Dream 517: Giving a funeral for your feelings of guilt
A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed I and a friend were trapped in a house with a guy I dated briefly in my late teens. He was acting strange. Crazy almost. He had a shotgun pointed at me and was about to shoot, but my friend had one too, and shot him before he shot me. About the same time, the police burst into the house. But it was too late. She’d already killed him. We had to go to the police station and answer questions. His sisters came in. And more of his family. Then some of my family. Then we were at a church in the congregation hall. Everybody was crying. All dressed up. The funeral I’m guessing. I was holding someone’s baby and talking to another girl who was his girlfriend back in the day. We were talking about another man that I lived with that had died a few years ago by suicide and I woke up.
I often have dark morose sometimes violent dreams but why. I wake up and have a hard time getting these dreams out of my mind. Why do I dream disturbing things like this? And of course, in the dream it’s always so dramatic and vivid, and you wish you could wake up and it would end!”
Very interesting dream. I think it is probably about your feelings about how you have acted in relationships. In dreams, men tend to go with your actions and women tend to go with your emotions.
It starts out with a past relationship where he was clearly going to hurt you, but a part of your emotions correctly ended the harmful relationship.
Police usually represent your superego or conscience. The funeral with his family and comiserating with a girlfriend about a man you lived with who committed suicide (the ultimate guilt trip) are all about guilt tripping yourself over relationships that you appropriately ended.
Your subconscious is screaming that it is time to put an end to, to have a funeral for, your self-doubts and remorse over relationships that were best terminated.
You are holding a baby in the dream probably because babies can represent new beginnings or a new part of yourself. The dream may be urging you to content yourself with new positive feelings and free yourself from depressing self-doubts.
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Dream post 514: Journey to the Center of Your Life
The above article is the best dream therapy article I have have read in some time. I think the thing about dream therapy is that it took me ten years to get really good at it–I mean I was always OK, but did not feel accomplished until I had been doing it for a while.
At some point, the interpreter has to seriously believe and move on the images and what they are saying, and not get distracted by rationalization because we do not like the news that the dream is delivering.
At the end of the article, the dream about the woman who would not jump into a pool in spite of being urged to do so by friends reinforces the importance of water in dreams. Water virtually always is emotion. At the first level, it probably means that she avoids diving into her own emotions. At the second level, it probably means that she is avoiding getting emotionally involved with others, such as friends, too much.
People wonder if dreams mean something–it is rare for a dream to mean absolutely nothing in a relatively healthy person. The more frequent mistake is underestimating the meaning of a dream. The question more often is how many levels of reality is the dream addressing?
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Dream 506: Surprising delivery in difficult circumstances
I usually research my dreams online and find clear answers, but my dream last night was memorable and I’m getting very mixed results.
First and foremost, I am not pregnant!
But I dreamt of having cramps during a family event and finding out a hour or so later that it was labor. I was hardly showing and confused (in real life I’ve gained about 20 pounds I’m subconscious about and in my dream I was just a little larger than my actual size in the tummy). Being with my whole family, I got rushed to a safe place and before I knew it was giving birth.
My sister, who I am struggling with having a natural relationship with, delivered the baby in one easy push. She was beautiful and I held her in my arms. She had a lot of hair for a new-born and looked right at me. She was perfect!
I don’t remember much of the rest, but of course couldn’t help but be curious. I’ve had a dream about being pregnant but never one of giving birth. Things I’ve read say it’s a change or misfortune and both ways weigh heavily in that direction. Obviously don’t want a misfortune! It felt sudden and unplanned, but like a blessing once it was all said and done.
A baby usually is giving birth to a new aspect of yourself. It is a baby girl delivered by the contrary sister. Women usually go with an emotional part of your mind.
At the first level, I would guess that the part of you that is dealing with the sister is changing in significant ways. At the second level, the dream might be signaling a condensation in the sense that if you let your sister help you “deliver,” it may open up a newly minted emotional part of yourself.
Another point of view is that a part of your emotions that is like your sister (try not to throw up) could be a shadow part of yourself that helps you deliver new and beautiful emotional perspectives.
In any case, I would take the dream as positive predictive and trying to give you credit for using a shadow part of your emotions to bring about new beginnings.
In any case, I think the dream may be saying that things improve emotionally with your family (since they all go to the hospital together with you)–hospitals are a symbol of a place where healing occurs.
DREAM 502: Put a Ring On It
A man described the following dream:
“In this dream there was a woman wearing her ring on her left index finger. I asked her “are you married”, and she said yes. It was a gold wedding band. She told me that she used to wear it on her right index finger but due to swelling she had to take it off and switch to the left index finger. I told her that it’s still wrong if she’s married it should be on her left ring finger, and I told her why. I explained the heart vein finger thing, and she switched it and said thank you.
I looked up a couple of interpretations online and I don’t have my book right now so all of it is kind of jumbled. Does anybody have any insight? All is welcomed.”
There are several unusual things about this dream and when there is something out of the ordinary or not customary in a dream, the question becomes, why did the dream find it necessary to do that? Men tend to go with the dreamer’s actions while women tend to go with the dreamer’s emotions. Marriage represents the union of the dreamer’s actions with the dreamer’s emotions. A marriage represents a state of integration or having your stuff together.
A ring is a symbol of commitment. It’s made from a precious material, gold. It is circular and a circle usually represents the soul, because it has no beginning and no ending. A gold wedding band represents a precious soul commitment.
The wedding band is usually worn on the left ring finger which is the finger closest to the little finger. It started out this way because the Romans believed that the ring finger vein went directly to the heart. But this ring is worn on the index or pointer finger. Further, it is being worn on the right index finger before she is corrected.
The pointer finger points you in the right direction. The left tends to go with subconscious feelings. The right tends to go with conscious actions. Your finger swells when you been doing something too much.
I believe the dream is giving advice. The complicated part comes in when you realize that the woman in the dream represents the dreamer’s emotions.
I believe that what the dream may be saying is that the dreamer has been investing himself in conscious actions too much. The dream is screaming that he needs to take his direction from his subconscious feelings and emotions more, to go with what feels right at a soul level. Depending on your situation, it may be making recommendations about recent decisions, that it wants you to look at your inner feelings and motivations, more than what is expedient or convenient.
It is a big dream, talking about your soul commitments.
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This video describes it,
Dreams were one of the many things I used to send multiple sclerosis into complete remission. The book that describes how I did this is at https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_21?k=multiple+sclerosis+mission+remission&sprefix=Multiple+Sclerosis+Mi&crid=30FSMZV7P0E8P
A young person with MS asked for advice about how to cope with having multiple sclerosis–this was my answer:
Let me say first that I appreciate and agree with much of what has already been answered; however, I am going to give you a more hopeful answer, based on 26 years of living with this disease. I was on all the ABC-R medications, but continued to get steadily worse. By the time I had it for 10 years, it was evident that it was primary progressive multiple sclerosis by the intensity of the symptoms.
I had a plastic brace the length of my right leg, numbness in arms and legs, used a four-point cane, and needed a wheelchair for anything like flying and going to the airport. If I ventured out to see sights like Las Vegas, I was able to see the sights only because kind relatives pushed me around in a wheelchair.
Then the beginning of what I now call my “functional healing” started when I found an experimental treatment my neurologist at Barrow Neurological Institute agreed to do with me involving steroids and cytoxan. The whole thing is too complex to describe here as it was concurrent with I say about twenty other alternative treatments. This whole mix of Western medicine, Eastern approaches and methods, and generally healthy things to do is described in a book I am writing which is called “Multiple Sclerosis Mission Remission: Healing MS Against All Odds.”
The critical thing to know is that I believe MS is probably due to a large number of converging factors. Make medicine your base and aid it with alternative methods that do no harm and can do a lot of good. I still have MS, but MS does not have me. At this time, I have no major symptoms after 26 years, but that does not mean you stop taking the medicine.
I continued to have Tysabri infusions every six weeks, am married, and have a full time private practice as a clinical psychologist. I started a new medication which is an infusion that you only have to take twice per year. The research on it is very promising and positive. It is called Ocrevus. I have a blog where I mostly interpret dreams, but now will also post sometimes about my book about my MS experience.
It is an overwhelming diagnosis. Give yourself time and develop whatever spirituality you have. Medicine + alternative approaches + good relationships + spirituality + meaningful work was my personal formula to functional healing. Some part of that might be part of your solution. My book is really about some ways of finding what is right for you which will be personally unique.
The one with red ms letters or the plain one?
Significant dream post 476: Feeling the flow of energy in life
The experiments in the following link involved “senders” transmitting an image while “receivers” reported what they saw in their dreams. The Department of Defense and Russia have shown interest in these phenomena.
These results suggest that what you think affects people and the world around you. After doing dream therapy for over twenty years, I am amazed at the insight dreams give about a dreamer’s life. I have had married couples in therapy who had remarkably similar dreams on the same night.
I regularly have a dreamer “incubate” a dream to answer a significant issue or situation in their life. My book, “Dreams: Guide to the Soul,” describes a dream incubation procedure that significantly raises the odds of having a dream that may help the dreamer with a problem situation. The book is available at http://www.drstevenfox.com
We disregard dreams at our own risk. I think dreams are often the result of thinking through problems in our life. Some think dreamers may enter another dimension where physical and emotional healing is more likely. I know they were important in my multiple sclerosis getting better. Here is the link showing some scientific evidence for telepathy:
I am in the ready stages and will print it within a year. Here is the projected and copyrighted cover:
I have completed my first draft of “MS Mission Remission: Healing Multiple Sclerosis Against All Odds” and received the following review of the first draft:
“MS MISSION REMISSION” by Dr. Fox was both a pleasure and an eye opener to the many aspects of how MS develops and can be managed. The deep insights he provides into his personal and family dynamics are powerful indicators of how dis-ease can be instilled and manifest later in various ways, from psychological to physical trauma. His ingenuity, spiritual insights and dogged determination to regain his life from the debilitating toll of MS is both inspirational and instructive. A very good read from many perspectives! -Dale Miesen, BA, Psycholgy & Philosophy”
My blog at http://www.drfoxblog.com focuses on dreams and MS
Dream 458: I have been betrayed by too many people
A woman had the following dream:
Last night, I had a dream that I was with a lover. We were laying in a bed in my house. I was holding his hands sort of like playing Mercy. I was holding his fingertips and squeezing them right at the nail beds right at the cuticles. And as I was squeezing his fingers, I was biting my own tongue and moving my head back and forth like a sprinkler. As I was biting my tongue, I was spraying blood back and forth like a sprinkler.
While this was happening, I was hissing. And there was a very sweet sweet smell in the air–everything smells very sweet. Then, when I stop squeezing his fingers and I stopped hissing and I stop bleeding everywhere. I looked up and I was outside on the road and the smell went away. But then I tried to grab his hands again and recreate the bleeding and squeezing and the hissing so that I could smell the smell again but I couldn’t get the smell back and I couldn’t bleed again.
The setting the dream opens with is usually what the dream is mainly about. In this case, it concerns your intimate relationships. Blood is related to your vital life energy, and usually implies very close or intimate relationships. Bleeding is how you’ve been hurt or how your life force has been diminished.
It starts out with a game of Mercy with a lover. This I believe is a play on words. It implies that you were expecting playfulness and mercy in an intimate relationship, but instead were betrayed and hurt deeply. Your bleeding from the mouth indicates that you’ve been very hurt by how people, people who were close to you, have reacted to what you have said to them about this intimate betrayal.
The dream is being dramatic in using blood being sprayed everywhere like a sprinkler because I think it is trying to say that you’ve been physically, psychologically and socially hurt. Like a water sprinkler covers a wide area, this particular betrayal is so deep that it is affecting all areas of your life.
The hissing is interesting. Snakes are most often associated with hissing. Snakes in dreams are usually associated with change. Hissing is a warning that the snake is going to strike. I believe this is a condensation in the sense that your subconscious wants you to be alert for how you could be hurt in the future. It also wants you to be careful that in your hurt feelings, that you don’t unintentionally hurt others who probably don’t realize the full extent of what you’ve been through.
Your not being able to recreate the same situation later in the dream, I think means that the dream wants you to avoid any situation that even comes close to the recent betrayals. The dream is emphasizing that what happened is over, and it is trying to help you minimize the damage to your life. A person cannot speak when they’re bleeding profusely from the mouth. By implication, the dream is saying that you haven’t been heard in the way that you meant it, and it is hurtful to you. The dream wants you, as much as you can, to avoid any situation that comes close to the Betrayal and events after it. The hissing is a warning to be on the alert for it. The dream moves to you being on the road to emphasize that your mind wants you to go on with your life in spite of the betrayal/betrayals.
The dream is not offering a solution other than to point out metaphorically the bloody carnage the betrayals have caused. By implication, it wants you to move on. The dream seems to be trying to warn you to avoid being played/playing games with people close to you that could hurt you dearly.
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Dream 453: Renewed Genesis of Life
A woman had the following dream:
“Last night I had a dream about my mother and I haven’t dreamed of her in quite a while in the dream she and I went to an auto body repair shop to get the front end of my truck repaired and painted (minor accident)so the guy was explaining the process and said it would only cost about $500 for the repair I said fine let’s do it. I went to the restroom and came back the guy said let’s finalize the paperwork so we can get started my mother looked at me and said it’s taken care of I said are you sure she said yes I said thank you and say down.
A few minutes later the guy comes and say you are all set and had a me the keys but I don’t see the key to my truck and mom is standing there looking around and I say to him my key is missing and he shows me another key and says this is your car. I look at my mom and she says I took care it of it. She really took care of it she traded my truck and bought me a new Genesis fully paid for. I hugged her and cried and that hug felt so real I couldn’t let go. We got in the car and left.
Not sure what this means but any help is greatly welcomed…”
A vehicle usually represents your progress in life in a dream. In any case, your mother usually represents the basis of your emotions. The dream may be saying that your emotions have been repaired.
You may be making some kind of shift from work or the financial part of your life (the truck) to focusing on the beginning of a new area (a Genesis) for your life.
The dream may also be integrating mother emotions.
The fact that the hug felt so real implies a vision dream where you were visited. All in a place, it sounds like a reparative and emotionally integrating dream that wants to give you a new vehicle to enjoy a different area of your life.
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