Dream 201: A Giraffe Is a Better Phallic Symbol Than a Sock Puppet
A 46-year-old woman dreamt that she was watching a staged reading. The dreamer was in the audience. On stage was the author of a book about a huge giraffe. She was a little girl who was about eight years old. The book was being read by a muscular and handsome man. A woman in the crowd shouted an objection to the reading when there was nothing objectionable going on. The dreamer thought to herself that the objector needed to get a life. It was somehow hoped that a giraffe would emerge from back stage at that moment. Instead, a disappointing sock puppet made a limp appearance.
She then saw the same little girl in a kitchen making a large multi-layered wedding cake. A band of little girls wanted to carry the cake to its destination. The dreamer intervened because she thought the woman herself should carry the cake because she thought the children would be careless. The woman dropped and ruined the cake by trying to carry it by herself.
Dream 201 Interpretation
This dream opens by using the Divine Child and the Heroic Masculine to stage what the dreamer wants sexually. We know this because the giraffe is a potent phallic symbol of sexual and animal instinct. The heroic masculine would be expected to provide what she wants.
There is a part of her that objects, while another part of her realizes that she must get on with life. After the objection, we are given the consequences of her current attitude toward sex. Instead of the highly visible and phallic giraffe, her husband’s response to her objection was more similar to the limp sock puppet.
The second part of the dream is about integration. A wedding is a prime symbol of integration because it is the symbolic union of the masculine (actions) with the feminine (emotions). The little girls are relatively new emotions that would help her. The dreamer’s problem is that she wants no help because she does not trust these new emotional ways of doing things.
As a little girl, she was raised by a promiscuous mother who was physically abusive toward her. The dreamer promised herself that she would never have children or be like her mother sexually. As her husband was getting older, he reminded her more of her father who was distant from her as a child. Her husband thus received unwanted transference from her parents. Subconscious memories of her parents resulted in reinforcing the aversion she felt toward sex as a child because of her mother’s promiscuous behavior.
She decided that she needed to take a more active role in their married sex life. She avoided snuggling with her husband even though he craved this contact. She decided that she would engage in more snuggling. She also decided that she needed help to get in the mood, i.e., after they snuggled she was going to ask what type of sex they had. She was dissatisfied in the past and was reluctant to say anything to her husband. Their sex life improved.