Dream 532: Your Cheating Heart
A woman dreamt that she was attending someone’s wedding. She decided to leave and take an uber ride share home. The driver was an 84-year-old man who violated her sexually when she arrived home.
At home, someone had shot her father in the leg, and he was not hurt very bad. Her mother was mortally wounded as the bullet was lodged near her heart. She vividly experienced holding the wound shut with her hand to prevent bleeding. The dream ended with her mother being take to the hospital.
Her parents were in the process of a bitter divorce. Her father had an affair with another woman. The dream starts out with a wedding because a wedding represents integration of the dreamer. The divorce of her father introject (her actions) from her mother introject (the dreamer’s emotions) was affecting her integration as a person at the first level of dream interpretation.
At the second or interpersonal level of dream interpretation, the dream starts out with someone’s wedding because it was announcing that someone’s marriage (her parents) was going to be involved. When both the first and second levels are true it is condensation. The dream is fitting the maximum amount of meaning into the smallest space.
I am more and more impressed how everyday sayings can add to the interpretation of a dream. I believe being sexually violated by an old uber driver was the dream emphasizing that she was “being taken for a ride.” The dream was highlighting how personally violated her father’s affair and resulting divorce made her feel. The driver was 84 because personal violations by her father were “getting old.”
The number 84 is not insignificant. Four is the number of stability as there are four legs to a chair, four legs to a table, four directions, four quarters to a game, etc. When a dream wants to emphasize something, it may give you two of them, as in 2×4=8. I believe the number 8 in this case stresses how the affair and divorce negatively affected her feelings of stability.
Mother introjects typically go with the foundation of emotions which is emphasized by the bullet being lodged near the heart (the body organ most associated with love).
Legs support us. Her father is shot in the leg because she felt the loss of support from her father. Her father was not hurt as bad because he was not hurt as seriously by the divorce. He had already immersed himself in a relationship with the other woman.
Her placing her hand over her mother’s heart, and her mother being taken to the hospital, emphasized the hope that the dreamer’s emotions and her mother would heal from the disturbing divorce.
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