your conscience.

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