Dream 539: Mom’s death tortures me
A woman had a reoccurring dream. Her deceased mom visits her and she is so happy to see her, but then the mom starts stabbing the dreamer in her head. The dreamer was heart broken and confused.
Mother is often the foundation of emotions because that is the first person we knew in life. There are different levels of dreams. The second or interpersonal level is null and void because her mother is not alive to precipitate that level.
The dream seems to be saying at the first intrapsychic level that she is tortured by thoughts of her mother (stabbed in the head). If her mother treated her poorly when she was alive, it would mean more that she was tortured by these past memories. If her mother treated her well, the tortured thoughts would be the sadness and regret over her death.
If the relationship were somewhere in the middle, it could be both that she is tortured by her mother’s death and sad things that happened when she was alive.
Which way I would go with this, or in the middle, would depend upon how her mother treated her when she was alive. If it was a good relationship, I would lean strongly toward her being tortured by sad thoughts over her death and the consequences to the dreamer by that death.
“I just had a dream that I was in a prehistoric hominid war between another species of prehistoric hominid (This is actually a slightly shortened version of my dream). This war was a major determining factor for the evolutionary future of humanity. There were 800,000 of one species vs. a million of the other. After surviving the war, I was with a group of people in a now post-apocalyptic world, who were my two brothers, a woman I know, my dad, and his friend. We were walking through caverns scavenging for food when we found a modern house with technology in it, and we were no longer ancient ape-like people. We were quietly looking for food to take, when one of us found a full cake as well as a small slice of red velvet cake. They gave both of them to me to hold. The big cake had birthday candles lit on it and had the inscription “Jesus is King” written in frosting. Then we started making our way out of the house and back through the caves. Then my mom called me on my cellphone, and I became distracted and ate all of the cake, minus a few scraps and the slice of red velvet. I suddenly realized what I had done, and said “Oh…. shit” I said “Sorry guys, I accidently ate all the cake.” Everyone got mad at me. I tried to hand the slice of red velvet cake and the scraps of the other cake to my dad’s friend (who was now Steven Tyler from Aerosmith, lol). He didn’t want what was left and took it and threw it really hard at my face. I angrily said “It was a fucking accident, I didn’t even know I was eating it!” Then I took the cake off me and threw it back at him. Now we were looking for more food and we were back in this house. The house was now a maze, with stairs and hallways leading to the same places. I went upstairs and there were boxes of stove burners blocking my path that I had to climb over. After I climbed over them and went upstairs, there was a room with a gas stove with two burners on. I signaled everyone to go back down and be quiet because there were people up there. We were trying to leave the house but we couldn’t find a way out. Now suddenly, everyone but me was sitting at a dining room table in the house. They all had headphones on and were asleep in a deep trance. Two old people came down the stairs while I hid behind a couch. I saw an open door that I could have ran out of, that led to a beautiful land full of fauna and sunshine. I didn’t go, because I didn’t want to leave everyone. One of the old people was a short man with glasses and the other was a big tall fat lady. They had a weird vibe, like an aura of death, that kind of reminded me of people who work at funeral homes. They saw me, and instead of going after me, they went to everyone at the table and pulled out knives. The short old man started slitting my dad’s friend’s throat with an all black knife, and the fat old lady started cutting the back of my older brother’s neck. I ran up and punched the short old man in the head and took his knife and stabbed him a bunch of times, then I stabbed the other old person, who was now a tall thin old man instead of a fat old lady. Then I looked back and saw that the short old man was still alive, and was now trying to cut my younger brother. I stabbed him some more and he died. The tall old man was still alive too, still trying to slice my older brother, so I finished him off too. I checked to see if my brother was still breathing, and he was. I ripped the headphones off of their heads, but they were all still in this deep sleep/trance. The only one who didn’t get cut was me and my dad. I think the girl who was with us got cut at some point too.”
In the 1st part of the dream, in the war between the pre hominids, this probably is about your taming the instinctive and more primitive parts of your personality. You are deciding what shadow parts of your personality to keep. That the part of the humanoids that wins the war leads to a greater civilization means that the more civilized parts of yourself have gained greater priority in your subconscious.
You then are left with your 2 brothers, a woman you know, your father, and his friend. Those are the parts of your personality that you want to emphasize, for one reason or another.
The part where food is involved and the velvet cake are all about how you nurture yourself and other people.
The part where you are a killing the parts that are trying to destroy the good parts of yourself with knives, and your retaliating by killing them with knives, are probably all about cutting remarks. I would think that you are defending the people you love from cutting remarks and are defending yourself against being hurt by cutting remarks.
That your father was the only one that did not get cut indicates your father introject is probably the center of your personality. It is a major part of your internal strength that shields you from the cutting remarks of others, and guards your self-esteem.
The dreamer later told me that the interpretation was very accurate.
I dreamt that I was in my home town, down where all the shops are, and I was on a roof ledge. There was an old man up there and he gave me a wicked smile and threw a nest with two eggs off the roof. In that instant, I became filled with rage and hate for the old man and I also realized that I was a crow not a human. I flew all over the town trying to find the old guy but I couldn’t.
If you get the time, I’d love to know your thoughts..
There are lots of conflicting symbols in this dream. Birds typically go with freedom and escape from limitations. Crows have been associated with death, but it is like a 10% chance that is what the dream is referring to.
Think in a more general level about the crow as representing change and being a warning about that change. The old man is a Shadow side of the wise old man archetype.
He disturbs the “nest” which is located where the shops are, where business is conducted, so it likely is referring to your business, financial, or career part of your life. He disrupts the nest with two eggs. It occurs to me that you have two children.
You are a bird and he may be giving the warning that if you fly the coop and escape the limitations of your job, you risk disrupting your home life. The dream gives one a strange feeling because the wise old man is rarely malevolent, but I think it is possible that he is trying to protect you by warning you.
The Shadow is both the parts of us that cause change and are affected the most by change. I think the dream may be saying that you want more freedom in or from your job, but your Shadow does not think it is the best idea right now, FWIW.
The dreamer told me that there were many changes coming to his job that he was frustrated with. He was indeed considering looking for another job. For right now, the dream wants him to stay. That may, of course, change in the future.
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I dreamed of a black german shepard dog with a yellow collar running down the road. He was obviously lost by the way he acted and looked. Does this have a meaning?
Dogs usually represent your instinctive affection of loyalty and protection. It sounds like you may have lost that feeling of being protected by another’s loyalty. Yellow can be a color signifying caution is needed. These feelings have probably been “unleashed” and are looking for a home.
The dreamer replied:
Well, I’m about to get married at the end of the month. Maybe I’ve got prewedding jitters?
To which I answered:
That sounds reasonable to me. It could represent worries, that you do not want the feelings of loyalty and protection to be lost.
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I don’t usually have dreams about my father because he treated everyone in our family poorly. He had passed away back in 1989. So last night i dreamt I was playing around tossing an acorn to my dad landing on his lap, he got up walked over to me and told me to open my mouth, but I didn’t. The look on his face was so mean , then he walked back to his chair.
A little while later, forgetting I had done this before, I tossed another acorn to him landing on his lap. He got up, walked over and said open your mouth, and I didn’t. I don’t know what this means. In this dream, my father was a younger man and didn’t have MS .
I want to be considerate interpreting this, but am having a hard time because the dream is screaming its message. It may help to know that I have had primary progressive multiple sclerosis for 27 years and somehow recovered twelve years ago.
Anyway, the acorn is the nut of an oak tree. Trees are symbols of integration as they open to the sky, roots go deep into the earth, and they are with us on the land.
The oak tree is valued because it is a very strong wood/tree. I wonder if the dream is trying to lead you to insight into how your father may have affected you.
I wonder if he was a strong man who was frustrated with his MS and became a sort of “nut” who was mean.
The dream implies that you are trying to lighten up your inner father interject, your internalized model of male action, by playing a sort of game with it, but that internalized model has made you feel like you best keep your mouth shut, probably because it was best to keep your mouth shut around your father. He is younger in the dream at probably his age that he most affected you.
Again, for what it is worth, as the situation sounds complex.
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Dream 506: Surprising delivery in difficult circumstances
I usually research my dreams online and find clear answers, but my dream last night was memorable and I’m getting very mixed results.
First and foremost, I am not pregnant!
But I dreamt of having cramps during a family event and finding out a hour or so later that it was labor. I was hardly showing and confused (in real life I’ve gained about 20 pounds I’m subconscious about and in my dream I was just a little larger than my actual size in the tummy). Being with my whole family, I got rushed to a safe place and before I knew it was giving birth.
My sister, who I am struggling with having a natural relationship with, delivered the baby in one easy push. She was beautiful and I held her in my arms. She had a lot of hair for a new-born and looked right at me. She was perfect!
I don’t remember much of the rest, but of course couldn’t help but be curious. I’ve had a dream about being pregnant but never one of giving birth. Things I’ve read say it’s a change or misfortune and both ways weigh heavily in that direction. Obviously don’t want a misfortune! It felt sudden and unplanned, but like a blessing once it was all said and done.
A baby usually is giving birth to a new aspect of yourself. It is a baby girl delivered by the contrary sister. Women usually go with an emotional part of your mind.
At the first level, I would guess that the part of you that is dealing with the sister is changing in significant ways. At the second level, the dream might be signaling a condensation in the sense that if you let your sister help you “deliver,” it may open up a newly minted emotional part of yourself.
Another point of view is that a part of your emotions that is like your sister (try not to throw up) could be a shadow part of yourself that helps you deliver new and beautiful emotional perspectives.
In any case, I would take the dream as positive predictive and trying to give you credit for using a shadow part of your emotions to bring about new beginnings.
In any case, I think the dream may be saying that things improve emotionally with your family (since they all go to the hospital together with you)–hospitals are a symbol of a place where healing occurs.
Dream 464: I am worried about the move and the effect on family
My son had a dream zombies were after us and trying kill us. They were setting everything on fire. He had a dream of killing and blood. We got away. It was a very scary dream for a little guy whom has never seen a zombie movie.
Zombies in dreams usually represent depression because that is how we feel when we are very depressed, like “the living dead” (zombies.) My guess would be that it probably is more of a fear of depression or fear of change (fire) involving the family (blood relationships.)
Fire represents change because it changes matter into energy. Blood can refer to relatives by blood or close family. The dreamer’s mother later told me that the family was moving to a new home.
It sounds like he is worried about changes the move will cause which are stressors that usually amplify conflicts temporarily ( which is why their is killing and blood symbolizing conflict involving blood relatives. Hopefully the move goes well and he finds himself in a better situation after the move, all my best…
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Dream 468: I need to change some things about myself
A woman had the following dream:
“I had an unusual dream about tattoos under each one of my arm pitts. I don’t have any tattoos or want them but there were 3 inside my arm pitts. They were small like a dime size. One had a date like March 11th on it. What does that stand for? It was very strange.”
Three is the number if change. You do not like tattoos. The tatoos are in an unusual place that cannot ordinarily be seen by others, the pits of your arms.
The number eleven implies a sense of urgency, as we talk about changing things before it is too late, ie., we especially need to change when a situation is “in its eleventh hour.”
It is notable that the Japan tsunami was on March 11th of 2011. Water is virtually always emotion. A tsunami is an unexpected flood of emotion.
I think that you may believe that you need to change things inside you that are hidden, but close to the surface, that you consider to be “the pits.” It is likely that you may have recently experienced a flood of emotions that made you think that there was a strong urgent need to change things about yourself that you do not like.
The dime is interesting. I am reminded of the saying, “to stop on a dime.” I believe this is added emphasis that the emotions mainly need to change now.
The dreamer later told me that she was flooded with emotion from the recent death of her mother. I recommended that she attend grief counseling to make the change of expressing her emotions more.
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Dream 446: Wondering about carrying my baggage into the future
A woman had the following dream:
“I had a dream that I was at an airport waiting to be called for my flight.Then I was called,and I got up and picked up my black bag.I think I was traveling with my youngest son…”
There is something almost spiritual about flight and usually has to do with your overall life goals. Picking up a bag could mean that you were worried about carrying “baggage” into your future. That your youngest son is in the dream usually means that you’re probably considering making some fairly major change. Each person in a dream is usually a part of your mind at the first level. Boys tend to go with actions while girls usually go more with emotions. That isn’the absolute, but is usually the case.
You are probably worried about how “baggage” from the past might affect that move. Unless you actually have a black bag, the color in this case could signal being worried about negative or depressing baggage being carried into your future. The type of action you may be considering would be related to the personality of your youngest son.
It is also possible that it is the condensation of two levels of the dream in the sense that the decision could involve your youngest son in some sense or how it would affect him. Again, the main thing is taking some action for your overall life goes intowards the future and being worried about carrying baggage into the future and how that baggage might affect your future.
The dreamer later indicated that she had been looking for a job and was wondering how that would affect her and her youngest son’s future.
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Two recent dream’s…
•One large cardinal in the forest..
•One large copperhead
The cardinal was abnormally large, sitting in a tree and I was watching it as it flew down.The snake was coiled at the bottom and errect facing me with its mouth open as I looked at its fangs and talked to someone about its poison.
Birds usually represent freedom, independence and taking flight in life. Snakes most often represent change. Snakes are one of the few animals to completely shed its skin. You may be trying to assess what dangers (fangs and poison) are involved in your taking flight in life. Cardinals are typically red. Red goes with love and intense emotions. Red is also the color that goes with our family chakra.
It sounds like you are trying to assess how much damage or change in your life is going to occur as you become more independent. It is likely that you are especially concerned on how it affects family emotions.
The cardinal being abnormally large probably means you are in the process of making big decisions regarding your independence and flight. The decision you make could be of Cardinal importance.
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A woman dreamed that her 94 year old mother-in-law who is in a wheelchair suddenly got up and started walking around very fast to show the dreamer that she actually could move and walk very well. The mother in law in real life weighed 300 pounds and was morbidly and pathologically psychologically dependent upon her son. She had difficulty walking mainly because of her weight.
The dreamer thought she was a phony and that her mother-in-law knew that she knew her mother-in-law was being phony. The mother in law for some reason had been amazingly alert and coherent lately.
My Interpretation to the Dreamer
Taking the dream at different levels, your subconscious is saying both that she is phony and that you yourself have to be phony to be able to put up with her. At a deeper level, it may be trying to reassure you that you are fine, that you are physically and psychologically healthy, in spite of her antipathy towards you.
Her being very alert is interesting and something I can never explain. Both personally and in the lives of my clients, people who are on a long downward course health wise will often have a brief intense period of emotional/cognitive clarity and physical vitality before sinking into a clasped physical and mental disrepair and even death.
I thought this mother-in-law had characteristics of the Queen archetype that Carl Jung describes– domineering, controlling, selfish, egocentric, and wanting to dominate the household situation. The dreamer confirmed most of my insights.
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Dream 391: Avoid Provocations and Act More Like Dad
A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed my ex and I were someplace about to cross the street as I stepped into the street a car full of young men speed up in front of me nearly hitting me… I panicked and banged the hood of their car. This angered them all as did when my ex told them to ef’n watch what they’re doing. The driver turned looked at his friends in the backseat and front passenger seat… I saw him reach for a gun… I turned and ran…hearing gunshots…my ex was killed.
After that dream waking me up when I fell back asleep I dreamed of my dad who passed away from a heart attack 1 1/2 ago.. It wasn’t so much a dream but a flash of different memories of him, i kept seeing of him in my dream. Smiling, laughing, being silly, making his grumpy faces, hearing his voice, cooking.. I don’t know these two dreams left me wondering if they had any meaning.”
Each character represents a different part of the psyche with women going more with an emotional part and men going more with your actions. An ex represents a relationship you rejected and he (an action part) is killed. What this means is that you have decided not to engage in behavior that enrages others (such as swearing and pounding your fist in anger) even if you are provoked.
The father in your dream is your father in your mind, your father introject, which is often the basis of actions. You have fond memories of what he was like. It sounds like you want the basis of your actions to be somewhat similar to the way your dad did things.
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A woman had the following dream: “I had a strange dream I was walking then I saw my sister at an office and she says that my mom got bit by ants. I believe that was the doctors office. It ended there.”
“Each living thing in the dream represents a part of your mind at the first level. It sounds like it mainly involves emotions since women tend to go more with emotions. The mother in the dream is the mother in your mind that we call the mother introject. The mother introject is often the basis of emotions.
Animals (in this case ants) usually represent our instincts, what we are prone to do naturally. Ants are methodical, routine and focused on accomplishing what needs to be done for the group compulsively.
Being bit by ants is a nuisance/irritating. I wonder if there is a situation (maybe involving family) where you have put in a lot of work and are feeling a little annoyed or taken for granted?”
The dreamer responded with the following confirmation: “Yes, my sister was over for a month.My sister is very bossy and doesn’t use nice words to tell them to do things. Not cursing, not a sweet person very cold and mean!”
Dream 390: Old MacDonald had a Barn Full of Energy
A woman had the following dream:
“I dreamed that the family I babysit for (I am friends with the mother) had lost like a friend or family member and a very large sum of cash was owed/given to them. The family drove me to the place to pick it up because they needed help getting it. We go to this farm looking space and I walk into the barn/ware-house type building. It was only being lit from the natural lighting coming from outside but it was enough for me to see this huge trunk in the middle of the room that i needed to use to put the money in for the family, there was huge wads of cash and single bills scattered about the floor. I filled up the trunk as much as I could, and left the rest there, as I made my way back to the family’s car. Just because I was the only one in there taking the money for the family, it felt in a way like I was stealing, but i was only doing what I was told to do, I think I felt odd being the one having to go get the money instead of one of the family members doing it themselves, but they said they needed me to help get it for them. When I got to the car, a man who was following me, walked up to us (tan, dark hair and handsome; wearing overalls), said sorry he was not in the room with me to help out and he had work elsewhere to do, and he brought me the remaining cash that was for the family. Then we all drove away.”
In dreams, money is energy. The barn is a natural and I want to say innocent place where your instincts (animals) are nurtured.
It sounds like you want to give all of the instinctive energy you can to the family you babysit for and want to give even more, but hold back wondering if you should, but then say it is okay because that is what I am supposed to do.
You get the energy free of charge from the universe by doing what you do for this family and you even get paid for doing it (no reason to feel guilty about being paid). The heroic action part of yourself feels that you could give even more energy to this family because it is nothing but good. What a country!
The tall, dark and handsome man is the representation of your own heroic masculine archetype which is often the initiator of therapeutic action, of things that are good for you. This part wholeheartedly wants you to feel uninhibited in giving personal energy to the family (the energy of the universe is supplied to you without your asking for it and this is a good thing for you and for the family).
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Dream 385: I Want to Recapture How I Was Emotionally in My First Relationship with a Girl
When I was 12 I fell in love with a girl at first sight(right when I looked in her eyes) , and her dad was the first one to teach me how to kick a soccer ball when I was just 7(I’m really good, could play pro if I want ). She has a lot of reason why I am spiritual and pay attention to my dreams. Problem is when I was in high school, we would fight and I would ignore her and not look at her. We aren’t really on talking terms like we were when I was younger and I don’t follow her on social media.
The reason I bring this up is because she has been in my dreams all the time, and 90% of the time I can’t look at her or talk to her. Other 10% is amazing (dancing, doing things together , kissing etc) but 90% of the time she’ll be in my dream and won’t be able to look at her. I want to look at her and kiss her, but in my dreams I feel like I have subconsciously put it in there that I can’t speak or talk to her.
Just recently I was in my dreams teaching a yoga class with just two other people and she showed up to do the class and while I was doing the yoga poses she was doing them too and we were looking at each other but neither of us could say anything to each other. She was sort of looking at me funny snd i just looked her and kept going…
If I knew I was dreaming I would of kissed her right there, lol. Just yesterday I had another one where we were in the car together in the backseat and I tried talking to her but something wouldn’t let me. It must of been a 15 minute car ride and we just stared at each other , it seems like she can’t say anything to me either.
This is just two examples out of the more than 100x this has happened with her in my dream. What do you think is the best thing to do? I’m stubborn. If she’s meant to be in my life the universe will have me run into her like it usually does with her, so I feel like I should wait for that.
Do you think she experiences the same dreams?
The dreams may be about her and having a relationship with her, but only you would know that since that is the second level of dream interpretation where only you have enough to detail to determine that.
At the first level, I think you probably have idealized that early relationship and want to emotionally be the way you were with her when things were good in future relationships. My money is on this is a fantasy about an idealized relationship from the past that your subconscious wants you to learn from so that you learn the lesson and look for the right relationship and act appropriately in the future.
This is based only on the structure of the dream and only you can determine what interpersonal value it has if any. Each character in the dream represents a part of your psyche at the first level with men going with your actions and women going with your emotions.
My thought is there was something about the way you were emotionally with this girl that you were developing that was not finished and you want to emotionally change yourself to find the ideal relationship. As such, in your mind she probably represents an ideal woman or anima. It is a big dream about how you should be in a relationship.
To answer your questions at the end, it is possible she's having dreams about you. If that is the case, I would see it more as a sign that the universe was trying to get the two of you together. I do like your idea that if it was meant to be, the universe will conspire to have the two of you meet again.
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Dream 375: Permission to Master and Guide My Emotions and Creativity
A woman had the following dream:
“I was talking to my dad asking his permission to bring home a grand piano. He said we have to ask your mom. So,anyway I brought the grand piano in a den that I’ve never seen before nor have I been there.My mom and dad were there and I said to my mom “Can we keep it? The piano matches the mantel, mom, please.” She said, “Okay.” The dream ended there.”
At the first level in a dream, your father represents your father introject which is often the basis of your actions. Your mother introject is usually the foundation of your emotions. So this is a big dream.
A piano, and particularly a grand piano, usually represents creativity and mastery. Music puts us in a certain mood that we control by our selection of music we play so that it can be emotionally related. It may be related to deciding to control your emotions.
In thought emotionally, and in action, you decided on some level to give yourself the means to make beautiful music emotionally or something on that order would be my first idea. And giving yourself permission to do this creative or emotional thing is something that you have decided upon to let yourself do.
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A woman had an elderly mother who had terminal brain cancer and was going through the process of dying. They were very close and her mother was emotionally dependent upon the dreamer. She was having many dreams per night that depicted every emotional situation she felt guilty about in her whole life. She wondered why she was having an onslaught of these dreams now.
Like everyone, the dreamer had a mother introject in her subconscious acquired from her experience as her mother’s child. It many times is the beginning basis of emotion. As her mother went through the process of passing, her subconscious was doing a life review of her emotions which was a way of helping her to cope with her mother’s illness. It was a process of helping her to stay emotionally whole while dealing with the expected loss of her mother.
When a parent is dying, past conflicts emerge from your subconscious for at least three reasons: (1) the subconscious sees it as a chance to resolve inner conflicting feelings, (2) the subconscious is looking out for the dreamer’s well-being because she would be able to handle the loss better having gone through this life review, and (3) the good memories will emerge more once her mother has passed because the conflicting feelings will be dimmed by this process. It is all a grand plan to help acceptance of the inevitable.
You can call it God, your higher self and/or your subconscious since I believe that it turns out that we all end up talking about the same thing.
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Trees in dreams are major symbols of integration. Trees have deep roots that go far down into the ground, they reach upward towards the sky, and they are on the level ground where you are. They also are symbols of growth because they are large living plants. They are vital to the survival of the planet as they take carbon dioxide and release oxygen into the air. The following dream describes how a dream uses a tree to indicate confusion in the person’s life.
A woman dreamt that there was a large tree that had fallen over with its roots exposed. The implication was that it was a large tree that made an impression on her by being uprooted.
As described above, trees typically have something to say about the dreamers stage of integration of the various aspects of their life. In this case, the dream is going out of its way to say her personal life or integration has been disrupted because she’s been uprooted. Specifically, the dream is saying that her world has been turned over because her roots have been exposed. Her roots can be either her personal life, deep connections, family, personal beliefs, etc. Since dreams usually have therapeutic aims, the dream is going out of its way to point to a problem in her world.
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A woman dreamed that a long pink worm had bored its way into her upper arm. Half of the worm was sticking out of her arm. She asked her 9-year-old daughter to break off the part of the worm outside her arm. There was a narrator in the background explaining why this was necessary, that the worm was a strain on the dreamer. Her daughter broke the part of the worm sticking out. Her daughter could barely stand to look at it while she broke it off.
A worm lives on other things. The upper part of your arms is the major muscles used in lifting heavy objects and doing major work. The color pink represents positive affection which is involved with your daughter of course.
I believe the dream is saying that you are doing too much heavy lifting for your daughter and need to break it off like your daughter breaks the worm off. You don’t want to stop it completely because she is your daughter, but you have to measure how much of the heavy lifting you do for your daughter. The dream indicates the change in the relationship will be hard for both you and your daughter. That is probably because she has wormed her way into your heart.
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Dream Answer 319: When the Going Gets Tough, the Tough Get Going
Newts have the unusual ability to regenerate eyes, intestines, hearts, spinal cords and jaws. Lizards are reptiles that are quick to avoid their many enemies and predators and have amazing defenses. Some lizards, to escape a predator who has them in their clenches, can actually separate their tail from their body with the tail still having movability to distract the predator so that they can get away. That lizard will later regenerate the tail.
Animals represent our instincts. Both newts and lizards negotiate and travel in or on water (emotions) and land (conscious thinking). Newts and lizards would represent the part of the person that has adaptive defenses that are regenerative and quick in many different kinds of situations.
Both would usually be a good sign in a dream. Newts probably lean toward generating or regenerating your get up and go, while lizards probably go more with being able to adapt to and defend yourself in difficult circumstances. It is interesting that during the early stages of development a fetus comes very close to looking like an amphibian.
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The Shadow is a major dream archetype. It is usually a dark figure in profile or can be a criminal or aggressive stalking figure that either tries to break in to your residence or is pursuing you in some way. We all have a shadow. These contain aggressive impulses and parts of ourselves that we have rejected for now.
The shadow also contains our “get up and go.” it is vital to the personality. Other parts of the personality need to be in contact with the shadow to place appropriate limits on it. By working with the shadow, the other parts of the personality benefit by getting the energy that is in the shadow that can be put to good use.
The following is a dream I had at a critical time that assured me that I would make it through a conflict:
Dream 305: The Caped Crusader
I saw a dark caped figure moving energetically down a hall towards me who seemed mysterious but not threatening. It had the aire almost of an evangelical figure arriving to save us all. I looked at him with awe as I was leaning down to tie my shoe.
This was a numinous or luminous image of the shadow. A numinous or luminous image fills the observer with awe because of its power and is almost sacred in nature. The Savior-moving energy of this dark almost evangelical hero image was to reassure me that I had lots of energy which I would have to use in the adversarial conflict I was in the middle of.
Even the detail of tying my shoes was important. Shoes protect the feet and allow us to get somewhere faster in safety. The feet are supportive of our body.
Tying my shoe meant that I was getting myself together to protect and support myself to get to where I needed to be in this conflict. While it was a high level conflict, I believe this detail was emphasizing the importance of details. Not tying your shoe could impede your progress. Not overlooking a detail in the huge administrative conflict I was involved in was extremely important.
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A woman dreamed that she was underwater in a swimming pool that was a combination of a swimming pool and the ocean. It seemed vast and open on the one hand, but had a ladder and swimming pool accessories on the other hand. In the water with her was a shark with a bloody mouth because he had just been feeding.
The shark made no move towards attacking her. She decided to leave the pool because she could not hold her breath any longer. She climbed up the pool ladder and was intending to go towards her mother and sister.
The shark grabbed her by the right leg as she was leaving the pool/ocean. The shark did not hurt or bite her. The shark only put enough pressure on the leg that she could not leave the ocean/pool.
Water is invariably emotions in dreams. Particularly subconscious emotions. It depends upon what type of body of water it is also.
The open ocean represents the best symbol we have for the vast subconscious. A pool represents our emotions at home because pools are located near homes. The image in the dream sounds like a combination of the ocean and a pool so that they together represent deep subconscious emotions at home.
Each character in a dream represents a part of our mind. Women tend to represent the parts of the dreamers mind that deals with emotions. That her mother and sister are in the dream especially emphasizes that it’s about emotions at home.
Also, the shark having a bloody mouth indicates the color red. The color red goes with the first chakra. The first chakra often deals with family (or tribe) issues. The color red also signals strong emotions such as love and anger (which are present in spades in family issues).
Animals represent our instincts. The shark is an aggressive predator. It is a shadow energy that we all deal with and are uncomfortable with for the most part.
The dream implies that she is immersed in her emotions and dealing with instincts or anger which we all have. We need these instincts to some extent to defend ourselves. The dream indicates that she worries about being overly angry sometimes at home and tries not to dwell on it as it makes her uncomfortable.
When she tries to get out of the pool to go to her mother and sister, the shark grabs her right leg. This is important. It sounded like it didn’t really hurt the dreamer but mainly wanted her to stay in the pool.
This is the dreams way of saying it wants her to deal with these emotions. The dream wanted to help her deal emotionally with others. Even the fact that it grabbed her right leg is significant.
Legs support us. The right side is associated with our conscious intentions. This suggest that the dream wants her to deal with any angers she had at home to help her be supportive to others and to herself.
Possible Details to Wonder About
We know at the first level that this dream is about emotional conflicts at home. At the next and second level of the dream, it is vital to get details from the dreamer. Let me explain.
For example, this dream could involve money conflicts and difficulty leaving home. The term “loan shark” comes to mind. One wonders whether there are money issues.
It is possible that she is subconsciously angry because she feels controlled because someone she is close to her has a financial hold on her (the shark not allowing her to leave the pool is the major clue here). Being in such a situation is especially stressful because if she leaves the current financial arrangements, she might feel that she didn’t have a leg to stand on (the shark would not let go of her leg). While it looks like she might be in a “hostile dependency” situation, getting further details from the dreamer would be vital to fully interpret this interesting dream.
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A house can represent the dreamer to some extent because it is the framework out of which one lives. This is especially the case if it was a house in which the dreamer once lived.
The ages the dreamer was when living in the house (from birth to five years old, from age 12 to 16 years old, etc.) is important. There is something about the dreamer’s present psychodynamics that is situationally similar to the dreamer’s earlier psychodynamics at a specific developmental stage reflected in the dream.
The different areas of the house correspond roughly to different areas of the dreamer’s life. Mental or intellectual processes are associated with the upper floors or roof. An open roof may be a comment on how open minded the dreamer’s mind is, how the dreamer does not protect his thoughts efficiently, or how incomplete and unfinished his or her thoughts are in the sense of being “under construction.”
The family room may be demonstrating family dynamics. The dining room can be associated with how people in the home nurture one another. The garage can represent how people plan to move within their lives.
The living room represents the dreamer’s living space in her life. The kitchen can stand for his creativity since the cook prepares nurturing and creative combinations of food in the kitchen. The subterranean basement can often be a sign of the subconscious because it underlies the reality of the dreamer’s life.
Buildings can signal different portions of the dreamer’s life. Resorts may represent the dreamer’s recreational life or may simply be a “last resort.” Skyscrapers indicate cosmopolitan interests.
Farms may represent ingrained hard work values or bucolic serenity. Universities and, in particular, high schools usually indicate what the dreamer needs to learn in life. Dreams cannot resist using “high school” as a place for your “higher self” to learn.
Dreams cannot resist the metaphor of trains and train stations as a place where you “get your life on track.” Terminals frequently mean where you want to get to in life before you die (before your life is terminated). Airports often signal movement toward higher or spiritual goals in the dreamer’s life.
Shopping malls are frequent in dreams. Dreams cannot resist the play upon words. Dreams often use shopping malls to show how the dreamer has been “mauled” (malled?) in life usually in the person’s career or business life as a shopping mall is a commercial community.
Apartments often suggest only a part, and probably a transitional part, is going to be addressed in the dream. The setting of the dream is almost always important, especially the initial setting. The opening scene often signals what the dream is going to be about. The setting shows the field or area of the dreamer’s life where the subconscious psychodynamics are going to be played out. The above meanings should be seen as tentative hypotheses that the dreamer can confirm or give additional information about.
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I am finishing my personal story and sojourn to health by putting MS into remission with the help of the universe/God. It will be my second book showing that dreams were an important part of that journey. My personal psychology enters into the picture a lot. I basically see years of physical abuse as laying the foundation for having the foundation for contracting the chronic illness of multiple sclerosis. Amazon will publish it first as an ebook. The name of the book will be something like MS Mission Remission: Healing Severe Chronic Multiple Sclerosis Against All Odds.