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Why do high schools show up so often in dreams?

 

Dream 477: Your subconscious wants to take you higher

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A woman was having nightmares about high school continuously. She wondered what this could mean.

Interpretation

I’ve noticed that people of all ages like to use high school in their dreams, or their dreams like to use the high school setting. I believe it is because it is a formative time of personality.

I also think the dream is making a play of words on it being a high school, a school for your higher self. If you are having constant nightmare scenes involving high school, without knowing further content, I would guess that there are some Shadow aspects to your personality that you have not integrated into your higher self.

I would guess that the nightmares represent a struggle to try to come to some terms as to how to integrate sexual and aggressive parts of your personality into your higher self.  Dreams are often an extension of problems we try to consciously work on during the day.

Her nightmares probably mean that some basic aspects of her life are
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Digging a hole for yourself

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Dream 474: Hole in your soul
A woman dreamed she was at her work and this big cave opened up in the parking lot. It seemed to get bigger and no matter how much dirt she got in there to cover it, it never filled up.
Interpretation
Movement underground in a dream tends to represent the subconscious. You are at work so it probably involves work issues. I think the dream is saying that you’re staying at where you’re working is just digging a deeper hole for yourself. Pretty dramatic and the dream is doing this to emphasize it, I think.
Dreams are always perfect. The fact that it occurs in a parking lot, I think, means that your subconscious views you as stationery at your job, as not moving ahead career-wise.  This dream recommends that the woman get a new job and not stay with the company she was working for.
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Can dreams include information from past lives?

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Dream 467: Don’t sell yourself short or Remember who you were

A woman reported the following dream:

“I had a dream that i visited a museum with some family. In this place I met a short man who was happy to see me. I felt odd in this dream–he asked me to dance with him .

I said, “What is it, do you know me from a past life?

He replied, “Yes, we loved each other!”

He showed me a photograph from the 1800’s or so. He was taller back then. I was wearing an old Victorian-era dress. My name was written behind this picture with just a slight difference in spelling. Thank you for reading.

Interpretation

Each person in a dream is a part of your mind. Men usually go with an action part of the mind while women often go with an emotional part of the mind. There is a part of you that wants to get your attention, that wants to dance with you. It is a part probably that you have been “selling short” (the short man) and underestimating what you can do.

You were shown old pictures and were in a museum to prove to you that in the past, you were more elegant and/or sophisticated emotionally (the formally clad lady) and stood taller in your assessment of your ability to do things. I think it shows you a couple to emphasize that you were more integrated emotionally and behaviorally in the past probably.

It hit me that your name on the back of the photo was slightly different for a reason. I think the dream did this to emphasize that the photo was of you, but you were “different” in the past. It was a way of emphasizing that it indeed was you, while emphasizing you were different back then.

Another way of looking at it is at it from a higher level, is that it was a previous life. In other words, from that perspective it could be your Soul (unconscious) reminding you to remember your eloquent and graceful way of doing things from a previous life.

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What might a starving cat in a vegetarian’s dream mean?

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Dream 457: More ways than one to feed a starving cat

A woman had the following dream:

“I keep having a reoccuring dream of my dog.  She is a small dog.  I wake up and she is on my front step.  There is a tub with hundreds of baby chickens. She is eating them and I hear their bones crunching.  It’s scary for me because I’m vegeterian.

Interpretation

Each person or animal in a dream is part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of interpretation.  Animals usually represent the dreamer’s instincts. In this case, it seems the cat represents some part of her instinct too survive.

Household pets usually represents the person’s affections or preferences because of the good feelings we have about pets.  Cats usually are associated more with feminine energy because they are independent, sensuous and intelligent.  I think this cat is announcing what you need to eat to survive.

Her subconscious is dramatically screaming that she needs protein. She does not have to totally give up being a vegetarian, but she should consider doing “social chicken.” After all, 89% of vegetarians go back to eating meat. Especially as you get older, you typically need the protein.

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What could Coke mean in a dream?

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Dream 449: The real thing

A woman had a dream that a good friend John that she thought she should like to date, but did not, offered her a Coke after telling her to wake up. She accepted the beverage and felt happy in the dream.

Interpretation 

She was distressed because she typically always wanted to date Macho “Bad Boys” who usually ended up not treating her very well. She was mystified that she had this sensitive male friend who she talked to and they had a good relationship, but she never saw him as being interesting as a date. She would typically look through her dreams trying to get information about what kind of man she should date.

The dream was giving her a direct answer. Her subconscious obviously favored her dating someone like John. In the dream, this male friend literally tells her to “wake up.” Further, I do not believe him offering her a Coke soda was without meaning. Liquids such as water and Coke, for that matter, tend to be associated with emotion. Water is virtually always emotion. Coke specifically is an energizing drink that helps you to wake up because it has caffeine in it typically.

The dream was literally  telling her to wake up. Why? Because her subconscious  was actually telling her that she should consider dating this friend because, as the Coke commercials say,  he is “the real thing.”

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What does a dog biting someone in a dream mean?

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Dream 448: Getting Rid of a Friend that Bites

A woman told me the following before describing her dream:

I had a disagreement with someone that’s been in and out of my life. This person contacted me to tell me that I have the the power to fix it. I was asking for a sign if this relationship could be fixed or if this is a toxic relationship that I shouldn’t have in my life. [Before she went to sleep, she incubated a dream by asking for a dream that would indicate what she should do with this relationship and she had the dream described in the next paragraph]:

“In the dream,  my golden retriever bit a cousin’s daughter, which is totally out of the dog’s character. The daughter’s mother (also my longtime friend and patient I provide care for) told me I need to put the dog down. I woke up feeling conflicted. Oddly enough I went to sleep asking spirit for a sign and that’s the sign the I received!”

Interpretation 

I think the dream is voting that it is a toxic relationship that you should stay away from. Dogs are all about loyalty and the dream does a double entendre dream condensation on the theme of loyalty. Remember that each character in the dream is a part of your mind with women going more with emotions. Animals often represent our instinctive feelings. Dream condensation occurs when the dream is true on more than one level.

I think the woman represents your emotional common sense which says that, painful as it may be, you have to kill your instinctual loyalty (the dog) before you get bitten. The reason you put a dog down is because the dog has proven itself to be dangerous by biting someone. To me, this means you have to kill your internal loyalty to this person so that you do not get bitten again.

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What does a diamond represent in a dream?

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Dream 443: A diamond is forever

A woman dreamed that she was walking along and she noticed the diamond was missing from her finger. She thought she had lost it. A young boy then came up to her with the ring and gave the ring back to her.

Interpretation 

Each character in the dream represents a different part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Men tend to go with actions or a more action-oriented part of the mind. Women tend to go more with an emotional part of the psyche.

The maturity level of the character in the dream usually represents how developed either the action or the emotion is. That it was a young boy who returns the ring to her means that she is probably taking new action to confirm a commitment, an allegiance, a loyalty,  a close relationship, or even a job.

It is unknown whether this dream describes the current state of affairs or whether the dream is predictive. Only the dreamer will be able to discern the full meaning of this dream.

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What does the negative Queen represent in a dream?

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Dream 437: The Evil Queen

I have had very vivid and odd dreams every night for the past month. Yet when I awake I usually only remember pieces. I was standing in front of my ex husband. We were talking as I began to think in my head about our split. Reminding myself of the monster he became…the reason I left. I used to have no voice when in his presence so I was reminding myself before I made eye contact.

I reached in my pocket though and pulled out a seemingly endless stack of large bills. He put his hands out and one by one I placed the bills in his Palm. It never ended. I remember thinking what about my needs. If I give it all I’ll have nothing. He never stopped me and I never spoke up.

I looked down and Instantly fell to my knees. I quickly place my hands out to catch This large Brown ribbed vase. I was unable to catch it in time. The glass broke shattering and slicing my right Index finger. I remember specifically the feel of glass shards across my fingers.

I looked up to see a woman I have not yet the chance to meet.  She had black curly hair old style framed glasses. She had a dark-tinted color to her, like not a normal color. She just stared blankly at me. It was creepy, almost like I felt I was in trouble.

I heard “Watch her–When she appears pay close attention to her.” Then I woke up. I’ve yet to understand this one. A lot of my dreams are about money or past lives, even god. I’m not sure why the oddities, but would greatly appreciate any Insight.

Interpretation

Money usually represents energy in dreams. He was a viper who took all your energy and never reciprocated.

The woman in your dreams is negative emotions. Jung called her the queen or the negative mother complex. She resides in everyone’s subconscious.

The queen is all about power and control. Her attitude toward you is capricious and arbitrary.

Her motto is “ask not what I can do for you–ask what you can do for me now.” She looks very strong, but will wilt unless the odds are overwhelmingly in her favor.

The savage masculine will aggravate and make her stronger. It sounds like you were married to a savage masculine man. The only part of the psyche that has any success against her is the heroic masculine–which usually involves being dedicated to taking positive actions that focus mainly, if not exclusively, on your needs and not making any excuses about it nor apologizing for looking after your needs.

I think the brown vase falling and cutting your finger right before the queen appears was done to emphasize that the queen is the emotional part of yourself that is hurting you. When glass is breaking in a dream, that usually means that the emotional impact of something is finally fully reaching you.  Her favorite putdown is “who do you think you are.”

I hope this is helpful.

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What does a fraternity, Donald Trump, and a baby dying mean in a dream?

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Dream 434: Dump Trump

A woman had the following dream:

“Oh wow…I was in what seemed to be a frat house. Some young guy was complaining about all the hoes at the party. I went upstairs to go to the bathroom and saw a man coming towards the house with a black object/machine/vacuum in his hands, although the dream itself blocked out what it really was. Then BOOM, the entire house was decimated, no one left, even a small baby had been killed. Only people on the porch survived and this is where I was.  Then a woman came by and my brother and we had to sign papers. Then I saw the ghost of that baby because I was sad it had died too.

Then I saw another man in a vision in front of people in a city like new york square setting. He was dressed in black with red acting crazy with some kind of message for me. Then another guy dressed in black in another place i cannot remember yet was very clear in this dreamline…

Dream 435: Dump Trump

Every person in the dream is a part of your mind. Men go with your actions. A frat house is a Brotherhood of educated men who Goof Off a lot in my world. In the dream, they are anti-women, which means they are anti-emotional as women tend to go more with your emotions while men tend to go more with your actions.

These men are all off including a baby. I think the dream may be saying you need to get rid of any actions that are even unintentionally derogating to women. The baby is included because it is saying you have to get rid of even any tiny notion that might not be in favor of emotions or women.

The speaker in New York is obviously Donald Trump. The dream isn’t being clear about the two men. I suspect strongly that one of them was Donald Trump. I suspect the other man was the opposite of Donald Trump, what your actions preferably could be.

This extremely biased opinion was not paid for and I agree with its content. It is speculation of what I think is likely and humorous comments may also be true, but there is no way of definitely knowing.

The dreamer later told me after the interpretation that she and her daughter had been having major debates about Trump’s misogynist view of women.

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What do guns, shooting and robbery mean in a dream?

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A woman reported the following dream:

“I had a dream about a friend involving a robbery and gun shots were fired towards her and I. When I later talked to her about it, she said 2 other friends had dreams of her either as the one doing the shooting or was being shot at. What do guns in dreams mean? Also, it’s so weird how several people had similar themed dreams about one person. Any ideas? Shes kinda freaked out by it. Some insights would be much appreciated!”

Interpretation 

Guns usually are associated with aggression or confrontation. Freud thought of it as a classic phallic symbol so it is associated with being Macho–rough and tough and not taking anything from anyone.

With your friend, I wonder if she tends to be confrontation or aggressively assertive to the point that she inspires retaliation and/or bursts of emotions from others. The thought would be that she is subject to confrontations/burst of emotions which she points at others and is reciprocated by others.

If we look at just your dream, shots are being fired at you. You are not instigating any gunplay in the dream you had. The focus of your dream would seem to be other people’s explosive reactions to you at times for no clear reason. In your dream, the robbery would maybe indicate some worry about being personally violated.

The collective unconscious means that we are all connected subconsciously with one another. When she has several friends dreaming about guns with her involved, I would take it that the collective subconscious is trying to get the message to her by whatever means possible that she needs to be protective of herself and assertive / aggressive / confrontative in a different kind of way so that she or others do not get hurt either emotionally or physically.

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What do dolphins mean in a dream?

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Dream Image 421: Dolphins are a sparkling, pure and playful energy in dreams

Animals usually represent instinctive energy in dreams. Water virtually always represents emotions in dreams, especially subconscious emotions as the ocean is the biggest symbol of the subconscious that we have. When it involves the ocean, the dream usually involves how you are handling or traversing emotional energy in the world which includes your own and energy from the collective subconscious (unconscious).

Dolphins are almost always good news when they appear in dreams. It usually represents the dreamer has an abundance of competent, playful and social energy as dolphins are very interactive with other species and especially with humans. Other than people , they are one of the few species to have sex also for the fun of it.

They have so many human-like qualities that it is not hard to believe, as some evolutionary biologistso have hypothesized, that dolphins may have first evolved from the sea and transitioned to land; however,they then changed direction and returned to the ocean because it was a more favorable environment than land. In the sea, dolphins have few predators other than some misguided humans and some types of sharks.

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What does sex and kissing men on the forehead mean in a dream?

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Dream 413: She should have listened

A dreamer reported an ex girlfriend had a couples dreams of him one night. He wondered about the significance of the sea shell. The former girlfriend’s dream was as follows:

“I kept singing prayers into your ear and kissing your forehead after every one. Every time I did a new orb would appear and I’d have a vision of some place. You were holding sea shells”

” I was little and someone was reading a bedtime story while I gazed out the window into the dark woods when all of a sudden this freaky alien ripped me out of the house and into the woods.”nbsp;

Interpretation

Her singing to you and kissing dreamer’s forehead in the dream would mean that at the first level she’s praying to the action part of herself that loved him which is expressed by her kissing his forehead.

If it were my dream, the orbs would probably represent hopes regarding relationships. Orbs are round and are light and rocks are circular mostly. Circular objects, especially circular objects that are lighted usually represent the soul since the circle has no beginning and it has no end. The dream is suggesting that she’s dealing with soul issues.

If these dreams were together relatively, it seems to be about listening. The dream seems to be saying she has emotional wishes that she prays would come true, but probably really doesn’t listen to them very closely.

I think the above for two reasons, the first one being the seashells. When I was young it was always said that if you held a seashell to your ear you could hear the ocean. The ocean is the biggest symbol of the subconscious that we have. Symbolically, these seashells would represent listening to her subconscious, specifically, the part of her subconscious that dealt with dreamer.

The second reason to suspect it has to do with listening is that when she is read a bedtime story, she is not paying attention and is staring out into the dark woods.

The dream gets savage in emphasizing that she needs to listen and pay attention to her subconscious emotions by having an alien jerk her out of her world.

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What does it mean to give birth to Jesus in a dream?

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Dream 410: Born again

A woman had the following dream:

“So I had a dream that I was the mother of Jesus, I looked like me but I didn’t at
the same time. My hair was longer and darker, my skin was darker, etc ..yet the
same exact eyes,lips,height, and curls. I was standing in a door way & I can feel
the Sun on my back as I look into the shaded small building. It looked like a very
small home (far from modern).
I can’t recall what was said.
The twist is I believe in God but I haven’t accepted Jesus as God. Im not saying
its impossible,because nothing is. I look into all religions & “mythologies”. When I
woke up I felt like I literally just slammed into my body,I had tears in my eyes and
this tingling in my heart.”

Interpretation

At the first and symbolic level of dream interpretation, an important spiritual and emotional part of you is standing at the doorway to a new life (a new house). You are literally being reborn
in the sense of giving birth to a new part of your spirituality. Your
emotions are getting ready to deliver a new spiritually active and central
part of yourself. This part is small now but important. One wants to
remember that Jesus was born in a manger.

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What do horses and animals mean in dreams?

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The power of life and love

Dream 408: Loving Life

I dreamed I was in a dark forest walking on a dirt path, in the middle of the path there were black horses breathing fire thru nostrils. I felt terrified and sat on ground in a fetus position, praying to please allow me to cross over the other side. I crawled slowly, getting under the horses. Suddenly these horses started rubbing heads on my face with so much love. Slowly removing the extreme fear with loving touches. Then different animals in the forest– deer, mice, rats,snakes and so on. All where rubbing and caressing me, and I was in a state of overwhelming love..WOKE UP..cried because i still felt the sensation of this love, I couldn’t eat meat for months. I couldn’t cut chicken for my family’s dinners. I would start crying. It was strange to still feel it after months. I am not religious or a vegetarian.

Interpretation

Animals generally represent our instincts which are biological necessities in order to survive. Horses in particular seem to represent female living energy or libido. The first part of the dream is you have the power of that life force. It is the shadow side of the life or love force that provides the “horsepower” needed in life. The remainder of the dream is trying to make you comfortable with accepting that energy because when that life force is used correctly, it is loving, instinctual, and the basis of life.

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What do office buildings, suits, and restrooms mean in a dream?

 

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Dream 407: Eating Forbidden Fruit

A woman had the following dream:
“I had a dream that I was in a huge office building with many floors, offices etc. I was just trying to go home, but first find a restroom. I kept ending up in offices where there were people dressed in business attire and I didn’t have my top on…Trying to squeeze through, but they wouldn’t move. So rude!

I finally found a hall. Relief. I was walking to find a restroom, then I see a sitting area with a table on which was a plate of caramel apples with nuts. Yum! I picked one up and took a bite.

Then 2 ladies to the side shook their heads and fingers, no…I put it back and continued….exhausted! WHAT I DETERMINED: I am never going to fit in, no matter how I try to reveal my true self and good things are not for me! Well, I won’t accept that! Any other interpretations? I’m very open to your analysis.”

Interpretation

I am going to be sounding like a bit of a preacher and I don’t mean to sound that way but here it comes. The setting in a dream usually indicates what the dream is going to be about. It starts out in a commercial office building that has many floors.

Usually in a building the different floors can represent different levels of consciousness. So I am just saying that there are people who have many different ways of looking at things that may be at variance with your level of consciousness.

When you are looking for a restroom in a dream, that usually indicates that there are things that you need to get rid of that no longer serve you. One of the things that you probably need to change is being more careful about who you open yourself up to.

Clothing usually represents psychological defenses in dreams because that’s what we show the rest of the world. The people are dressed in business clothing which means that they are defensive and about commercial and business interests. You do not have a top on which indicates that you are probably risking yourself by opening yourself up in that environment.

Each character in the dream is a part of your psyche and women tend to go more with emotions. I think the women are disapproving of your eating the apple because part of your emotions realize that your effort to open yourself up to very defensive people is well meaning but is not going to work out very well probably. Trying to get psychological nourishment in that environment (eating the apple) is ill fated and not likely to work out no matter how sweet it may look on the outside (the caramel).

If it were my dream, the lesson would go something like, “I have to be more careful about who I expose myself to.” You mean well, but you want to make sure that the people you are talking to are at least potentially open to what you have to offer which sounds like it probably is a lot. One does want to put pearls in front of swine–it will annoy the pig and dirty the pearls.

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What does a baby boy not being able to move and falling on your face mean in a dream?

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Fear of falling on your face if you do something new

 

Dream 401: Should I Make This New Move?

A woman had the following dream:

“I had a strange dream that I had put my infant baby on a bed all in white and so was the baby. Just the exact way they wrap them in a hospital, then a lady said to me your baby fell on the floor laying flat face, and I went that way to get him. How strange a infant can’t move wrapped that way, he was not crying either. So confused on this dream.”

My Interpretation

Clothing usually represents your psychological defenses. A baby boy usually represents a new action part of yourself. The dream seems to be implying there is a new action part yourself that is severely limited and bound with limited options. You may have tried to do something different and either have or have fear of “falling on your face.”

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What does my fat phony Queen like mother in law in a wheelchair in a dream mean?

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Dream 397: Time to Get Real

A woman dreamed that her 94 year old mother-in-law who is in a wheelchair suddenly got up and started walking around very fast to show the dreamer that she actually could move and walk very well. The mother in law in real life weighed 300 pounds and was morbidly and pathologically psychologically dependent upon her son. She had difficulty walking mainly because of her weight.

The dreamer thought she was a phony and that her mother-in-law knew that she knew her mother-in-law was being phony. The mother in law for some reason had been amazingly alert and coherent lately.

My Interpretation to the Dreamer

Taking the dream at different levels, your subconscious is saying both that she is phony and that you yourself have to be phony to be able to put up with her. At a deeper level, it may be trying to reassure you that you are fine, that you are physically and psychologically healthy, in spite of her antipathy towards you.

Her being very alert is interesting and something I can never explain. Both personally and in the lives of my clients, people who are on a long downward course health wise will often have a brief intense period of emotional/cognitive clarity and physical vitality before sinking into a clasped physical and mental disrepair and even death.

I thought this mother-in-law had characteristics of the Queen archetype that Carl Jung describes– domineering, controlling, selfish, egocentric, and wanting to dominate the household situation. The dreamer confirmed most of my insights.

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What does it mean when cats attack me in my dreams?

Avoid those who do not return your affection
Avoid those who do not return your affection

Dream 395: Looking for love in all the wrong places

A man had the following dream:

“I have trouble with cats in some dreams. At first I’m glad to see a cat, but sooner or later they claw in my arms or legs and they won’t let go. It’s painful and I want it to stop asap, feeling annoyed and threatened maybe. I don’t really know what to make of it.”

Interpretation

I think this dream is a combination or a condensation of the first two levels of dream interpretation which is as it involves yourself and as it involves you in interpersonal relationships.

To say it simply, you have hurt yourself by having affections for people who do not have affection for you. Pets usually represent your affections. They are probably women given the cat usually goes with women and female affections. In any case, the emphasis is on emotional affection and how you are being hurt by it.

The thought is that on the interpersonal level the people you are having affection for do not only not return the affection, but actively hurt you. It is interesting that the cats will not let go and continue to hurt you.

I believe this is saying that you persist in showing affection to people who do not return the affection, and these people continue to persist in wanting to hurt you. You continue to show affection to people who are not only not neutral, but are hazardous to your welfare.

  1. This is not given in a professional sense but in an investigative / interest way and should not be relied upon to run your life.
Love those that return the affection
Love those that return the affection and see things from a different angle

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What does being kidnapped repeatedly in a dream mean?

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 Dream 394: Should I Pay the Price?

A woman was repeatedly having dreams about being kidnapped. What could this mean?

Interpretation

The phrase that keeps coming to me is that when you’re kidnapped, you’re being taken to places you don’t want to go. Is your life going in places you don’t want to go? Do you feel that it is being directed by malevolent forces? Do you feel that there is a price to pay (a ransom or money is personal energy in dreams) to get it back on track?

Kidnapping  dreams frequently signal that the dreamer feels a lack of control in life. They may feel they are being pushed around by malevolent forces that demand a price to be paid.  the price is usually personal energy to do something challenging to free yourself.

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Playing with Players

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Tackling a Challenge

Dream 393: A coed dreamed that a football player who was a “player” socially (had many affairs with different women at the same time) wanted her to be his girlfriend. She could see his girlfriend in the background. The girlfriend was angry and anxious.

Interpretation

Each living thing in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s mind. Women usually go with an emotional power of the mind while men tend to go with an action-oriented part of the mind. The football player in the dream represented her wanting to date a player and convert him to being faithful to her.

This conflict had deep psychological roots. She constantly felt the need to prove herself worthy by winning the competition for a popular man or alpha male over other women. This was because she  felt in a one-down position from wealthy and popular women who were her friends. Her family had once been wealthy but fell on hard times.

Her relationships with players invariably ended with her feeling angry and anxious. She was caught in what Freud called a repetition compulsion. She was trying to prove needlessly that she was as good as other women despite being  beautiful and having many positive qualities.

The girlfriend in the dream represented how she ended up feeling pursuing “players.” She invariably ended up feeling angry and anxious. The dream was a warning to stop engaging in this repetitive mistake.

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What does your mother being bitten by an ant mean in a dream?

It's always when you just get settled!
It’s always when you just get settled!

Dream 391: My Sister Is Very Irritating

A woman had the following dream: “I had a strange dream I was walking then I saw my sister at an office and she says that my mom got bit by ants. I believe that was the doctors office. It ended there.”

My Interpretation

“Each living thing in the dream represents a part of your mind at the first level. It sounds like it mainly involves emotions since women tend to go more with emotions. The mother in the dream is the mother in your mind that we call the mother introject. The mother introject is often the basis of emotions.

Animals (in this case ants) usually represent our instincts, what we are prone to do naturally. Ants are methodical, routine and focused on accomplishing what needs to be done for the group compulsively.

Being bit by ants is a nuisance/irritating. I wonder if there is a situation (maybe involving family) where you have put in a lot of work and are feeling a little annoyed or taken for granted?”

The dreamer responded with the following confirmation: “Yes, my sister was over for a month.My sister is very bossy and doesn’t use nice words to tell them to do things. Not cursing, not a sweet person very cold and mean!”

Why am I constantly dreaming about a girl I loved since I was 12 years old?

Looking for Emotion From the Past
Looking for Emotion From the Past

Dream 385: I Want to Recapture How I Was Emotionally in My First Relationship with a Girl

When I was 12 I fell in love with a girl at first sight(right when I looked in her eyes) , and her dad was the first one to teach me how to kick a soccer ball when I was just 7(I’m really good, could play pro if I want ). She has a lot of reason why I am spiritual and pay attention to my dreams. Problem is when I was in high school, we would fight and I would ignore her and not look at her. We aren’t really on talking terms like we were when I was younger and I don’t follow her on social media.

The reason I bring this up is because she has been in my dreams all the time, and 90% of the time I can’t look at her or talk to her. Other 10% is amazing (dancing, doing things together , kissing etc) but 90% of the time she’ll be in my dream and won’t be able to look at her. I want to look at her and kiss her, but in my dreams I feel like I have subconsciously put it in there that I can’t speak or talk to her.

Just recently I was in my dreams teaching a yoga class with just two other people and she showed up to do the class and while I was doing the yoga poses she was doing them too and we were looking at each other but neither of us could say anything to each other. She was sort of looking at me funny snd i just looked her and kept going…

If I knew I was dreaming I would of kissed her right there, lol. Just yesterday I had another one where we were in the car together in the backseat and I tried talking to her but something wouldn’t let me. It must of been a 15 minute car ride and we just stared at each other , it seems like she can’t say anything to me either.

This is just two examples out of the more than 100x this has happened with her in my dream. What do you think is the best thing to do? I’m stubborn. If she’s meant to be in my life the universe will have me run into her like it usually does with her, so I feel like I should wait for that.

Do you think she experiences the same dreams?

My Interpretation

The dreams may be about her and having a relationship with her, but only you would know that since that is the second level of dream interpretation where only you have enough to detail to determine that.

At the first level, I think you probably have idealized that early relationship and want to emotionally be the way you were with her when things were good in future relationships. My money is on this is a fantasy about an idealized relationship from the past that your subconscious wants you to learn from so that you learn the lesson and look for the right relationship and act appropriately in the future.

This is based only on the structure of the dream and only you can determine what interpersonal value it has if any. Each character in the dream represents a part of your psyche at the first level with men going with your actions and women going with your emotions.

My thought is there was something about the way you were emotionally with this girl that you were developing that was not finished and you want to emotionally change yourself to find the ideal relationship. As such, in your mind she probably represents an ideal woman or anima. It is a big dream about how you should be in a relationship.

To answer your questions at the end, it is possible she's having dreams about you. If that is the case, I would see it more as a sign that the universe was trying to get the two of you together. I do like your idea that if it was meant to be, the universe will conspire to have the two of you meet again.

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Why Does Rumi See Life As a Dream That Must Be Interpreted?

Enter Rumi's World with Dreams
Enter Rumi’s World with Dreams

The great Rumi shows his profound understanding of life:

“THE DREAM THAT MUST BE INTERPRETED

This place is a dream.
Only a sleeper considers it real.

Then death comes like dawn,
and you wake up laughing
at what you thought was your grief.

But there’s a difference with this dream.
Everything cruel and unconscious
done in the illusion of the present world,
all that does not fade away at the death-waking.

It stays,
and it must be interpreted.

All the mean laughing,
all the quick, sexual wanting,
those torn coats of Joseph,
they change into powerful wolves
that you must face.
The retaliation that sometimes comes now,
the swift, payback hit,
is just a boy’s game
to what the other will be.

You know about circumcision here.
It’s full castration there!

And this groggy time we live,
this is what it’s like:

A man goes to sleep in the town where he has always lived
and he dreams he’s living in another town.
In the dream, he doesn’t remember
the town he’s sleeping in his bed in. He believes
the reality of the dream town.

The world is that kind of sleep.

The dust of many crumbled cities
settles over us like a forgetful doze,
but we are older than those cities.

We began as a mineral.
We emerged into plant life
and into the animal state, and then into being human,
and always we have forgotten our former states,
except in early spring when we slightly recall
being green again.
That’s how a young person turns
toward a teacher. That’s how a baby leans
toward the breast, without knowing the secret
of its desire, yet turning instinctively.

Humankind is being led along an evolving course,
through this migration of intelligences,
and though we seem to be sleeping,
there is an inner wakefulness
that directs the dream,

and that will eventually startle us back
to the truth of who we are.”

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What does hair, bleach, and going bald mean in a dream?

The Attraction of Hair
The Attraction of Hair

Dream 381: Give Me a Head with Hair

A woman had the following dream:

“I dreamed I was bleaching my hair then I was going bald from the front to the back.”

My Interpretation

Hair is on your head where thinking occurs.

Hair is also usually a part of sexual attraction.

Bleach is a harsh way of cleansing impurities. In fact, the implication is that you go bald from the bleaching of the hair.

Going bald often has something to do with a change in your perception of your self-image. Going bald usually is associated with the dreamer viewing herself too negatively.

Putting this together, it may have something to do with trying to cleanse your mind of impure thoughts probably related to sex, but you are being too harsh with yourself to the point that it is negatively affecting your self-image or ego.

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What does having sex in dingy places with a manipulative man mean?

Learning and Knowledge
Learning and Knowledge

Dream 379: Avoiding Handsome Manipulators

A woman had the following dream:

“I was in a library and the feeling of awe because of all the books and knowledge that are in them. I wanted to get a new book for new knowledge and couldn’t wait but then I spotted this gorgeous man. He was alluring. He had tan skin and long dark hair. He reminded me of my boyfriend from age 19 who was a Victorias Secret model. He was younger as well. The man looks back and our eyes connect and he notices me too.

I see he is talking to a woman. He’s smiling and quite friendly with her. We end up talking a bit with tons of flirting. He tells me to meet him upstairs where we can be alone for sex. While slipping out of the library I see him flirt with other women and they want him. I did not like the way he was so flirtatious to the other women but said to myself he still chose me.

I walk out of the library and to my surprise I am in a huge building. The walls are shiny gold. The ceilings are high. There is a stairwell that has marble stairs and shiny gold guardrails going up. I go up the stairs and find its an attic. When I walk in its nothing like where I came from. It’s dark, only one window and a humongous blow up matress. Dark wooden beams were on the ceiling for support in an angle. There on the mattress was the man completely naked and ready. I was very upset. I thought I was worth at least some sweet talk and romance.

He convinced me to sit by him but tried to just go for it. I kissed him but was hesitant. Then one of the workers came in and said we couldn’t be there so we had to leave aa if we were caught. He said to meet him later somewhere else. I said ok.

I went down and had to find the way out. I walked through this huge building and ran into what was a casino I believe. It had the machines with gold knobs on them. I thought how odd a casino was in there. I walked in for a minute but couldn’t walk through because I can’t stand the energy of casinos and people gambling.

I searched for another way out but couldn’t find one. I ended up walking through the casino and finally getting out. Exhausting.

Some friends pick me up and we drive around town for a bit. I keep thinking I told this man I’d meet him and didn’t think I wanted to. Hours later we ended up at some storage units where I was suppose to meet him.

I had given him my word so I was thinking I’d tell him I changed my mind but really I didn’t want to deal with it at all. But I kept going back and forth because he was so good looking, lol. I finally thought to myself that I was worth more than sex at a storage unit, how he had flirted with other women and it didn’t make me special that he chose me but probably gullible instead. Also that I wasn’t even worth some romance with the two places he had picked. I told myself no way, I didnt care how good looking he was bc this now made him ugly. I left knowing he’d be stood up. I woke.

My Interpretation
I want to approach this dream from the point of view of each character in the dream being part of your mind.Men usually go more with actions and women going more with emotions usually.

The dream starts out in the library. Usually the way a dream starts out usually tells us what it’s going to be about. Right off the bat the dream is emphasizing learning and knowledge and you were flirting with the idea of gaining more knowledge. Having sex in a dream is a sign of integration. But this integration never really happens in this dream. The problem is that the man isn’t worth integrating with. He is a trickster, manipulator who does not have your best interest at heart.

This dream is a major caution against going after what looks good. The first place he wants to have sex with you is in a high place in an attic. A building frequently can correspond with the dreamer to some extent in which case this is talking about your mind and your higher ideals probably.

You are caught in the attic and asked to leave because there are other parts of yourself that do not want you to lower your standards.

Going to the casino is interesting. I think the dream is screaming that you don’t want to gamble yourself on shallow circumstances.

Being asked to have sex in storage units is not only doubling down on it being dingy and the lowering of your self esteem, but I think the dream is expressly saying it wants you to put this memory in storage, they want you to remember this lesson and not compromising yourself excessively.

All in all, the dream is emphasizing deepening yourself through learning and knowledge and warning you about rationalizing yourself into compromising situations. It is explicitly warning you about being lured by what looks good rather than gaining knowledge (the library).

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What does a shopping mall, a candle, socks and money mean in a dream?

Taking Care of Business
Taking Care of Business

Dream 378: Taking Care of Business

A woman had the following dream:

“I was walking around a mall alone. I was going around and around the same shops like I was trying to find a special one but never could. Then I finally found it and it looked like a clothing and candle shop.

I went in immediately searching for a cobalt blue candle. I wanted the largest one I could find with 3 wicks. I was smelling them and the smells were vivid and I found one I wanted.

Then I was standing near the checkout and there were some long single chain necklaces. I searched thru them until I found a long gold chain with a feather charm on the end. I went to grab it but as I did some other woman grabbed it too. We debated for a bit who had it first and she let me have it.

So I went back to the checkout counter and realized I had lost my shoes. I had been wearing white socks with colorful Nike sandals. I don’t ever do that. But seemingly someone took my sandals when I had taken them off debating the necklace issue.

A guy who worked there confronted me asking where my shoes were. Then he said show me the bottom of your feet. He wanted to see if I had been walking in the grass in my socks. When I raised my foot it was covered in grey dirt not green.

Then I started talking to a guy standing in line in front of me and he was making a payment on something that the store was charging him interest on. He had a large check that he showed me was written out for $3333.”

My Interpretation

One thing I’ve found to be almost always be true is that if you have a dream about a shopping mall, the dream usually is going to be talking about how you have been mauled in a business, career, or financial sense.

Looking for a candle implies you are always trying to look for the light in a business situation and usually you are able to sniff out what is right. You have to compete with other people who may be onto the same thing, but usually you can convince others to see it your way. Looking for a candle implies you always try and look for the light in the business situation and usually are able to sniff out what is right.

You have to compete with other people who may be on to the same thing, but usually you can convince others to see it your way.

Cobalt blue usually would go with mental activity and speaking out loud according to the chakra system if I looked at the concept of blue in a broad sense.

You can usually sniff out what is good and is likely to lead to change (smelling the candles and three is the number of change as there are 3 wicks).

I like the interpretation of the golden necklace with a feather being having valuable intuitive ability that you can bet your neck on (the necklace) and that can take wing(the feather).

The debate with the woman indicates the you can usually convince others to see it your way for your own advantage.

Socks are usually protective as are sandals in getting you to where you need to go. It is interesting that these are white socks. White is the most spiritual color that there is.

The whole thing about the socks and the grass and the dirt and the Nikes I believe indicates that you are willing to do what needs to be done and do not necessarily do things just to look good.

You sometimes and probably more often are more willing to do the dirty work (the grey on the socks) than to do things for your own personal growth (the green from plants on the bottom of your socks). You focus on getting the job done and not necessarily protecting yourself excessively and are willing to make yourself vulnerable to a degree.

The final image of the guy paying off the $3333 debt he was being charged interest on is perhaps one of the most interesting aspects of this dream. Money is energy in dreams. It can be money itself but it also can be energy that other people have loaned you in in this case.

The dream is emphasizing that you need to pay back the favors you’ve been given before they end up costing you too much. It could end up costing you more if people feel that you have not shown enough interest.

3 is the number of change and you have four 3’s. I believe the dream might be saying that if you change this aspect and pay off the favors early, it will lead to stability because 4 is the number of stability as there are four legs on a table, four legs on a chair, four directions, four seasons, etc.

This is a nicely done and well rounded dream about how to conduct your career/business/financial aspects of your life.

Feedback from the Dreamer

The dreamer gave me the following feedback:

“Steven-this is pretty awesome! I wanna show u how accurate. Hugely mauled over at work but also benefiting from it and competing not for the same position but to do the same work..long story and it’s incredibly draining has been for months. My intuition is always spot on especially regarding others’ intentions. I have a hard time verbalizing that and sharing my insights and hold back on speaking about it especially lately and even when asked. I always over exert myself and energy in order to ‘get the job done’ re: the dirt not green. The check for $3333 was interesting and I remember thinking he bought an engagement ring with it and was making payments. Although I did recently have a reiki session and now I’m wondering if I need to be repaying them or the universe in some way to pay it forward.”

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What if you have a series of dreams close together? Can these dreams all be about the same thing?

Dreams can bring out the warrior in your woman
Dreams can bring out the warrior in your woman

Dream 377: I have an idea, I think it is right, and I can do it myself, thank you

A woman had the following series of dreams:

“I had a series of vivid dreams of late.
1. Brushing my hair and clumps of hair fall out asking with pieces of my scalp, which starts to bleed.
2. Surprisingly didn’t know I was pregnant until I went into labor (luckily at a hospital) I end up running from staff to give birth privately in an unused room alone, without help.
3. I make candy and have one recipe I’ve used so often that I know it by heart. In this dream as I tell someone the recipe, a complete stranger shows up in the doorway to insist that my ingredients are wrong. For some reason I can’t let it go, I just keep arguing why I’m right.”

My Interpretation

I love series of dreams. Frequently a series of dreams that occur closely together may be talking about the same issues. I view what is described below as a consolidation of the information.

1. Losing hair can mean worries about having the power to do something. This is something a little different because you were actually losing pieces of your scalp with it. To me, I was wondering if you initially had concern whether you had the right idea about something.

2. Having a baby can be symbolic of starting a new project, a new idea, new venture, etc. Insisting on having the baby alone may actually be advice from your subconscious to pursue the project, idea, or venture alone without other people disrupting the idea.

3. You have a sweet idea of how to nurture others (candy) that you have carried for a long time. You are convinced about the rightness of the idea and can defend it to others (the argument with the stranger).

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What does having sex with intuitive people in dreams mean?

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Dream 371: Going Crazy on You

A woman had the following dream:

“I dreamed the other night that I helped two guys who became infatuated with me. (This actually happens to me a lot in life.) There were two other guys there that were my friends in the dream and they looked at me like I knew better and why did I help further knowing better. I signaled back “I know, I know”. We didn’t need words because they were my intuition side. I got rid of the infatuated boys and became incredibly attracted to the intuitive ones. We had very intimate sex. I then ended up at a hospital to help deliver a baby with them and after got to see all the new-born babies in the hospital.”

My Interpretation

This would be seen as your integrating intuitive action parts of yourself. Sex between a man and a woman is usually seen as integration of actions (men) and emotions (women) as each character is a part of the dreamer’s psyche.

The first part of the dream where you are involved with two nerdy men basically is asking the question, “Why are you wasting your time with them or with those aspects of your life?”

Sex usually represents integration with the different part of yourself that you are having sex with. Integrating the different intuitive aspects leads to a whole new part of your psyche, the new baby. The thought would be since the dreamer was a female having sex with two intuitive men, that she was integrating two intuitive action parts of her mind.

This integration could be stimulated by any of several different actions. Such actions would include discussion with other intuitive people (probably men in this case or it could be the action parts of women’s minds). Watching intuitive movies, honing intuitive skills, psychic abilities, reading new age books and out-of-body travel would be examples of intuitive actions. A strong spirituality is probable.

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What does sex mean in dreams? Does the kind of sex make any difference?

Women and emotions
Women and emotions

Dream Question 370: A female dreamer asked: What does it mean if you dream that you have sex with someone almost identical to yourself?

Sex at the first level usually means integration especially if it was good consensual sex. If you have a dream where you are having sex with someone who is identical to yourself, how the act was performed would make substantial difference in my world.

Let’s say the act was very loving, then the dream would be signaling that you were integrating love into yourself. If the act was aggressive but none the less satisfying, the dream would be signaling either that you have integrated some aggressive impulses into your personality, or the dream maybe advising for some reason that you integrate some aggression more into your personality. This isn’t necessarily bad, because it’s aggression that gives us the get up and go to accomplish things. It just has to be controlled by other parts of the personality.

The more intimate the sexual act, the more integrated it is. Having sex with an identical self is rather awesome in a way because it is saying that you really don’t need any other person other than yourself. Women usually represent an emotional part of the dreamer, and since the dreamer was a woman, the emphasis is on emotional integration. If the dreamer were a man, the dream would be emphasizing integrating his actions since men tend to go more with action parts of the mind.

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What is the Divine Child archetype in dreams?

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Dream 367: Giving the Divine Child archetype some spiritual courage
A young man had the following dream in his own words:

“I was walking beside a girl in a part of my dream last night. She was very sweet. As we were walking into a building I felt a presence behind her.

I looked back and there was a woman dressed in dark holding a gun to her.

I put my hand on the spine of the girl I was beside and humbly whispered ‘in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit.’

Nothing more

Nothing less

And in that moment a light flashed over the girl with the gun and she put it down and said in a similar tone as mine when I spoke. She said ‘thank you.’

I smirked at her in a loving but strong way and walked the girl into the building she was going into.”

Interpretation

Assuming that the girl was a child, it was probably the Divine Child archetype. The Divine Child carries all our hopes, dreams and wishes for the future, like Jesus Christ did. It often is a blue-eyed blonde-haired little girl between the ages of 3 and 11. It can be other physical features, but these are the most frequent in our culture.

The girl as a Divine Child archetype would represent positive emotions and hoped for plans for the future. Women usually represent an emotional part of the dreamer. A woman with a gun is shadow aggressive/negative emotions.

The dreamer put his hand on her spine and say something very spiritual. The dream is saying that strong spirituality helps him stand up to negative emotions, it helps him have more spine.

The dreamer in the dream is acting as the heroic masculine which is usually the part of the personality that is involved in healing. It takes the action necessary to heal the person or make them better. In this case, the heroic masculine is lending his strength to Divine Child emotionality so that his plans can be actualized and come into reality.

When the Heroic Masculine lends it’s strength in performing healing action to the Divine Child, the Self can only say “thank you” that Shadow emotions were overcome and vanquished.

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What do soldiers, convicts, hospitals, and injections mean in a dream?

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Dream 362: The Heroic Masculine Wants to Heal

In a dream, the dreamer who was a man was in a medical facility escorting a young soldier to an operation. A dark haired lady and another fellow were pushing the soldier along on a cart. The dreamer somehow knew the two physicians were actually escaped convicts. The soldier was given a syringe of something and passed out.

Interpretation

Dreams at a medical facility or physicians are often about healing. Each person in a dream usually represents a part of your mind with men going more with actions and women going more with emotions. The convicts would be shadow parts of the personality that are imposters.

A soldier typically represents the heroic masculine because he is willing to die for his country. This part of the personality is often a healing action part–it is a part of the dreamer that is usually involved in implementing the healing actions. The problem is that he is wounded and needs genuine help and not imposters.

The syringe that causes him to pass out is a phoney cure. The implication is that the dreamer has been wounded and is trying to get healing, but is taken advantage of by imposters that do not have his best interests at heart. There is an implication that the dreamer is looking for a substance or force outside himself for healing that causes him not to be conscious (the soldier passes out) of his best interests. The remedy is not to believe imposters posing as healers who are criminally minded. The bottom line may be a warning to rely more on his own internal strength or soul.

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What does breastfeeding a baby mean in a dream?

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Dream 361: It’s Your Baby!

A woman had a dream that another woman had an infant about 6 months old that she wanted the dreamer to breast feed. The woman wanted to give the baby to the dreamer so that the dreamer could feed this 6 month old baby. The dreamer said that in the dream her breasts were full with milk, but when she tried to feed the baby, the baby would not let her feed it and kept reaching for its mother.

Interpretation

When we have a new idea, a new project, or a new creation, people often say, “it’s your baby.” If it were my dream, I would take it as a sign that there is a new idea or project that someone came up with that my subconscious does not want me to nurture, that the new project or idea needs to be owned and nurtured by its creator.

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What does Mary the mother of God, trees and walnuts represent in a dream?

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Dream 359: Please Listen to Me

A woman reported the following dream:

“I dreamed I was in robes in a desert town in front of a very old brick building. I was pleading with those passing by to believe in what Jesus was trying to teach them. From the crowd someone yelled Mary you don’t know what you’re talking about. My dream then transported me to a more modern home I was in a large desert field with my husband and we were looking at the only thing growing in it which was a Walnut tree. My husband said he wanted to chop it down. He did not want to clean up walnuts every year. (not like him at all by the way) I protested and I got my way.”

Interpretation

It is a very archetypal dream as it invokes Jesus. The dreamer was called Mary who was the mother of Jesus. She was trying to proselytize and spread the Faith. She was not being listened to enough and being heckled by some.

Then the dream moved to the walnut tree. Each person and each living thing in a dream is a part of your mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Her husband would represent an action part of her mind. Males typically go with an action part of the mind while women tend to go more with emotional parts.

Her husband probably represented the part of her that carried out her ideas, the part of her that put her ideas in motion. A tree is a symbol of integration as it opens to the sky, sends roots deep into the earth, and is with you on the surface. It gives off a nutrient which is a walnut which symbolically is the fruit of her integration and higher thoughts.

The dream is drawing a similarity between Mary not being listened to and so many walnuts being wasted each year. It may be that it felt like not enough people were absorbing her message. She could be feeling subconsciously that the valuable life-giving message she had to give that would nurture people (the walnut) was being wasted or ignored too much, that she even may have felt heckled sometimes.

The action part of her that spread these valuable messages, represented by her husband in the dream, gets tired and frustrated with her efforts not being appreciated enough. The dream ends on a positive note as she convinced that action part of herself to carry on in spreading the fruit of her labors.

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What does going to the beach, the ocean, land, and your mother wanting to talk to you mean in a dream?

Where conscious thoughts merge with subconscious desire
Where conscious thoughts merge with subconscious desire

Dream 357: Where the Land Meets the Sea

“I had a dream last night. We, my husband and I were driving to the beach and as usual We took a wrong turn. We kept driving and although I became a little impatient Jim assured me that he knew where he was going. We turned down a small Ocean front road and followed the road until the end, We pulled into a driveway of a cozy little beach cottage and I asked him why we were there. Our destination was at least 25 miles away. He just smiled and said he wanted to surprise me. I knocked on the door and an old friend of mine Gay answered the door. I saw a long red sofa and a woman was walking from the hallway very angry,she didn’t speak but walked up and down the hallway. Gay told me to come out to the patio and sit for a while and when we opened the door the place was beautiful. All white wicker furniture,flowers everywhere,you could here the ocean roar and the birds sing. The sun was bright but it was as if the heat from it was filtered. I saw a woman walk towards me from the side and smile. It was my Mother who I had lost 19 yrs. ago. She looked so healthy and at peace and gave me a warm hug. She kept saying she was where she should be and was ok. She also said she needed to tell me something but my alarm clock thought otherwise.”

Interpretation

The dream starts out that she is going to the beach with her husband. Both an emotional part of her mind(herself as a woman) and an action part of her mind (often represented by a husband in a dream) are going to a place where consciousness meets the subconscious, the beach.

Land usually represents the conscious, while the best symbol we have for the subconscious is the ocean. Every character is a part of the dreamer’s mind with men representing actions and women representing emotions usually. That is not always true, but is usually the case.

The beach is the place where one works out conflicts and integrates the subconscious with the conscious world. She does not make it to the beach. She stops 25 miles inland which is to say the dream is addressing how things are done consciously now.

She meets an old friend Gay who is a woman. Gay represents something very close to herself and the red couch indicates passion is involved as red is usually either intense love or intense anger. In this case, I think the dream is going to talk about her need for romance.

The place becomes very beautiful and romantic and idyllic. She meets her beloved mother whom I suspect wants to tell her how to integrate her conscious word with her subconscious emotions, i.e., she might be wanting to give the dreamer advice about how to merge romance into her everyday life especially if she was good at doing that in her own life.

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What does a rat, dust, urine, stairways, a baby carriage, and a dead mouse mean in a dream?

Stairways + rat = sexual mistreatment?
Stairways + rat = sexual mistreatment?

Dream 353: Working It Out

A young adult woman dreamed that she and some acquaintances spent the night in a house. Her work supervisor’s boss was with them. They climbed never-ending stairs that were scary and increasingly narrow.

They arrived in a dark attic. They were exhausted and piled into bed to sleep. She later woke up within the dream and it was light out.

She could now see clearly in the room and was horrified. The room was filthy because it was covered with dirt and dust. She saw a dead mouse on the floor.

She walked to a bathroom. She saw a baby carriage. An overwhelming smell of urine pervaded the atmosphere like what you might smell in a bad nursing home.

She then saw a very large rat sniffing around the baby carriage. She worried about the baby. She started choking because the dust was so thick in the air. The dream ended with her intensely blowing her nose to get rid of the dust buried in her lungs.

Interpretation

This is a classic type of dream. Each character represents a part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Her supervisor’s boss was a part of her that’s in charge of her overall work life, career life, or financial life.

There are several things that Freud said that were uncanny. One of them was that when there are stairways , it usually involves sex because going upstairs is rhythmic activity that ends in a climax.

There are many signs that the dream involved being sexually mistreated in the past. Climbing the stairs was harrowing, confined, and she felt horrified at some point in the dream. Also dust is “old dirt” that implies that the body was violated, i.e., the Biblical injunction that “to dust though shall return.”

The mouse was dead which indicated how it may have affected her instincts back then, i.e. she probably felt small and lifeless.

The baby carriage implied reproduction (sex). Water is almost always emotion in dreams. Urine is water that we no longer need, i.e., negative emotion.

The nursing home implied that this happened a while ago. The supervisor’s boss being involved signaled that it either happened in a work area of her life or was affecting the work area of her life now. At the end of the dream, the dream became dramatic and indicated the dust or “old dirt” was taking the air out of her, i.e., that it was taking the joy out of some area in her life.

Another uncanny image Freud talked about appearing in dreams was a rat, which often involved sexual mistreatment because it is an image of what the perpetrator is. All in all, the dream was implying that there was some sexual mistreatment that occurred in the past that was taking some life or joy out of the work area of her life.

Reaction and Feedback from the Dreamer

“Whoa my mind is blown. I have to ponder over this one for a while…your summary at the end nails it but it’s in such a way I never would ever have thought of it like that! Possibly sex related mistreatment in the way past that has influenced me even now to be getting in the way of something I could do to better myself career wise but hesitate based on the impact and dependence the trauma caused in me.”

What does a museum, construction ladder, climbing walls, and the circle of life mean in a dream?

Climbing the walls like a centipede
Climbing the walls like a centipede

Dream 352: Guard the Circle of Life

 

The following is a dream I interpreted as a moderator on Dale Miesen’s Facebook Power of Dreams page. The dreamer is an adult woman in the post is presented in the form it was posted to the Power of Dreams.

“I am in China somewhere in a city, with some man I know, possibly a friend, he tells me to wait while he has to go into a Museum to get something, I ask to go with him because I Love Museums, yet he tells me to wait at the bus stop nearby, so I wait, and wait, then a small chinese girl butts into this dream and tells me the most awesome story of how the stars or rain comes down to earth and turns into the salmon then into bubbles that protect the water? something like the circle of life story really beautiful, then I am at the bus stop again, yet get the inkling to climb the Museum walls to get a view of the city? and while looking around, this bubble centipede is coming up the wall past me as I look down and there’s this little girl playing on a sort of huge construction ladder that she shouldn’t be on, and the centipede is attempting to rescue her.”

Interpretation

The museum implies aesthetic interests. You are “climbing the walls” looking for something interesting. The Chinese girl usually represents emotions the dreamer is trying to figure out as women most often go with emotions, and some say the Chinese are inscrutable. The moral of the Pocahontas-like story is that natural things, living things, and little things are very important in the circle of life. The implication is that these are the things that the dream wanted her to pay attention to.

It wanted her to focus on living things like the little centipede which may seem unimportant at times but which are actually very important for life. Her subconscious did not want her to get distracted thinking about trying to climb to the top in her work life. The ladder implies climbing to the top and the fact that it is a construction ladder emphasizes that the danger is in going back to heavy work.

The worries she had about the girl in the dream is the worry she has about herself doing work that may not be right. The dream would rather that she focus on living aesthetic seemingly little things rather than taking too many risks thinking of doing heavy work. The circle of life was very important in her life now.

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What does a young woman and an old lady carrying your girlfriend away mean in a dream?

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Dream 350: My Love Gets Carried Away

An adult man dreamed that his girlfriend was being carried away by a young woman and an old lady. Something kept him from being able to reach his girlfriend to stop them from carrying her away.

Interpretation

Each character in the dream can represent a part of the dreamer’s mind. Women tend to go with the dreamers emotions. Young attractive women typically represent beautiful emotions.

An old lady is typically thought of as being a Crone which is an archetype of wisdom in old age and experience. An archetype is a pattern of thought that is repetitive throughout human consciousness. This dream is about how the dreamer’s emotions could get carried away.

He seemingly fears losing a lover after he has invested all of his emotions in her. His greatest fear probably is that this would happen and there was nothing he could do about it. It sounds like he is worried about losing the love of his life.

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What does a Unicorn, flight and thorny bushes mean in a dream?

 

Run for the Roses
Run for the Roses

Dream 348: I Never Promised You a Rose Garden

A woman dreamed she rode a unicorn through a series of thorn bushes and meet a stranger that offered her help. The unicorn disappeared. There was a direction marker pointing south. A stranger appeared who was covered with oil. The stranger who was anointed with oil offered her the great advice that she herself could fly and did not need the unicorn in order to fly. Then she flew away and woke up.

Interpretation

Animals represent instinctive processes. A horse often represents female sexual power. Men have dreams of horses far less often than women. The unicorn brings the element of magic.

The dream portends that the dreamer’s journey through romantic relationships has been thorny. She had been hurt by galloping through situations that she hoped would magically lead to growth (bushes are plants), but had mostly led to her being hurt (the thorns). It is interesting that the most romantic flower, roses, grow on thorny bushes.

I like the idea of the stranger being sacred advice because he is anointed with oil. Being male, he is likely to be offering advice about future actions rather than it being strictly emotional advice. North is at the top of a map and in my mind would imply flight in this case. It is not a usual symbol, but I believe the emphasis is on not letting things “go south,” i.e., get even more negative, by magically hoping that her instincts would get her to where she wanted to go.

The revelation is that she could take flight, which has spiritual implications of her finding her higher self rather than hoping that following her instincts will magically lead her to higher ground away from thorny situations.

This dream was a gift and was giving specific information. If she was recovering from a relationship, or looking for a relationship, the implication was for her to take time out and focus on her higher self.

What does a wedding and vomit mean in a dream?

Actions and Emotions Become One
Actions and Emotions Become One

Dream 330: Don’t Go Downhill

A man dreamed he was at an outside wedding. He was dressed formally for the wedding and was uphill from the outside dance floor. He and his friends were uphill from Bob who was throwing up repeatedly. Bob in reality was in a relationship that he wanted to take through college, but everyone thought the relationship was unlikely to work.

One of his friend’s (George) was completing an apprenticeship to become a pastor. His father was passively rich and very financially successful from the stock market. George’s father came down from higher ground to scream and shout at George.

Interpretation

The setting of a dream frequently indicates what type of issues are going to be addressed by the dream. At the first level of dream interpretation, each character represents a different part of yourself. Men characters tend to go more with action part of the mind while women characters often go with subconscious emotions. A wedding most often signals integration within the dreamer because a wedding is the union of male (actions) with female (emotions).

The part of the dreamer similar to Bob is a part of his mind that should give up on relationships that are not good and are unhealthy. This part of the dreamer was in danger of going downhill if he doesn’t rid himself of negative emotions.

Vomit is a combination of water and food. Water in dreams is invariably emotions. Food is nurture.

Vomit is spoiled nurture that is no longer good for us and must be expelled. The dream was saying to get rid of negative relationships because it would bring the dreamer downhill otherwise. His friend Bob who is also a part of the dreamer’s mind was getting rid of something that was once nurturing, but was no longer good and was just making him sick.

In any case, the dream was  advice for now or for the future. George’s father reprimanding George for becoming a pastor was his inner father introject that wanted him to succeed financially. This father introject didn’t want him to do too many altruistic things that were too self-sacrificing.

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What do ghosts and horses mean in a dream?

Riding Away the Ghosts of the Past

Dream 322: Riding Stress Away

A woman dreamed that she owned a mansion with a stable that were haunted. She made an agreement with the ghosts that if they left her alone, she would not exorcise them. She thoroughly cleaned and decorated the house.

There were many dead animals in her dream as well. They still had all their body parts with the same colors and fur, but they did not breathe.

For months this was a nightmare, but it eventually transformed into a place she loved to visit in her dreams. Her haunted farm became a place of peace and fulfillment.

Interpretatin

Ghosts are often memories of the past because it is like we can be haunted by memories of the past. It is one of the interpretations that Freud was right on. Of course he was not right on everything, but some things he was stunningly right on. That horses often represent female sexual power was one of them.

In any case, animals usually represent basic instincts or drives. It sounded like her instincts had been deadened. She was comfortable with it because her past was a bit wild.

In any case, it sounded like had dealt with her past. She was now at peace. The farm is a natural place suggesting she was more grounded perhaps than in the past.

The dreamer confirmed this interpretation. She noted that her past was somewhat wild. She had recently come to terms with her past. She did it by contemplating and riding horses on a farm. This dream was a condensation because it was true on both a symbolic and concrete level.

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What does being stabbed in the heart mean in a dream?

I cannot believe how I have been hurt
I cannot believe how I have been hurt

Dream 315: You Actually Did That!

A woman dreamed that she was asleep in the dream. Someone was sneaking up on her with a knife. She woke up just as they went to stab her in the heart. She dreamed that she woke up as the person was completing actually stabbing her in the heart. She later indicated that the attacker was a hooded figure.

Interpretation

Being stabbed in the heart often means that the dreamer has been hurt and has heartache over either words or actions. Being asleep in a dream usually means that the dreamer was unconscious or unaware of what led up to the hurt, but she suddenly woke up while being stabbed which usually indicates sudden awareness and shock that the hurtful actions and/or words are occurring right in front of her.

The first level of dream interpretation is always the hardest but potentially the most beneficial.  At this first level, where you consider each character to be a part of the dreamer’s psyche, a hooded figure like that is often the dreamer’s shadow. We think of it as being the aggressive part which is used for self-protection and usually is the main part that changes in therapy.

If the dream is looked at in that way,  her shadow could be urging her to wake up and have a change of heart because she was  hurt.  The shadow wants to get  her out of the situation. Messages from the shadow are almost always dramatic and this may or may not apply to the dreamer’s situation.

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What does a heart attack mean in a dream?

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Dream 312: You’re Tearing Me Apart

A man in his thirties dreamed that he had a heart attack. Nurses were feverishly trying to revive him with electric paddles.They put one pole of charge on his heart, and mistakenly put the other pole on his hip.

Because when paddle was mistakenly put on his hip, a huge blister developed there. There was so much pressure from the blister that he told the nurses to cut his underwear so that the blister did not burst. The blister took the shape of a heart.

Interpretation

What an interesting dream this is. I’m going to throw out many hypotheses because there’s so many ways these symbols could go in the configuration presented. The only thing that seemed certain was that the dreamer’s feelings had been hurt deeply in some way recently, i.e., it looked like someone had broken the dreamer’s heart.

Nurses are healers. Electricity of course is energy. The hips are near the first chakra and near the genitals. So the configuration of this dream looked like connecting the dreamer’s heart energy with physical desire by mistake led to the dreamer’s feelings being hurt.

Water is emotion. Blisters are full of water that comes from yourself and are a healing reaction to hurt. Having the underwear cut away because of pressure suggests feeling exposed and hurt related to desire somehow.

The blister taking the shape of a heart reinforces the feeling of being hurt emotionally. There were so many ways the details of this dream could be interpreted depending on circumstances. There were many questions that could be posed.

For instance, were nurses actually involved in some way? Did the dreamer’s beloved die of illness? Was his being hurt related to sex or to a sexual relationship in some way?

These were all very invasive questions, but I felt like the meaning of this dream would become fairly obvious if we knew the details which only the dreamer knew for sure.

Feedback

After hearing the above interpretation, the dreamer told me his girlfriend was a nurse. They were going through a painful separation. She was physically ill.

She was pushing him away. She did not think she could give him everything he needed in a relationship. Her misgivings eventually led to the separation. The dreamer felt that the interpretation fit the situation.

What do closets, warehouses and storage units mean in dreams?

What can I use from my past?
What can I use from my past?

Storage areas in a dream such as warehouses,closets, storage facilties and even junkyards in some cases, typically represent influences in our mind or psyche. These things are “real” in the sense of being psychological memories, abilities, personal qualities and/or defenses we have stored in our minds. Dreams frequently rummage through these assets from the past to see if there is anything in our personal inventory that we can use in our present life situation. The dream that follows is an example of our subconscious taking inventory of our personal assets through a dream.

Dream 310: I Think About Things I Could Use From the Past, (but it makes me so angry)

A woman dreamt she had a dream that she lived on an army post. She saw a whole bunch of furniture and clothes right in front of her door. Some woman was leaving from her storage unit and had items that the dreamer owned in her hands.

The dreamer was puzzled. She was trying to figure out why this woman felt she had the right to take her personal items. At least one of the items was given to the dreamer by her mother. The dreamer felt hurt and angry that these things were being taken from her.

The dreamer was outraged. She was so angry that she was ready to physically fight the lady. The dreamer then woke up crying with a tremendous headache.


Interpretation

The dream begins at an army post. The army is part of the Department of Defense.  So the dream announced at the beginning that it was going to be about the dreamer’s defenses.

A house can represent the dreamer because it is the framework out of which the dreamer lives. Clothing represents defenses usually because it is what we present to the outside world.  Each character in the dream is usually a part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level.

This was a part of the dreamer’s psyche trying to look through her past and trying to see what was of value. In dreams storage facilities are frequently memory storage of our past. When storage areas are being rummaged through, typically the dreamer’s shadow is trying to find what could be of value there.

This is a shadow with a double entendre. That is, it may possibly be saying that her anger is getting in the way of retrieving valuable assets, defenses and personal qualities she had from the past. This is complicated by the possibility that anger over things that happened in the past may be getting in the way of using what was valuable from those difficult experiences.

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Dream Condensation and the Many Different Levels of Dreams

The Many Different Levels of Dreams
The Many Different Levels of Dreams


Dream Information 299:
Dreams have many levels:

(1) The intrapsychic level involves the psychodynamic processes within the person themselves. At this first level, each person or creature in the dream represents a part of the dreamer’s psyche. Females signal the dreamer’s emotions, while males are associated with behavior. One can literally think of the characters/creatures/animals in a dream representing different parts of the dreamer’s psyche–either an emotional (female) or an action (male) part of the psyche.

This is at once the most difficult and most fruitful level of dream interpretation. One has to discipline oneself to see this level because the natural human tendency is to go to the second and interpersonal level of dream interpretation. At this first level, it is hard to see each character in the dream as part of the dreamer because one enters an endless hall of mirrors. For example, at the first level, the dreamer’s wife in the dream typically represents the emotional part of the dreamer’s mind that deals with his wife. (to be continued)

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What does a baby mean in a dream?

What's new is your life?
What’s new in your life?

Dream Answer 298: Babies are almost always good news in dreams. They typically signal new growth in the dreamer of either new emotional (girl babies) or new behavior (boy babies). The following dream indicated new emotional growth:

An adult woman dreamed that she saw a spirit (baby-like) floating up in the corner of her bedroom near the ceiling. She staring at it trying to figure out what to do when her chihuahua, who was also looking at it, turned to her and said “you see it, just speak to it”. So she asked “who are you” and it materialized into a flower (like a daisy) against her wall.

Interpretation

Each person or creature in a dream is a part of the dreamer’s psyche at the first level. Females tend to go with emotions. Males tend to be associated with behavior. A baby represents a new part of the mind/psyche.

Floating or flying typically takes on spiritual meaning. Floating indicates usually an activated energy that is hanging above the dreamer. The emotional change that the new female baby portends is likely to happen soon when it is floating which is a peaceful and serene form of flying.

Dogs typically go with the dreamer’s affections and are associated with loyalty and protection. The dog gives you advice in the sense of urging you to speak to activate this new emotional part of you. Specifically, the dreamer was urged to speak directly about what she sees going on to others (“you see it, just speak it”).

The baby turning into a flower indicated that her new emotional growth was beautiful. The flower went against her “wall” which indicated she was going to be less defensive. The new emotional growth on the verge of entering the dreamer’s life was that she was becoming less defensive by speaking out directly about what she sees going on. She was being urged to be less defensive and to be more assertive. The dream wanted her to speak her truth.

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The Whole Enchilada

The Hot Enchilada
There Are Many Ways To Be Hot

Dream 293:A 32-year-old woman dreamt that she was an enchilada in a pan with other enchiladas on both sides of her. She was suffocatingly hot. She was so hot that she actually woke up to find her cat and her husband on each side of her.

Interpretation

This dream was true on both the physical and emotional levels of dream interpretation. She woke up because she was physically hot as the heat was turned up in her house and she was between the bodies of her cat and husband. Many people interpreting dreams would stop with the physical interpretation. That is most often a mistake.

While the physical interpretation is certainly true, the emotional interpretation of this dream was also accurate. She was a very nurturing person to her family which is why she appears as food in the dream. Food is psychological nurture in dreams. She admitted that she was “hot” in the sense that her husband had not had sex with her for awhile.

In this case the word “hot” took on multiple meanings. She was “hot” in the sense that she was good-looking. She was “hot” because she had not had sex for a while. Finally her anger toward her husband was a “hot” emotion. To disregard the psychological meaning of this dream would have missed a lot.

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The Right and Left Stairways

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Dreams 289: A man in his early forties dreamed that he was talking to some girls when he was in high school in New York. It was very casual and relaxed conversation in a restaurant located at the top of a mansion. When he left, he found himself at the top of stairs on a landing where there was a stairway to his right and there was a stairway to his left.

He went down the left stairway and knew somehow that he had to use a phone. He then went down the right stairway and found a woman that looked like his wife. She was pretty and looked like his wife. He thought she looked depressed as she was leaning forward on her arms with her forearms resting on the table. He then saw the girls he was talking to earlier pass by in the distance.

Interpretation

This dream is all about communication with his wife. Stairs invariably represent sex because it is a rhthymic activity that ends in a climax. The left tends to be associated in ancient India with subconscious emotions, while the right usually represents conscious activity. The dream is emphasizing the importance of communication in their sex life.

Restaurants are where people are physically and psychologically nourished. The dream is saying that there was something about the way he communicated with those girls in New York that would be useful in his marriage, that there was something about that type of communication that would be especially nourishing in his marriage.

Movement in this dream is down stairways because their sex life was a “downer.” Movement down the left involves emotion. A phone is at the bottom of this stairway to emphasize the importance of communication.

The right is associated with conscious action. In this case, his depressed wife at the bottom of these stairs represented disappointment over the lack of sexual action, intimacy, in his marriage. The dream ends by recommending interaction with his wife like he had with the New York girls that pass in the distance.

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Commitment

A Commitment Is Forever
A Commitment Is Forever
Dream 287: A 47-year-old man dreamed that he and his wife were on a beach. They took their wedding rings off and threw them into a pleasantly rising wave in the ocean. They felt safe and relaxed.

Interpretation

A circle is the best symbol we have for the soul because it has no beginning and it has no end. A ring is circular and is worn on your finger virtually permanently. A wedding in a dream represents the integration of male and female aspects of the dreamer as it stands for a man and woman forming a committed relationship.

Water is almost always emotion. The ocean is the best symbol for subconscious emotion that there is. The dream indicated that their emotions were rising. What the dream is saying by their throwing their rings into a rising tide is that their commitment to one another was increasing and creating a new and pleasant wave of emotion. Their commitment to one another created a new wave of lasting love.

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