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Dream 385: I Want to Recapture How I Was Emotionally in My First Relationship with a Girl
When I was 12 I fell in love with a girl at first sight(right when I looked in her eyes) , and her dad was the first one to teach me how to kick a soccer ball when I was just 7(I’m really good, could play pro if I want ). She has a lot of reason why I am spiritual and pay attention to my dreams. Problem is when I was in high school, we would fight and I would ignore her and not look at her. We aren’t really on talking terms like we were when I was younger and I don’t follow her on social media.
The reason I bring this up is because she has been in my dreams all the time, and 90% of the time I can’t look at her or talk to her. Other 10% is amazing (dancing, doing things together , kissing etc) but 90% of the time she’ll be in my dream and won’t be able to look at her. I want to look at her and kiss her, but in my dreams I feel like I have subconsciously put it in there that I can’t speak or talk to her.
Just recently I was in my dreams teaching a yoga class with just two other people and she showed up to do the class and while I was doing the yoga poses she was doing them too and we were looking at each other but neither of us could say anything to each other. She was sort of looking at me funny snd i just looked her and kept going…
If I knew I was dreaming I would of kissed her right there, lol. Just yesterday I had another one where we were in the car together in the backseat and I tried talking to her but something wouldn’t let me. It must of been a 15 minute car ride and we just stared at each other , it seems like she can’t say anything to me either.
This is just two examples out of the more than 100x this has happened with her in my dream. What do you think is the best thing to do? I’m stubborn. If she’s meant to be in my life the universe will have me run into her like it usually does with her, so I feel like I should wait for that.
Do you think she experiences the same dreams?
The dreams may be about her and having a relationship with her, but only you would know that since that is the second level of dream interpretation where only you have enough to detail to determine that.
At the first level, I think you probably have idealized that early relationship and want to emotionally be the way you were with her when things were good in future relationships. My money is on this is a fantasy about an idealized relationship from the past that your subconscious wants you to learn from so that you learn the lesson and look for the right relationship and act appropriately in the future.
This is based only on the structure of the dream and only you can determine what interpersonal value it has if any. Each character in the dream represents a part of your psyche at the first level with men going with your actions and women going with your emotions.
My thought is there was something about the way you were emotionally with this girl that you were developing that was not finished and you want to emotionally change yourself to find the ideal relationship. As such, in your mind she probably represents an ideal woman or anima. It is a big dream about how you should be in a relationship.
To answer your questions at the end, it is possible she's having dreams about you. If that is the case, I would see it more as a sign that the universe was trying to get the two of you together. I do like your idea that if it was meant to be, the universe will conspire to have the two of you meet again.
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Dream 381: Give Me a Head with Hair
A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed I was bleaching my hair then I was going bald from the front to the back.”
Hair is on your head where thinking occurs.
Hair is also usually a part of sexual attraction.
Bleach is a harsh way of cleansing impurities. In fact, the implication is that you go bald from the bleaching of the hair.
Going bald often has something to do with a change in your perception of your self-image. Going bald usually is associated with the dreamer viewing herself too negatively.
Putting this together, it may have something to do with trying to cleanse your mind of impure thoughts probably related to sex, but you are being too harsh with yourself to the point that it is negatively affecting your self-image or ego.
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Dream 378: Taking Care of Business
A woman had the following dream:
“I was walking around a mall alone. I was going around and around the same shops like I was trying to find a special one but never could. Then I finally found it and it looked like a clothing and candle shop.
I went in immediately searching for a cobalt blue candle. I wanted the largest one I could find with 3 wicks. I was smelling them and the smells were vivid and I found one I wanted.
Then I was standing near the checkout and there were some long single chain necklaces. I searched thru them until I found a long gold chain with a feather charm on the end. I went to grab it but as I did some other woman grabbed it too. We debated for a bit who had it first and she let me have it.
So I went back to the checkout counter and realized I had lost my shoes. I had been wearing white socks with colorful Nike sandals. I don’t ever do that. But seemingly someone took my sandals when I had taken them off debating the necklace issue.
A guy who worked there confronted me asking where my shoes were. Then he said show me the bottom of your feet. He wanted to see if I had been walking in the grass in my socks. When I raised my foot it was covered in grey dirt not green.
Then I started talking to a guy standing in line in front of me and he was making a payment on something that the store was charging him interest on. He had a large check that he showed me was written out for $3333.”
One thing I’ve found to be almost always be true is that if you have a dream about a shopping mall, the dream usually is going to be talking about how you have been mauled in a business, career, or financial sense.
Looking for a candle implies you are always trying to look for the light in a business situation and usually you are able to sniff out what is right. You have to compete with other people who may be onto the same thing, but usually you can convince others to see it your way. Looking for a candle implies you always try and look for the light in the business situation and usually are able to sniff out what is right.
You have to compete with other people who may be on to the same thing, but usually you can convince others to see it your way.
Cobalt blue usually would go with mental activity and speaking out loud according to the chakra system if I looked at the concept of blue in a broad sense.
You can usually sniff out what is good and is likely to lead to change (smelling the candles and three is the number of change as there are 3 wicks).
I like the interpretation of the golden necklace with a feather being having valuable intuitive ability that you can bet your neck on (the necklace) and that can take wing(the feather).
The debate with the woman indicates the you can usually convince others to see it your way for your own advantage.
Socks are usually protective as are sandals in getting you to where you need to go. It is interesting that these are white socks. White is the most spiritual color that there is.
The whole thing about the socks and the grass and the dirt and the Nikes I believe indicates that you are willing to do what needs to be done and do not necessarily do things just to look good.
You sometimes and probably more often are more willing to do the dirty work (the grey on the socks) than to do things for your own personal growth (the green from plants on the bottom of your socks). You focus on getting the job done and not necessarily protecting yourself excessively and are willing to make yourself vulnerable to a degree.
The final image of the guy paying off the $3333 debt he was being charged interest on is perhaps one of the most interesting aspects of this dream. Money is energy in dreams. It can be money itself but it also can be energy that other people have loaned you in in this case.
The dream is emphasizing that you need to pay back the favors you’ve been given before they end up costing you too much. It could end up costing you more if people feel that you have not shown enough interest.
3 is the number of change and you have four 3’s. I believe the dream might be saying that if you change this aspect and pay off the favors early, it will lead to stability because 4 is the number of stability as there are four legs on a table, four legs on a chair, four directions, four seasons, etc.
This is a nicely done and well rounded dream about how to conduct your career/business/financial aspects of your life.
Feedback from the Dreamer
The dreamer gave me the following feedback:
“Steven-this is pretty awesome! I wanna show u how accurate. Hugely mauled over at work but also benefiting from it and competing not for the same position but to do the same work..long story and it’s incredibly draining has been for months. My intuition is always spot on especially regarding others’ intentions. I have a hard time verbalizing that and sharing my insights and hold back on speaking about it especially lately and even when asked. I always over exert myself and energy in order to ‘get the job done’ re: the dirt not green. The check for $3333 was interesting and I remember thinking he bought an engagement ring with it and was making payments. Although I did recently have a reiki session and now I’m wondering if I need to be repaying them or the universe in some way to pay it forward.”
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Dream 377: I have an idea, I think it is right, and I can do it myself, thank you
A woman had the following series of dreams:
“I had a series of vivid dreams of late.
1. Brushing my hair and clumps of hair fall out asking with pieces of my scalp, which starts to bleed.
2. Surprisingly didn’t know I was pregnant until I went into labor (luckily at a hospital) I end up running from staff to give birth privately in an unused room alone, without help.
3. I make candy and have one recipe I’ve used so often that I know it by heart. In this dream as I tell someone the recipe, a complete stranger shows up in the doorway to insist that my ingredients are wrong. For some reason I can’t let it go, I just keep arguing why I’m right.”
I love series of dreams. Frequently a series of dreams that occur closely together may be talking about the same issues. I view what is described below as a consolidation of the information.
1. Losing hair can mean worries about having the power to do something. This is something a little different because you were actually losing pieces of your scalp with it. To me, I was wondering if you initially had concern whether you had the right idea about something.
2. Having a baby can be symbolic of starting a new project, a new idea, new venture, etc. Insisting on having the baby alone may actually be advice from your subconscious to pursue the project, idea, or venture alone without other people disrupting the idea.
3. You have a sweet idea of how to nurture others (candy) that you have carried for a long time. You are convinced about the rightness of the idea and can defend it to others (the argument with the stranger).
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Dream Healing 376: Mythical Name Helps Tie Into Archetypal Energy
After I was diagnosed with multiple sclerosis 24 years ago, I started in therapy with a Jungian dream analyst. This changed my life because I learned to tap into archetypal energies. The name was given to me by a Native American in a dream was Life Force Dancer. I emblazoned this emblem on a T-shirt. This name was symbolic of the combination of energies that would help send my multiple sclerosis (MS) into remission. This will be explained in my coming book Mission Remission
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Dream 374: I Need a New Image
A woman dreamed that she cut her hair in a dream. When she woke in the morning, her hair was arranged somewhat like it was in the dream. She wondered what it meant if you give yourself a haircut in a dream.
Dreams are usually about problems you’re having. A haircut usually means a demotion or diminution of power. We talk about getting a haircut at work which usually means that you were put in your place.
It also could be a new start or a new beginning, and it probably is the new start or new beginning because you decided to change something about yourself you did not like. This particularly would be the case if you gave yourself a haircut. You looked at yourself and started to change something to give yourself a new look in life would be my take on it.
The meaning I am taking from the dream is positive in the sense that you are getting a new look because you want to correct the problems from the past. Dreams are almost always about solving problems. This has adaptive value which is why dreams have stayed with people through the millenniums.
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Dream 368: The World Goes Round in Circles
A young woman had the following dream:
“Like I found myself laying partially in the ground in some very beautiful moss carpeted forest. In the ground meaning I was buried just beneath the surface as if the ground dirt and moss was my bed/blanket. And it felt amazing like I woke up feeling at home partially inside the earth. That was one piece. In another segment I awoke (in my dream) to find myself on a merry go round in some park. The merry go round was already spinning quite fast but I wasn’t dizzy because my perspective was looking within the merry go round. But then I looked up and to the side as if to view the park and immediately my balance was thrown off and my perspective changed and I got really dizzy just as you would if you were on a fast spinning one. It was just very bizarre to me that in my dream I could change perspectives like this and actually feel and see the world around the merry go round spinning and it physically felt as though I was on it.”
The dream starts out by saying in the most explicit way possible that you are very well grounded. Being on the merry-go-round is interesting. A merry-go-round is a circle. A circle is the best symbol we have of the soul. Things that are in an amusement park, like merry-go-rounds, are usually seen as you’re having fun or entertainment in life.
The dream gives very strong advice. You must keep your perspective on what is close to you and avoid looking outside for fun as it will only make you confused and dizzy.
Dream Interpretation 366: Trains still constantly appear in dreams even though they are not used that much because they are such a powerful metaphor for life.
I obtained the following from the internet. I do not know who the author is:
Life is like a journey on a train…
with its stations…
with changes of routes…
and with accidents !
We board this train when we are born and our parents are the ones who get our ticket.
We believe they will always travel on this train with us.
However, at some station our parents will get off the train, leaving us alone on this journey.
As time goes by, other passengers will board the train, many of whom will be significant – our siblings, friends, children, and even the love of our life.
Many will get off during the journey and leave a permanent vacuum in our lives.
Many will go so unnoticed that we won’t even know when they vacated their seats and got off the train !
This train ride will be full of joy, sorrow, fantasy, expectations, hellos, good-byes, and farewells.
A good journey is helping, loving, having a good relationship with all co passengers…
and making sure that we give our best to make their journey comfortable.
The mystery of this fabulous journey is :
We do not know at which station we ourselves are going to get off.
So, we must live in the best way – adjust, forget, forgive and offer the best of what we have.
It is important to do this because when the time comes for us to leave our seat… we should leave behind beautiful memories for those who will continue to travel on the train of life.”
Thank you for being one of the important passengers on my train… don’t know when my station will come… don’t want 2 miss saying: “Thank you”
Dream 362: The Heroic Masculine Wants to Heal
In a dream, the dreamer who was a man was in a medical facility escorting a young soldier to an operation. A dark haired lady and another fellow were pushing the soldier along on a cart. The dreamer somehow knew the two physicians were actually escaped convicts. The soldier was given a syringe of something and passed out.
Dreams at a medical facility or physicians are often about healing. Each person in a dream usually represents a part of your mind with men going more with actions and women going more with emotions. The convicts would be shadow parts of the personality that are imposters.
A soldier typically represents the heroic masculine because he is willing to die for his country. This part of the personality is often a healing action part–it is a part of the dreamer that is usually involved in implementing the healing actions. The problem is that he is wounded and needs genuine help and not imposters.
The syringe that causes him to pass out is a phoney cure. The implication is that the dreamer has been wounded and is trying to get healing, but is taken advantage of by imposters that do not have his best interests at heart. There is an implication that the dreamer is looking for a substance or force outside himself for healing that causes him not to be conscious (the soldier passes out) of his best interests. The remedy is not to believe imposters posing as healers who are criminally minded. The bottom line may be a warning to rely more on his own internal strength or soul.
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Dream 351: Pie in the Sky, By and By
A man dreamed he was looking at a gigantic silver horse in the sky with a gigantic silver figured man riding it. They were about three stories high. Large white fluffy clouds covered their lower half.
There are several remarkable things about this dream. First, the figures appear in the sky. Things appearing in the sky probably are related to the dreamer’s higher aspirations.
Silver is a precious metal. Some say it could represent wealth. Each character in the dream is considered to be a different part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation.
A horse is an animal and represents your instincts. Specifically, a horse in particular represents your energy or ability to accomplish what you want to accomplish in life, your horsepower. If this is a predictive dream, it was predicting that the dreamer would do well financially and otherwise.
If it is a dream of desire, and I suspect it is a dream of desire, his aspirations for what he wanted to accomplish materially are very high. Clouds emphasize how high his goals are on the one hand, while also indicating that his plans may be in the formative stage and are “cloudy.” All in all, it looks like a dream of what he wanted to carry out.
It is predicting he has the horsepower to do it. His ground game needs to be worked out as his plans could be in the sky and need to be grounded in reality. Once he works things out pragmatically, the sky is the limit.
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Dream 350: My Love Gets Carried Away
An adult man dreamed that his girlfriend was being carried away by a young woman and an old lady. Something kept him from being able to reach his girlfriend to stop them from carrying her away.
Each character in the dream can represent a part of the dreamer’s mind. Women tend to go with the dreamers emotions. Young attractive women typically represent beautiful emotions.
An old lady is typically thought of as being a Crone which is an archetype of wisdom in old age and experience. An archetype is a pattern of thought that is repetitive throughout human consciousness. This dream is about how the dreamer’s emotions could get carried away.
He seemingly fears losing a lover after he has invested all of his emotions in her. His greatest fear probably is that this would happen and there was nothing he could do about it. It sounds like he is worried about losing the love of his life.
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Dream 348: I Never Promised You a Rose Garden
A woman dreamed she rode a unicorn through a series of thorn bushes and meet a stranger that offered her help. The unicorn disappeared. There was a direction marker pointing south. A stranger appeared who was covered with oil. The stranger who was anointed with oil offered her the great advice that she herself could fly and did not need the unicorn in order to fly. Then she flew away and woke up.
Animals represent instinctive processes. A horse often represents female sexual power. Men have dreams of horses far less often than women. The unicorn brings the element of magic.
The dream portends that the dreamer’s journey through romantic relationships has been thorny. She had been hurt by galloping through situations that she hoped would magically lead to growth (bushes are plants), but had mostly led to her being hurt (the thorns). It is interesting that the most romantic flower, roses, grow on thorny bushes.
I like the idea of the stranger being sacred advice because he is anointed with oil. Being male, he is likely to be offering advice about future actions rather than it being strictly emotional advice. North is at the top of a map and in my mind would imply flight in this case. It is not a usual symbol, but I believe the emphasis is on not letting things “go south,” i.e., get even more negative, by magically hoping that her instincts would get her to where she wanted to go.
The revelation is that she could take flight, which has spiritual implications of her finding her higher self rather than hoping that following her instincts will magically lead her to higher ground away from thorny situations.
This dream was a gift and was giving specific information. If she was recovering from a relationship, or looking for a relationship, the implication was for her to take time out and focus on her higher self.
Dream 327: I Feel Uprooted
Trees in dreams are major symbols of integration. Trees have deep roots that go far down into the ground, they reach upward towards the sky, and they are on the level ground where you are. They also are symbols of growth because they are large living plants. They are vital to the survival of the planet as they take carbon dioxide and release oxygen into the air. The following dream describes how a dream uses a tree to indicate confusion in the person’s life.
A woman dreamt that there was a large tree that had fallen over with its roots exposed. The implication was that it was a large tree that made an impression on her by being uprooted.
As described above, trees typically have something to say about the dreamers stage of integration of the various aspects of their life. In this case, the dream is going out of its way to say her personal life or integration has been disrupted because she’s been uprooted. Specifically, the dream is saying that her world has been turned over because her roots have been exposed. Her roots can be either her personal life, deep connections, family, personal beliefs, etc. Since dreams usually have therapeutic aims, the dream is going out of its way to point to a problem in her world.
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