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What does a tsunami, the number eleven and armpits mean in a dream?

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Dream 468: I need to change some things about myself

A woman had the following dream:

“I had an unusual dream about tattoos under each one of my arm pitts. I don’t have any tattoos or want them but there were 3 inside my arm pitts. They were small like a dime size.  One had a date like March 11th on it. What does that stand for? It was very strange.”

Interpretation

Three is the number if change. You do not like tattoos. The tatoos are in an unusual place that cannot ordinarily be seen by others, the pits of your arms.

The number eleven implies a sense of urgency, as we talk about changing things before it is too late, ie., we especially need to change when a situation is “in its eleventh hour.”

It is notable that the Japan tsunami was on March 11th of 2011. Water is virtually always emotion. A tsunami is an unexpected flood of emotion.

I think that you may believe that you need to change things inside you that are hidden, but close to the surface, that you consider to be “the pits.” It is likely that you may have recently experienced a flood of emotions that made you think that there was a strong urgent need to change things about yourself that you do not like.

The dime is interesting. I am reminded of the saying, “to stop on a dime.” I believe this is added emphasis that the emotions mainly need to change now.

The dreamer later told me that she was flooded with emotion from the recent death of her mother. I recommended that she attend grief counseling to make the change of expressing her emotions more.

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What does a house mean in a dream?

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A House Can Be the Dreamer to Some Extent

Dream Answer 296

A house can represent the dreamer to some extent because it is the framework out of which one lives. This is especially the case if it was a house in which the dreamer once lived.

The ages the dreamer was when living in the house (from birth to five years old, from age 12 to 16 years old, etc.) is important. There is something about the dreamer’s present psychodynamics that is situationally similar to the dreamer’s earlier psychodynamics at a specific developmental stage reflected in the dream.

The different areas of the house correspond roughly to different areas of the dreamer’s life. Mental or intellectual processes are associated with the upper floors or roof. An open roof may be a comment on how open minded the dreamer’s mind is, how the dreamer does not protect his thoughts efficiently, or how incomplete and unfinished his or her thoughts are in the sense of being “under construction.”

The family room may be demonstrating family dynamics. The dining room can be associated with how people in the home nurture one another. The garage can represent how people plan to move within their lives.

The living room represents the dreamer’s living space in her life. The kitchen can stand for his creativity since the cook prepares nurturing and creative combinations of food in the kitchen. The subterranean basement can often be a sign of the subconscious because it underlies the reality of the dreamer’s life.

Buildings can signal different portions of the dreamer’s life. Resorts may represent the dreamer’s recreational life or may simply be a “last resort.” Skyscrapers indicate cosmopolitan interests.

Farms may represent ingrained hard work values or bucolic serenity. Universities and, in particular, high schools usually indicate what the dreamer needs to learn in life. Dreams cannot resist using “high school” as a place for your “higher self” to learn.

Dreams cannot resist the metaphor of trains and train stations as a place where you “get your life on track.” Terminals frequently mean where you want to get to in life before you die (before your life is terminated). Airports often signal movement toward higher or spiritual goals in the dreamer’s life.

Shopping malls are frequent in dreams. Dreams cannot resist the play upon words. Dreams often use shopping malls to show how the dreamer has been “mauled” (malled?) in life usually in the person’s career or business life as a shopping mall is a commercial community.

Apartments often suggest only a part, and probably a transitional part, is going to be addressed in the dream. The setting of the dream is almost always important, especially the initial setting. The opening scene often signals what the dream is going to be about. The setting shows the field or area of the dreamer’s life where the subconscious psychodynamics are going to be played out. The above meanings should be seen as tentative hypotheses that the dreamer can confirm or give additional information about.

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Lincoln’s Prophetic Dream

The president is dead. He was assassinated.
The president is dead. He was assassinated.

Lincoln had this dream shortly before his assassination:
About ten days ago, I retired very late. I had been up waiting for important dispatches from the front. I could not have been long in bed when I fell into a slumber, for I was weary. I soon began to dream. There seemed to be a death-like stillness about me. Then I heard subdued sobs, as if a number of people were weeping. I thought I left my bed and wandered downstairs. There the silence was broken by the same pitiful sobbing, but the mourners were invisible. I went from room to room; no living person was in sight, but the same mournful sounds of distress met me as I passed along. It was light in all the rooms; every object was familiar to me; but where were all the people who were grieving as if their hearts would break?

I was puzzled and alarmed. What could be the meaning of all this? Determined to find the cause of a state of things so mysterious and so shocking, I kept on until I arrived at the East Room, which I entered.

There I met with a sickening surprise. Before me was a catafalque, on which rested a corpse wrapped in funeral vestments. Around it were stationed soldiers who were acting as guards; and there was a throng of people, some gazing mournfully upon the corpse, whose face was covered, others weeping pitifully. ‘Who is dead in the White House?’ I demanded of one of the soldiers ‘The President’ was his answer; ‘he was killed by an assassin!’ Then came a loud burst of grief from the crowd, which awoke me from my dream.

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My Attempt to Change Died

Dream 280: Change Died
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A 48-year-old woman dreamed that she bought the house of her son’s mother-in-law. When she arrived at this house, there was a dead baby in a casket with large funeral candles on each side of the casket.

Interpretation

This woman was hyper-critical of her son. His mother-in-law had a troubled background similar to his mother’s personal history. The mother-in-law was, nevertheless, relatively calm, more diplomatic, and less critical than the dreamer.
A house can represent the dreamer because it is the framework out of which one lives. That the dreamer bought the house indicates that the dreamer is aspiring to be a different person, to be more like her son’s mother-in-law. The deceased baby is not good news.

Each character in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s personality at the first level of dream interpretation. A baby represents a new part of the personality or psyche that the dreamer tried to develop. So a baby represents personal growth on the part of the dreamer.

That the baby is dead signals that her attempt to be different, to be more like the calmer mother-in-law, failed. That it was an attempt to change was highlighted by the funeral candles. Candles imply fire, and fire represents change because fire changes matter into energy.

It is perfect that they were funeral candles. Funeral candles are typically unlit. The unlit candles emphasized that no change had occurred. That it is a funeral scene gives some hope because the dreamer saw her lack of change as a real loss. The dreamer is in mourning which suggests that being more like the mother-in-law personality-wise was something that the dreamer really wanted.

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Dream 258: It Isn’t How You Look; It’s How You Do

shave_legsDream 258: A 31-year-old woman dreamt that she was a counselor to dorms full of kids ages sixteen to twenty-something years old. Parents were visiting the dorms that day. A female coach sans windbreaker and athletic clothes told her that she had spoken to three young men in one of the dorm rooms. They told her that the dreamer’s legs were not fat, but they advised that the dreamer should shave her legs.

Interpretation: Each character in the dream can be a part of the dreamer’s mind or psyche. Male figures tend to go with actions while women are usually associated more with the dreamer’s emotions. The dorms full of kids show that the dream is going to talk about her development socially (these ages are critical in social and sexual behavior).

Parents visiting indicates that the subconscious will be discussing parental influence on her social development. That she is a counselor indicates that the dream wants to speak to the psychologically insightful part of her. The female coach is interesting because we think it is primarily emotional in nature, but the athleticism this part of the mind brings to the table shows that the unconscious is going to be focusing on how her emotions affect her actions.

The three young men indicate that the dream wants her actions to change (three is the number of instability since three people in a relationship are unstable.) They specifically give the coach of her emotions the message that her inherent appearance is fine (her legs are not fat), but she should take action to improve her situation. The message directly says that she needs to rid herself of hairy situations that she does not need, i.e., shave her legs.

It is notable that legs are supportive and get us where we need to go.  Her subconscious wants her to accept herself and get rid of hairy situations she lets grow on her that interfere with her getting to where she needs to go.

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Vision of My Deceased Father

It was so real it was like he was there
It was so real it was like he was there

Dream 178: I Never Left You
A 43-year-old woman dreamt that she was looking into a mirror. Suddenly, her deceased father walked through the mirror and was hugging her. The dream was vivid beyond words as she felt that she actually saw, heard, smelled and touched her father. She said, “Daddy, don’t leave me.” He replied in a vivid, gently commanding and overriding voice, “I never have.”
Dream 178 Interpretation
This dream was a vision dream. Vision dreams seldom need any interpretation. There were several indicators that this was a vision dream. First of all, the shear vividness of the dream is remarkable. All of the senses were involved. It is infrequent that a dreamer senses she can feel, touch and smell the deceased loved one. She was grieving the death of her father. She was very emotionally close to her father who died only a month prior to this vision dream.
As Jungian analyst Geri Grubbs Ph.D. pointed out in her book, Bereavement Dreaming and the Individuating Soul, deceased loved ones tend to appear in one’s dreams intensely for up to two years after the person’s death. The fact that she saw her father walk out of a mirror further supports the vision nature of the dream. Popular cinema always insisted that one could not see a ghost in a mirror. The dream vision was emphasizing the vision nature of this dream. This dream needed no interpretation. It is what it was.

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What is the meaning of a swimming pool in a dream?

Emotions Close to Home
Emotions Close to Home

Dream 233: What is the meaning of a swimming pool in a dream?

The dreamer was a 29-year-old coed in Florida. She could never remember her parents getting along with one another. She dreamt that her mother and father were now swimming in their pool at home, playfully splashing about as if they had never divorced or experienced any sort of trauma. She walked inside and saw a tattoo machine and proceeded to tattoo herself, knowing that tattooing yourself can be a very dangerous thing. She put the machine in her hand and carved a heart on her ankle.

And then she awoke, feeling good about her accomplishment!

Dream 233–Interpretation

The dream showed aspects of a dream of desire. I believe that at the first level of dream interpretation, it represented what was occurring within the dreamer. Her emotions (mother introject) and actions (father introject) were integrating. Water in dreams is virtually always subconscious emotion. A swimming pool in particular represents emotions at home since pools are near home.

On the second and interpersonal level, the dream represented a lifelong desire that her parents would have gotten along and that the dreamer’s own marriage was not in separation. She was taking matters into her own hands (the tattoo machine) now. The tattooed heart represented a permanent subconscious promise to herself about what she learned from her parents and from her husband. The fact that the tattoo was on her ankle, a supportive part of anatomy that helps us get somewhere in life, emphasized the emotional support she felt from making this commitment not to forget the painful lessons she learned.

She was making sure that the pain and lessons from parent and relationship troubles was never dismissed or forgotten. The experiences etched into and under her skin the importance of taking care of her heart. The dream was good news in that she was integrating and transforming and was generally happier with her life.

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