A 28-year-old man dreamt that a knight was defending himself against a powerful opponent knight. He could not see his nemesis very well. The raging knight was attacking women and the dreamer himself with a sword. The dreamer defended himself with a shield. The shield was bulky and he was making little progress against the errant knight.
Suddenly, the dreamer had the thought that if he were less defensive, things would go better. In a dramatic moment, the dreamer threw his shield down and faced his fear of the other knight. The other knight immediately quit fighting and took his shiny armored helmet off. Upon closer examination, the other knight was a handsome man with blonde hair and blue eyes. The dreamer discovered the reason the man was attacking women and the dreamer. The man was wounded and was taking his anger out on them. The dreamer realized that the wound needed to heal.
The dreamer was generally unsuccessful with women. He came on too strong. When his disproportionate advances were not reciprocated by a woman, he became angry and defensive and then ruined any chance of starting a relationship.
The dream dramatically states that his anger is directly related to his defensiveness. He needed to throw down his shield and get in touch with the heroic masculine part of his nature. That he could not see his nemesis very well meant that he had little insight into his problem. The dreamer was always mystified by women rejecting him because he knew his nature was essentially chivalrous and noble like the heroic masculine knight.
The dream showed that underneath his rage, he himself was wounded. For the first time, he realized that he needed to heal his wounds, that he needed to work on his resentments in therapy. It was a major breakthrough in therapy.