Dream 517: Giving a funeral for your feelings of guilt
A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed I and a friend were trapped in a house with a guy I dated briefly in my late teens. He was acting strange. Crazy almost. He had a shotgun pointed at me and was about to shoot, but my friend had one too, and shot him before he shot me. About the same time, the police burst into the house. But it was too late. She’d already killed him. We had to go to the police station and answer questions. His sisters came in. And more of his family. Then some of my family. Then we were at a church in the congregation hall. Everybody was crying. All dressed up. The funeral I’m guessing. I was holding someone’s baby and talking to another girl who was his girlfriend back in the day. We were talking about another man that I lived with that had died a few years ago by suicide and I woke up.
I often have dark morose sometimes violent dreams but why. I wake up and have a hard time getting these dreams out of my mind. Why do I dream disturbing things like this? And of course, in the dream it’s always so dramatic and vivid, and you wish you could wake up and it would end!”
Very interesting dream. I think it is probably about your feelings about how you have acted in relationships. In dreams, men tend to go with your actions and women tend to go with your emotions.
It starts out with a past relationship where he was clearly going to hurt you, but a part of your emotions correctly ended the harmful relationship.
Police usually represent your superego or conscience. The funeral with his family and comiserating with a girlfriend about a man you lived with who committed suicide (the ultimate guilt trip) are all about guilt tripping yourself over relationships that you appropriately ended.
Your subconscious is screaming that it is time to put an end to, to have a funeral for, your self-doubts and remorse over relationships that were best terminated.
You are holding a baby in the dream probably because babies can represent new beginnings or a new part of yourself. The dream may be urging you to content yourself with new positive feelings and free yourself from depressing self-doubts.
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A woman had this first of two dreams:
“So I have been having lots of visions and seeing numbers in my dreams, but the numbers come in my dreams, just showing me the numbers. First strange dream, I had a squirrel stuck on the top of my hand, and it wouldn’t shake off, till eventually it did. I was alone and outside . I can’t remember anything else in that dream, except that it was calm and sitting on my hand. In my dream, it was on my hand the minute I was in the dream.
Here are the numbers: 180, 3011,311, and ($5.95 the price of something–
don’t know what it was.)”
She described her real life situation as follows:
“I am not working currently. I finished school and I will be taking my state test for my LPN. I am looking for work, and I am taking care of my elderly parents.”
If it were my dream, the squirrel would represent saving and storing things for the future which you have done by going to school. I think it is on your hand because your hands are full and your hands are tied probably.
The numbers point to all kinds of change. Your situation took a 180 degree turn, 3 is the number of change, 0 is a full stop, the 1’s emphasize yourself. Your life was changing but came to a full stop because of your parents’ situation.
The 5.95 is interesting. Somehow it seems to be predicting or saying that you need a 9 to 5 job. There is a 9 and two 5’s= 9to5.
Second Squirrel Dream
“So how crazy can this be, I had a similar dream with myself as the squirrel. The only thing–it was a black cat with his teeth in my palm, I wasn’t bleeding either.The cat had a mean look and looking straight at me, I shook him off and it ended there. Nothing else took place that I remember. I don’t know in my dream where I was either. Another thing– in both dreams I was staying at my friend’s house when I had them.”
Second Squirrely Interpretation
Interesting images. A squirrel is an industrious creature that plans for the future. It lives in a tree which is a symbol of integration, getting your life together. A cat is a symbol of affection I believe, in this case. A black cat can be a symbol of bad luck.
Putting it together, you are an industrious little squirrel who is trying to get your life together whose hands have been tied by bad luck. You may be afraid that their will be hurt and/or angry feelings if you shake the situation off, but that is not the case because you do not get hurt.
If it were my dream, I would take it to mean that your changing the situation to pursue your ambitions without getting hurt is possible. The dream is not explicitly saying how to do it. It is simply saying it can be done in a manner that you can pursue your ambitions without causing hurt.
“So being in the same person’s house with just a different but similar dream–does it mean anything? Is it warning me of something?”
It is a heavy dream–you probably felt relaxed enough in your friend’s house to be able to have a dream that otherwise would have been repressed because of anxiety.
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“It’s always the last day of high school and the building is clearing out. The hallway is trashed. I’m getting my stuff out of my locker and going to my car. The hallways still have a few other students in it. I’ve had this dream before. What does it mean? Thanks”
It seems that dreams are fascinated with high school. I believe this is for two reasons. The main one being that it is a play on the words “high school.”
Dreams, I believe, look at high school as a metaphor for “a school for our higher self.” It is also because this is a major developmental stage in life that sets the foundation for all else that happens the rest of our lives.
I believe your subconscious is giving you a vote of confidence. I believe you have probably learned many lessons for your higher self.
This is encouragment to not dwell in the past, to clean out your locker and get in your vehicle and go forward in life.
If it were my dream, it sounds like it is encouragment to go forward when your subconscious feels that you’ve learned all the lessons from a situation, that your higher self needed to learn from a situation.
It sounded like it is a repetitive dream. Repetitive dreams are big dreams, because you’ve once again reached a stage that has happened before, a place where your subconscious feels that you’ve learned all that you can from a given situation and should move on.
So in that way, when you have a dream like this, it is both giving you recognition for what you’ve accomplished, and gives you encouragement to move forward.
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Dream 506: Surprising delivery in difficult circumstances
I usually research my dreams online and find clear answers, but my dream last night was memorable and I’m getting very mixed results.
First and foremost, I am not pregnant!
But I dreamt of having cramps during a family event and finding out a hour or so later that it was labor. I was hardly showing and confused (in real life I’ve gained about 20 pounds I’m subconscious about and in my dream I was just a little larger than my actual size in the tummy). Being with my whole family, I got rushed to a safe place and before I knew it was giving birth.
My sister, who I am struggling with having a natural relationship with, delivered the baby in one easy push. She was beautiful and I held her in my arms. She had a lot of hair for a new-born and looked right at me. She was perfect!
I don’t remember much of the rest, but of course couldn’t help but be curious. I’ve had a dream about being pregnant but never one of giving birth. Things I’ve read say it’s a change or misfortune and both ways weigh heavily in that direction. Obviously don’t want a misfortune! It felt sudden and unplanned, but like a blessing once it was all said and done.
A baby usually is giving birth to a new aspect of yourself. It is a baby girl delivered by the contrary sister. Women usually go with an emotional part of your mind.
At the first level, I would guess that the part of you that is dealing with the sister is changing in significant ways. At the second level, the dream might be signaling a condensation in the sense that if you let your sister help you “deliver,” it may open up a newly minted emotional part of yourself.
Another point of view is that a part of your emotions that is like your sister (try not to throw up) could be a shadow part of yourself that helps you deliver new and beautiful emotional perspectives.
In any case, I would take the dream as positive predictive and trying to give you credit for using a shadow part of your emotions to bring about new beginnings.
In any case, I think the dream may be saying that things improve emotionally with your family (since they all go to the hospital together with you)–hospitals are a symbol of a place where healing occurs.
Dream 505: Her shadow wants her to be more emotionally independent
A man asked me for interpretation of his girlfriend’s dream:
“My girlfriend had a dream that she was sitting in a living room (not recognizable) and a black figure was sitting across from her. No cape or cloak just like a shadow. He then grabbed her hand and as she went to talk, he put his finger in front of his mouth in a “shh” manner. She got quiet then had another dream running through the woods in fear and this black figure led her into a tree that had a door on it. Then this led to the final of the trilogy. She was once again running from something and there was a “safe room” at the end. I was in this one and trying to get her in safely. I kept waving my hand in a “cmon” manner. The black shadow man told me to go in but wouldn’t let her in. This was all in one night. 3 separate dreams, one figure in all of them seemingly trying to help her but holds her back once she gets to the safe room and tries to get to me in there. Just curious as to what this could mean. We have a few theories but not sure.”
These dreams are 3 stages of a big dream, it sounds like to me. Her shadow is definitely trying to communicate with her to get her to do what she doesn’t want to do and which the shadow believes is necessary for her to grow. They shadow frequently is the therapeutic part of your subconscious that makes you do things you don’t want to do or are denying.
In the 1st stage, this shadow is indicating that what he wants is to show her what she needs to do and not only talk about it. In other words, the shadow wants more than talk. He wants action.
In the 2nd stage of dreams, the shadow shows what the problem is. The problem is that she runs from her problems. A tree is a symbol of integration. Being on the inside of a tree is the dreams indication that the person needs to do much inner work to integrate. That is why the shadow leads her to the inside of a tree, because she is too dependent on others and needs to rely more on her own internal integration of thoughts, feelings and actions.
The 3rd stage to dreams indicates further what the shadow and her dream wants her to do to to function better. She wants to join you as a solution to her problems which could be seen as wanting to be too emotionally dependent upon you. The shadow is holding you back from doing too much emotionally for her that she should be doing for herself. She needs to find safe space within herself instead of running to a loved one’s safe room. This is said without me knowing you or the situation and probably needs considerable modification.
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Dream Question 506:What does it mean if a person who you don’t know or ever seen calls your name in a dream?
At the first level, each living thing in a dream is a part of your mind. Men tend to go with an action part of the mind, while women tend to go with an emotional part of the psyche. If it is a person you don’t recognize, it is a part of your mind that you are not familiar with, as we all have parts of ourselves that we don’t know about very well.
If it is a man, it’s usually trying to get your attention to doing some action. If it is a woman, it usually is about how you’re dealing with something emotionally. If you are able to see the person, the characteristics of the person may be informative as to what archetype is being employed by the dream.
For example, a knight in shining armor would be the heroic masculine archetype. An older fatherly figure would probably be the wise old man archetype. Shadowy or aggressive people with bad intent would be the dreamer’s shadow which is important for the dreamer to fully know.
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Dream Guest Blog Interview 505: The guest blog interview of Dr. Fox by dream interpreter Pamela Cummings is at https://learndreaminterpretation.com/2018/08/02/dream-interpretation-interview-with-dr-steven-fox/
A man dreamed that he was with a group of people. He thought they were friends, but they did not have faces. They were walking around in a building trying to get to the next floor, but then some guy came through the front door and shot him in the back of the head. He woke up right away and wondered what it meant.
Each living thing in the dream usually represents a part of of the dreamers personality. Men tend to go with action parts of the dreamer’s mind. Women tend to go with emotional parts of the dreamer’s mind. People without faces would be parts of yourself that you’re less familiar with, or at least for some reason, you don’t recognize right now within yourself.
The man that shoots you in the back of the head is notable for several reasons. The 1st being that it is an action part of the dreamer’s mind that is a causing some trouble. It would be a shadow aspect of his personality because it is violent.
The shadow is involved in change. He shoots him in the back of the head for a reason. I believe it is because that is where the occipital lobe Is located, that is the part of your brain that helps you to see.
Floors in a building typically represent different levels of consciousness. For instance, going up a flight would indicate that you’re trying to reach a higher level of consciousness, a more expanded view of the world, or at least a different view of the world.
I believe the dream is saying that there is something about the way he is looking at things that is preventing him from going to the next level of consciousness, whatever that is. It might be that he is not seeing people for who they are which would also explain why they have no faces. The shadow is saying that he has to change the way he is looking at things to go to a higher level of consciousness or a different perspective of looking at things.
The dream does not indicate what issue this would would be, although it may have some to do with school, or a financial or business area of his life, because it sounds like it is probably in a commercial building. If it is in a residence, it would indicate that the problem is more residential or close to home. Anyway, The type of building it is might give some hint as to which area of his life the dream is talking about.
The dream is going out of its way to exaggerate that he must change the way he is looking at things, that he must take decisive action to do so. I would feel this as a starting point to look at this dream as it obviously needs more fleshing out to get to specifics which at this point the dream really isn’t doing. Understanding Dreams can help prevent being blindsided by your subconscious at http://www.drstevenfox.com
“In this dream there was a woman wearing her ring on her left index finger. I asked her “are you married”, and she said yes. It was a gold wedding band. She told me that she used to wear it on her right index finger but due to swelling she had to take it off and switch to the left index finger. I told her that it’s still wrong if she’s married it should be on her left ring finger, and I told her why. I explained the heart vein finger thing, and she switched it and said thank you.
I looked up a couple of interpretations online and I don’t have my book right now so all of it is kind of jumbled. Does anybody have any insight? All is welcomed.”
There are several unusual things about this dream and when there is something out of the ordinary or not customary in a dream, the question becomes, why did the dream find it necessary to do that? Men tend to go with the dreamer’s actions while women tend to go with the dreamer’s emotions. Marriage represents the union of the dreamer’s actions with the dreamer’s emotions. A marriage represents a state of integration or having your stuff together.
A ring is a symbol of commitment. It’s made from a precious material, gold. It is circular and a circle usually represents the soul, because it has no beginning and no ending. A gold wedding band represents a precious soul commitment.
The wedding band is usually worn on the left ring finger which is the finger closest to the little finger. It started out this way because the Romans believed that the ring finger vein went directly to the heart. But this ring is worn on the index or pointer finger. Further, it is being worn on the right index finger before she is corrected.
The pointer finger points you in the right direction. The left tends to go with subconscious feelings. The right tends to go with conscious actions. Your finger swells when you been doing something too much.
I believe the dream is giving advice. The complicated part comes in when you realize that the woman in the dream represents the dreamer’s emotions.
I believe that what the dream may be saying is that the dreamer has been investing himself in conscious actions too much. The dream is screaming that he needs to take his direction from his subconscious feelings and emotions more, to go with what feels right at a soul level. Depending on your situation, it may be making recommendations about recent decisions, that it wants you to look at your inner feelings and motivations, more than what is expedient or convenient.
It is a big dream, talking about your soul commitments.
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“The dream begins in a workplace where there are multiple staff members. I am unsure of the type of work but it seems to be some sort of customer service where they help people. I was a staff member and noticed that certain people were getting promoted while others who I thought deserved it were not I believe.
After some observation I demanded to see the owner; however, I was led to a room where several supervisor staff men and women sat taking complaints via phone, and some in person trying to ease their frustrations.
I was led to a man about 5’9, medium build, grey hair, blue eyes approximately in his 60’s. He had a softness about his soul, a kindness in his eyes. I told him he would have to do, and proceeded to tell him the I didn’t believe everyone was being treated fairly. I told him since I had been there over the past few months I had been sexually assaulted. One man grabbed my butt, another my boob, and another pushed me against a wall wanting a kiss which I denied, among other flirtatious advances.
I had been quiet about it; however, now I see something in the company that did not look right. I told him I would not lower my standards any longer and I was going to take the company down in the name of all women who had ever been treated unfairly. He said he understood this.
Word got out that I was going to take the company down. Some of the women got a bit snotty with me. I assumed these were ones in a click. I said loudly that if these women had any respect for themselves, they would stand up.
I said if I had to be the only one, then I would do it for all women, until they were strong enough. I would no longer play nice with all I’ve witnessed and would no longer turn a blind eye with chuckles to wrong advancements. Some of the women stood by my side as they felt they now had the strength to do so, with my strength beside them.
I found myself in a mansion next. It was absolutely beautifully decorated, exquisite actually. I went outside to the gardens and noticed men and women gathered at a pond or lake on the property. I walked over. The women there were acting a bit odd when I arrived as if I was the talk of the place. I walked to the water and swam across it.
I got to the opposite end, stood on the grass and knew I had set a boundary line between myself and them. A man swam across to stand with me. He says “I will stand by your side because I believe in you.” He then proceeds to tell me he ate my feces and knew he could believe in me. Say what? I thought.
Next he turns on his belly and places his bossom in the air right in front of me. He asks me to wait and tells me he is going to push his feces out so I may eat of his. He says it was such an honor to eat mine and treats me like a celebrity in a sense. His offering was sincere and he told me how much it would mean to him if I did this. I could see his brown eye staring right at me as his poop very slowly began to come out. It was long and smelly. I could taste the feces in my mouth from the smell it gave.
It was between a brown, yet green color. I honestly didn’t know what to say. I didn’t want to offend him but no way in hell was I eating poop! Before I could figure out how I was going to “tastefully” reject this notion I woke.
Disgusting I thought. What the heck did THAT dream mean? Sh__ happens… maybe?
This is basically recycled poop. First it goes through the man who ate the dreamer’s feces, then it goes through the dreamer if she ate it. But the dreamer doesn’t eat it, and she was disgusted by the whole thing.
What is confusing about this, is always to think of it at the first level of dream interpretation. The person offering them recycled poop is a part of themselves. It is a apart of the dreamer she disliked. It is a part of herself that keeps dealing with the same old sh__.
The man who digested her feces is an action part of herself because men tend to go with an action part of the dreamer. So she keeps on digesting the same old stuff over and over which is disgusting and doesn’t do any good.
The message of the dream is taking in information once and digesting it and be done with it. Dreams are too graphic for us to stand most of the time which is why they are disguised. But in this particular case, the dream is going out of its way to make it disgusting, so that the dreamer will stop doing actions, which in this case, as we shall see, involves giving advice. In her case, it doesn’t do anyone any good, because the women she is advising don’t listen to any of her advice.
At the first level, the dream is about the dreamer doing actions for others over and over, that she keeps digesting the same material over and over again, and it doesn’t do any good. The dream is going out of its way to make it as disgusting as can be so that she stops giving advice to people who don’t use the advice anyway. Her actions are just exhausting her.
In the beginning of the dream the dreamer was standing up for other women, and then the poop was presented. She has a sister in her life that is being emotionally abused by her husband. The dreamer has stood by her side but is sick of her husband continuing to mistreat her. Her sister keeps telling her the same abusive stories over and over. It is obvious that she needs to leave the relationship, but she’s making no effort towards it.
The dream is emphasizing that it is disgusting that she keeps putting out energy to people who don’t listen to it. This was also happening in her work situation. Women were telling her their stories; she would give advice; and they would do the opposite or would do nothing regarding the advice.
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A man dreamed that he was walking with his mother and all of a sudden a pitbull ran out and bit her on the hand. But somehow, when she pulled her hand away, there was no wound and no bleeding. He wondered what this might mean? I, as usual, gave him an answer off the top of my head.
At the first level of dream interpretation, each a living thing represents a different part of your mind. Your mother usually goes with your emotions. Dogs and animals in general represent instinct. Dogs in particular usually represent something to do with protection and loyalty. In a dream like this, figuring out what the contradiction means is always important. The contradiction in this dream is how is it that she gets bitten, but isn’t hurt? In the dream, your mother usually represents the basis of your emotions.
A dog would represent your loyalty or protection of your emotions. I wonder if you tend to be a person who is hesitant to express anger. Because what happens is the dog does something very aggressive, but no harm is done to your emotions. In other words, I think the dream is emphasizing that you’re very worried about hurting others, but might not be standing up for yourself enough.
It is interesting that the dream is exaggerating the point by making the dog a pitbull, a dog known to be aggressive. The dream seems to be saying that it’s not going to hurt your feelings or others feelings by showing some aggression, as long as you don’t draw blood, that is, be too aggressive in your remarks or actions. I believe your dream is going out of its way to exaggerate that being more assertive wouldn’t hurt anything, especially your feelings.
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A woman had a dream that she was standing in a bucket and was being lowered into a water well. She wondered what the dream meant.
A famous Jungian dream analyst had a dream that she saw a flower grow out of a water well. The flower had to grow about 40 ft before it reached the surface and could then prosper. She wrote books for 20 years before getting one published. Her books then became best sellers and she had a whole slough of books to publish. Her name is Marion Woodman.
She always saw the dream as indicating that she had beautiful growth within her that would take a long time to emerge out into the world so it ended up being a predictive dream.
For some reason, you are being immersed in your emotions to get fully in touch with your subconscious and who you are at a root level would be part of my guess.
Another woman thought she should have as much fun as she can. She thought the dream was indicating or even recommending that the dreamer have a bucket list of things that she wanted to do. Movement downward usually represents movement towards the subconscious and the Soul, if you will.
It may well be her soul’s urging to do the things she wants before it’s too late, before she dies. Water is virtually always emotions in dream. She is being submerged into her emotions.
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Dream 477: Your subconscious wants to take you higher
A woman was having nightmares about high school continuously. She wondered what this could mean.
I’ve noticed that people of all ages like to use high school in their dreams, or their dreams like to use the high school setting. I believe it is because it is a formative time of personality.
I also think the dream is making a play of words on it being a high school, a school for your higher self. If you are having constant nightmare scenes involving high school, without knowing further content, I would guess that there are some Shadow aspects to your personality that you have not integrated into your higher self.
I would guess that the nightmares represent a struggle to try to come to some terms as to how to integrate sexual and aggressive parts of your personality into your higher self. Dreams are often an extension of problems we try to consciously work on during the day.
Her nightmares probably mean that some basic aspects of her life are
akilter, but it is hard to know which areas of her life are involved without her describing more content.
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A woman dreamed she was at her work and this big cave opened up in the parking lot. It seemed to get bigger and no matter how much dirt she got in there to cover it, it never filled up.
Movement underground in a dream tends to represent the subconscious. You are at work so it probably involves work issues. I think the dream is saying that you’re staying at where you’re working is just digging a deeper hole for yourself. Pretty dramatic and the dream is doing this to emphasize it, I think.
Dreams are always perfect. The fact that it occurs in a parking lot, I think, means that your subconscious views you as stationery at your job, as not moving ahead career-wise. This dream recommends that the woman get a new job and not stay with the company she was working for.
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Dream 467: Don’t sell yourself short or Remember who you were
A woman reported the following dream:
“I had a dream that i visited a museum with some family. In this place I met a short man who was happy to see me. I felt odd in this dream–he asked me to dance with him .
I said, “What is it, do you know me from a past life?
He replied, “Yes, we loved each other!”
He showed me a photograph from the 1800’s or so. He was taller back then. I was wearing an old Victorian-era dress. My name was written behind this picture with just a slight difference in spelling. Thank you for reading.
Each person in a dream is a part of your mind. Men usually go with an action part of the mind while women often go with an emotional part of the mind. There is a part of you that wants to get your attention, that wants to dance with you. It is a part probably that you have been “selling short” (the short man) and underestimating what you can do.
You were shown old pictures and were in a museum to prove to you that in the past, you were more elegant and/or sophisticated emotionally (the formally clad lady) and stood taller in your assessment of your ability to do things. I think it shows you a couple to emphasize that you were more integrated emotionally and behaviorally in the past probably.
It hit me that your name on the back of the photo was slightly different for a reason. I think the dream did this to emphasize that the photo was of you, but you were “different” in the past. It was a way of emphasizing that it indeed was you, while emphasizing you were different back then.
Another way of looking at it is at it from a higher level, is that it was a previous life. In other words, from that perspective it could be your Soul (unconscious) reminding you to remember your eloquent and graceful way of doing things from a previous life.
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Dream 457: More ways than one to feed a starving cat
A woman had the following dream:
“I keep having a reoccuring dream of my dog. She is a small dog. I wake up and she is on my front step. There is a tub with hundreds of baby chickens. She is eating them and I hear their bones crunching. It’s scary for me because I’m vegeterian.
Each person or animal in a dream is part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of interpretation. Animals usually represent the dreamer’s instincts. In this case, it seems the cat represents some part of her instinct too survive.
Household pets usually represents the person’s affections or preferences because of the good feelings we have about pets. Cats usually are associated more with feminine energy because they are independent, sensuous and intelligent. I think this cat is announcing what you need to eat to survive.
Her subconscious is dramatically screaming that she needs protein. She does not have to totally give up being a vegetarian, but she should consider doing “social chicken.” After all, 89% of vegetarians go back to eating meat. Especially as you get older, you typically need the protein.
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A woman had a dream that a good friend John that she thought she should like to date, but did not, offered her a Coke after telling her to wake up. She accepted the beverage and felt happy in the dream.
She was distressed because she typically always wanted to date Macho “Bad Boys” who usually ended up not treating her very well. She was mystified that she had this sensitive male friend who she talked to and they had a good relationship, but she never saw him as being interesting as a date. She would typically look through her dreams trying to get information about what kind of man she should date.
The dream was giving her a direct answer. Her subconscious obviously favored her dating someone like John. In the dream, this male friend literally tells her to “wake up.” Further, I do not believe him offering her a Coke soda was without meaning. Liquids such as water and Coke, for that matter, tend to be associated with emotion. Water is virtually always emotion. Coke specifically is an energizing drink that helps you to wake up because it has caffeine in it typically.
The dream was literally telling her to wake up. Why? Because her subconscious was actually telling her that she should consider dating this friend because, as the Coke commercials say, he is “the real thing.”
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A woman told me the following before describing her dream:
I had a disagreement with someone that’s been in and out of my life. This person contacted me to tell me that I have the the power to fix it. I was asking for a sign if this relationship could be fixed or if this is a toxic relationship that I shouldn’t have in my life. [Before she went to sleep, she incubated a dream by asking for a dream that would indicate what she should do with this relationship and she had the dream described in the next paragraph]:
“In the dream, my golden retriever bit a cousin’s daughter, which is totally out of the dog’s character. The daughter’s mother (also my longtime friend and patient I provide care for) told me I need to put the dog down. I woke up feeling conflicted. Oddly enough I went to sleep asking spirit for a sign and that’s the sign the I received!”
I think the dream is voting that it is a toxic relationship that you should stay away from. Dogs are all about loyalty and the dream does a double entendre dream condensation on the theme of loyalty. Remember that each character in the dream is a part of your mind with women going more with emotions. Animals often represent our instinctive feelings. Dream condensation occurs when the dream is true on more than one level.
I think the woman represents your emotional common sense which says that, painful as it may be, you have to kill your instinctual loyalty (the dog) before you get bitten. The reason you put a dog down is because the dog has proven itself to be dangerous by biting someone. To me, this means you have to kill your internal loyalty to this person so that you do not get bitten again.
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A woman dreamed that she was walking along and she noticed the diamond was missing from her finger. She thought she had lost it. A young boy then came up to her with the ring and gave the ring back to her.
Each character in the dream represents a different part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Men tend to go with actions or a more action-oriented part of the mind. Women tend to go more with an emotional part of the psyche.
The maturity level of the character in the dream usually represents how developed either the action or the emotion is. That it was a young boy who returns the ring to her means that she is probably taking new action to confirm a commitment, an allegiance, a loyalty, a close relationship, or even a job.
It is unknown whether this dream describes the current state of affairs or whether the dream is predictive. Only the dreamer will be able to discern the full meaning of this dream.
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I have had very vivid and odd dreams every night for the past month. Yet when I awake I usually only remember pieces. I was standing in front of my ex husband. We were talking as I began to think in my head about our split. Reminding myself of the monster he became…the reason I left. I used to have no voice when in his presence so I was reminding myself before I made eye contact.
I reached in my pocket though and pulled out a seemingly endless stack of large bills. He put his hands out and one by one I placed the bills in his Palm. It never ended. I remember thinking what about my needs. If I give it all I’ll have nothing. He never stopped me and I never spoke up.
I looked down and Instantly fell to my knees. I quickly place my hands out to catch This large Brown ribbed vase. I was unable to catch it in time. The glass broke shattering and slicing my right Index finger. I remember specifically the feel of glass shards across my fingers.
I looked up to see a woman I have not yet the chance to meet. She had black curly hair old style framed glasses. She had a dark-tinted color to her, like not a normal color. She just stared blankly at me. It was creepy, almost like I felt I was in trouble.
I heard “Watch her–When she appears pay close attention to her.” Then I woke up. I’ve yet to understand this one. A lot of my dreams are about money or past lives, even god. I’m not sure why the oddities, but would greatly appreciate any Insight.
Money usually represents energy in dreams. He was a viper who took all your energy and never reciprocated.
The woman in your dreams is negative emotions. Jung called her the queen or the negative mother complex. She resides in everyone’s subconscious.
The queen is all about power and control. Her attitude toward you is capricious and arbitrary.
Her motto is “ask not what I can do for you–ask what you can do for me now.” She looks very strong, but will wilt unless the odds are overwhelmingly in her favor.
The savage masculine will aggravate and make her stronger. It sounds like you were married to a savage masculine man. The only part of the psyche that has any success against her is the heroic masculine–which usually involves being dedicated to taking positive actions that focus mainly, if not exclusively, on your needs and not making any excuses about it nor apologizing for looking after your needs.
I think the brown vase falling and cutting your finger right before the queen appears was done to emphasize that the queen is the emotional part of yourself that is hurting you. When glass is breaking in a dream, that usually means that the emotional impact of something is finally fully reaching you. Her favorite putdown is “who do you think you are.”
I hope this is helpful.
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“Oh wow…I was in what seemed to be a frat house. Some young guy was complaining about all the hoes at the party. I went upstairs to go to the bathroom and saw a man coming towards the house with a black object/machine/vacuum in his hands, although the dream itself blocked out what it really was. Then BOOM, the entire house was decimated, no one left, even a small baby had been killed. Only people on the porch survived and this is where I was. Then a woman came by and my brother and we had to sign papers. Then I saw the ghost of that baby because I was sad it had died too.
Then I saw another man in a vision in front of people in a city like new york square setting. He was dressed in black with red acting crazy with some kind of message for me. Then another guy dressed in black in another place i cannot remember yet was very clear in this dreamline…
Dream 435: Dump Trump
Every person in the dream is a part of your mind. Men go with your actions. A frat house is a Brotherhood of educated men who Goof Off a lot in my world. In the dream, they are anti-women, which means they are anti-emotional as women tend to go more with your emotions while men tend to go more with your actions.
These men are all off including a baby. I think the dream may be saying you need to get rid of any actions that are even unintentionally derogating to women. The baby is included because it is saying you have to get rid of even any tiny notion that might not be in favor of emotions or women.
The speaker in New York is obviously Donald Trump. The dream isn’t being clear about the two men. I suspect strongly that one of them was Donald Trump. I suspect the other man was the opposite of Donald Trump, what your actions preferably could be.
This extremely biased opinion was not paid for and I agree with its content. It is speculation of what I think is likely and humorous comments may also be true, but there is no way of definitely knowing.
The dreamer later told me after the interpretation that she and her daughter had been having major debates about Trump’s misogynist view of women.
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“I had a dream about a friend involving a robbery and gun shots were fired towards her and I. When I later talked to her about it, she said 2 other friends had dreams of her either as the one doing the shooting or was being shot at. What do guns in dreams mean? Also, it’s so weird how several people had similar themed dreams about one person. Any ideas? Shes kinda freaked out by it. Some insights would be much appreciated!”
Guns usually are associated with aggression or confrontation. Freud thought of it as a classic phallic symbol so it is associated with being Macho–rough and tough and not taking anything from anyone.
With your friend, I wonder if she tends to be confrontation or aggressively assertive to the point that she inspires retaliation and/or bursts of emotions from others. The thought would be that she is subject to confrontations/burst of emotions which she points at others and is reciprocated by others.
If we look at just your dream, shots are being fired at you. You are not instigating any gunplay in the dream you had. The focus of your dream would seem to be other people’s explosive reactions to you at times for no clear reason. In your dream, the robbery would maybe indicate some worry about being personally violated.
The collective unconscious means that we are all connected subconsciously with one another. When she has several friends dreaming about guns with her involved, I would take it that the collective subconscious is trying to get the message to her by whatever means possible that she needs to be protective of herself and assertive / aggressive / confrontative in a different kind of way so that she or others do not get hurt either emotionally or physically.
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Dream Image 421: Dolphins are a sparkling, pure and playful energy in dreams
Animals usually represent instinctive energy in dreams. Water virtually always represents emotions in dreams, especially subconscious emotions as the ocean is the biggest symbol of the subconscious that we have. When it involves the ocean, the dream usually involves how you are handling or traversing emotional energy in the world which includes your own and energy from the collective subconscious (unconscious).
Dolphins are almost always good news when they appear in dreams. It usually represents the dreamer has an abundance of competent, playful and social energy as dolphins are very interactive with other species and especially with humans. Other than people , they are one of the few species to have sex also for the fun of it.
They have so many human-like qualities that it is not hard to believe, as some evolutionary biologistso have hypothesized, that dolphins may have first evolved from the sea and transitioned to land; however,they then changed direction and returned to the ocean because it was a more favorable environment than land. In the sea, dolphins have few predators other than some misguided humans and some types of sharks.
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A dreamer reported an ex girlfriend had a couples dreams of him one night. He wondered about the significance of the sea shell. The former girlfriend’s dream was as follows:
“I kept singing prayers into your ear and kissing your forehead after every one. Every time I did a new orb would appear and I’d have a vision of some place. You were holding sea shells”
” I was little and someone was reading a bedtime story while I gazed out the window into the dark woods when all of a sudden this freaky alien ripped me out of the house and into the woods.”nbsp;
Her singing to you and kissing dreamer’s forehead in the dream would mean that at the first level she’s praying to the action part of herself that loved him which is expressed by her kissing his forehead.
If it were my dream, the orbs would probably represent hopes regarding relationships. Orbs are round and are light and rocks are circular mostly. Circular objects, especially circular objects that are lighted usually represent the soul since the circle has no beginning and it has no end. The dream is suggesting that she’s dealing with soul issues.
If these dreams were together relatively, it seems to be about listening. The dream seems to be saying she has emotional wishes that she prays would come true, but probably really doesn’t listen to them very closely.
I think the above for two reasons, the first one being the seashells. When I was young it was always said that if you held a seashell to your ear you could hear the ocean. The ocean is the biggest symbol of the subconscious that we have. Symbolically, these seashells would represent listening to her subconscious, specifically, the part of her subconscious that dealt with dreamer.
The second reason to suspect it has to do with listening is that when she is read a bedtime story, she is not paying attention and is staring out into the dark woods.
The dream gets savage in emphasizing that she needs to listen and pay attention to her subconscious emotions by having an alien jerk her out of her world.
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“So I had a dream that I was the mother of Jesus, I looked like me but I didn’t at
the same time. My hair was longer and darker, my skin was darker, etc ..yet the
same exact eyes,lips,height, and curls. I was standing in a door way & I can feel
the Sun on my back as I look into the shaded small building. It looked like a very
small home (far from modern).
I can’t recall what was said.
The twist is I believe in God but I haven’t accepted Jesus as God. Im not saying
its impossible,because nothing is. I look into all religions & “mythologies”. When I
woke up I felt like I literally just slammed into my body,I had tears in my eyes and
this tingling in my heart.”
At the first and symbolic level of dream interpretation, an important spiritual and emotional part of you is standing at the doorway to a new life (a new house). You are literally being reborn
in the sense of giving birth to a new part of your spirituality. Your
emotions are getting ready to deliver a new spiritually active and central
part of yourself. This part is small now but important. One wants to
remember that Jesus was born in a manger.
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I dreamed I was in a dark forest walking on a dirt path, in the middle of the path there were black horses breathing fire thru nostrils. I felt terrified and sat on ground in a fetus position, praying to please allow me to cross over the other side. I crawled slowly, getting under the horses. Suddenly these horses started rubbing heads on my face with so much love. Slowly removing the extreme fear with loving touches. Then different animals in the forest– deer, mice, rats,snakes and so on. All where rubbing and caressing me, and I was in a state of overwhelming love..WOKE UP..cried because i still felt the sensation of this love, I couldn’t eat meat for months. I couldn’t cut chicken for my family’s dinners. I would start crying. It was strange to still feel it after months. I am not religious or a vegetarian.
Animals generally represent our instincts which are biological necessities in order to survive. Horses in particular seem to represent female living energy or libido. The first part of the dream is you have the power of that life force. It is the shadow side of the life or love force that provides the “horsepower” needed in life. The remainder of the dream is trying to make you comfortable with accepting that energy because when that life force is used correctly, it is loving, instinctual, and the basis of life.
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A woman had the following dream:
“I had a dream that I was in a huge office building with many floors, offices etc. I was just trying to go home, but first find a restroom. I kept ending up in offices where there were people dressed in business attire and I didn’t have my top on…Trying to squeeze through, but they wouldn’t move. So rude!
I finally found a hall. Relief. I was walking to find a restroom, then I see a sitting area with a table on which was a plate of caramel apples with nuts. Yum! I picked one up and took a bite.
Then 2 ladies to the side shook their heads and fingers, no…I put it back and continued….exhausted! WHAT I DETERMINED: I am never going to fit in, no matter how I try to reveal my true self and good things are not for me! Well, I won’t accept that! Any other interpretations? I’m very open to your analysis.”
I am going to be sounding like a bit of a preacher and I don’t mean to sound that way but here it comes. The setting in a dream usually indicates what the dream is going to be about. It starts out in a commercial office building that has many floors.
Usually in a building the different floors can represent different levels of consciousness. So I am just saying that there are people who have many different ways of looking at things that may be at variance with your level of consciousness.
When you are looking for a restroom in a dream, that usually indicates that there are things that you need to get rid of that no longer serve you. One of the things that you probably need to change is being more careful about who you open yourself up to.
Clothing usually represents psychological defenses in dreams because that’s what we show the rest of the world. The people are dressed in business clothing which means that they are defensive and about commercial and business interests. You do not have a top on which indicates that you are probably risking yourself by opening yourself up in that environment.
Each character in the dream is a part of your psyche and women tend to go more with emotions. I think the women are disapproving of your eating the apple because part of your emotions realize that your effort to open yourself up to very defensive people is well meaning but is not going to work out very well probably. Trying to get psychological nourishment in that environment (eating the apple) is ill fated and not likely to work out no matter how sweet it may look on the outside (the caramel).
If it were my dream, the lesson would go something like, “I have to be more careful about who I expose myself to.” You mean well, but you want to make sure that the people you are talking to are at least potentially open to what you have to offer which sounds like it probably is a lot. One does want to put pearls in front of swine–it will annoy the pig and dirty the pearls.
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“I had a strange dream that I had put my infant baby on a bed all in white and so was the baby. Just the exact way they wrap them in a hospital, then a lady said to me your baby fell on the floor laying flat face, and I went that way to get him. How strange a infant can’t move wrapped that way, he was not crying either. So confused on this dream.”
Clothing usually represents your psychological defenses. A baby boy usually represents a new action part of yourself. The dream seems to be implying there is a new action part yourself that is severely limited and bound with limited options. You may have tried to do something different and either have or have fear of “falling on your face.”
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A woman dreamed that her 94 year old mother-in-law who is in a wheelchair suddenly got up and started walking around very fast to show the dreamer that she actually could move and walk very well. The mother in law in real life weighed 300 pounds and was morbidly and pathologically psychologically dependent upon her son. She had difficulty walking mainly because of her weight.
The dreamer thought she was a phony and that her mother-in-law knew that she knew her mother-in-law was being phony. The mother in law for some reason had been amazingly alert and coherent lately.
My Interpretation to the Dreamer
Taking the dream at different levels, your subconscious is saying both that she is phony and that you yourself have to be phony to be able to put up with her. At a deeper level, it may be trying to reassure you that you are fine, that you are physically and psychologically healthy, in spite of her antipathy towards you.
Her being very alert is interesting and something I can never explain. Both personally and in the lives of my clients, people who are on a long downward course health wise will often have a brief intense period of emotional/cognitive clarity and physical vitality before sinking into a clasped physical and mental disrepair and even death.
I thought this mother-in-law had characteristics of the Queen archetype that Carl Jung describes– domineering, controlling, selfish, egocentric, and wanting to dominate the household situation. The dreamer confirmed most of my insights.
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Dream 395: Looking for love in all the wrong places
A man had the following dream:
“I have trouble with cats in some dreams. At first I’m glad to see a cat, but sooner or later they claw in my arms or legs and they won’t let go. It’s painful and I want it to stop asap, feeling annoyed and threatened maybe. I don’t really know what to make of it.”
I think this dream is a combination or a condensation of the first two levels of dream interpretation which is as it involves yourself and as it involves you in interpersonal relationships.
To say it simply, you have hurt yourself by having affections for people who do not have affection for you. Pets usually represent your affections. They are probably women given the cat usually goes with women and female affections. In any case, the emphasis is on emotional affection and how you are being hurt by it.
The thought is that on the interpersonal level the people you are having affection for do not only not return the affection, but actively hurt you. It is interesting that the cats will not let go and continue to hurt you.
I believe this is saying that you persist in showing affection to people who do not return the affection, and these people continue to persist in wanting to hurt you. You continue to show affection to people who are not only not neutral, but are hazardous to your welfare.
This is not given in a professional sense but in an investigative / interest way and should not be relied upon to run your life.
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A woman was repeatedly having dreams about being kidnapped. What could this mean?
The phrase that keeps coming to me is that when you’re kidnapped, you’re being taken to places you don’t want to go. Is your life going in places you don’t want to go? Do you feel that it is being directed by malevolent forces? Do you feel that there is a price to pay (a ransom or money is personal energy in dreams) to get it back on track?
Kidnapping dreams frequently signal that the dreamer feels a lack of control in life. They may feel they are being pushed around by malevolent forces that demand a price to be paid. the price is usually personal energy to do something challenging to free yourself.
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Dream 393: A coed dreamed that a football player who was a “player” socially (had many affairs with different women at the same time) wanted her to be his girlfriend. She could see his girlfriend in the background. The girlfriend was angry and anxious.
Each living thing in a dream represents a part of the dreamer’s mind. Women usually go with an emotional power of the mind while men tend to go with an action-oriented part of the mind. The football player in the dream represented her wanting to date a player and convert him to being faithful to her.
This conflict had deep psychological roots. She constantly felt the need to prove herself worthy by winning the competition for a popular man or alpha male over other women. This was because she felt in a one-down position from wealthy and popular women who were her friends. Her family had once been wealthy but fell on hard times.
Her relationships with players invariably ended with her feeling angry and anxious. She was caught in what Freud called a repetition compulsion. She was trying to prove needlessly that she was as good as other women despite being beautiful and having many positive qualities.
The girlfriend in the dream represented how she ended up feeling pursuing “players.” She invariably ended up feeling angry and anxious. The dream was a warning to stop engaging in this repetitive mistake.
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A woman had the following dream: “I had a strange dream I was walking then I saw my sister at an office and she says that my mom got bit by ants. I believe that was the doctors office. It ended there.”
“Each living thing in the dream represents a part of your mind at the first level. It sounds like it mainly involves emotions since women tend to go more with emotions. The mother in the dream is the mother in your mind that we call the mother introject. The mother introject is often the basis of emotions.
Animals (in this case ants) usually represent our instincts, what we are prone to do naturally. Ants are methodical, routine and focused on accomplishing what needs to be done for the group compulsively.
Being bit by ants is a nuisance/irritating. I wonder if there is a situation (maybe involving family) where you have put in a lot of work and are feeling a little annoyed or taken for granted?”
The dreamer responded with the following confirmation: “Yes, my sister was over for a month.My sister is very bossy and doesn’t use nice words to tell them to do things. Not cursing, not a sweet person very cold and mean!”
Dream 385: I Want to Recapture How I Was Emotionally in My First Relationship with a Girl
When I was 12 I fell in love with a girl at first sight(right when I looked in her eyes) , and her dad was the first one to teach me how to kick a soccer ball when I was just 7(I’m really good, could play pro if I want ). She has a lot of reason why I am spiritual and pay attention to my dreams. Problem is when I was in high school, we would fight and I would ignore her and not look at her. We aren’t really on talking terms like we were when I was younger and I don’t follow her on social media.
The reason I bring this up is because she has been in my dreams all the time, and 90% of the time I can’t look at her or talk to her. Other 10% is amazing (dancing, doing things together , kissing etc) but 90% of the time she’ll be in my dream and won’t be able to look at her. I want to look at her and kiss her, but in my dreams I feel like I have subconsciously put it in there that I can’t speak or talk to her.
Just recently I was in my dreams teaching a yoga class with just two other people and she showed up to do the class and while I was doing the yoga poses she was doing them too and we were looking at each other but neither of us could say anything to each other. She was sort of looking at me funny snd i just looked her and kept going…
If I knew I was dreaming I would of kissed her right there, lol. Just yesterday I had another one where we were in the car together in the backseat and I tried talking to her but something wouldn’t let me. It must of been a 15 minute car ride and we just stared at each other , it seems like she can’t say anything to me either.
This is just two examples out of the more than 100x this has happened with her in my dream. What do you think is the best thing to do? I’m stubborn. If she’s meant to be in my life the universe will have me run into her like it usually does with her, so I feel like I should wait for that.
Do you think she experiences the same dreams?
The dreams may be about her and having a relationship with her, but only you would know that since that is the second level of dream interpretation where only you have enough to detail to determine that.
At the first level, I think you probably have idealized that early relationship and want to emotionally be the way you were with her when things were good in future relationships. My money is on this is a fantasy about an idealized relationship from the past that your subconscious wants you to learn from so that you learn the lesson and look for the right relationship and act appropriately in the future.
This is based only on the structure of the dream and only you can determine what interpersonal value it has if any. Each character in the dream represents a part of your psyche at the first level with men going with your actions and women going with your emotions.
My thought is there was something about the way you were emotionally with this girl that you were developing that was not finished and you want to emotionally change yourself to find the ideal relationship. As such, in your mind she probably represents an ideal woman or anima. It is a big dream about how you should be in a relationship.
To answer your questions at the end, it is possible she's having dreams about you. If that is the case, I would see it more as a sign that the universe was trying to get the two of you together. I do like your idea that if it was meant to be, the universe will conspire to have the two of you meet again.
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The great Rumi shows his profound understanding of life:
“THE DREAM THAT MUST BE INTERPRETED
This place is a dream.
Only a sleeper considers it real.
Then death comes like dawn,
and you wake up laughing
at what you thought was your grief.
But there’s a difference with this dream.
Everything cruel and unconscious
done in the illusion of the present world,
all that does not fade away at the death-waking.
and it must be interpreted.
All the mean laughing,
all the quick, sexual wanting,
those torn coats of Joseph,
they change into powerful wolves
that you must face.
The retaliation that sometimes comes now,
the swift, payback hit,
is just a boy’s game
to what the other will be.
You know about circumcision here.
It’s full castration there!
And this groggy time we live,
this is what it’s like:
A man goes to sleep in the town where he has always lived
and he dreams he’s living in another town.
In the dream, he doesn’t remember
the town he’s sleeping in his bed in. He believes
the reality of the dream town.
The world is that kind of sleep.
The dust of many crumbled cities
settles over us like a forgetful doze,
but we are older than those cities.
We began as a mineral.
We emerged into plant life
and into the animal state, and then into being human,
and always we have forgotten our former states,
except in early spring when we slightly recall
being green again.
That’s how a young person turns
toward a teacher. That’s how a baby leans
toward the breast, without knowing the secret
of its desire, yet turning instinctively.
Humankind is being led along an evolving course,
through this migration of intelligences,
and though we seem to be sleeping,
there is an inner wakefulness
that directs the dream,
and that will eventually startle us back
to the truth of who we are.”
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“I dreamed I was bleaching my hair then I was going bald from the front to the back.”
Hair is on your head where thinking occurs.
Hair is also usually a part of sexual attraction.
Bleach is a harsh way of cleansing impurities. In fact, the implication is that you go bald from the bleaching of the hair.
Going bald often has something to do with a change in your perception of your self-image. Going bald usually is associated with the dreamer viewing herself too negatively.
Putting this together, it may have something to do with trying to cleanse your mind of impure thoughts probably related to sex, but you are being too harsh with yourself to the point that it is negatively affecting your self-image or ego.
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“I was in a library and the feeling of awe because of all the books and knowledge that are in them. I wanted to get a new book for new knowledge and couldn’t wait but then I spotted this gorgeous man. He was alluring. He had tan skin and long dark hair. He reminded me of my boyfriend from age 19 who was a Victorias Secret model. He was younger as well. The man looks back and our eyes connect and he notices me too.
I see he is talking to a woman. He’s smiling and quite friendly with her. We end up talking a bit with tons of flirting. He tells me to meet him upstairs where we can be alone for sex. While slipping out of the library I see him flirt with other women and they want him. I did not like the way he was so flirtatious to the other women but said to myself he still chose me.
I walk out of the library and to my surprise I am in a huge building. The walls are shiny gold. The ceilings are high. There is a stairwell that has marble stairs and shiny gold guardrails going up. I go up the stairs and find its an attic. When I walk in its nothing like where I came from. It’s dark, only one window and a humongous blow up matress. Dark wooden beams were on the ceiling for support in an angle. There on the mattress was the man completely naked and ready. I was very upset. I thought I was worth at least some sweet talk and romance.
He convinced me to sit by him but tried to just go for it. I kissed him but was hesitant. Then one of the workers came in and said we couldn’t be there so we had to leave aa if we were caught. He said to meet him later somewhere else. I said ok.
I went down and had to find the way out. I walked through this huge building and ran into what was a casino I believe. It had the machines with gold knobs on them. I thought how odd a casino was in there. I walked in for a minute but couldn’t walk through because I can’t stand the energy of casinos and people gambling.
I searched for another way out but couldn’t find one. I ended up walking through the casino and finally getting out. Exhausting.
Some friends pick me up and we drive around town for a bit. I keep thinking I told this man I’d meet him and didn’t think I wanted to. Hours later we ended up at some storage units where I was suppose to meet him.
I had given him my word so I was thinking I’d tell him I changed my mind but really I didn’t want to deal with it at all. But I kept going back and forth because he was so good looking, lol. I finally thought to myself that I was worth more than sex at a storage unit, how he had flirted with other women and it didn’t make me special that he chose me but probably gullible instead. Also that I wasn’t even worth some romance with the two places he had picked. I told myself no way, I didnt care how good looking he was bc this now made him ugly. I left knowing he’d be stood up. I woke.
I want to approach this dream from the point of view of each character in the dream being part of your mind.Men usually go more with actions and women going more with emotions usually.
The dream starts out in the library. Usually the way a dream starts out usually tells us what it’s going to be about. Right off the bat the dream is emphasizing learning and knowledge and you were flirting with the idea of gaining more knowledge. Having sex in a dream is a sign of integration. But this integration never really happens in this dream. The problem is that the man isn’t worth integrating with. He is a trickster, manipulator who does not have your best interest at heart.
This dream is a major caution against going after what looks good. The first place he wants to have sex with you is in a high place in an attic. A building frequently can correspond with the dreamer to some extent in which case this is talking about your mind and your higher ideals probably.
You are caught in the attic and asked to leave because there are other parts of yourself that do not want you to lower your standards.
Going to the casino is interesting. I think the dream is screaming that you don’t want to gamble yourself on shallow circumstances.
Being asked to have sex in storage units is not only doubling down on it being dingy and the lowering of your self esteem, but I think the dream is expressly saying it wants you to put this memory in storage, they want you to remember this lesson and not compromising yourself excessively.
All in all, the dream is emphasizing deepening yourself through learning and knowledge and warning you about rationalizing yourself into compromising situations. It is explicitly warning you about being lured by what looks good rather than gaining knowledge (the library).
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“I was walking around a mall alone. I was going around and around the same shops like I was trying to find a special one but never could. Then I finally found it and it looked like a clothing and candle shop.
I went in immediately searching for a cobalt blue candle. I wanted the largest one I could find with 3 wicks. I was smelling them and the smells were vivid and I found one I wanted.
Then I was standing near the checkout and there were some long single chain necklaces. I searched thru them until I found a long gold chain with a feather charm on the end. I went to grab it but as I did some other woman grabbed it too. We debated for a bit who had it first and she let me have it.
So I went back to the checkout counter and realized I had lost my shoes. I had been wearing white socks with colorful Nike sandals. I don’t ever do that. But seemingly someone took my sandals when I had taken them off debating the necklace issue.
A guy who worked there confronted me asking where my shoes were. Then he said show me the bottom of your feet. He wanted to see if I had been walking in the grass in my socks. When I raised my foot it was covered in grey dirt not green.
Then I started talking to a guy standing in line in front of me and he was making a payment on something that the store was charging him interest on. He had a large check that he showed me was written out for $3333.”
One thing I’ve found to be almost always be true is that if you have a dream about a shopping mall, the dream usually is going to be talking about how you have been mauled in a business, career, or financial sense.
Looking for a candle implies you are always trying to look for the light in a business situation and usually you are able to sniff out what is right. You have to compete with other people who may be onto the same thing, but usually you can convince others to see it your way. Looking for a candle implies you always try and look for the light in the business situation and usually are able to sniff out what is right.
You have to compete with other people who may be on to the same thing, but usually you can convince others to see it your way.
Cobalt blue usually would go with mental activity and speaking out loud according to the chakra system if I looked at the concept of blue in a broad sense.
You can usually sniff out what is good and is likely to lead to change (smelling the candles and three is the number of change as there are 3 wicks).
I like the interpretation of the golden necklace with a feather being having valuable intuitive ability that you can bet your neck on (the necklace) and that can take wing(the feather).
The debate with the woman indicates the you can usually convince others to see it your way for your own advantage.
Socks are usually protective as are sandals in getting you to where you need to go. It is interesting that these are white socks. White is the most spiritual color that there is.
The whole thing about the socks and the grass and the dirt and the Nikes I believe indicates that you are willing to do what needs to be done and do not necessarily do things just to look good.
You sometimes and probably more often are more willing to do the dirty work (the grey on the socks) than to do things for your own personal growth (the green from plants on the bottom of your socks). You focus on getting the job done and not necessarily protecting yourself excessively and are willing to make yourself vulnerable to a degree.
The final image of the guy paying off the $3333 debt he was being charged interest on is perhaps one of the most interesting aspects of this dream. Money is energy in dreams. It can be money itself but it also can be energy that other people have loaned you in in this case.
The dream is emphasizing that you need to pay back the favors you’ve been given before they end up costing you too much. It could end up costing you more if people feel that you have not shown enough interest.
3 is the number of change and you have four 3’s. I believe the dream might be saying that if you change this aspect and pay off the favors early, it will lead to stability because 4 is the number of stability as there are four legs on a table, four legs on a chair, four directions, four seasons, etc.
This is a nicely done and well rounded dream about how to conduct your career/business/financial aspects of your life.
Feedback from the Dreamer
The dreamer gave me the following feedback:
“Steven-this is pretty awesome! I wanna show u how accurate. Hugely mauled over at work but also benefiting from it and competing not for the same position but to do the same work..long story and it’s incredibly draining has been for months. My intuition is always spot on especially regarding others’ intentions. I have a hard time verbalizing that and sharing my insights and hold back on speaking about it especially lately and even when asked. I always over exert myself and energy in order to ‘get the job done’ re: the dirt not green. The check for $3333 was interesting and I remember thinking he bought an engagement ring with it and was making payments. Although I did recently have a reiki session and now I’m wondering if I need to be repaying them or the universe in some way to pay it forward.”
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Dream 377: I have an idea, I think it is right, and I can do it myself, thank you
A woman had the following series of dreams:
“I had a series of vivid dreams of late.
1. Brushing my hair and clumps of hair fall out asking with pieces of my scalp, which starts to bleed.
2. Surprisingly didn’t know I was pregnant until I went into labor (luckily at a hospital) I end up running from staff to give birth privately in an unused room alone, without help.
3. I make candy and have one recipe I’ve used so often that I know it by heart. In this dream as I tell someone the recipe, a complete stranger shows up in the doorway to insist that my ingredients are wrong. For some reason I can’t let it go, I just keep arguing why I’m right.”
I love series of dreams. Frequently a series of dreams that occur closely together may be talking about the same issues. I view what is described below as a consolidation of the information.
1. Losing hair can mean worries about having the power to do something. This is something a little different because you were actually losing pieces of your scalp with it. To me, I was wondering if you initially had concern whether you had the right idea about something.
2. Having a baby can be symbolic of starting a new project, a new idea, new venture, etc. Insisting on having the baby alone may actually be advice from your subconscious to pursue the project, idea, or venture alone without other people disrupting the idea.
3. You have a sweet idea of how to nurture others (candy) that you have carried for a long time. You are convinced about the rightness of the idea and can defend it to others (the argument with the stranger).
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“I dreamed the other night that I helped two guys who became infatuated with me. (This actually happens to me a lot in life.) There were two other guys there that were my friends in the dream and they looked at me like I knew better and why did I help further knowing better. I signaled back “I know, I know”. We didn’t need words because they were my intuition side. I got rid of the infatuated boys and became incredibly attracted to the intuitive ones. We had very intimate sex. I then ended up at a hospital to help deliver a baby with them and after got to see all the new-born babies in the hospital.”
This would be seen as your integrating intuitive action parts of yourself. Sex between a man and a woman is usually seen as integration of actions (men) and emotions (women) as each character is a part of the dreamer’s psyche.
The first part of the dream where you are involved with two nerdy men basically is asking the question, “Why are you wasting your time with them or with those aspects of your life?”
Sex usually represents integration with the different part of yourself that you are having sex with. Integrating the different intuitive aspects leads to a whole new part of your psyche, the new baby. The thought would be since the dreamer was a female having sex with two intuitive men, that she was integrating two intuitive action parts of her mind.
This integration could be stimulated by any of several different actions. Such actions would include discussion with other intuitive people (probably men in this case or it could be the action parts of women’s minds). Watching intuitive movies, honing intuitive skills, psychic abilities, reading new age books and out-of-body travel would be examples of intuitive actions. A strong spirituality is probable.
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Dream Question 370: A female dreamer asked: What does it mean if you dream that you have sex with someone almost identical to yourself?
Sex at the first level usually means integration especially if it was good consensual sex. If you have a dream where you are having sex with someone who is identical to yourself, how the act was performed would make substantial difference in my world.
Let’s say the act was very loving, then the dream would be signaling that you were integrating love into yourself. If the act was aggressive but none the less satisfying, the dream would be signaling either that you have integrated some aggressive impulses into your personality, or the dream maybe advising for some reason that you integrate some aggression more into your personality. This isn’t necessarily bad, because it’s aggression that gives us the get up and go to accomplish things. It just has to be controlled by other parts of the personality.
The more intimate the sexual act, the more integrated it is. Having sex with an identical self is rather awesome in a way because it is saying that you really don’t need any other person other than yourself. Women usually represent an emotional part of the dreamer, and since the dreamer was a woman, the emphasis is on emotional integration. If the dreamer were a man, the dream would be emphasizing integrating his actions since men tend to go more with action parts of the mind.
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Dream 367: Giving the Divine Child archetype some spiritual courage
A young man had the following dream in his own words:
“I was walking beside a girl in a part of my dream last night. She was very sweet. As we were walking into a building I felt a presence behind her.
I looked back and there was a woman dressed in dark holding a gun to her.
I put my hand on the spine of the girl I was beside and humbly whispered ‘in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit.’
And in that moment a light flashed over the girl with the gun and she put it down and said in a similar tone as mine when I spoke. She said ‘thank you.’
I smirked at her in a loving but strong way and walked the girl into the building she was going into.”
Assuming that the girl was a child, it was probably the Divine Child archetype. The Divine Child carries all our hopes, dreams and wishes for the future, like Jesus Christ did. It often is a blue-eyed blonde-haired little girl between the ages of 3 and 11. It can be other physical features, but these are the most frequent in our culture.
The girl as a Divine Child archetype would represent positive emotions and hoped for plans for the future. Women usually represent an emotional part of the dreamer. A woman with a gun is shadow aggressive/negative emotions.
The dreamer put his hand on her spine and say something very spiritual. The dream is saying that strong spirituality helps him stand up to negative emotions, it helps him have more spine.
The dreamer in the dream is acting as the heroic masculine which is usually the part of the personality that is involved in healing. It takes the action necessary to heal the person or make them better. In this case, the heroic masculine is lending his strength to Divine Child emotionality so that his plans can be actualized and come into reality.
When the Heroic Masculine lends it’s strength in performing healing action to the Divine Child, the Self can only say “thank you” that Shadow emotions were overcome and vanquished.
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In a dream, the dreamer who was a man was in a medical facility escorting a young soldier to an operation. A dark haired lady and another fellow were pushing the soldier along on a cart. The dreamer somehow knew the two physicians were actually escaped convicts. The soldier was given a syringe of something and passed out.
Dreams at a medical facility or physicians are often about healing. Each person in a dream usually represents a part of your mind with men going more with actions and women going more with emotions. The convicts would be shadow parts of the personality that are imposters.
A soldier typically represents the heroic masculine because he is willing to die for his country. This part of the personality is often a healing action part–it is a part of the dreamer that is usually involved in implementing the healing actions. The problem is that he is wounded and needs genuine help and not imposters.
The syringe that causes him to pass out is a phoney cure. The implication is that the dreamer has been wounded and is trying to get healing, but is taken advantage of by imposters that do not have his best interests at heart. There is an implication that the dreamer is looking for a substance or force outside himself for healing that causes him not to be conscious (the soldier passes out) of his best interests. The remedy is not to believe imposters posing as healers who are criminally minded. The bottom line may be a warning to rely more on his own internal strength or soul.
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A woman had a dream that another woman had an infant about 6 months old that she wanted the dreamer to breast feed. The woman wanted to give the baby to the dreamer so that the dreamer could feed this 6 month old baby. The dreamer said that in the dream her breasts were full with milk, but when she tried to feed the baby, the baby would not let her feed it and kept reaching for its mother.
When we have a new idea, a new project, or a new creation, people often say, “it’s your baby.” If it were my dream, I would take it as a sign that there is a new idea or project that someone came up with that my subconscious does not want me to nurture, that the new project or idea needs to be owned and nurtured by its creator.
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“I dreamed I was in robes in a desert town in front of a very old brick building. I was pleading with those passing by to believe in what Jesus was trying to teach them. From the crowd someone yelled Mary you don’t know what you’re talking about. My dream then transported me to a more modern home I was in a large desert field with my husband and we were looking at the only thing growing in it which was a Walnut tree. My husband said he wanted to chop it down. He did not want to clean up walnuts every year. (not like him at all by the way) I protested and I got my way.”
It is a very archetypal dream as it invokes Jesus. The dreamer was called Mary who was the mother of Jesus. She was trying to proselytize and spread the Faith. She was not being listened to enough and being heckled by some.
Then the dream moved to the walnut tree. Each person and each living thing in a dream is a part of your mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Her husband would represent an action part of her mind. Males typically go with an action part of the mind while women tend to go more with emotional parts.
Her husband probably represented the part of her that carried out her ideas, the part of her that put her ideas in motion. A tree is a symbol of integration as it opens to the sky, sends roots deep into the earth, and is with you on the surface. It gives off a nutrient which is a walnut which symbolically is the fruit of her integration and higher thoughts.
The dream is drawing a similarity between Mary not being listened to and so many walnuts being wasted each year. It may be that it felt like not enough people were absorbing her message. She could be feeling subconsciously that the valuable life-giving message she had to give that would nurture people (the walnut) was being wasted or ignored too much, that she even may have felt heckled sometimes.
The action part of her that spread these valuable messages, represented by her husband in the dream, gets tired and frustrated with her efforts not being appreciated enough. The dream ends on a positive note as she convinced that action part of herself to carry on in spreading the fruit of her labors.
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“I had a dream last night. We, my husband and I were driving to the beach and as usual We took a wrong turn. We kept driving and although I became a little impatient Jim assured me that he knew where he was going. We turned down a small Ocean front road and followed the road until the end, We pulled into a driveway of a cozy little beach cottage and I asked him why we were there. Our destination was at least 25 miles away. He just smiled and said he wanted to surprise me. I knocked on the door and an old friend of mine Gay answered the door. I saw a long red sofa and a woman was walking from the hallway very angry,she didn’t speak but walked up and down the hallway. Gay told me to come out to the patio and sit for a while and when we opened the door the place was beautiful. All white wicker furniture,flowers everywhere,you could here the ocean roar and the birds sing. The sun was bright but it was as if the heat from it was filtered. I saw a woman walk towards me from the side and smile. It was my Mother who I had lost 19 yrs. ago. She looked so healthy and at peace and gave me a warm hug. She kept saying she was where she should be and was ok. She also said she needed to tell me something but my alarm clock thought otherwise.”
The dream starts out that she is going to the beach with her husband. Both an emotional part of her mind(herself as a woman) and an action part of her mind (often represented by a husband in a dream) are going to a place where consciousness meets the subconscious, the beach.
Land usually represents the conscious, while the best symbol we have for the subconscious is the ocean. Every character is a part of the dreamer’s mind with men representing actions and women representing emotions usually. That is not always true, but is usually the case.
The beach is the place where one works out conflicts and integrates the subconscious with the conscious world. She does not make it to the beach. She stops 25 miles inland which is to say the dream is addressing how things are done consciously now.
She meets an old friend Gay who is a woman. Gay represents something very close to herself and the red couch indicates passion is involved as red is usually either intense love or intense anger. In this case, I think the dream is going to talk about her need for romance.
The place becomes very beautiful and romantic and idyllic. She meets her beloved mother whom I suspect wants to tell her how to integrate her conscious word with her subconscious emotions, i.e., she might be wanting to give the dreamer advice about how to merge romance into her everyday life especially if she was good at doing that in her own life.
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A young adult woman dreamed that she and some acquaintances spent the night in a house. Her work supervisor’s boss was with them. They climbed never-ending stairs that were scary and increasingly narrow.
They arrived in a dark attic. They were exhausted and piled into bed to sleep. She later woke up within the dream and it was light out.
She could now see clearly in the room and was horrified. The room was filthy because it was covered with dirt and dust. She saw a dead mouse on the floor.
She walked to a bathroom. She saw a baby carriage. An overwhelming smell of urine pervaded the atmosphere like what you might smell in a bad nursing home.
She then saw a very large rat sniffing around the baby carriage. She worried about the baby. She started choking because the dust was so thick in the air. The dream ended with her intensely blowing her nose to get rid of the dust buried in her lungs.
This is a classic type of dream. Each character represents a part of the dreamer’s mind at the first level of dream interpretation. Her supervisor’s boss was a part of her that’s in charge of her overall work life, career life, or financial life.
There are several things that Freud said that were uncanny. One of them was that when there are stairways , it usually involves sex because going upstairs is rhythmic activity that ends in a climax.
There are many signs that the dream involved being sexually mistreated in the past. Climbing the stairs was harrowing, confined, and she felt horrified at some point in the dream. Also dust is “old dirt” that implies that the body was violated, i.e., the Biblical injunction that “to dust though shall return.”
The mouse was dead which indicated how it may have affected her instincts back then, i.e. she probably felt small and lifeless.
The baby carriage implied reproduction (sex). Water is almost always emotion in dreams. Urine is water that we no longer need, i.e., negative emotion.
The nursing home implied that this happened a while ago. The supervisor’s boss being involved signaled that it either happened in a work area of her life or was affecting the work area of her life now. At the end of the dream, the dream became dramatic and indicated the dust or “old dirt” was taking the air out of her, i.e., that it was taking the joy out of some area in her life.
Another uncanny image Freud talked about appearing in dreams was a rat, which often involved sexual mistreatment because it is an image of what the perpetrator is. All in all, the dream was implying that there was some sexual mistreatment that occurred in the past that was taking some life or joy out of the work area of her life.
Reaction and Feedback from the Dreamer
“Whoa my mind is blown. I have to ponder over this one for a while…your summary at the end nails it but it’s in such a way I never would ever have thought of it like that! Possibly sex related mistreatment in the way past that has influenced me even now to be getting in the way of something I could do to better myself career wise but hesitate based on the impact and dependence the trauma caused in me.”
The following is a dream I interpreted as a moderator on Dale Miesen’s Facebook Power of Dreams page. The dreamer is an adult woman in the post is presented in the form it was posted to the Power of Dreams.
“I am in China somewhere in a city, with some man I know, possibly a friend, he tells me to wait while he has to go into a Museum to get something, I ask to go with him because I Love Museums, yet he tells me to wait at the bus stop nearby, so I wait, and wait, then a small chinese girl butts into this dream and tells me the most awesome story of how the stars or rain comes down to earth and turns into the salmon then into bubbles that protect the water? something like the circle of life story really beautiful, then I am at the bus stop again, yet get the inkling to climb the Museum walls to get a view of the city? and while looking around, this bubble centipede is coming up the wall past me as I look down and there’s this little girl playing on a sort of huge construction ladder that she shouldn’t be on, and the centipede is attempting to rescue her.”
The museum implies aesthetic interests. You are “climbing the walls” looking for something interesting. The Chinese girl usually represents emotions the dreamer is trying to figure out as women most often go with emotions, and some say the Chinese are inscrutable. The moral of the Pocahontas-like story is that natural things, living things, and little things are very important in the circle of life. The implication is that these are the things that the dream wanted her to pay attention to.
It wanted her to focus on living things like the little centipede which may seem unimportant at times but which are actually very important for life. Her subconscious did not want her to get distracted thinking about trying to climb to the top in her work life. The ladder implies climbing to the top and the fact that it is a construction ladder emphasizes that the danger is in going back to heavy work.
The worries she had about the girl in the dream is the worry she has about herself doing work that may not be right. The dream would rather that she focus on living aesthetic seemingly little things rather than taking too many risks thinking of doing heavy work. The circle of life was very important in her life now.
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Is this a beautiful young woman or an old lady? It depends upon your point of view.
Dream 350: My Love Gets Carried Away
An adult man dreamed that his girlfriend was being carried away by a young woman and an old lady. Something kept him from being able to reach his girlfriend to stop them from carrying her away.
Each character in the dream can represent a part of the dreamer’s mind. Women tend to go with the dreamers emotions. Young attractive women typically represent beautiful emotions.
An old lady is typically thought of as being a Crone which is an archetype of wisdom in old age and experience. An archetype is a pattern of thought that is repetitive throughout human consciousness. This dream is about how the dreamer’s emotions could get carried away.
He seemingly fears losing a lover after he has invested all of his emotions in her. His greatest fear probably is that this would happen and there was nothing he could do about it. It sounds like he is worried about losing the love of his life.
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